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Married and face pics issue

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

On here as a married guy and therefore looking to be discreet. Just wanted to find out how much acceptance there is for chatting with someone who won’t send a face pic straight away for that reason - I’m not willing to send one to someone I haven’t chatted with until there’s some sort of understanding and level of trust there. To me then the risk of sending a face pic to a complete stranger without getting to know them first just isn’t worth it.

I know lots of profiles say ‘no reply without a face pic’, but do some exceptions apply without the time waster label being used? I understand that many people don’t want to get involved with attached people and that’s fair enough; just wanted to try and guage whether it’s possible to get to know people on here who don’t take issue with that, without sending face pics straight away.

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By *ommyxyzMan over a year ago

Crawley

"On here as a married guy and therefore looking to be discreet. Just wanted to find out how much acceptance there is for chatting with someone who won’t send a face pic straight away for that reason - I’m not willing to send one to someone I haven’t chatted with until there’s some sort of understanding and level of trust there. To me then the risk of sending a face pic to a complete stranger without getting to know them first just isn’t worth it.

I think your going to struggle.

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

I don't meet married men anyway and i look to awap face pics early on,in case theres no attraction.

I suspect it will make it tough for you op,unless you look to women in similar situations.

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn’t bother chatting without seeing a face pic- there wouldn’t be much point without seeing if there’s an attraction.....

But having said that, I wouldn’t play with a married man

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its down to individuals, there are plenty of women on here in the same situation as you. Some may prefer that you are attached too, some wont. Generaly attached guys get a bashing in the forums, but all you can do is be you. You will either find someone or not. Either way, if that person has enough info to make an informed decision and no one is decieved into meeting you, any reprocussion is on you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If a profile doesn’t have a face picture on I’d expect one in their message to me.

You won’t get very far on here without sending one. People will assume you’re a timewaster and just block you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Would you chat to someone for any length of time, without knowing what they look like?

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By *good-being-badMan over a year ago

mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds

If you're willing to send later when you've chatted built trust.

my question would be what do you think is going to happen if you send early or at the start of the chat ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Everyone is different on here but personally if we were chatting to a married guy we would expect a face pic before moving onto kik (thats what we use to establish a connection). So prob after a couple of weeks

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think if you are going to cheat you need to have the balls to accept that you might get caught. If you won't swap facepics for fear of being caught then how on earth are you ever going to meet anyone for a social?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn’t chat to someone without establishing whether there’s an attraction, it’s just a waste of both our time and awkward if your getting on the see and don’t like.... how do you get out of that one diplomatically?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t expect a face pic in the 1st message and I won’t send one straight away either.

Having said that I’m not into ping pong messaging so if its going to go any further then I need to see who I’m chatting with, there’s no point otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I won’t chat without being sent a face picture.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you are willing to take the risk of cheating on your wife then really you shouldn’t be worried about sending a face pic with a message to any women you chat to on here. I have no agenda re married people cheating as although it’s a “swingers” site many of members on here are just looking for one to one with like minded people rather than group or club meets. You will have to be prepared for a bit of condemnation for cheating, and a lot of women won’t want the complexity and risks of meeting someone who has a home life, also if they can’t see your face then given the ratio of men to women on the site you will be very low down the pecking order. Oh and I haven’t even mentioned the fantasists, men pretending to be women and the professionals who appear regularly (usually about 27 and interested in older guys and often promoting other websites). It’s not going to be easy but if you talk to people honestly and treat them like human beings and put the time and effort into it you might be pleasantly surprised.

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By *inful xWoman over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

There's nothing worse than chatting to someone and getting on well, to then exchanging face pics only to find there's zero attraction. For that reason it's a no from me. Saves time and disappointment.

The majority of people on here see physical attraction as the priority

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t expect face pics until I’ve established some basic compatibility, which would mean we had exchanged a few messages. That said, if there is any awkwardness or complication about providing a face pic once it feels like a person is interesting enough to meet I’ll drop the conversation and move on. As would most I expect.

And I don’t knowingly meet married or attached men whose partners are unaware.

But there are a lot of married women on here who presumably have a more flexible attitude to face pics and marital status.

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By *atureandhornyCouple over a year ago

Liverpool

Doesn't bother us whether the guy is married or not we want sex not invites to dinner. Personality and intelligence is important so a chat first is important. Once we have decided we will meet then face pics become important, if he's a quasi modo then it's a polite no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I chat before sending pics too and I’m single but like my privacy.

I ask for a pic when I feel comfortable to send mine. That seems fair to me

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I like to see a face pic early on, otherwise it's really disappointing if you get one and you don't have a little bit of phwwwoooar factor.

I don't expect one in a first message, but I'll ask for one in my reply should they tick my other boxes!

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By *oiluvfunMan over a year ago

Penrith

OP; there are plenty of married/attached ladies in here looking for discreet meets with married/attached men. There are also plenty of single ladies and couples who think your private life is exactly that, and are also happy to meet married/attached men. Have yourself a couple of recent face pics to hand (or use direct photo option), but my advice would be to only share with verified profiles, also be very careful to note the other profile’s location via the gps on the site. It’s up to you how close to home you play

The block button is your friend; block every profile that mentions “no cheats”.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I send face pics when asked for them, and I’m a married guy. I don’t want to waste time talking to someone who then isn’t attracted to me and calls it off. Just my idea on it though

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP; there are plenty of married/attached ladies in here looking for discreet meets with married/attached men. There are also plenty of single ladies and couples who think your private life is exactly that, and are also happy to meet married/attached men. Have yourself a couple of recent face pics to hand (or use direct photo option), but my advice would be to only share with verified profiles, also be very careful to note the other profile’s location via the gps on the site. It’s up to you how close to home you play

The block button is your friend; block every profile that mentions “no cheats”.

