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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just had the perfect weekend, perfect meet Friday to Sunday. You get told your what I want in a fb. You drive her home then you get your a nice bloke all I want but text. No explanation! Then blocks you !! Why |
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Re read your post and realised I got it wrong 
She meant what she said at the time but changed her mind.
Lick your wounds then move on.
It's horrible and disappointing but you're never going to know why. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Not just blocked on here. He'll even drove to pick her up, she said on uc so I paid all weekend. Wish fab had a section that you could warn others of male female. Guess I'm feeling bruised. Been here bored but never played like this. If that makes sense ? |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Not just blocked on here. He'll even drove to pick her up, she said on uc so I paid all weekend. Wish fab had a section that you could warn others of male female. Guess I'm feeling bruised. Been here bored but never played like this. If that makes sense ? "
Sorry, I don't understand this post at all?! Can you please clarify?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She could have used the weekend to establish a connection, or used it as a way to get a free weekend away.
There are women on here who will use men for free weekends away, alcohol, clothing or whatever.
Chalk it up to experience and keep your wallet closed in future. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not just blocked on here. He'll even drove to pick her up, she said on uc so I paid all weekend. Wish fab had a section that you could warn others of male female. Guess I'm feeling bruised. Been here bored but never played like this. If that makes sense ?
Sorry, I don't understand this post at all?! Can you please clarify? "
A woman got a free weekend away and then blocked him on here.
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"Not just blocked on here. He'll even drove to pick her up, she said on uc so I paid all weekend. Wish fab had a section that you could warn others of male female. Guess I'm feeling bruised. Been here bored but never played like this. If that makes sense ? "
You will be feeling bruised.
Don't be tempted to name anyone though its against site rules. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Not just blocked on here. He'll even drove to pick her up, she said on uc so I paid all weekend. Wish fab had a section that you could warn others of male female. Guess I'm feeling bruised. Been here bored but never played like this. If that makes sense ?
Sorry, I don't understand this post at all?! Can you please clarify?
A woman got a free weekend away and then blocked him on here.
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Thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not just blocked on here. He'll even drove to pick her up, she said on uc so I paid all weekend. Wish fab had a section that you could warn others of male female. Guess I'm feeling bruised. Been here bored but never played like this. If that makes sense ? "
Whats a male female? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just had the perfect weekend, perfect meet Friday to Sunday. You get told your what I want in a fb. You drive her home then you get your a nice bloke all I want but text. No explanation! Then blocks you !! Why "
Lol, because this is a swinging site not a dating site. She got what she wanted from you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"She could have used the weekend to establish a connection, or used it as a way to get a free weekend away.
There are women on here who will use men for free weekends away, alcohol, clothing or whatever.
Chalk it up to experience and keep your wallet closed in future."
There are a few men too |
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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago
STOKE ON TRENT |
"She could have used the weekend to establish a connection, or used it as a way to get a free weekend away.
There are women on here who will use men for free weekends away, alcohol, clothing or whatever.
Chalk it up to experience and keep your wallet closed in future.
There are a few men too"
Lots of ...users on here male and female. |
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By *inful xWoman
over a year ago
In a sleepy little village |
A fool and their money are easily parted.
Sorry this has happened to you OP but in future 50/50 on any expenses on meets or walk away. Sounds like she had a good weekend away which was all she was after. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sadly, one of the golden rules of Fab is: As a single bloke you will never get any sympathy from the forums."
I sympathise so not true but like somebody else said you will never find out the reason, so harsh as it is no choice but to move on
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"Just had the perfect weekend, perfect meet Friday to Sunday. You get told your what I want in a fb. You drive her home then you get your a nice bloke all I want but text. No explanation! Then blocks you !! Why "
Booty call, You got your end away what more do you want? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Shame really as there are nice women on here who wouldn't expect a free weekend but because they are not stick thin but a little overweight nobody wants.....  "
This  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nice blokes finish last.
Fact.
However, maybe you were just a bit too nice for her. Maybe she wanted edgy, dangerous, a bit of a challenge, someone who's a bad boy so she can tame you. Once she had you and determined she couldn't mould you from bad boy to nice bloke ready to be dumped in favour of the next bad boy to be moulded, she lost interest.
