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"I'm a single fem trying to find a couple for regular -ish fun. Unfortunately it seems to be virtually impossible "If you weren't so far away, we'd be the couple for you. Great pictures! It is hard isn't it, there are people out there but most are too far away... maybe we'll have to have a little outing soon xx | |||
"I'm a single fem trying to find a couple for regular -ish fun. Unfortunately it seems to be virtually impossible
If you weren't so far away, we'd be the couple for you. Great pictures! It is hard isn't it, there are people out there but most are too far away... maybe we'll have to have a little outing soon xx"Thank you for the compliment. Head north  | |||
"So we've been on the site now for a few months, with the intention of finding another girl for us to play with. It won't be our first threesome but will be our first from this site. After the initial introduction messages, nothing ever seems to happen. Is it really so hard to actually find someone, who is willing? We've even started camming to generate more interest but still the girls are hard to find. Does anyone have any ideas to help or advice? It'll be greatly appreciated X" One of the hurdles (amongst many) you’ll need to overcome if you are seeking to attract a woman to meet you is for her to feel comfortable you are genuine people who she would feel safe to meet, and that you genuinely want to meet her rather than waste time. Cam veris don’t really help much in this regard, so perhaps consider visiting a club? You’ll meet people there socially who will be happy to verify you in person if you are nice people, and that may help. | |||
 ) from other couples and of course, men. We think you need to be good at msging to succeed.
Forum rules say we can't give unsolicited advice to improve your profile but I think your profile is certainly better than many. Perhaps do a forum search - this topic comes up regularly and some good advice.
A regular suggestion is going to clubs - that hasn't worked for us/some, but works for others. Many clubs run couples and single lady nights so you're at least upping your chances!
Don't give up and good luck! | |||
"I'm a single fem trying to find a couple for regular -ish fun. Unfortunately it seems to be virtually impossible
If you weren't so far away, we'd be the couple for you. Great pictures! It is hard isn't it, there are people out there but most are too far away... maybe we'll have to have a little outing soon xx"think maybe you've got to be a bit more flexible and travel also a lot of couples are led by the man and many women are wary of this, let the woman of the couple initiate contact and maybe a telephone call or like you've said cam | |||
"I'm a single fem trying to find a couple for regular -ish fun. Unfortunately it seems to be virtually impossible
If you weren't so far away, we'd be the couple for you. Great pictures! It is hard isn't it, there are people out there but most are too far away... maybe we'll have to have a little outing soon xx
Thank you for the compliment. Head north "Ruby is a lovely lass .. You guys need to get yourselves to Yorkshire and go to one of the club's in Leeds. Pandoras or Quest.. Give me a shout if you need a hand . I'm not shy lol xx  | |||
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"I'm a single fem trying to find a couple for regular -ish fun. Unfortunately it seems to be virtually impossible "Same boat as you. Haha seems there is an issue with us all communication between us some ladies and couple maybe? I dunno why it's so flipping hard | |||
"Also, as well as the advice above, be friendly. Nothing turns me off quicker than an interaction with a couple where it’s just about the sex act, like they are looking for an animated sex toy for the night and anything beyond that is totally irrelevant. I want to get to know a couple a bit, there are obviously other safety related reasons for that too. Approach it as a friendship, rather than recruiting for a sex act and make it clear that her satisfaction is a high priority for you. Good luck!" Great advice .. Hope you are well xx | |||
"I'm a single fem trying to find a couple for regular -ish fun. Unfortunately it seems to be virtually impossible
If you weren't so far away, we'd be the couple for you. Great pictures! It is hard isn't it, there are people out there but most are too far away... maybe we'll have to have a little outing soon xx
Thank you for the compliment. Head north
Ruby is a lovely lass .. You guys need to get yourselves to Yorkshire and go to one of the club's in Leeds. Pandoras or Quest.. Give me a shout if you need a hand .
