"Out in Liverpool tonight and want to try and introduce my wife to swinging. She has thus far not been interested. Any advice or tips please? X"
I'm frequently surprised at the number of men who think there's a way to introduce a reluctant partner to swinging. Its unlikely that any single event will bring about a huge change in attitude.
Putting time and effort into improving sexual and emotional communication with your wife will reap dividends but many men want an instant fix.
My advice would be take your wife out, enjoy each others company, have a relaxed chat about how well you get along, what you like about each other, how you would like to increase intimacy between the two of you. Continue this in to your everyday life. This will make it easier to start discussing fantasies with each other and bring up the possibility of swinging again or exploring some of her fantasies. You never know she might surprise you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have planted the seed back off let it grow leave it for quite few weeks one night as your fucking her mention it again if no responce she is deff not interested |
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"No so want to start with straight swinging at first x "
Put yourself in her shoes. You aren't the man she believes you to be. Swinging and being bi and a crossdresser are two different things. As difficult as it might be I think you need to talk to her about the side of yourself that she doesn't know about first. I understand why you've kept it from her but there genuinely are only two ways forward in my opinion one is to continue to keep it quiet the second is to talk to her about it.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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Does, she know you've been on here over a year with 12 meets? If not, now's the time to be totally honest with her before you "introduce her to swinging". Swinging relationships are built on trust. Good luck. |
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"Does, she know you've been on here over a year with 12 meets? If not, now's the time to be totally honest with her before you "introduce her to swinging". Swinging relationships are built on trust. Good luck. "
Frankly, I would bet a large sum of money that the OPs partner is like 95% of women in that she wants a conventional monogamous relationship. If she found out her partner is a cross dressing bi swinger she would be devastated and would end the relationship.
The OP knows that, which is why he is looking for some magic trick that would manipulate her into swinging. |
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"Out in Liverpool tonight and want to try and introduce my wife to swinging. She has thus far not been interested. Any advice or tips please? X"
Why do you want to introduce her now? You do realise there is a big possibility that she will find out that you are fucking behind her back. This could destroy your marriage, so you must have a strong reason or why do you want to put her through that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Out in Liverpool tonight and want to try and introduce my wife to swinging. She has thus far not been interested. Any advice or tips please? X"
Bring it up during sex. Maybe say something like do you have any sexual fantasies would like to fulfill? Then listen to her. Then hopefully she will ask you the same. That is your chance to say your fantasies.
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"Do people actually talk before getting married?
Surely this is a Conversation for say 1 month into a relationship, not several years post marriage."
FAB forums indicate this is often the case. Plus people change over time. Lots of people don't really come (or allow them self to come) to a real understanding of them self sexually untill later in life. Often after many years of marriage. |
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"Do people actually talk before getting married?
Surely this is a Conversation for say 1 month into a relationship, not several years post marriage.
FAB forums indicate this is often the case. Plus people change over time. Lots of people don't really come (or allow them self to come) to a real understanding of them self sexually untill later in life. Often after many years of marriage."
I agree and people and relationships evolve. |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"Out in Liverpool tonight and want to try and introduce my wife to swinging. She has thus far not been interested. Any advice or tips please? X"
Yes - forget it. If you persuade her to do something in which she isn't interested you are bullying her and that is neither good for swinging nor your relationship. |
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"Out in Liverpool tonight and want to try and introduce my wife to swinging. She has thus far not been interested. Any advice or tips please? X"
You go "Orite luv how about letting Brian at No6 have a go at banging your back doors in" I am sure that will work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Out in Liverpool tonight and want to try and introduce my wife to swinging. She has thus far not been interested. Any advice or tips please? X
You go "Orite luv how about letting Brian at No6 have a go at banging your back doors in" I am sure that will work. "
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