Was it your first meet? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Had that myself OP lots of great chat social meet told no further meet then a message saying sorry but you are too nice to be a swinger then blocked. I'm feeling kind of bewildered what do women want nice or nasty? Ladies give me a clue please as I'm confused. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had that myself OP lots of great chat social meet told no further meet then a message saying sorry but you are too nice to be a swinger then blocked. I'm feeling kind of bewildered what do women want nice or nasty? Ladies give me a clue please as I'm confused. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do feel for you OP that was pretty mean to block you and as much as we can all offer advise over why she did that we’ll never know. The only thing you can take from it is that next time just meet for a meal or a drink and no expectation. Hotels can always be booked last minute if needed  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Had met before and she wanted a regular as did I. Have asked her why via other means. I won't say what she said but it was spiteful, below the belt and has made me doubt myself now. Thanks for the support folks. |
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Sadly there are a lot of people here who use the fact that it's a swingers' site as an excuse to show the most deplorable human characteristics. Unpleasant people are just that. Please don't be deterred by anyone who says it's not a dating site. Decent behaviour should expected wherever you go. That's a fob off.
Don't be disheartened. There are some good people around. You just have to dig deep xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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had it before mate,
travelled there after weeks of chating build up etc.
only for them to open the door and say sorry your too short lol.
dont get angry or upset just move on.
happens to us all. |
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"Had met before and she wanted a regular as did I. Have asked her why via other means. I won't say what she said but it was spiteful, below the belt and has made me doubt myself now. Thanks for the support folks. "
There really are some vile women on here OP. Beware the total leeches who will sap you for all you are worth in the name of swinging. They really are the lowest of the low in my eyes..... buy me this perfume/bottle of gin/underwear from where ever kinda women and I will think about meeting you. Totally vile and not what swinging is about. |
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"Had met before and she wanted a regular as did I. Have asked her why via other means. I won't say what she said but it was spiteful, below the belt and has made me doubt myself now. Thanks for the support folks.
There really are some vile women on here OP. Beware the total leeches who will sap you for all you are worth in the name of swinging. They really are the lowest of the low in my eyes..... buy me this perfume/bottle of gin/underwear from where ever kinda women and I will think about meeting you. Totally vile and not what swinging is about."
This will only work on those gullible enough to fall for it, the OP has said he enjoyed the weekend, he is upset that obviously she felt differently.
Obviously she has no right to a choice, seeing he paid!  |
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"Had met before and she wanted a regular as did I. Have asked her why via other means. I won't say what she said but it was spiteful, below the belt and has made me doubt myself now. Thanks for the support folks.
There really are some vile women on here OP. Beware the total leeches who will sap you for all you are worth in the name of swinging. They really are the lowest of the low in my eyes..... buy me this perfume/bottle of gin/underwear from where ever kinda women and I will think about meeting you. Totally vile and not what swinging is about."
There are plenty vile men on here but insolent air my grievances on the site. Just chalk it down to experience and move on x |
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"Had met before and she wanted a regular as did I. Have asked her why via other means. I won't say what she said but it was spiteful, below the belt and has made me doubt myself now. Thanks for the support folks.
There really are some vile women on here OP. Beware the total leeches who will sap you for all you are worth in the name of swinging. They really are the lowest of the low in my eyes..... buy me this perfume/bottle of gin/underwear from where ever kinda women and I will think about meeting you. Totally vile and not what swinging is about.
There are plenty vile men on here but insolent air my grievances on the site. Just chalk it down to experience and move on x"
I wouldn't. Bloody predictive text x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s disconcerting because you didn’t read that she wasn’t feeling the way you were about the weekend and then when you wanted to understand what had happened she was spiteful to you. You are bound to question yourself and wonder what you did wrong but it is a hard fact of fab life that there are some very strange people on here who are more self centred and ruthless than you might imagine....and then of course there are the liars, fantasists and the deranged...,are you sure you want to play on here?  |
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"It’s disconcerting because you didn’t read that she wasn’t feeling the way you were about the weekend and then when you wanted to understand what had happened she was spiteful to you. You are bound to question yourself and wonder what you did wrong but it is a hard fact of fab life that there are some very strange people on here who are more self centred and ruthless than you might imagine....and then of course there are the liars, fantasists and the deranged...,are you sure you want to play on here? "
Or an alternative reading of the situation is they had a weekend away, she wasn't feeling it, she tried to let him down gently (you're nice but...), buy he pushed it and pursued her even though she'd blocked him .
You need to know when to cut your losses and walk away. If someone's not into you they aren't into you. End of.