I'm not shy lol xx "Awww thank you, that's so kind. I'll wait for my inbox getting filled...though I won't hold my breath | |||
"I'm a single fem trying to find a couple for regular -ish fun. Unfortunately it seems to be virtually impossible
Same boat as you. Haha seems there is an issue with us all communication between us some ladies and couple maybe? I dunno why it's so flipping hard "We both live in the north east, that's our first hurdle. | |||
"Also, as well as the advice above, be friendly. Nothing turns me off quicker than an interaction with a couple where it’s just about the sex act, like they are looking for an animated sex toy for the night and anything beyond that is totally irrelevant. I want to get to know a couple a bit, there are obviously other safety related reasons for that too. Approach it as a friendship, rather than recruiting for a sex act and make it clear that her satisfaction is a high priority for you. Good luck! Great advice .. Hope you are well xx " I am thanks! I’ll be out and about a bit more in November. Hope to bump into you! | |||
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"We’ve just about given up any pursuit of single ladies via initial contact on here, we’ve met and played with some wonderful ladies via parties and clubs, there really is no substitute for initial face to face contact. Online you walk among the many who are contacting the lady via fab and you have to decifer their mood, their rules and if the attention hasn’t gone to their head, it’s hard work and unrewarding...." Attention gone to their heads?  By that statement, I think you have a very different idea to the actual reality of being a single female on here. | |||
"Also, as well as the advice above, be friendly. Nothing turns me off quicker than an interaction with a couple where it’s just about the sex act, like they are looking for an animated sex toy for the night and anything beyond that is totally irrelevant. I want to get to know a couple a bit, there are obviously other safety related reasons for that too. Approach it as a friendship, rather than recruiting for a sex act and make it clear that her satisfaction is a high priority for you. Good luck!" Good advice also. We like to build up a good relationship on chat before we venture into the sex side of things. But by the looks of things it's not just us that struggle to meet, seems to be a regular occurrence for others too | |||
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"We’ve just about given up any pursuit of single ladies via initial contact on here, we’ve met and played with some wonderful ladies via parties and clubs, there really is no substitute for initial face to face contact. Online you walk among the many who are contacting the lady via fab and you have to decifer their mood, their rules and if the attention hasn’t gone to their head, it’s hard work and unrewarding.... Attention gone to their heads? By that statement, I think you have a very different idea to the actual reality of being a single female on here."We have a couple of regular lady friends and they are down to earth, know the pitfalls and block single guys generally from contacting them and do there own searching, hence they don’t “complain” about the mass of inane, abusive and silly messages they get, as they don’t! So what is the reality? | |||
"We have been lucky, often it is “another women” that has found us in play mode. " We're hoping a visit to Le Boudoir next month will open more opportunities | |||
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"We’ve just about given up any pursuit of single ladies via initial contact on here, we’ve met and played with some wonderful ladies via parties and clubs, there really is no substitute for initial face to face contact. Online you walk among the many who are contacting the lady via fab and you have to decifer their mood, their rules and if the attention hasn’t gone to their head, it’s hard work and unrewarding.... Attention gone to their heads? By that statement, I think you have a very different idea to the actual reality of being a single female on here.
We have a couple of regular lady friends and they are down to earth, know the pitfalls and block single guys generally from contacting them and do there own searching, hence they don’t “complain” about the mass of inane, abusive and silly messages they get, as they don’t! So what is the reality? "The reality for me is I receive lots of messages from single guys (which I don't complain about much) but I don't see how a one liner 'fancy sucking my cock' would actually go to any woman's head. Genuine messages from couples and single women are very few and far between. | |||
"We have been lucky, often it is “another women” that has found us in play mode. " Because you are *often* at clubs and socials..that makes a hell of a difference. | |||
"We’ve just about given up any pursuit of single ladies via initial contact on here, we’ve met and played with some wonderful ladies via parties and clubs, there really is no substitute for initial face to face contact. Online you walk among the many who are contacting the lady via fab and you have to decifer their mood, their rules and if the attention hasn’t gone to their head, it’s hard work and unrewarding.... Attention gone to their heads? By that statement, I think you have a very different idea to the actual reality of being a single female on here.
