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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not really. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I use it if I know I’m not interested in someone etc. Or I’ve said I’m not interested and they message again a couple weeks later. People take offence at blocking on here, no need. |
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"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out   "
I use the block button as a filter!
A polite no thanks or the message read and deleted to me says they are not interested.
A block then stops their profile popping up in my searches, also stops the temptation of a repeat message, especially when you look six months later and see you have messaged and they have replied, but you can't remember what was said!
It's not throwing the teddy out of the pram it is responsible block usage! |
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If you have declined them, you are not interested so they are being sensible and ensuring they don't bother you again.
You are not interested so why does it matter if they block you? They are trying not to waste your time or theirs. |
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By *osco78Man
over a year ago
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"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out
I use the block button as a filter!
A polite no thanks or the message read and deleted to me says they are not interested.
A block then stops their profile popping up in my searches, also stops the temptation of a repeat message, especially when you look six months later and see you have messaged and they have replied, but you can't remember what was said!
It's not throwing the teddy out of the pram it is responsible block usage!"
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I've done this too, makes me laugh when you have to check availability with work/childcare commitments and you get blocked for not being available at someone's demand...thankfully this site is just fun and not my top priority |
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I have started doing this, if i send a message and its either deleted or a message back saying no thanks i block them saves sending them more messages in future when you know they are not interested anyway.
Apologies to those i have not got round to blocking yet hehe. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out
I use the block button as a filter!
A polite no thanks or the message read and deleted to me says they are not interested.
A block then stops their profile popping up in my searches, also stops the temptation of a repeat message, especially when you look six months later and see you have messaged and they have replied, but you can't remember what was said!
It's not throwing the teddy out of the pram it is responsible block usage!"
Totally agree and saves repeated embarrassment on either side |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out "
Lost here, if you've declined you aren't interested, so surely blocking is the sensible thing to do so they don't ask again by mistake.
But even more confusing, how would you know, if you aren't interested why are you going back on their profile?
We block everybody we turn down, it just makes sense. |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
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"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out "
i just don't get why people are bothered by the actions of other people they were never intending on meeting....
if they block they never get in contact with you again... accidently or otherwise!!
isn't that in effect... job done and completed? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out
well u decline they block you and voila now the search narrows"
Some Fab guys do it after they send an abusive reply to your polite "no thanks" . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out "
I don't see any problem with being blocked after declining someone at all it stops them pestering you in the future and could be seen as a polite option. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out
i just don't get why people are bothered by the actions of other people they were never intending on meeting....
if they block they never get in contact with you again... accidently or otherwise!!
isn't that in effect... job done and completed?"
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"If we are not interested or vice versa then we block, saves contacting them accidentally again, simple"
Exactly!
If you're not interested in someone or vice versa why on earth is being blocked a problem?  |
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Being an optimist, I rarely block people who I've messaged even if they deleted it.
I do use the private notes, so if they change their user name and profile pic, I don't email again in error, but they can message me if they change their mind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I use it if I know I’m not interested in someone etc. Or I’ve said I’m not interested and they message again a couple weeks later. People take offence at blocking on here, no need. "
This We do it a fair bit, it's nothing personal and nothing to be offended about OP. |
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No offence was taken to being blocked, there are only so many ways you can say no thank you to some fairly persistent messaging
We will be more liberal with the block button ourselves in the future
Thank you everyone for your opinions |
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I use it if someone says no thank you. It’s not me throwing my toys out of the pram I use it so I don’t message them again in the future. It’s my way of reminding myself.
On another note if someone messes me about I use the block button with great delight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It’s used as a filter by many, I doubt there are any hard feelings.
I do it too, if I’m not interested in someone and they can’t take no for an answer or someone who I’ve never met is getting far too intense I will block them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just happened to us
But after an abusive message, we blocked them too
If it’s just after we say no we aren’t bothered and would very rarely notice anyway |
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"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out "
That's unnecessarily rude , why call the man trash ?
If a profile has no interest in me I block them, simple clean and efficient . Why would I want to see in my searchs profiles whom I shall never meet ?
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By *ornLordMan
over a year ago
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"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out
That's unnecessarily rude , why call the man trash ?
If a profile has no interest in me I block them, simple clean and efficient . Why would I want to see in my searchs profiles whom I shall never meet ?
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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From what I've read the op hadn't said what gender it was.. the assumption is it's a guy (rightly possibly wrongly just as possible) with the usual I've had abuse from guys after saying no thanks so I block ..well couple's and ladies can be just as abusive.and yep they get blocked as well.