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"Just had the perfect weekend, perfect meet Friday to Sunday. You get told your what I want in a fb. You drive her home then you get your a nice bloke all I want but text. No explanation! Then blocks you !! Why "
£€$¥! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s disconcerting because you didn’t read that she wasn’t feeling the way you were about the weekend and then when you wanted to understand what had happened she was spiteful to you. You are bound to question yourself and wonder what you did wrong but it is a hard fact of fab life that there are some very strange people on here who are more self centred and ruthless than you might imagine....and then of course there are the liars, fantasists and the deranged...,are you sure you want to play on here?
Or an alternative reading of the situation is they had a weekend away, she wasn't feeling it, she tried to let him down gently (you're nice but...), buy he pushed it and pursued her even though she'd blocked him .
You need to know when to cut your losses and walk away. If someone's not into you they aren't into you. End of.
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You gotta know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em... |
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From the information given it could be any number of reasons.
Personally I'm going with she enjoyed the weekend until she spotted the women's clothing and assumed you were cheating while the other half was away/you're a cross dresser.
At the end of the day if you had an enjoyable weekend but she declined further meets, you should have just looked back at the good time you had not stalk her to find out why: this is a prime example of why women instantly block!
She obviously liked you enough to give you all her contact details. Something about the weekend made her change her mind.
Your thread appears to suggest because you paid for the weekend you are entitled to further meets to get your monies worth. You're not entitled! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Heh it's fab glad you enjoyed the weekend but as others have said possibly an expensive weekend but that's fab some people take advantage. I know it sucks but it's a lesson learned, all be it an expensive one.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It’s disconcerting because you didn’t read that she wasn’t feeling the way you were about the weekend and then when you wanted to understand what had happened she was spiteful to you. You are bound to question yourself and wonder what you did wrong but it is a hard fact of fab life that there are some very strange people on here who are more self centred and ruthless than you might imagine....and then of course there are the liars, fantasists and the deranged...,are you sure you want to play on here?
Or an alternative reading of the situation is they had a weekend away, she wasn't feeling it, she tried to let him down gently (you're nice but...), buy he pushed it and pursued her even though she'd blocked him .
You need to know when to cut your losses and walk away. If someone's not into you they aren't into you. End of.
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Good point well put....also I hadn’t clocked the women’s clothes thing and that has left me wondering too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sadly there are a lot of people here who use the fact that it's a swingers' site as an excuse to show the most deplorable human characteristics. Unpleasant people are just that. Please don't be deterred by anyone who says it's not a dating site. Decent behaviour should expected wherever you go. That's a fob off.
Don't be disheartened. There are some good people around. You just have to dig deep xx"
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
"Sadly there are a lot of people here who use the fact that it's a swingers' site as an excuse to show the most deplorable human characteristics. Unpleasant people are just that. Please don't be deterred by anyone who says it's not a dating site. Decent behaviour should expected wherever you go. That's a fob off.
Don't be disheartened. There are some good people around. You just have to dig deep xx"
I am beginning to see this argument a lot. Swinging seems to act as a free pass for people to act like total twats. Everyone is entitled to liberty but if someone chose to use that liberty for unacceptable reasons, many people just seem to excuse it and the concurrent response is simply to man up and accept this is just how things are on Fab. It is a little bit ironic that this lifestyle is meant to be about fun, simple, uncomplicated experiences and connections but I am finding out (albeit without having had my first meet yet) that it is anything but that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sadly there are a lot of people here who use the fact that it's a swingers' site as an excuse to show the most deplorable human characteristics. Unpleasant people are just that. Please don't be deterred by anyone who says it's not a dating site. Decent behaviour should expected wherever you go. That's a fob off.
Don't be disheartened. There are some good people around. You just have to dig deep xx
I am beginning to see this argument a lot. Swinging seems to act as a free pass for people to act like total twats. Everyone is entitled to liberty but if someone chose to use that liberty for unacceptable reasons, many people just seem to excuse it and the concurrent response is simply to man up and accept this is just how things are on Fab. It is a little bit ironic that this lifestyle is meant to be about fun, simple, uncomplicated experiences and connections but I am finding out (albeit without having had my first meet yet) that it is anything but that. "
It is but there always people I all walks of life who disrespect the ethos of the group. Honest reliable and decent people are on here you just have to rummage through the site to find them. |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
"Sadly there are a lot of people here who use the fact that it's a swingers' site as an excuse to show the most deplorable human characteristics. Unpleasant people are just that. Please don't be deterred by anyone who says it's not a dating site. Decent behaviour should expected wherever you go. That's a fob off.