Good luck

This seems sensible, thanks. Maybe I need to loosen up a little bit then. Good to see the other feedback left in this thread too

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We wouldn't meet attached man or woman doing it behind their partner's back. But there are loads who would.

As far as face pics go we never ask for one and we never send one (applicable to single men only) as we won't meet single men from far away. If you're near by it's easy enough to meet for a quick coffee and see each other then.

But that's just our way.

Mrs

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

Never had an issue with it. It’s easy enough to send a pic via kik or keep it private on here.

I don’t mind meeting married guys, the only issue is neither can usually accommodate.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The block button is your friend; block every profile that mentions “no cheats”.

Good luck

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By *he riverdeep69Couple over a year ago

North west ish

"I wouldn’t chat to someone without establishing whether there’s an attraction, it’s just a waste of both our time and awkward if your getting on the see and don’t like.... how do you get out of that one diplomatically?!

Totally agree with you. Too many men on here willing to send face pics I really can't see the point in wasting my time with drama tbh.

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By *horecruxCouple over a year ago

SE4

If you're married why don't you have a wedding ring ?

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By *ilkenWoman over a year ago

Manchester

Well think about it a woman gets 50 messages in a day 30 send face pics 20 don't and won't what do you think she is going to do?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

In my profile pic then I’m in the shower so I’d taken it off

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By *r C Miss CCouple over a year ago

llanelli

Just to warn you... ive heard of people bl#ckm#$ling married men that are playing away.. it happened to a mate of mine. A local couple messaged him wanting to meet and as soon as he sent his face pic.. they message him back saying if he doesnt give them x amount of ££ they were going to message his partner on facebook and show her the screen shot of the conversations they had been having... he shit his brick and he left the site...

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By *969BewitchedWoman over a year ago

Nottingham

I won't chat without a face pic as no point if no attraction. if i did then found out you were married it would be a goodbye from me,my ex husband cheated on me and was the worst time of my life so it's an big no from me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just to warn you... ive heard of people bl#ckm#$ling married men that are playing away.. it happened to a mate of mine. A local couple messaged him wanting to meet and as soon as he sent his face pic.. they message him back saying if he doesnt give them x amount of ££ they were going to message his partner on facebook and show her the screen shot of the conversations they had been having... he shit his brick and he left the site...

I’ve heard that from two people. Not sure whether the threat was specific to FB. They both said ‘go ahead’. To their knowledge nothing further happened. If you’re playing away via sex sites and haven’t locked down your social media to avoid this kind of drama then frankly it’s best you don’t share your genes any further.

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By *eds10Couple over a year ago

Raunds

We won't entertain anyone without a face picture, though we accept that on your page you may want to be discreet. We dont have pictures on or page due to work etc, but not showing us your face in at least a private message means we wont know if we find you attractive. We also dont play with people that cheat, some may not be bothered about but we dont want the drama. If one of us played with someone else, we would always show pictures.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

It's like this

Chances of meet for average single men : minimal

Chances of meeting for average cheating men : tiny

Chances of meeting for average cheating men who won't send face pics : more or less non existent

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I won’t chat or meet a married or attached woman on here fullstop and it’s full of them on here but they do like to say otherwise,but a face pic is needed for sure but yes don’t give it out to easy that’s for sure,but good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's like this

Chances of meet for average single men : minimal

Chances of meeting for average cheating men : tiny

Chances of meeting for average cheating men who won't send face pics : more or less non existent "

if it was a women, it would be quite the opposite i’m sure

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

As technology becomes more sophisticated, and apps and sites share data, it's becoming increasingly difficult to keep photos safe. If your heart says don't share them then don't.

They might not even be able to find you elsewhere, but could bump into you out and about.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Which is why I don't blame anyone for not showing their face with the fabswingers stamp on it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes it’s hard work establishing trust with a blank profile but you also need to protects your personal information too. but yes can be disappointing if chatted for a few weeks established a connection then swop pics and no physical attraction x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why not meet if distance isn't to big an issue...and try it the old fashioned way...coffee/drink social and a good long chat with all concerned...with most profile pics on people's fan accounts it'll give ye a rough idea of how they look anyway.Mr S.

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By *orkie321bWoman over a year ago

Nottingham

OP if you are not willing to send a face pic your chances of getting any meets on fab are practically zero - it's not blind date after all.

I don't insist on a face pic with the first message but if one isn't forthcoming pretty quickly the chat goes nowhere.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If somebody won't send me face pic then i will not chat. I would never meet a cheater anyway. I am glad you are honest about your cheating.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't know why you bother... you will always get caught...

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By *aughtybutniceBBWWoman over a year ago

The County of Northamptonshire

"There's nothing worse than chatting to someone and getting on well, to then exchanging face pics only to find there's zero attraction. For that reason it's a no from me. Saves time and disappointment.

The majority of people on here see physical attraction as the priority

Just this

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don’t expect a face pic in the 1st message and I won’t send one straight away either.

Having said that I’m not into ping pong messaging so if its going to go any further then I need to see who I’m chatting with, there’s no point otherwise."

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