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Hi,
Bern on fab quite a bit of time now, loving the site, forums etc.
The problem i seem to have is getting to chat to single ladies/couples.
I feel as though i am not attractive enough, as numerous times been called ugly.
So disheartening as a single male.
By no means is the post a look at me type or seeking attention just looking for honest opinions? |
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People may well think you are unattractive, it's rude of them to tell you that (unless you asked them why they are not interested and then they felt a need to be honest).
You're opening yourself up to that rejection again by posting this though. |
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"People may well think you are unattractive, it's rude of them to tell you that (unless you asked them why they are not interested and then they felt a need to be honest).
You're opening yourself up to that rejection again by posting this though."
Thanks for the post, i understand its opening up a can of worms, im only seeking what people really think of me though.
Im such a sweet guy, my pictures dont be justice, just a normal nice guy  |
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"People are looking for sexy on here i feel, as well as nice.
Nice can be sexy too but it tends to take more time for any chemistry to happen via that."
I have noticed many people are looking for the more handsome males then nice and sweet ones like myself.
I do take rejection on board and i know ffom past experience on here that there has to be attraction.
Its so disheartening from the messages i receive back when i get told im ugly, i know i aint no brad pitt lol |
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People are shallow, that is why they seek the qualities they are seeking. Good looking people can be nice as well it is just they are more attractive initially and appeal to those looking for just those qualities.
I think a lot of guys do have to accept that in a shallow place their deeper qualities are not prized. They're always appreciated obviously but they are not what is being sought out by the majority. |
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"Thats rude and no need for it op
We can't all fancy everyone but you have a decent profile and some good veries,so are doing ok I think.
Its hard for most men here i'd say
Miss
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Sorry if it has offended yourself in no way was it intended to be rude.
Its what i have been told unfortunately.
All i can do is try and be polite and friendly.
Many thanks for stating i have a decent profile, i have put a lot of effort into it.  |
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"Hi,
Bern on fab quite a bit of time now, loving the site, forums etc.
The problem i seem to have is getting to chat to single ladies/couples.
I feel as though i am not attractive enough, as numerous times been called ugly.
So disheartening as a single male.
By no means is the post a look at me type or seeking attention just looking for honest opinions?"
I know a guy on here who is pretty ugly. Before you judge me let me say he wouldn't mind me saying that. He would if I said his username. As I am not saying who he is I know he will be ok with me saying this. Enough people over the years have cruelly told him he is ugly and called him some very nasty names. He knows he is no Brad Pitt or George Clooney. He knows his limits.
Despite that, he does well for meets. Some of the women he has met on fab are stunning and very sexy. Well punched above his weight. His words not mine.
Some women have stated on here a man can win them over with their personality and humour. That is how he gets his meets. He is a really, really, really, funny guy. He also has a great personality and always treats women and couples on here with respect. He takes time getting to know them. He is not pushy. He doesn't think this website is called www.ishaganybodywhoasksme.com. Sure he has had a lot of rejections but so have all of us single guys. Even the good-looking single guys have been rejected. I have learnt a lot from this guy.
Attraction is not always about looks.
If all the person has going for them is their looks then it is not going to be a great meet or relationship. |
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"Hi,
Bern on fab quite a bit of time now, loving the site, forums etc.
The problem i seem to have is getting to chat to single ladies/couples.
I feel as though i am not attractive enough, as numerous times been called ugly.
So disheartening as a single male.
By no means is the post a look at me type or seeking attention just looking for honest opinions?"
Honest opinions on what? |
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"Hi,
Bern on fab quite a bit of time now, loving the site, forums etc.
The problem i seem to have is getting to chat to single ladies/couples.
I feel as though i am not attractive enough, as numerous times been called ugly.
So disheartening as a single male.
By no means is the post a look at me type or seeking attention just looking for honest opinions?
I know a guy on here who is pretty ugly. Before you judge me let me say he wouldn't mind me saying that. He would if I said his username. As I am not saying who he is I know he will be ok with me saying this. Enough people over the years have cruelly told him he is ugly and called him some very nasty names. He knows he is no Brad Pitt or George Clooney. He knows his limits.