Don't be disheartened. There are some good people around. You just have to dig deep xx
I am beginning to see this argument a lot. Swinging seems to act as a free pass for people to act like total twats. Everyone is entitled to liberty but if someone chose to use that liberty for unacceptable reasons, many people just seem to excuse it and the concurrent response is simply to man up and accept this is just how things are on Fab. It is a little bit ironic that this lifestyle is meant to be about fun, simple, uncomplicated experiences and connections but I am finding out (albeit without having had my first meet yet) that it is anything but that.
It is but there always people I all walks of life who disrespect the ethos of the group. Honest reliable and decent people are on here you just have to rummage through the site to find them. "
That kind of implies that the tendency is indecent people and the exception to the rule is decent people.
I think swinging is unique in that it requires the presence and participation of another human/s. People effectively use each other to put it bluntly and isn't inclusive at all. |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact |
"OP, what exactly is the problem? She showed up. She is who she says she is. You both had a lovely time. She doesn't want to see you again. Her prerogative."
There's that thing again. A woman's 'prerogative'. Yes, people do have a right to change their minds on matters or to choose to behave however they deem fit. Plenty seem to choose to behave like nobheads though. Seems it is empowering if a female chooses to act ruthlessly yet if a guy did so he would be demonised. Are we too accepting of a lack of general decency and values? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP, what exactly is the problem? She showed up. She is who she says she is. You both had a lovely time. She doesn't want to see you again. Her prerogative.
There's that thing again. A woman's 'prerogative'. Yes, people do have a right to change their minds on matters or to choose to behave however they deem fit. Plenty seem to choose to behave like nobheads though. Seems it is empowering if a female chooses to act ruthlessly yet if a guy did so he would be demonised. Are we too accepting of a lack of general decency and values? "
Excuse me for my breavity but you seem to miss a big point...... the woman is not interested in meeting him again and he kept pestering her for a reason....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Had met before and she wanted a regular as did I. Have asked her why via other means. I won't say what she said but it was spiteful, below the belt and has made me doubt myself now. Thanks for the support folks.
There really are some vile women on here OP. Beware the total leeches who will sap you for all you are worth in the name of swinging. They really are the lowest of the low in my eyes..... buy me this perfume/bottle of gin/underwear from where ever kinda women and I will think about meeting you. Totally vile and not what swinging is about.
There are plenty vile men on here but insolent air my grievances on the site. Just chalk it down to experience and move on x"
You wouldn't but loads of other women do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, what exactly is the problem? She showed up. She is who she says she is. You both had a lovely time. She doesn't want to see you again. Her prerogative."
I read it as she led him to believe she wanted him as a fwb/fb, got a free weekend away with him, then blocked him with no explanation.
I would like an explanation if I were in his shoes too. |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
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"OP, what exactly is the problem? She showed up. She is who she says she is. You both had a lovely time. She doesn't want to see you again. Her prerogative.
There's that thing again. A woman's 'prerogative'. Yes, people do have a right to change their minds on matters or to choose to behave however they deem fit. Plenty seem to choose to behave like nobheads though. Seems it is empowering if a female chooses to act ruthlessly yet if a guy did so he would be demonised. Are we too accepting of a lack of general decency and values?
Excuse me for my breavity but you seem to miss a big point...... the woman is not interested in meeting him again and he kept pestering her for a reason....
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I think it is fair to expect an explanation rather than simply being blocked. And as he was blocked I do not think he was able to do any pestering. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP, what exactly is the problem? She showed up. She is who she says she is. You both had a lovely time. She doesn't want to see you again. Her prerogative.
There's that thing again. A woman's 'prerogative'. Yes, people do have a right to change their minds on matters or to choose to behave however they deem fit. Plenty seem to choose to behave like nobheads though. Seems it is empowering if a female chooses to act ruthlessly yet if a guy did so he would be demonised. Are we too accepting of a lack of general decency and values?
Excuse me for my breavity but you seem to miss a big point...... the woman is not interested in meeting him again and he kept pestering her for a reason....
I think it is fair to expect an explanation rather than simply being blocked. And as he was blocked I do not think he was able to do any pestering. "
I know I’m not the sharpest pencil in the box... but I believe if you read his post earlier in the thread... he contacted her and she gave him a vile response.....
I have no dog in this fight.... but every coin has 2 sides... |
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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago
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"OP, what exactly is the problem? She showed up. She is who she says she is. You both had a lovely time. She doesn't want to see you again. Her prerogative.
There's that thing again. A woman's 'prerogative'. Yes, people do have a right to change their minds on matters or to choose to behave however they deem fit. Plenty seem to choose to behave like nobheads though. Seems it is empowering if a female chooses to act ruthlessly yet if a guy did so he would be demonised. Are we too accepting of a lack of general decency and values?
