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Does my profile reflect me?
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I've been bimbling round the forums for a while now, and I'd love a little feedback on my profile if you'd be so kind.
If you've seen me around do you think my profile reflects my personality? I get the impression from some messages that I may come across a bit intimidating? 
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You express yourself well and your text shows intelligence. If that intimidates anybody I'd say you wouldn't be compatible anyway.
Whether your profile or forum posts reflect your personality is difficult to say. I think most of us would be surprised at the difference chatting to a person face to face can make. Tone, expression etc can show personality much better than flat text on a screen. |
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over a year ago
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You have a couples profile yet you're talking as if you're a single female. That is off putting as it comes across that it's all about yourself. You don't talk about your partner. |
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"I've been bimbling round the forums for a while now, and I'd love a little feedback on my profile if you'd be so kind.
If you've seen me around do you think my profile reflects my personality? I get the impression from some messages that I may come across a bit intimidating?
What do you think ..."
your profile doesn't in anyway reflect your posts in forums it's a stark contrast  |
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over a year ago
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I think your profile is great..very detailed, explains the dynamics of your relationship. I see no point in explaining more about Mr if he’s not going to get involved.
A lot of guys/couples may think, well if we are going to meet just you, then we may as well find a single girl rather than someone who’s attached.
You come across as insightful and intelligent, so this may attract only certain types but that in itself is a good filter to have.
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over a year ago
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"I’m always a bit confused when a couples profile asks about themselves in the singular....
Because I wrote it ? "
Lol. I realised that. When I wrote on behalf of our couples profile I tended to say it as “how does our profile read?” “Does it reflect us?”
Just an observation. |
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" You express yourself well and your text shows intelligence. If that intimidates anybody I'd say you wouldn't be compatible anyway.
Whether your profile or forum posts reflect your personality is difficult to say. I think most of us would be surprised at the difference chatting to a person face to face can make. Tone, expression etc can show personality much better than flat text on a screen."
Thankyou for the feedback  I just love words , bit of a reader xx |
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"You have a couples profile yet you're talking as if you're a single female. That is off putting as it comes across that it's all about yourself. You don't talk about your partner."
As he's not involved or even present unless it's a single male there's not much to say I'm afraid, so not sure what I can say  |
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"I think your profile is great..very detailed, explains the dynamics of your relationship. I see no point in explaining more about Mr if he’s not going to get involved.
A lot of guys/couples may think, well if we are going to meet just you, then we may as well find a single girl rather than someone who’s attached.
You come across as insightful and intelligent, so this may attract only certain types but that in itself is a good filter to have.
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Thankyou x I can understand the complexity of getting into things with a one player half of a couple will be a bit wierd for some , hopefully it's also a draw too as I'm not after anything but no strings play |
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"I’m always a bit confused when a couples profile asks about themselves in the singular....
Because I wrote it ?
Lol. I realised that. When I wrote on behalf of our couples profile I tended to say it as “how does our profile read?” “Does it reflect us?”
Just an observation. "
I do appreciate the reply , I asked to get an insight whether that be good or bad so no worries here xxx
I'm aware it doesn't reflect us as a pair as I've not written anything about him apart from his stats on the info but that's because it's just me doing the interacting, maybe I should consider changing to a single profile, I just thought being clear I'm attached would be a better place to start from. I'll have to have a think x |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I'm with GI Joe on this - think it's very well written and clear - describes exactly who you are and what you are about and looking for - all backed up with great pics that tease and tantalise without being "in your face".
The only suggestion I would make is perhaps provide more detail about how hubby does fit into this in his cuck role (albeit indirectly) - maybe make clear that he won't always be present, or in any way involved - but perhaps expand on whether he just enjoys hearing about your "adventures" when you get home, or expects pics to be provided etc - which should remove any doubts around that aspect that some may have.
As it reads at the moment you go from being a "long term happy couple" to "I" in the space of two paragraphs so adding more detail between the two would enhance rather than detract.
The alternative would of course be a single profile but that may have other implications that you'd have to deal with. |
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"I’m always a bit confused when a couples profile asks about themselves in the singular....
Because I wrote it ?
Lol. I realised that. When I wrote on behalf of our couples profile I tended to say it as “how does our profile read?” “Does it reflect us?”
Just an observation.
I do appreciate the reply , I asked to get an insight whether that be good or bad so no worries here xxx
I'm aware it doesn't reflect us as a pair as I've not written anything about him apart from his stats on the info but that's because it's just me doing the interacting, maybe I should consider changing to a single profile, I just thought being clear I'm attached would be a better place to start from. I'll have to have a think x "
I think that’s kind of where I was getting to in a little da round a bout kinda way.
Our profile had people very confused. For obvious reasons really!! This is why I made my own in the end. |
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Too much ‘I’ and not enough ‘we’. Even though he isn’t physically involved he is emotionally involved so maybe use of ‘we’ clears up anyone thinking you are wanting the scenario just for you without including him.
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"I'm with GI Joe on this - think it's very well written and clear - describes exactly who you are and what you are about and looking for - all backed up with great pics that tease and tantalise without being "in your face".
The only suggestion I would make is perhaps provide more detail about how hubby does fit into this in his cuck role (albeit indirectly) - maybe make clear that he won't always be present, or in any way involved - but perhaps expand on whether he just enjoys hearing about your "adventures" when you get home, or expects pics to be provided etc - which should remove any doubts around that aspect that some may have.
As it reads at the moment you go from being a "long term happy couple" to "I" in the space of two paragraphs so adding more detail between the two would enhance rather than detract.
The alternative would of course be a single profile but that may have other implications that you'd have to deal with."
Thankyou for the really helpful comments, I've seen it from a different perspective , and have made some changes to try to explain and clarify  |
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"Too much ‘I’ and not enough ‘we’. Even though he isn’t physically involved he is emotionally involved so maybe use of ‘we’ clears up anyone thinking you are wanting the scenario just for you without including him.
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As a few people have pointed this out I've had a bit of a rejig and reword to try to be clearer , Thankyou |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"I'm with GI Joe on this - think it's very well written and clear - describes exactly who you are and what you are about and looking for - all backed up with great pics that tease and tantalise without being "in your face".
The only suggestion I would make is perhaps provide more detail about how hubby does fit into this in his cuck role (albeit indirectly) - maybe make clear that he won't always be present, or in any way involved - but perhaps expand on whether he just enjoys hearing about your "adventures" when you get home, or expects pics to be provided etc - which should remove any doubts around that aspect that some may have.
As it reads at the moment you go from being a "long term happy couple" to "I" in the space of two paragraphs so adding more detail between the two would enhance rather than detract.
The alternative would of course be a single profile but that may have other implications that you'd have to deal with.
Thankyou for the really helpful comments, I've seen it from a different perspective , and have made some changes to try to explain and clarify "
I think the adjustments work perfectly and it's now 100% clear where you're coming from - flows nicely from the "we" to "me" aspect too
Hope it bears fruit for you |
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