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By *rDiscreet OP Man
over a year ago
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Could I have any advice from exprienced fabers regardles the way to communicate with other users?
It might sound silly, I have hardness with chatting to people. No matter how would i start the conversation, there is simply no response. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Before I respond to any message on fab, I will read the senders profile beforehand.
Do you feel that your profile appeals to women, men, and/or couples (if that’s who you’re wanting to meet)?
Do you feel that you are standing out amongst all the other men on fab?
Before messaging are you ensuring that you are reading their profile thoroughly and you meet what they are looking for?
If yes to all of these, then if no one is replying or conversation is bare, then they aren’t interested OP. Don’t fret - you won’t please everyone.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is absolutely no profile text..how are folk surpose to know anything about you..if it was an empty shop window people will not shop there and walk on by |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There is absolutely no profile text..how are folk surpose to know anything about you..if it was an empty shop window people will not shop there and walk on by"
This .. if you saw a shop and it had nothing in it would you go in ? . Ps would you really meet a 99 year old ?
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By *rDiscreet OP Man
over a year ago
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Well, I agree with that, missing profile text have a lot to with that now.
It happens that I had an account here before, where I had my profile text and it was pretty much the same.
I will take use from your hints, and see how it will go. Thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could I have any advice from exprienced fabers regardles the way to communicate with other users?
It might sound silly, I have hardness with chatting to people. No matter how would i start the conversation, there is simply no response."
If you've got hardness, you're halfway there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Could I have any advice from exprienced fabers regardles the way to communicate with other users?
It might sound silly, I have hardness with chatting to people. No matter how would i start the conversation, there is simply no response."
Read profiles, introduce yourself, make it relevant to the profile take an interest in people don't ask too many questions and be polite. |
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Then you have come to the right place, as long as your willing to push your comfort zone. I've always had difficulty, socially awkward and I'm a little bit on the spectrum. So starting to talk to people, refining social skill and talking to lots of people was hard for me and took a lot of effort. Almost exhausting at times. One of the hardest things I ever did was go to my first club a lone. But I knew it was one of those death or glory moment in my life, failure was not an option. So I just put my big boy pants on, waded in and got in the thick of it. Force myself to strike up conversations with strangers in an alien environment. I was a million miles outside my comfort zone. And you know what, it went great (better than great). Over my years on fab my social skills have come on nicely, made lots of freinds, found My Girl and it's all so easy now. It's like anything, you get better with practise. It doesn't always got right, you make mistakes and have so lows. A lot of it is trial and error. But you do get better. I would say to you just keep at it, put the effort in and keep pushing outside your comfort zone. And don't be afraid to let your personality shine through. You will get out what you put in. |
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