Excuse me for my breavity but you seem to miss a big point...... the woman is not interested in meeting him again and he kept pestering her for a reason....
I think it is fair to expect an explanation rather than simply being blocked. And as he was blocked I do not think he was able to do any pestering.
I know I’m not the sharpest pencil in the box... but I believe if you read his post earlier in the thread... he contacted her and she gave him a vile response.....
I have no dog in this fight.... but every coin has 2 sides... "
Sorry, I missed that post but seen it now. However, had she given an immediate explanation then he wouldn't have needed to seek her out for one. I still think it is reasonable to want to know. It will remain a mystery to all of us for eternity now... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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When she gave a reply it was vile, she said I was pathetic as a man and lover. The only reason she came over was no one else was available, for the weekend. Also said after meeting friends of mine she would rather of shagged them. She knew about my son, and said go with a tranny, they like small cocks. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"When she gave a reply it was vile, she said I was pathetic as a man and lover. The only reason she came over was no one else was available, for the weekend. Also said after meeting friends of mine she would rather of shagged them. She knew about my son, and said go with a tranny, they like small cocks. "
Oh dear, she sounds like a right cow tbh. There are ways to tell people that you're not for them, no need for nastiness. |
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"When she gave a reply it was vile, she said I was pathetic as a man and lover. The only reason she came over was no one else was available, for the weekend. Also said after meeting friends of mine she would rather of shagged them. She knew about my son, and said go with a tranny, they like small cocks.
Oh dear, she sounds like a right cow tbh. There are ways to tell people that you're not for them, no need for nastiness."
Whilst at face value it is nasty, there's always the possibilty that the OP hasn't listened to the womans POV and dismissed her out of hand.
There is always a lot of hearsay with these things, that's why there isnt a naming and shaming policy here.
Without question there are some wierd/nasty/con-artistry going on here and one should really not take things at face value.
Shame that this goes on, but serves to be a warning that we owe it to ourselves to meet and play under terms we set ourselves, without the right to expect a return on investment, be it cash, emotional or time. |
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"When she gave a reply it was vile, she said I was pathetic as a man and lover. The only reason she came over was no one else was available, for the weekend. Also said after meeting friends of mine she would rather of shagged them. She knew about my son, and said go with a tranny, they like small cocks. "
Is this the same woman who in your original post didn't give an explanation and blocked you? Or have you just made that up because you have an audience?  |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"When she gave a reply it was vile, she said I was pathetic as a man and lover. The only reason she came over was no one else was available, for the weekend. Also said after meeting friends of mine she would rather of shagged them. She knew about my son, and said go with a tranny, they like small cocks.
Oh dear, she sounds like a right cow tbh. There are ways to tell people that you're not for them, no need for nastiness.
Whilst at face value it is nasty, there's always the possibilty that the OP hasn't listened to the womans POV and dismissed her out of hand.
There is always a lot of hearsay with these things, that's why there isnt a naming and shaming policy here.
Without question there are some wierd/nasty/con-artistry going on here and one should really not take things at face value.
Shame that this goes on, but serves to be a warning that we owe it to ourselves to meet and play under terms we set ourselves, without the right to expect a return on investment, be it cash, emotional or time."
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"When she gave a reply it was vile, she said I was pathetic as a man and lover. The only reason she came over was no one else was available, for the weekend. Also said after meeting friends of mine she would rather of shagged them. She knew about my son, and said go with a tranny, they like small cocks. "
Well, top and bottom of it is you've had a lucky escape.
Now put it behind you and move on. |
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over a year ago
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Op I personally would forget it u can't second guess your self or her reasons and it sounds like your persistence on knowing why has pissed her off and she has said spiteful things to make u go away |
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"When she gave a reply it was vile, she said I was pathetic as a man and lover. The only reason she came over was no one else was available, for the weekend. Also said after meeting friends of mine she would rather of shagged them. She knew about my son, and said go with a tranny, they like small cocks. "
Sorry, not buying it, you're adding to your opening post!
If you'd led with that I'd have said what a cow! But you stated she said you were nice...until you contacted her again, and she discovered your sons clothes.
Could she have been less nasty? Without a doubt and I'm not excusing her if she did in fact say that, but people are entitled to change their minds. I stood in front of God and 400 people promising to love, honour and obey til death do us part, yet here I am divorced.
