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The dreaded advice question
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hello you lovely lot. Well ive been holding back for ages but now i need to go forth and ask for some help. Ive been on here well over a year and ive yet to have a meet (sexual or social) despite messaging plenty of people. Ive tried not to turn my profile into an essay and ive got some pics (not explicit). One thing i will add is that im not comfortable about going to clubs due to anxiety around large groups of people. So any help and advice will be gratefully recieved. Ta very much. |
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First of all i'd take off all the talk of no meets/verifications on your profile. It sounds negative and you don't want to project a negative image from your profile.
A picture or two in a suite or a good shirt may go down well.
My biggest suggestion, however would be to go to an organised social. There are plenty listed on the forums and you can meet people there and make connections  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"First of all i'd take off all the talk of no meets/verifications on your profile. It sounds negative and you don't want to project a negative image from your profile.
A picture or two in a suite or a good shirt may go down well.
My biggest suggestion, however would be to go to an organised social. There are plenty listed on the forums and you can meet people there and make connections "
I put the bit about veris because some people like to know why there are none so i thought i'd explain why but i will take that onboard. I like the suited and booted picture idea though. Thankyou. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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You're profile is a little negative as someone said. You can't accommodate so some might assume you're married, rightly or wrongly. Maybe explain that and say you're happy to get a hotel?
Smile in your pics and I personally don't find your fishnet pants very appealing.
Some people would be put off by the fact that you've been here a while and not met anyone. You could consider starting again if you think it's an issue. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Too much chat about lack of verifications, read is a little on the negative side.
Other than that it’s okay.
Also, a man of your age, unable to accommodate smells like married to me.. and I’d say no to that. Some ladies will be fine though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Too much chat about lack of verifications, read is a little on the negative side.
Other than that it’s okay.
Also, a man of your age, unable to accommodate smells like married to me.. and I’d say no to that. Some ladies will be fine though."
Im in a house-share so not easy to accommodate and im single so yes that needs to be added. Thankyou for the input. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"You're profile is a little negative as someone said. You can't accommodate so some might assume you're married, rightly or wrongly. Maybe explain that and say you're happy to get a hotel?
Smile in your pics and I personally don't find your fishnet pants very appealing.
Some people would be put off by the fact that you've been here a while and not met anyone. You could consider starting again if you think it's an issue."
I was thinking about the fishnet shorts picture and i agree it has to go. I dont even own them anymore. And yes i'll remove the negativity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"First of all i'd take off all the talk of no meets/verifications on your profile. It sounds negative and you don't want to project a negative image from your profile.
A picture or two in a suite or a good shirt may go down well.
My biggest suggestion, however would be to go to an organised social. There are plenty listed on the forums and you can meet people there and make connections "
Would that be a three piece suite?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think you need more photos, photo in a suit or boxers is always good.
Your profile doesn’t say much about you as a person or what kind of adult fun you may be into.
If I was looking at your profile and saw your age & that you can’t accomdate because of a house share I would assume you’re married.
It’s not a bad profile but could be improved! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think you need more photos, photo in a suit or boxers is always good.
Your profile doesn’t say much about you as a person or what kind of adult fun you may be into.
If I was looking at your profile and saw your age & that you can’t accomdate because of a house share I would assume you’re married.
It’s not a bad profile but could be improved! "
Suit picture is going to be done soon. Ive tried not to put too much in because a lot of people have commented on other posts about long profiles being boring so ive tried to keep it trimmed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Most of us suffer a form of anxiety and are really scared of going to socials but for me it's the only way if your not having luck on here. You'd make some new friends and possibly click with someone. It's the best starting point I'd say x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Most of us suffer a form of anxiety and are really scared of going to socials but for me it's the only way if your not having luck on here. You'd make some new friends and possibly click with someone. It's the best starting point I'd say x"
Thankyou. It does seem to be the general opinion so its something i need to look into. |
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Generally "men meet who they can" BUT "women meet who they WANT".
Taking this in hand, you will probably need to approach them...as they're unlikely to queue up at your door, when there are many competing men on site.
I understand you don't like cam or organised events, it's not everyone's cup of tea BUT read your profile as if a woman...not yourself, is it attractive, open and confident?
There is a lot of negativity about your profile script, you talk of what you don't do or struggle with...don't...they don't want to hear this.
Living in a shared house...what's to stop you hiring a cheap hotel room when you want a fun day or night?
Hope this helps |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Generally "men meet who they can" BUT "women meet who they WANT".
Taking this in hand, you will probably need to approach them...as they're unlikely to queue up at your door, when there are many competing men on site.
I understand you don't like cam or organised events, it's not everyone's cup of tea BUT read your profile as if a woman...not yourself, is it attractive, open and confident?
There is a lot of negativity about your profile script, you talk of what you don't do or struggle with...don't...they don't want to hear this.
Living in a shared house...what's to stop you hiring a cheap hotel room when you want a fun day or night?
Hope this helps"
Hmmm, food for thought there, thankyou. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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OP. I have just read your profile and think it is humorous and reads well.
What sort of messages do you send to ladies? Maybe that could be improved. If you would like to write a message to me, and I will give you some feedback. I know I am above your age preference, but pretend it's a normal message. |
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