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Hello all
I have a friend that I see quite regularly. We have been discussing for some time adding a third (either female or male) to our play. We are both interested in this. However, neither of us are bi.
We get along so well, that I don’t want to mess up this dynamic in anyway.
On one hand, I’d like to invite someone I know-on the other hand, if it doesn’t go well, I’d hate to potentially upset either “relationship “
I’m stuck how to move forward.... |
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Sounds like you need to work on your 'relationship' It's a single girls nightmare to play with a couple who don't know what they want. Can get v ugly when jealousy rears its head. Especially if they prefer fucking you to their so called partner. Not fair on anyone. |
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Involving someone you know from our experience is very messy. We had a 3way with a good female friend we work with. Turns out she had a thing for my husband and was convinced after that he was in love with her. She basically spent months trying to split us up and when he told her he wasn't interested in leaving me and cut her off she then ruined my reputation at work and tried to get both of our hours cut so she didn't have to work with us. |
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From experience i found it easier to get random guys to join me for 3sums. Also a fair amount of fuck buddies were willing to team up and do me as well, most reliable one was a guy who lives around the corner from me.
Don't discount going to a club either, i've had a random 3sum from that too. |
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We're both straight and often invite a guy to join us. As long as everyone understands more or less what's expected of them and both guys enjoy watching now and again it's never been a problem. We've no experience of a single woman but there are loads of ways a woman can play with two guys at the same time. |
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"Hello all
I have a friend that I see quite regularly. We have been discussing for some time adding a third (either female or male) to our play. We are both interested in this. However, neither of us are bi.
We get along so well, that I don’t want to mess up this dynamic in anyway.
On one hand, I’d like to invite someone I know-on the other hand, if it doesn’t go well, I’d hate to potentially upset either “relationship “
I’m stuck how to move forward...."
Is this where I put my hand up? ?? |
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"Hello all
I have a friend that I see quite regularly. We have been discussing for some time adding a third (either female or male) to our play. We are both interested in this. However, neither of us are bi.
We get along so well, that I don’t want to mess up this dynamic in anyway.
On one hand, I’d like to invite someone I know-on the other hand, if it doesn’t go well, I’d hate to potentially upset either “relationship “
I’m stuck how to move forward....
Is this where I put my hand up? ?? "
Depends where you want to put your hand  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hello all
I have a friend that I see quite regularly. We have been discussing for some time adding a third (either female or male) to our play. We are both interested in this. However, neither of us are bi.
We get along so well, that I don’t want to mess up this dynamic in anyway.
On one hand, I’d like to invite someone I know-on the other hand, if it doesn’t go well, I’d hate to potentially upset either “relationship “
I’m stuck how to move forward....
Is this where I put my hand up? ??
Depends where you want to put your hand "
Well that's cheeky |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If there is a chance to damage any of the relationships then I would suggest not doing a 3some at all. There seems like too many variables at play at the moment. Sort out exactly what it is you both hope to gain from the experience and work from there. |
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We are both straight
We have done plenty of mfm thresomes they are easy as Mrs is the centre of attention and the guys know their job everyone gets pleased in the end.
On the other hand FMF are more difficult for a number of reasons.
Can't exactly put the finger on it . Difficult to know what a straight lady gets from a fmf.
Ultimately Mr likes to please and Mrs likes to be a selfish lover so that works for us.
We never mix plesure and friendship always random people. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"A straight 3 some?
Most of my 3somes were entirely straight.
FWIW, I agree with the suggestion of using a stranger."
Its a bit different with 2 guys. I'm struggling to see the appeal if it's ffm and both females are straight though. |
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By *harpDressed ManMan
over a year ago
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Its a bit different with 2 guys. I'm struggling to see the appeal if it's ffm and both females are straight though."
I agree, although I have been offered exactly that a couple of times. I suspect I'd have felt under a massive amount of pressure had the opportunity crystallised...! |
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Socials are a good way to see if there is chemistry, some flirting too.
Also with play you can do full swap with couples... You and her bloke, him and the other gf.
With a first meet id say discuss boundaries between you both and keep it simple to start with... Its easier to add to your next meet than have it go to far and one or the other get jealous if that makes sense? |
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"Socials are a good way to see if there is chemistry, some flirting too.
Also with play you can do full swap with couples... You and her bloke, him and the other gf.
With a first meet id say discuss boundaries between you both and keep it simple to start with... Its easier to add to your next meet than have it go to far and one or the other get jealous if that makes sense? "
I didn't get it but can I |
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By (user no longer on site)
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If you want to become more adventurous does it have to be a threesome? What about joining in with others in a club? You could both enjoy the experience of opening the relationship out sexually, experience seeing each other having sex with someone else and it might be easier to find people and lower risk if it is a one off club experience.
Then you can reflect on that and identify a little further what you are looking for |
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Go out for a few "dates" first, before inviting them to your house, Many incompatibility issues can be discovered with a few simple drinks as just friends.
If you have fears then its always good to just take slow steps |
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