I wouldn't expect anything from a weekend shag. |
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"When she gave a reply it was vile, she said I was pathetic as a man and lover. The only reason she came over was no one else was available, for the weekend. Also said after meeting friends of mine she would rather of shagged them. She knew about my son, and said go with a tranny, they like small cocks.
Is this the same woman who in your original post didn't give an explanation and blocked you? Or have you just made that up because you have an audience? "
Not just me then! |
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over a year ago
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"When she gave a reply it was vile, she said I was pathetic as a man and lover. The only reason she came over was no one else was available, for the weekend. Also said after meeting friends of mine she would rather of shagged them. She knew about my son, and said go with a tranny, they like small cocks.
Sorry, not buying it, you're adding to your opening post!
If you'd led with that I'd have said what a cow! But you stated she said you were nice...until you contacted her again, and she discovered your sons clothes.
Could she have been less nasty? Without a doubt and I'm not excusing her if she did in fact say that, but people are entitled to change their minds. I stood in front of God and 400 people promising to love, honour and obey til death do us part, yet here I am divorced.
I wouldn't expect anything from a weekend shag. "
I think she may of got nasty when he wouldn't leave her alone but he's slightly embellished her words |
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over a year ago
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"When she gave a reply it was vile, she said I was pathetic as a man and lover. The only reason she came over was no one else was available, for the weekend. Also said after meeting friends of mine she would rather of shagged them. She knew about my son, and said go with a tranny, they like small cocks.
Is this the same woman who in your original post didn't give an explanation and blocked you? Or have you just made that up because you have an audience?
Not just me then!"
nope I was thinking same it's like reading a cheap novel lol |
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"When she gave a reply it was vile, she said I was pathetic as a man and lover. The only reason she came over was no one else was available, for the weekend. Also said after meeting friends of mine she would rather of shagged them. She knew about my son, and said go with a tranny, they like small cocks.
Sorry, not buying it, you're adding to your opening post!
If you'd led with that I'd have said what a cow! But you stated she said you were nice...until you contacted her again, and she discovered your sons clothes.
Could she have been less nasty? Without a doubt and I'm not excusing her if she did in fact say that, but people are entitled to change their minds. I stood in front of God and 400 people promising to love, honour and obey til death do us part, yet here I am divorced.
I wouldn't expect anything from a weekend shag. I think she may of got nasty when he wouldn't leave her alone but he's slightly embellished her words "
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"When she gave a reply it was vile, she said I was pathetic as a man and lover. The only reason she came over was no one else was available, for the weekend. Also said after meeting friends of mine she would rather of shagged them. She knew about my son, and said go with a tranny, they like small cocks. "
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"OP, what exactly is the problem? She showed up. She is who she says she is. You both had a lovely time. She doesn't want to see you again. Her prerogative.
There's that thing again. A woman's 'prerogative'. Yes, people do have a right to change their minds on matters or to choose to behave however they deem fit. Plenty seem to choose to behave like nobheads though. Seems it is empowering if a female chooses to act ruthlessly yet if a guy did so he would be demonised. Are we too accepting of a lack of general decency and values? "
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over a year ago
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If a guy can't take no for an answer a woman can only say not interested so many times before either getting annoyed or nasty ,this isn't self empowerment it's called self preservation simple |
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"Just had the perfect weekend, perfect meet Friday to Sunday. You get told your what I want in a fb. You drive her home then you get your a nice bloke all I want but text. No explanation! Then blocks you !! Why "
Maybe her electricity and food supplies ran out on Friday but she didn't get her giro until Monday? |
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"When she gave a reply it was vile, she said I was pathetic as a man and lover. The only reason she came over was no one else was available, for the weekend. Also said after meeting friends of mine she would rather of shagged them. She knew about my son, and said go with a tranny, they like small cocks.
Oh dear, she sounds like a right cow tbh. There are ways to tell people that you're not for them, no need for nastiness."
There are also two sides to every story, and we're hearing only one.
Maybe she got sick of the OP pestering her with messages after she'd made it clear (by blocking him) that she wanted no further contact. Maybe, in the end, a harsh message was needed in order for him to leave her alone. |
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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago
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"When she gave a reply it was vile, she said I was pathetic as a man and lover. The only reason she came over was no one else was available, for the weekend. Also said after meeting friends of mine she would rather of shagged them. She knew about my son, and said go with a tranny, they like small cocks.
Oh dear, she sounds like a right cow tbh. There are ways to tell people that you're not for them, no need for nastiness.
There are also two sides to every story, and we're hearing only one.
Maybe she got sick of the OP pestering her with messages after she'd made it clear (by blocking him) that she wanted no further contact. Maybe, in the end, a harsh message was needed in order for him to leave her alone."