We have a couple of regular lady friends and they are down to earth, know the pitfalls and block single guys generally from contacting them and do there own searching, hence they don’t “complain” about the mass of inane, abusive and silly messages they get, as they don’t! So what is the reality?
The reality for me is I receive lots of messages from single guys (which I don't complain about much) but I don't see how a one liner 'fancy sucking my cock' would actually go to any woman's head. Genuine messages from couples and single women are very few and far between. "Good points, however there is no denying that some people who have discovered swinging or this site, the attention goes to their heads, but to get back on point, let’s discuss the OP’s question, why not tell us what would put you off meeting a couple? TBH we’ve always struggled with single females, with couples it’s a hello, swap pics, all good when do you want to meet? Then the logistics, maybe over the space of a week maximum from initial contact to a firm arrangement, but this never seems to be the case with single ladies x | |||
"We have been lucky, often it is “another women” that has found us in play mode. Because you are *often* at clubs and socials..that makes a hell of a difference." Stealing clothes helps too. | |||
"We’ve just about given up any pursuit of single ladies via initial contact on here, we’ve met and played with some wonderful ladies via parties and clubs, there really is no substitute for initial face to face contact. Online you walk among the many who are contacting the lady via fab and you have to decifer their mood, their rules and if the attention hasn’t gone to their head, it’s hard work and unrewarding.... Attention gone to their heads? By that statement, I think you have a very different idea to the actual reality of being a single female on here.
We have a couple of regular lady friends and they are down to earth, know the pitfalls and block single guys generally from contacting them and do there own searching, hence they don’t “complain” about the mass of inane, abusive and silly messages they get, as they don’t! So what is the reality?
The reality for me is I receive lots of messages from single guys (which I don't complain about much) but I don't see how a one liner 'fancy sucking my cock' would actually go to any woman's head. Genuine messages from couples and single women are very few and far between.
Good points, however there is no denying that some people who have discovered swinging or this site, the attention goes to their heads, but to get back on point, let’s discuss the OP’s question, why not tell us what would put you off meeting a couple? TBH we’ve always struggled with single females, with couples it’s a hello, swap pics, all good when do you want to meet? Then the logistics, maybe over the space of a week maximum from initial contact to a firm arrangement, but this never seems to be the case with single ladies x"I think as well single females do feel a bit intimidated when meeting a couple, unless they are very confident. We always try to make them feel as comfortable as possible on the chat, never pressing the sex talk if they're not feeling it. Most fizzle out but we are still actively talking, so fingers crossed it does come to something | |||
"We’ve just about given up any pursuit of single ladies via initial contact on here, we’ve met and played with some wonderful ladies via parties and clubs, there really is no substitute for initial face to face contact. Online you walk among the many who are contacting the lady via fab and you have to decifer their mood, their rules and if the attention hasn’t gone to their head, it’s hard work and unrewarding.... Attention gone to their heads? By that statement, I think you have a very different idea to the actual reality of being a single female on here.
We have a couple of regular lady friends and they are down to earth, know the pitfalls and block single guys generally from contacting them and do there own searching, hence they don’t “complain” about the mass of inane, abusive and silly messages they get, as they don’t! So what is the reality?
The reality for me is I receive lots of messages from single guys (which I don't complain about much) but I don't see how a one liner 'fancy sucking my cock' would actually go to any woman's head. Genuine messages from couples and single women are very few and far between.
