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How do you deal with a meet that you are promised to be looked after and let down misserably ..
You travel to the meet as arranged you got to there home the person is only seems interested in self gratifcation..Goes to bed and to sleep at 6PM promises you dinner NO FOOD IN THE HOUSE AT ALL NOT EVEN SLICE OF BREAD ...
I left at 9pm and went to A Hotel for the night ..
Why do guys do this its not on you are in strage place and just feel so let down  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Aww sorry to hear you had a rubbish meet. unless there is anything that you can learn from this to do differently next time then just chalk it up to experience and also tell the guy how it made you feel as he might have thought that what he did was fine. Better luck next time
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I never go to someones house ever, anymore. You just dont know what that person is going to be like, even if you think they sound nice. I much prefer to meet them at my house, and if they are annoying me then i can tell them to leave. |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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I had similar but at a hotel. He got his orgasm but wasn't interested in providing me with one. He said he'd buy me dinner and I watched while he ordered and paid for his food without even asking me what I wanted.
I did what you did. I left. Just put it behind you and realise that most men aren't self involved wankers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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JESUS ! CANT BELEIVE WHAT I AM READING HERE , SURE YOUR SUPPOSED TO LOOK AFTER THE PERSON YOUR MEETING , AND ALL THESE FELLAS ! SELF GRATIFICATION , NO BETTER FEELING THAN MAKING A LADY CUM AND CUM , FRANKIE XXX |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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sorry you had bad experience .. not nice, but happens to most people one time or other .. as others say, try and learn from it .. what to do differently..
we've had lots of good meets but one bad one ... got to flat which was dirty (but bedroom ok) .. when started playing the guy couldn't stay hard, even when fucking and had to wank himself to cum .. we left disappointed and frustrated ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I never go to someones house ever, anymore. You just dont know what that person is going to be like, even if you think they sound nice. I much prefer to meet them at my house, and if they are annoying me then i can tell them to leave."
i will meet guys who accommdodate but i always meet them in public first for a drink and i never arrange to stay over night |
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News flash.... just because someone is on a swinging site it doesn't mean they must be a fantastic shag.... ya' roll the dice as the saying goes.
Something you have hopefully learnt from the experience is... if you travel a distance to a meet and leave yourself with no easy way to just go home if it is rubbish... you really do need to already know who you are meeting and what you WILL be getting for your trouble.
Having an exit strategy is always a good idea.... when you are meeting an unknown.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"How do you deal with a meet that you are promised to be looked after and let down misserably ..
You travel to the meet as arranged you got to there home the person is only seems interested in self gratifcation..Goes to bed and to sleep at 6PM promises you dinner NO FOOD IN THE HOUSE AT ALL NOT EVEN SLICE OF BREAD ...
I left at 9pm and went to A Hotel for the night ..
Why do guys do this its not on you are in strage place and just feel so let down "
And that is ! of the reasons I don't travel...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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2 b honest he was crazy 2 invite u in2 his place straight off anyway, us blokes can b so stupid with our own safety, like women can't present a possible threat...dum dum DUM!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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That sounds like a terrible meet babes!
Perhaps in future get to know them a little better before the meet or meet socially first to see if you click. I always prefer to meet like this first as you can walk away and think about them without your cock getting in the way lol |
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I can't understand why the OP didn't just leave immediately! He went to bed at 6 and she left at 9? If you act like a doormat you'll be treated like one. He sounds like a total and absolute plonker but the op put herself in that situation and stayed there! Z |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"2 b honest he was crazy 2 invite u in2 his place straight off anyway, us blokes can b so stupid with our own safety, like women can't present a possible threat...dum dum DUM!! "
it does state somewhere that she had met the guy x2 before so not quite that crazy |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't understand why the OP didn't just leave immediately! He went to bed at 6 and she left at 9? If you act like a doormat you'll be treated like one. He sounds like a total and absolute plonker but the op put herself in that situation and stayed there! Z"
I'd have been off if just left to sit around |
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By (user no longer on site)
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we ad a nightmare of a meet last year met 4 drinks ad a good chat then went back to are hotel just as we was starting to have fun the husband stood up got dressed and said he couldnt do this anymore talk about a complete let down we ad payed for the hotel which they did go halfs but was so looking 4ward to the fun we not seen them on here 4 ages think they have left .. but as they say u live and learn |
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By *abe1200Couple
over a year ago
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"we ad a nightmare of a meet last year met 4 drinks ad a good chat then went back to are hotel just as we was starting to have fun the husband stood up got dressed and said he couldnt do this anymore talk about a complete let down we ad payed for the hotel which they did go halfs but was so looking 4ward to the fun we not seen them on here 4 ages think they have left .. but as they say u live and learn"
one of the reasons why u should not meet ppl who r not verified by meeting in person.Atleast they payed half of the hotel u should have made them pay the rest.  |
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"we ad a nightmare of a meet last year met 4 drinks ad a good chat then went back to are hotel just as we was starting to have fun the husband stood up got dressed and said he couldnt do this anymore talk about a complete let down we ad payed for the hotel which they did go halfs but was so looking 4ward to the fun we not seen them on here 4 ages think they have left .. but as they say u live and learn"
If there isn't already there should be an etiquette that says if a hotel has been paid for and one of the parties won't/can't play then they pick up the tab, hard to enforce but more fair. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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we had a similar experience on our first ever meet. we traveled 4 hours or more when we arrived it was messy and the couple didnt look nowt like they did on there profile they got very d*unk and fell asleep what a waste of our time but we learnt and has never had a bad experience since. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Well something similar happened to us. we attanded a party where noone at it wanted anything to do with us. in our eyes a good party host puts people together who they know will like and have fun with each other. but within a minute of us sitting down we were basically told that everything about us they didnt like. So yea we really enjoyed our evening then. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Mine wasn't an actual meet thankfully, we had been chatting a while and had a meet arranged, we were finalising things the usual no no's and what underwear i'd be wearing for him, as I was about to leave to meet, he asked if I would consider helping him with his fantasy sounded fun,it was for me 2 have his "friend" 1st, only his friend was a bloody dog!!! Needless to say this creep is still blocked  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Pity it wasnt more Like EBay and we could leave Negative feedback.