^^ This^^
OP: Obviously, something has happened to change her mind. Whether it was the answer you claim she gave you, when you pestered her for an explanation after she blocked you, or something else, we will never know. People have the right to change their mind at the end of the day. I have met guys with my partner through our couple profile on the basis for a regular arrangement, for it to drop off after several meets. It happens that people change their minds.
Perhaps next time, take it slow and go Dutch with future meets until you both absolutely sure it will be a lasting arrangement. |
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Sorry to hear this OP. And sorry to hear the lack of sympathy. If it was a lady they'd be all over her with hugs and kisses.
It took me 1 year oh here and couple no shows after booking hotel rooms and one no half payment on here to never meet in a hotel again unless they book it.
I only meet those who can accommodate or if they paid the hotel first which doesn't happen. Many say my loss but then I've found plenty who 'don't accommodate' who can accommodate if they're that interested. |
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"When she gave a reply it was vile, she said I was pathetic as a man and lover. The only reason she came over was no one else was available, for the weekend. Also said after meeting friends of mine she would rather of shagged them. She knew about my son, and said go with a tranny, they like small cocks.
Report. "
If you've messages report before she deletes and fab washes their has as they say ...No evidence thus not letting her and others return to do these things and others again and again. |
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"When she gave a reply it was vile, she said I was pathetic as a man and lover. The only reason she came over was no one else was available, for the weekend. Also said after meeting friends of mine she would rather of shagged them. She knew about my son, and said go with a tranny, they like small cocks.
Report.
If you've messages report before she deletes and fab washes their has as they say ...No evidence thus not letting her and others return to do these things and others again and again."
Ok I’m completely lost now.....
What did this woman do that she should be reported?
She blocked him and he kept pestering her....
Maybe I’m crazy but because he paid for a vacation for her , she is not bound to him for life....
Please explain |
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This is why I don't like to let men pay for things on a meet. They are happy to do so until you decide they aren't for you. Then it's all "but I spent this and that" as if they have bought and paid for your services... (Disclaimer: not all men are like this I know. But you only find out if they are that type once it goes wrong...) |
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"When she gave a reply it was vile, she said I was pathetic as a man and lover. The only reason she came over was no one else was available, for the weekend. Also said after meeting friends of mine she would rather of shagged them. She knew about my son, and said go with a tranny, they like small cocks.
Report.
If you've messages report before she deletes and fab washes their has as they say ...No evidence thus not letting her and others return to do these things and others again and again.
Ok I’m completely lost now.....
What did this woman do that she should be reported?
She blocked him and he kept pestering her....
Maybe I’m crazy but because he paid for a vacation for her , she is not bound to him for life....
Please explain "
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"Sorry to hear this OP. And sorry to hear the lack of sympathy. If it was a lady they'd be all over her with hugs and kisses.
It took me 1 year oh here and couple no shows after booking hotel rooms and one no half payment on here to never meet in a hotel again unless they book it.
I only meet those who can accommodate or if they paid the hotel first which doesn't happen. Many say my loss but then I've found plenty who 'don't accommodate' who can accommodate if they're that interested."
Priceless, why don't you accommodate then |
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"Sorry to hear this OP. And sorry to hear the lack of sympathy. If it was a lady they'd be all over her with hugs and kisses.
It took me 1 year oh here and couple no shows after booking hotel rooms and one no half payment on here to never meet in a hotel again unless they book it.
I only meet those who can accommodate or if they paid the hotel first which doesn't happen. Many say my loss but then I've found plenty who 'don't accommodate' who can accommodate if they're that interested.
Priceless, why don't you accommodate then "
Maybe his wife wouldn't agree... |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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Good god.....what does it take for one human to treat someone with a bit of respect. Treat others as you would like to be treated. We are just commodities to be tossed aside with no thought of anothers feelings. It's a sad day when no one gives a shit anymore.
It's not nice whats happened but welcome to fab.  |
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"Good god.....what does it take for one human to treat someone with a bit of respect. Treat others as you would like to be treated. We are just commodities to be tossed aside with no thought of anothers feelings. It's a sad day when no one gives a shit anymore.
It's not nice whats happened but welcome to fab. "
you wouldn't do that ever would you? Neither would I good meets are to be repeated |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Good god.....what does it take for one human to treat someone with a bit of respect. Treat others as you would like to be treated. We are just commodities to be tossed aside with no thought of anothers feelings. It's a sad day when no one gives a shit anymore.