Good points, however there is no denying that some people who have discovered swinging or this site, the attention goes to their heads, but to get back on point, let’s discuss the OP’s question, why not tell us what would put you off meeting a couple? TBH we’ve always struggled with single females, with couples it’s a hello, swap pics, all good when do you want to meet? Then the logistics, maybe over the space of a week maximum from initial contact to a firm arrangement, but this never seems to be the case with single ladies x"I can only speak from my own experience, but it is very difficult to find a 3 way attraction, to find couples where they are both keen, and where they don't have underlying issues going on. Also where they want 3 way play, and not just have a female to use as a fuck toy or to put on a show. I think it's easier for couples to find couples, especially if doing straight swop as there only has to be a 2 way attraction. I have had success with some great couples, but like I say, they are very difficult to find on here. Distance is also a huge issue on here, that's why I'm more successful in clubs. | |||
"So we've been on the site now for a few months, with the intention of finding another girl for us to play with. It won't be our first threesome but will be our first from this site. After the initial introduction messages, nothing ever seems to happen. Is it really so hard to actually find someone, who is willing? We've even started camming to generate more interest but still the girls are hard to find. Does anyone have any ideas to help or advice? It'll be greatly appreciated X" We've been here for over a year and we're still looking for a lady to join us for regular threesome fun. It's hard work on here but you just have to keep trying and be patient. | |||
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"Having public pictures of both half's of a couple always helps in my opinion as if both want to play then you have to have that initial attraction to both. " I do agree, that can help, we are always happy to send pics or add genuine people we connect with as friends as we have more pics of us both as friends only rather than having both of us public. | |||
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"I'm a single fem trying to find a couple for regular -ish fun. Unfortunately it seems to be virtually impossible
If you weren't so far away, we'd be the couple for you. Great pictures! It is hard isn't it, there are people out there but most are too far away... maybe we'll have to have a little outing soon xxthink maybe you've got to be a bit more flexible and travel also a lot of couples are led by the man and many women are wary of this, let the woman of the couple initiate contact and maybe a telephone call or like you've said cam "This  | |||
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"If you are a couple who are trying to just meet a single lady (not couples at all) and that’s clear on your profile then it will actually be harder for you because single ladies will wonder why you won’t play with couples " Not arguing, just something we've not heard before! It feels kind of counter-intuitive? As in, why will they wonder? Logic might suggest, particularly if the couples are not looking for men as well, that they really really do want to meet just women...? And that the same as saying couples should wonder about females who only meet men but not couples..? We've kind of it had it the other way, where men ask why we won't meet men, but occasionally will meet couples. | |||
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"The word 'plaything' is very off putting. " As is the phrase "putting on a show" for the male. | |||
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"If you are a couple who are trying to just meet a single lady (not couples at all) and that’s clear on your profile then it will actually be harder for you because single ladies will wonder why you won’t play with couples Not arguing, just something we've not heard before! It feels kind of counter-intuitive? As in, why will they wonder? Logic might suggest, particularly if the couples are not looking for men as well, that they really really do want to meet just women...? And that the same as saying couples should wonder about females who only meet men but not couples..? We've kind of it had it the other way, where men ask why we won't meet men, but occasionally will meet couples." Not to cause uproar but these are some of the things we’ve heard from female friends “They just want to live out a selfish fantasy” “The guy is the driving force behind it and that’s not right” “There are issues with the couple, he doesn’t want to see her with another guy” “I’m not gonna put on a show just for his benefit” The reality is that if we were to hide our veris from couples, change our profile text and declare we were ONLY looking for single females we’d get nowhere! Not to be uncouth but we are meeting a new single lady this Friday and a regular next Saturday, no doubt the week after we will meet a nice couple. | |||