Op.It's a site tool folk use for different reasons. I suggest it often.. why worry about those that exclude ..put your time energy and focus on those that include. |
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By *erlins5Man
over a year ago
South Fife |
I must admit to blocking people for many reasons...but mainly if we are never going to meet reason for whatever I might block them...such as this case. It helps to unclutter ny status feed and my browsing and keep it relevant. I don`t mean to give offence by it. |
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"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out
I use the block button as a filter!
A polite no thanks or the message read and deleted to me says they are not interested.
A block then stops their profile popping up in my searches, also stops the temptation of a repeat message, especially when you look six months later and see you have messaged and they have replied, but you can't remember what was said!
It's not throwing the teddy out of the pram it is responsible block usage!"
I think (and do) exactly the same mate |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out
I use the block button as a filter!
A polite no thanks or the message read and deleted to me says they are not interested.
A block then stops their profile popping up in my searches, also stops the temptation of a repeat message, especially when you look six months later and see you have messaged and they have replied, but you can't remember what was said!
It's not throwing the teddy out of the pram it is responsible block usage!
I think (and do) exactly the same mate "
Exactly what I do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I use it if I know I’m not interested in someone etc. Or I’ve said I’m not interested and they message again a couple weeks later. People take offence at blocking on here, no need. "
It's gratuitously rude and the cowards way out. It's NOT acceptable |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Not really. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I use it if I know I’m not interested in someone etc. Or I’ve said I’m not interested and they message again a couple weeks later. People take offence at blocking on here, no need.
It's gratuitously rude and the cowards way out. It's NOT acceptable "
It's really not. It saves wasted time on BOTH sides. Why engage with people you don't wish to meet or converse with. It's just another filter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I use it if I know I’m not interested in someone etc. Or I’ve said I’m not interested and they message again a couple weeks later. People take offence at blocking on here, no need.
It's gratuitously rude and the cowards way out. It's NOT acceptable
It's really not. It saves wasted time on BOTH sides. Why engage with people you don't wish to meet or converse with. It's just another filter. "
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Not really. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I use it if I know I’m not interested in someone etc. Or I’ve said I’m not interested and they message again a couple weeks later. People take offence at blocking on here, no need.
It's gratuitously rude and the cowards way out. It's NOT acceptable
It's really not. It saves wasted time on BOTH sides. Why engage with people you don't wish to meet or converse with. It's just another filter.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think this is a good thing. If a guy is sending out hundreds of messages he’s going to forget who has said no to him. By him blocking you, it means he won’t accidenatlly message you again |
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"Not really. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I use it if I know I’m not interested in someone etc. Or I’ve said I’m not interested and they message again a couple weeks later. People take offence at blocking on here, no need.
It's gratuitously rude and the cowards way out. It's NOT acceptable "
For some, me included, it is acceptable and a good idea. Use the site tools to run your profile how you like. |
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"Not really. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I use it if I know I’m not interested in someone etc. Or I’ve said I’m not interested and they message again a couple weeks later. People take offence at blocking on here, no need.
It's gratuitously rude and the cowards way out. It's NOT acceptable "
Why is it gratuitously rude to not contact people who don't want you to contact them? If people don't want to meet you then it is perfectly acceptable to block them so no more messages are exchanged. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I use it if I know I’m not interested in someone etc. Or I’ve said I’m not interested and they message again a couple weeks later. People take offence at blocking on here, no need.
It's gratuitously rude and the cowards way out. It's NOT acceptable
Why is it gratuitously rude to not contact people who don't want you to contact them? If people don't want to meet you then it is perfectly acceptable to block them so no more messages are exchanged. "
I am in total agreement on that people who don't like it are the ones who find themselves blocked while attempting to send some nasty abuse for being rejected. Admin advice people to block others to prevent problems. |
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Literally had one of the more bizarre ‘I’ve been blocked so can’t respond to this message’ experiences today because I’d been direct (told them that if they kept up putting x’s after every sentence i’d quickly lose interest), then they decided to (I think) try and insult me by insinuating I am ‘self indulgent’ (possibly true but my prerogative surely when I’m on a site like this) and after ‘fat hairy old men’ (which I don’t know where they got and I’m not btw, with no offence meant to any fat hairy old men out there).