It's not nice whats happened but welcome to fab. you wouldn't do that ever would you? Neither would I good meets are to be repeated "
It's not about that. People say one thing then do another thats fab.... |
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"Good god.....what does it take for one human to treat someone with a bit of respect. Treat others as you would like to be treated. We are just commodities to be tossed aside with no thought of anothers feelings. It's a sad day when no one gives a shit anymore.
It's not nice whats happened but welcome to fab. you wouldn't do that ever would you? Neither would I good meets are to be repeated
It's not about that. People say one thing then do another thats fab...."
Well I know that and you know that but Ops just finding that out |
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"had it before mate,
travelled there after weeks of chating build up etc.
only for them to open the door and say sorry your too short lol.
dont get angry or upset just move on.
happens to us all."
Hahahaha, sorry, I actually burst out laughing at that just picturing it in my head |
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"Good god.....what does it take for one human to treat someone with a bit of respect. Treat others as you would like to be treated. We are just commodities to be tossed aside with no thought of anothers feelings. It's a sad day when no one gives a shit anymore.
It's not nice whats happened but welcome to fab. "
Now just goes to show how we all view things differently.
I don't do one offs and always meet socially to see if there's any chemistry. Yet on a play meet something hasn't quite gelled.
I've always been tactful when declining further meets.
My interpretation, and that's from the op, he met this lady, she politely declined further meets yet he stalked her via various mediums to find out why not as he didn't feel he had his monies worth.
She then got "nasty" to prevent him bothering her further.
Next time he's told "thank you for a nice time but" he'll smile st the memory and move on and not be a pest! |
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"Good god.....what does it take for one human to treat someone with a bit of respect. Treat others as you would like to be treated. We are just commodities to be tossed aside with no thought of anothers feelings. It's a sad day when no one gives a shit anymore.
It's not nice whats happened but welcome to fab.
Now just goes to show how we all view things differently.
I don't do one offs and always meet socially to see if there's any chemistry. Yet on a play meet something hasn't quite gelled.
I've always been tactful when declining further meets.
My interpretation, and that's from the op, he met this lady, she politely declined further meets yet he stalked her via various mediums to find out why not as he didn't feel he had his monies worth.
She then got "nasty" to prevent him bothering her further.
Next time he's told "thank you for a nice time but" he'll smile st the memory and move on and not be a pest!"
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"Good god.....what does it take for one human to treat someone with a bit of respect. Treat others as you would like to be treated. We are just commodities to be tossed aside with no thought of anothers feelings. It's a sad day when no one gives a shit anymore.
It's not nice whats happened but welcome to fab.
Now just goes to show how we all view things differently.
I don't do one offs and always meet socially to see if there's any chemistry. Yet on a play meet something hasn't quite gelled.
I've always been tactful when declining further meets.
My interpretation, and that's from the op, he met this lady, she politely declined further meets yet he stalked her via various mediums to find out why not as he didn't feel he had his monies worth.
She then got "nasty" to prevent him bothering her further.
Next time he's told "thank you for a nice time but" he'll smile st the memory and move on and not be a pest!"
It's not about money! As for stalking no. It's about human decency, and letting a person down without causing harm. Also it's about understanding another's circumstances, and not being bloody judgemental of those other than the individual of the first person, but those around them. |
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"Feel sorry for the OP but people do say all sorts for all sorts of reasons. If the weekend was nice then remember that and put it down to experience. Good luck chap. "
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"Sadly there are a lot of people here who use the fact that it's a swingers' site as an excuse to show the most deplorable human characteristics. Unpleasant people are just that. Please don't be deterred by anyone who says it's not a dating site. Decent behaviour should expected wherever you go. That's a fob off.
Don't be disheartened. There are some good people around. You just have to dig deep xx
I am beginning to see this argument a lot. Swinging seems to act as a free pass for people to act like total twats. Everyone is entitled to liberty but if someone chose to use that liberty for unacceptable reasons, many people just seem to excuse it and the concurrent response is simply to man up and accept this is just how things are on Fab. It is a little bit ironic that this lifestyle is meant to be about fun, simple, uncomplicated experiences and connections but I am finding out (albeit without having had my first meet yet) that it is anything but that.
It is but there always people I all walks of life who disrespect the ethos of the group. Honest reliable and decent people are on here you just have to rummage through the site to find them.
That kind of implies that the tendency is indecent people and the exception to the rule is decent people.
I think swinging is unique in that it requires the presence and participation of another human/s. People effectively use each other to put it bluntly and isn't inclusive at all. "
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