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"We’ve met a few ladies from here, but it is a slow process and has turned into a quite a minefield of fakes. We would generally suggest a group chat on Kik or whatsapp pretty early on, means you can actually converse and get to know somebody, and also goes a long way to proving everybody is genuine with intentions of meeting. I think single women get so many messages that you’re going to get buried if you stay talking on here, and also we’re very specific in the type of person we play with, which makes conversation and a connection a must. Party wise it would be a private invite or a high end club with a very strict and expensive door policy. Might sound awful but that does then put you in the company of people that you’d actually like to play with and does cut down on the seediness. To be honest you’re just as likely to be successful in a normal bar on a Friday night as you are through here now. However please don’t give up. You look like a gorgeous couple and you will find the right girl, they do exist on here, and when you meet the right one it’s all worth it! " Great advice, and thank you! As are you two too I'm confident we will meet someone to join us, eventually, especially as we are going to a sex club again next month, but patience is definitely key X | |||
"The word 'plaything' is very off putting. As is the phrase "putting on a show" for the male." I suppose it could be depending on how you read it! So what would you call it when two girls put on a private show especially for the male? | |||
"The word 'plaything' is very off putting. As is the phrase "putting on a show" for the male. I suppose it could be depending on how you read it! So what would you call it when two girls put on a private show especially for the male? " Dunno! Boring? This is exactly the type of statement ie “putting in a private show.......” that puts single girls off | |||
"The word 'plaything' is very off putting. As is the phrase "putting on a show" for the male. I suppose it could be depending on how you read it! So what would you call it when two girls put on a private show especially for the male? " I suspect it doesn't matter what you call it, it will drastically reduce those who might be interested, not just from the language, but also what is in it for them. If they're looking for couples, it would suggest that they're looking for both men and women, whereas you're kind of suggesting just women, but with an audience. We're quite clear (we hope!) that we're looking for everyone to be involved equally, all the time - like the Three Musketeers, just Hmm is the only one with a sword . We don't want anyone to be sat back just watching!
So I guess yes, it's clear what you're looking for, it's just that's probably not what most ladies are looking for. | |||
"The word 'plaything' is very off putting. As is the phrase "putting on a show" for the male. I suppose it could be depending on how you read it! So what would you call it when two girls put on a private show especially for the male? Dunno! Boring? This is exactly the type of statement ie “putting in a private show.......” that puts single girls off" Well I guess everyone is different, I'm not too sure "would like a girl to be boring in front of my boyfriend" would be any better tbh! Some girls however do like putting on a show and other girls I guess find it boring! I can see where you're coming from though so point taken | |||
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"So we've been on the site now for a few months, with the intention of finding another girl for us to play with. It won't be our first threesome but will be our first from this site. After the initial introduction messages, nothing ever seems to happen. Is it really so hard to actually find someone, who is willing? We've even started camming to generate more interest but still the girls are hard to find. Does anyone have any ideas to help or advice? It'll be greatly appreciated X" This site is very hard work. Seems to be full of dreamers and wasters. | |||
"So we've been on the site now for a few months, with the intention of finding another girl for us to play with. It won't be our first threesome but will be our first from this site. After the initial introduction messages, nothing ever seems to happen. Is it really so hard to actually find someone, who is willing? We've even started camming to generate more interest but still the girls are hard to find. Does anyone have any ideas to help or advice? It'll be greatly appreciated X This site is very hard work. Seems to be full of dreamers and wasters. " We have got to agree that there are a lot of dreamers. | |||
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Tee hee xxx
We should try and coordinate in Nov and finally kiss hello (ruby) .. I’ve already kissed tiger.. rawrrrrrrr xx | |||
"See tigerlily and Ruby, both AMAZING Ladies btw.. This could end up a good MFFF!!!!