Despite that, he does well for meets. Some of the women he has met on fab are stunning and very sexy. Well punched above his weight. His words not mine.
Some women have stated on here a man can win them over with their personality and humour. That is how he gets his meets. He is a really, really, really, funny guy. He also has a great personality and always treats women and couples on here with respect. He takes time getting to know them. He is not pushy. He doesn't think this website is called www.ishaganybodywhoasksme.com. Sure he has had a lot of rejections but so have all of us single guys. Even the good-looking single guys have been rejected. I have learnt a lot from this guy.
Attraction is not always about looks.
If all the person has going for them is their looks then it is not going to be a great meet or relationship. "
He also has a great profile. Good pictures. Great profile text that he did by himself. He didn't put a message on the forum asking starangers what he should put in his profile.
There are thousands of single guys on here. To get meets you have to put some effort in. |
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"Hi,
Bern on fab quite a bit of time now, loving the site, forums etc.
The problem i seem to have is getting to chat to single ladies/couples.
I feel as though i am not attractive enough, as numerous times been called ugly.
So disheartening as a single male.
By no means is the post a look at me type or seeking attention just looking for honest opinions?
Honest opinions on what?"
What don't you get? He very clearly asked people's opinion on whether they think he is ugly or not.
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"Hi,
Bern on fab quite a bit of time now, loving the site, forums etc.
The problem i seem to have is getting to chat to single ladies/couples.
I feel as though i am not attractive enough, as numerous times been called ugly.
So disheartening as a single male.
By no means is the post a look at me type or seeking attention just looking for honest opinions?
I know a guy on here who is pretty ugly. Before you judge me let me say he wouldn't mind me saying that. He would if I said his username. As I am not saying who he is I know he will be ok with me saying this. Enough people over the years have cruelly told him he is ugly and called him some very nasty names. He knows he is no Brad Pitt or George Clooney. He knows his limits.
Despite that, he does well for meets. Some of the women he has met on fab are stunning and very sexy. Well punched above his weight. His words not mine.
Some women have stated on here a man can win them over with their personality and humour. That is how he gets his meets. He is a really, really, really, funny guy. He also has a great personality and always treats women and couples on here with respect. He takes time getting to know them. He is not pushy. He doesn't think this website is called www.ishaganybodywhoasksme.com. Sure he has had a lot of rejections but so have all of us single guys. Even the good-looking single guys have been rejected. I have learnt a lot from this guy.
Attraction is not always about looks.
If all the person has going for them is their looks then it is not going to be a great meet or relationship. "
Well thankyou fot the input, its nice to know that too, i will take note of what you have said mate.
I am a none pushy person, great personality etc, have to keep trying with my good humour, cheers mate  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi,
Bern on fab quite a bit of time now, loving the site, forums etc.
The problem i seem to have is getting to chat to single ladies/couples.
I feel as though i am not attractive enough, as numerous times been called ugly.
So disheartening as a single male.
By no means is the post a look at me type or seeking attention just looking for honest opinions?
Honest opinions on what?
What don't you get? He very clearly asked people's opinion on whether they think he is ugly or not.
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I've looked back but I still don't see where he asked for opinions if we think he is ugly or not.. hence why I asked |
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"People are looking for sexy on here i feel, as well as nice.
Nice can be sexy too but it tends to take more time for any chemistry to happen via that.
I have noticed many people are looking for the more handsome males then nice and sweet ones like myself.
I do take rejection on board and i know ffom past experience on here that there has to be attraction.
Its so disheartening from the messages i receive back when i get told im ugly, i know i aint no brad pitt lol "
There is no need for cruelty. The woman or couples simply need to say thanks but you are not my type. I am sure the cruel women wouldn't like it if they got rejected by a man who said they are ugly. It's ok for them to say it you though. Hypocrites. |
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"Hi,
Bern on fab quite a bit of time now, loving the site, forums etc.