Not complaining in any way but just found it amusing and thought I’d search the forums for any similar experiences |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We all like different things what floats someone’s boat is not another persons cuppa, but when someone approaches we feel bad for not being there cuppa it’s easier to block them recieve there reply as we feel bad for rejecting, we all deal with things differently xxx |
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That happened to me kept emailing me even though I asked him not to .....told him to block me he wouldn't so I blocked him what an arsehole said it wasn't his thing blocking people and as it bothered me so much block him he was just a pain who didn't know what NO meant |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ops original post was funny but a bit crass. I think being politely declined is perfectly acceptable and then blocking to save embarrassment all round works well but I also use the block to filter out anybody who doesn’t want to meet men of my age, colour, height, etc or any unwanted attention. I used to think it was rude to block but now I have discovered how useful it is and how much less full the local updates is I think it’s really rather fab |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We don’t see the problem if people block us. We do the same so we don’t encounter them again. It’s not nasty or vindictive just sorting wheat from chaff |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have no issues being blocked, I block people if their not what I’m looking for, it is annoying when they message you off another profile or a singles profile being childish after you have blocked them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out "
Other than when they send you a shitty message calling you all sorts and THEN block you with no retaliation.
Happens loads with couples who won’t send a face pic because they’re ‘professionals’ and I refuse to meet in case I don’t fancy her and it being awkward. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have you thought that maybe it’s because they don’t want to bother you again . Most people who spend a lot of time on here look at so many profiles they can’t Rember who has declined. Just a thought |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Would you rather they kept messaging or winking after forgetting your previous rejection. It also stops you coming up in their searches. Don't understand why people take is as a personal slight... Or actually care at all tbh  |
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"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out
I use the block button as a filter!
A polite no thanks or the message read and deleted to me says they are not interested.
A block then stops their profile popping up in my searches, also stops the temptation of a repeat message, especially when you look six months later and see you have messaged and they have replied, but you can't remember what was said!
It's not throwing the teddy out of the pram it is responsible block usage!"
Yep I do this. Saves repeat messaging by mistake. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Have you thought that maybe it’s because they don’t want to bother you again . Most people who spend a lot of time on here look at so many profiles they can’t Rember who has declined. Just a thought "
This does happen. I also use it to get rid of people from showing up in my searches if I don’t fancy them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out "
It's difficult remembering who you've spoken to on here, so if you've been rejected it's easiest way to stop messaging someone who's not interested in you, women use this method for men all the time |
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Without reading the whole thread...
Blocking is not necessarily an emotional action or aimed at anyone personally. Some of us block everyone they are not interested in talking to, just so they do not message again and waste their time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Without reading the whole thread...
Blocking is not necessarily an emotional action or aimed at anyone personally. Some of us block everyone they are not interested in talking to, just so they do not message again and waste their time."
I just said that am I here can anybody see me? Help |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If everyone I ignored or declined blocked me, it would save me blocking them a week later when they send another, often identical message. "
Exactly this. People can block me as much as they like. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If everyone I ignored or declined blocked me, it would save me blocking them a week later when they send another, often identical message.
Exactly this. People can block me as much as they like."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If everyone I ignored or declined blocked me, it would save me blocking them a week later when they send another, often identical message.
Exactly this. People can block me as much as they like.blocked"
Ditto  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If everyone I ignored or declined blocked me, it would save me blocking them a week later when they send another, often identical message.
Exactly this. People can block me as much as they like.blocked
Ditto "
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"I see blocking as a positive thing. It means they've taken on board what you've said and blocked you to make sure they don't bother you again "
The alternative is to save the message to remind you that you were turned down or make a private note (my preference).
In 6 months time when all you have to go on is the record of an exchange of messages,you'll be tempted to write again.
Upon rejection Women often get whining messages or worse so hit the block button to avoid the grief.
If a profile is of no interest to you, the block button saves wasting time for all concerned.
Currently 3 single women on the fab radar within 50 miles lol.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out
Comparing those you refuse to trash? Stay classy "
When talking about my gaping hole and shitting in my mouth, they are comparable to trash |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is kinda like the trash taking itself out
Comparing those you refuse to trash? Stay classy
When talking about my gaping hole and shitting in my mouth, they are comparable to trash "
They are rare ones though.... I would hope!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Without reading the whole thread...
Blocking is not necessarily an emotional action or aimed at anyone personally. Some of us block everyone they are not interested in talking to, just so they do not message again and waste their time.I just said that am I here can anybody see me? Help "
Who said that ? Hehehehehehehe!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Not really. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I use it if I know I’m not interested in someone etc. Or I’ve said I’m not interested and they message again a couple weeks later. People take offence at blocking on here, no need. "
Very well put. We use ours simply as a way to reduce the pool and don’t intend offence. Likewise we don’t get offended if it happens to us. |
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"Not really. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing. I use it if I know I’m not interested in someone etc. Or I’ve said I’m not interested and they message again a couple weeks later. People take offence at blocking on here, no need. "
They do and often people block so they don't mail or pester someone who sin't interested you can't win at times. |
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