Tee hee xxx
We should try and coordinate in Nov and finally kiss hello (ruby) .. I’ve already kissed tiger.. rawrrrrrrr xx "I'm definetly up for that | |||
"From other threads on this topic I know women don’t like to be seen as an imported plaything for the couple without their needs being taken into consideration. From what I have read on the forums, I think most, like me, want a full on experience exploring all the ways three people can pleasure each other all at once. Your proposal, Ff play then the guy joining in is pretty common for new couples. Any woman wanting to play in that way will have plenty to choose from on fab. I would have concerns that you are new to each other and swinging and that the reason you were looking for mainly Ff play was that you hadnt completely worked your rules out. It’s often seen as ‘not real sex’. I’m sure others would have the same thoughts and would need reassuring that you have clear boundaries and agreements in place with each other. And you really need to make it clear what’s in it for the single woman. I’m sorry, but at the moment it’s a bit too focussed on you." but surely a lot of this is me me me | |||
"I'm a single fem trying to find a couple for regular -ish fun. Unfortunately it seems to be virtually impossible "We’re in York too
Do you ever go to any of the clubs? We’ve met tiger Lilly a few times at clubs xx | |||
"We have been on here close to 2 years and have only just had a meet from here this summer, although we did go to a social and met some brilliant people who we played with and still keep in touch with. I think a lot of single ladies worry about joining a couple and the lady getting jealous seeing her partner with another woman. I make sure they know that this was initially my idea because I love women, and that they know we have spoken about it at length for years before acting on it. We also try and make any lady we speak to feel valued and I do try to lead the conversations so they don't think I am just going along with my husband's ideas. As has been mentioned, we would never refer to someone as a plaything. We make it clear that we want all 3 of us involved and tend to move from fab messages to kik so we can chat and get to know each other better. I think it's really hard to find someone who is attracted to both people in a couple so it probably takes longer than finding a 1 on 1 meet so definitely be patient. If you can get some meeting in person veris, that would help a lot too. We didn't really get much attention on here until we got some veris from the social we went to and then it just kind of took off from there. We now have a fantastic lady we chat to regularly and have played with so the hard work definitely pays off to find lovely, genuine people " Its good to know it can happen. Although we have put "plaything" and "girls to put on a show" for the man, this is only a little snap shot of what could happen (based on our previous threesome experiences) We feel we have written a very honest and genuine profile, with links to real stories we have written, so if anyone wanted to know more they can read them and get to know us quite intimately. Of course I can see how it has been misconstrued thinking, it's only 2 girls playing, with the guy watching, or its only focused on the couple and not the girl who is joining us (it's clear to me these people have not read our story) but as I said this is one of many scenarios that can happen throughout the night. And once we get a message and conversation starts flowing we are also happy to share face pics to those who we feel there could be a connection there. We also find camming gives us a lot more attention and messages, so people can see we are exactly what we say we are. We have been chatting to a lovely girl who has agreed to meet us in a sex club next month... so I agree, good hard work pays off for genuine honest people. | |||
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"When I was using fab as a single I would have blocked anyone who used the phrase plaything when saying what they are looking for on their profile. I’m not a toy to be used as and when you feel like it, I’m a human being with needs and wants of my own!" This | |||
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"We have had foursomes with couples and also mmf but only ffm once although haven't tried any single girl - couple nights yet. I have often thought another option would be to get to know a couple and for me to be their single girl and for the girl in the couple to be ours. As a rule we don't play separately but that could be a win win solution as we would all know each other x" I guess so long as the man in the couple is happy with that arrangement too. It seems to be easier to play with couples than single girls, so maybe one day we'll give it a go... but for now the search continues.... X | |||
"We have had foursomes with couples and also mmf but only ffm once although haven't tried any single girl - couple nights yet. I have often thought another option would be to get to know a couple and for me to be their single girl and for the girl in the couple to be ours. As a rule we don't play separately but that could be a win win solution as we would all know each other x" That sounds good on paper but what if they have fun with you as the single woman but when it comes to their turn to return the favour they don't.  | |||
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"So we've been on the site now for a few months, with the intention of finding another girl for us to play with. It won't be our first threesome but will be our first from this site. After the initial introduction messages, nothing ever seems to happen. Is it really so hard to actually find someone, who is willing? We've even started camming to generate more interest but still the girls are hard to find. Does anyone have any ideas to help or advice? It'll be greatly appreciated X" there are no male pics on your profile...it's a little bit lazy to assume because the female half is hot, that the assumption is the male half will be also. the profile, like so many others might look male driven, so it will be better to specify who is messaging, try getting an early fem2fem phonechat/web(dont push for webcams if its someone not really into that) | |||
"We have been lucky, often it is “another women” that has found us in play mode. Because you are *often* at clubs and socials..that makes a hell of a difference." This
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There is a very active organised socials scene in South Wales, and its quite easy to make friends and take it from there, but it doesn't happen overnight.  | |||
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