Oh and before someone posts I know the rules dont allow it.
Just a passing thought"
Like ebay use to be i find it hasn't been so good since the neg feedback is only one sided
but agree we need something |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This is why I'm scared to go to parties incase noone wants me and I look a dumb ass on my own  "
not that i ever been to any parties yet but that's what worries me |
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"Mine wasn't an actual meet thankfully, we had been chatting a while and had a meet arranged, we were finalising things the usual no no's and what underwear i'd be wearing for him, as I was about to leave to meet, he asked if I would consider helping him with his fantasy sounded fun,it was for me 2 have his "friend" 1st, only his friend was a bloody dog!!! Needless to say this creep is still blocked "
hahaha..but sweety ya never gave us a chance we could had so much fun WOOF!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Always meet public, if he says he will buy u dinner go for dinner, drinks first, do not go to his house, if the feeling isnt right get out of there quick!!!! If ur staying no prob in taking time, yes its fab, yes its a sex site, however we have morals, feelings, if its a hooked they want well tell them to fuck off n find one!!! Girls always be safe, u never no what kinda person ur meeting be safe about it and trust yourself at all times if it doesnt feel right say no.....and no means just that!!!!! Im speaking from experience here had one really bad meet when first started out!!! Not stupid in thinking everyone is so normal now so to speak!!! be safe everyone all very well having fun, but u want to be here to tell the tale!!!! Stay safe xx |
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"How do you deal with a meet that you are promised to be looked after and let down misserably ..
You travel to the meet as arranged you got to there home the person is only seems interested in self gratifcation..Goes to bed and to sleep at 6PM promises you dinner NO FOOD IN THE HOUSE AT ALL NOT EVEN SLICE OF BREAD ...
I left at 9pm and went to A Hotel for the night ..
Why do guys do this its not on you are in strage place and just feel so let down "
OMG what a tosser he is for doing that to you! grrrrr!!! ...ive had my fair share too hun,... people like him give others a really bad name,.. theres too many idoits on here only thing i can suggest is press resport button and it tells you what option you can take, .. tell admin i know they cant really do much but the more people complain about these sorta people the better,.. id not do that to you good luck for the furture hun and keep safe xx |
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"Mine wasn't an actual meet thankfully, we had been chatting a while and had a meet arranged, we were finalising things the usual no no's and what underwear i'd be wearing for him, as I was about to leave to meet, he asked if I would consider helping him with his fantasy sounded fun,it was for me 2 have his "friend" 1st, only his friend was a bloody dog!!! Needless to say this creep is still blocked hahaha..but sweety ya never gave us a chance we could had so much fun WOOF!!"
I told you i liked Doggy but I meant position   |
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"2 b honest he was crazy 2 invite u in2 his place straight off anyway, us blokes can b so stupid with our own safety, like women can't present a possible threat...dum dum DUM!! "
You didn't read all the thread. She'd met him twice before at her house and he was fine, just a prick on his home turf.
Op you had no way of knowing, just chalk it up to experience. Sadly one bad experience alters the way you do things.
I always meet at home but my daughter came home unexpectedly once and I phoned my playmate to move play to his house.
He was aghast at the idea saying he didn't play in his house where his son visits. I live in a three storey house in a nice part of London with my adult children. I welcomed him into my home but I wasn't good enough for his.
Now I don't meet anyone that doesn't accommodate, I don't care what the reason is, I always assume they think my "palace on the hill" is a knocking shop while their home is sacrosant!  |
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"How do you deal with a meet that you are promised to be looked after and let down misserably ..
You travel to the meet as arranged you got to there home the person is only seems interested in self gratifcation..Goes to bed and to sleep at 6PM promises you dinner NO FOOD IN THE HOUSE AT ALL NOT EVEN SLICE OF BREAD ...
I left at 9pm and went to A Hotel for the night ..
Why do guys do this its not on you are in strage place and just feel so let down OMG what a tosser he is for doing that to you! grrrrr!!! ...ive had my fair share too hun,... people like him give others a really bad name,.. theres too many idoits on here only thing i can suggest is press resport button and it tells you what option you can take, .. tell admin i know they cant really do much but the more people complain about these sorta people the better,.. id not do that to you good luck for the furture hun and keep safe xx "
Report him for what exactly?
She'd met him twice before no problem. I met a man socially who walked in front of me into the pub and didn't even hold the door open. He went directly to the bar and ordered his own drink...nothing for me.
When I asked about mine he said "this isn't a date!" I left!
He kept texting asking what he'd done wrong!
The signs were probably there but the op didnt/chose not to see them...perhaps? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Still though it says alot about both parties, The bloke was out of order but the women in the case needed to have a plan and some self pride.
Good thing she has blocked the guy, and its likely he will do the same to others....
Sadly the site stops you leaving negative feedback but I have always been wary of that rule.
As for parties yeah wary of them no one wants to be blanked.... but is it not just basic manners?
If we ever held a party (house is too small) we would treat everyone the same.... sex would just be something on the buffet for others to pick and choose and not the main reason folks would turn up.
Manner's are cheap and cost little!
Mark and Jayne |
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