The problem i seem to have is getting to chat to single ladies/couples.
I feel as though i am not attractive enough, as numerous times been called ugly.
So disheartening as a single male.
By no means is the post a look at me type or seeking attention just looking for honest opinions?"
Ugly is a horrible word and to be honest anyone who tells someone they’re ugly isn’t worth the time of day in my opinion. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder anyway. Chin up and keep looking, from what I hear it’s not easy for any single guy on here. No need for downright nastiness though. Some people are just arseholes. Really annoys me. Good luck |
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"Hi,
Bern on fab quite a bit of time now, loving the site, forums etc.
The problem i seem to have is getting to chat to single ladies/couples.
I feel as though i am not attractive enough, as numerous times been called ugly.
So disheartening as a single male.
By no means is the post a look at me type or seeking attention just looking for honest opinions?
Ugly is a horrible word and to be honest anyone who tells someone they’re ugly isn’t worth the time of day in my opinion. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder anyway. Chin up and keep looking, from what I hear it’s not easy for any single guy on here. No need for downright nastiness though. Some people are just arseholes. Really annoys me. Good luck "
Thankyou beautiful lady, it is very rude when i get told this, knocks confidence, but back on the rocking horse i will be |
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"Hi,
Bern on fab quite a bit of time now, loving the site, forums etc.
The problem i seem to have is getting to chat to single ladies/couples.
I feel as though i am not attractive enough, as numerous times been called ugly.
So disheartening as a single male.
By no means is the post a look at me type or seeking attention just looking for honest opinions?
Ugly is a horrible word and to be honest anyone who tells someone they’re ugly isn’t worth the time of day in my opinion. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder anyway. Chin up and keep looking, from what I hear it’s not easy for any single guy on here. No need for downright nastiness though. Some people are just arseholes. Really annoys me. Good luck
Thankyou beautiful lady, it is very rude when i get told this, knocks confidence, but back on the rocking horse i will be "
Good you do that! They weren’t nice people anyway so it’s no loss. Get involved in chatting to people on here instead of keep posting this stuff though coz eventually you’ll probably just get a load of stick here too if you keep doing it |
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"Hi,
Bern on fab quite a bit of time now, loving the site, forums etc.
The problem i seem to have is getting to chat to single ladies/couples.
I feel as though i am not attractive enough, as numerous times been called ugly.
So disheartening as a single male.
By no means is the post a look at me type or seeking attention just looking for honest opinions?
Ugly is a horrible word and to be honest anyone who tells someone they’re ugly isn’t worth the time of day in my opinion. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder anyway. Chin up and keep looking, from what I hear it’s not easy for any single guy on here. No need for downright nastiness though. Some people are just arseholes. Really annoys me. Good luck
Thankyou beautiful lady, it is very rude when i get told this, knocks confidence, but back on the rocking horse i will be
Good you do that! They weren’t nice people anyway so it’s no loss. Get involved in chatting to people on here instead of keep posting this stuff though coz eventually you’ll probably just get a load of stick here too if you keep doing it "
Thankyou appeciate feedback love, lovely lady you are |
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"Hi,
Bern on fab quite a bit of time now, loving the site, forums etc.
The problem i seem to have is getting to chat to single ladies/couples.
I feel as though i am not attractive enough, as numerous times been called ugly.
So disheartening as a single male.
By no means is the post a look at me type or seeking attention just looking for honest opinions?
I know a guy on here who is pretty ugly. Before you judge me let me say he wouldn't mind me saying that. He would if I said his username. As I am not saying who he is I know he will be ok with me saying this. Enough people over the years have cruelly told him he is ugly and called him some very nasty names. He knows he is no Brad Pitt or George Clooney. He knows his limits.
Despite that, he does well for meets. Some of the women he has met on fab are stunning and very sexy. Well punched above his weight. His words not mine.
Some women have stated on here a man can win them over with their personality and humour. That is how he gets his meets. He is a really, really, really, funny guy. He also has a great personality and always treats women and couples on here with respect. He takes time getting to know them. He is not pushy. He doesn't think this website is called www.ishaganybodywhoasksme.com. Sure he has had a lot of rejections but so have all of us single guys. Even the good-looking single guys have been rejected. I have learnt a lot from this guy.
Attraction is not always about looks.
If all the person has going for them is their looks then it is not going to be a great meet or relationship.
Well thankyou fot the input, its nice to know that too, i will take note of what you have said mate.
I am a none pushy person, great personality etc, have to keep trying with my good humour, cheers mate "
Good on you mate. Sure you may not be attractive to all women. No guy on the planet is. I have heard women say they don't find Brad Pitt sexy or they don't find George Clooney attractive. That to me says a lot. Nobody on this planet be it a man or woman is attractive to eveybody of the opposite sex. There are some supermodels I don't think are sexy. It's much better to be yourself and find somebody who is attracted to you. |
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"Hi,
Bern on fab quite a bit of time now, loving the site, forums etc.
The problem i seem to have is getting to chat to single ladies/couples.
I feel as though i am not attractive enough, as numerous times been called ugly.
So disheartening as a single male.
By no means is the post a look at me type or seeking attention just looking for honest opinions?
I know a guy on here who is pretty ugly. Before you judge me let me say he wouldn't mind me saying that. He would if I said his username. As I am not saying who he is I know he will be ok with me saying this. Enough people over the years have cruelly told him he is ugly and called him some very nasty names. He knows he is no Brad Pitt or George Clooney. He knows his limits.
Despite that, he does well for meets. Some of the women he has met on fab are stunning and very sexy. Well punched above his weight. His words not mine.
Some women have stated on here a man can win them over with their personality and humour. That is how he gets his meets. He is a really, really, really, funny guy. He also has a great personality and always treats women and couples on here with respect. He takes time getting to know them. He is not pushy. He doesn't think this website is called www.ishaganybodywhoasksme.com. Sure he has had a lot of rejections but so have all of us single guys. Even the good-looking single guys have been rejected. I have learnt a lot from this guy.
Attraction is not always about looks.
If all the person has going for them is their looks then it is not going to be a great meet or relationship.
Well thankyou fot the input, its nice to know that too, i will take note of what you have said mate.
I am a none pushy person, great personality etc, have to keep trying with my good humour, cheers mate
Good on you mate. Sure you may not be attractive to all women. No guy on the planet is. I have heard women say they don't find Brad Pitt sexy or they don't find George Clooney attractive. That to me says a lot. Nobody on this planet be it a man or woman is attractive to eveybody of the opposite sex. There are some supermodels I don't think are sexy. It's much better to be yourself and find somebody who is attracted to you. "
Cheers mate im sure there is somebody for everyone |
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"Thats rude and no need for it op
We can't all fancy everyone but you have a decent profile and some good veries,so are doing ok I think.
Its hard for most men here i'd say
Miss
Sorry if it has offended yourself in no way was it intended to be rude.
Its what i have been told unfortunately.
All i can do is try and be polite and friendly.
Many thanks for stating i have a decent profile, i have put a lot of effort into it. "
Not me i meant they were rude |
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"Thats rude and no need for it op
We can't all fancy everyone but you have a decent profile and some good veries,so are doing ok I think.
Its hard for most men here i'd say
Miss
Sorry if it has offended yourself in no way was it intended to be rude.
Its what i have been told unfortunately.
All i can do is try and be polite and friendly.
Many thanks for stating i have a decent profile, i have put a lot of effort into it.
Not me i meant they were rude "
Lol oopsy, yes they were hun, you look lovely |
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"Hi,
Bern on fab quite a bit of time now, loving the site, forums etc.
The problem i seem to have is getting to chat to single ladies/couples.
I feel as though i am not attractive enough, as numerous times been called ugly.
So disheartening as a single male.
By no means is the post a look at me type or seeking attention just looking for honest opinions?"
You are you if people are not interested then they are not interested there will be others who are so stop dwelling on those who arn't and concentrate on people who are. |
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