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Let down more times than a sex doll with mouldy holes!
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After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe?  |
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe? "
Don’t worry about it, I keep getting let down too but luckily I managed to cancel the hotel room I had booked! Not everybody is a dick I promise  |
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"I had a guy ghost me this week despite arranging this weekend etc which isn’t a bad thing as I’m now having to work "
Same as me but with the opposite sex, it’s okay though as I’m now going to BSB  |
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Sorry to read this op
I havent arranged a meet for ages,but by the sound of the numerous posts,people are getting stood up quite often.
I don't know why anyone would do that to someone?its just nasty .
Hope you reported them op. |
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"I had a guy ghost me this week despite arranging this weekend etc which isn’t a bad thing as I’m now having to work
Same as me but with the opposite sex, it’s okay though as I’m now going to BSB "
BSB? |
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"I had a guy ghost me this week despite arranging this weekend etc which isn’t a bad thing as I’m now having to work
Same as me but with the opposite sex, it’s okay though as I’m now going to BSB
BSB? "
British SuperBikes!  |
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"Sorry to read this op
I havent arranged a meet for ages,but by the sound of the numerous posts,people are getting stood up quite often.
I don't know why anyone would do that to someone?its just nasty .
Hope you reported them op."
It’s happening way too much, should be a feature where if you arrange to meet you have to click something like “meet arranged” then after if they don’t turn up you have to select whether they did or didn’t show up  |
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"I had a guy ghost me this week despite arranging this weekend etc which isn’t a bad thing as I’m now having to work
Same as me but with the opposite sex, it’s okay though as I’m now going to BSB
BSB?
British SuperBikes! "
Awesome have fun! |
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"I had a guy ghost me this week despite arranging this weekend etc which isn’t a bad thing as I’m now having to work
Same as me but with the opposite sex, it’s okay though as I’m now going to BSB
BSB?
British SuperBikes!
Awesome have fun! "
Will try thank you! Wish there was some fabbers going that I could meet |
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over a year ago
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe? "
We get let down a lot, However usually before we have wasted our time going to the meet.
On the other hand there are some genuine people who do meet and turn up, so we focus on them now. |
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe?
We get let down a lot, However usually before we have wasted our time going to the meet.
On the other hand there are some genuine people who do meet and turn up, so we focus on them now."
I’m the same I’ll only meet genuine people |
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"Sorry to read this op
I havent arranged a meet for ages,but by the sound of the numerous posts,people are getting stood up quite often.
I don't know why anyone would do that to someone?its just nasty .
Hope you reported them op."
What? How do you report? Do I report the no shows? The one who never came back from the loo? The one who was much much younger than he claimed? The ones much much older? All of the above are verified more than once, so surely it must just be me?! |
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"Sorry to read this op
I havent arranged a meet for ages,but by the sound of the numerous posts,people are getting stood up quite often.
I don't know why anyone would do that to someone?its just nasty .
Hope you reported them op.
It’s happening way too much, should be a feature where if you arrange to meet you have to click something like “meet arranged” then after if they don’t turn up you have to select whether they did or didn’t show up "
Ooooo that'd be amazing!! |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe? "
If its happening "almost every time" you need to change your selection process..
As for the guy going to the loo and not returning "I'd take that as a not interested" |
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe?
If its happening "almost every time" you need to change your selection process..
As for the guy going to the loo and not returning "I'd take that as a not interested" "
Selection process? I've no interest in someone's wealth, other than the need for chemistry I'm not swayed by looks. I don't get it!
I figured he wasn't interested! |
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Sorry for giggling OP but your title gave me a good laugh.
On the topic of no shows etc.. it’s the same over here in Ireland. Lads arranging meets and chickening out or just being abducted by aliens.. who knows.
Hope your luck changes.
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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Sorry you've had such a bad time, I don't trust much on Fab anymore, but the best way for me is just to go to clubs and chat to people in person right there. It takes away a lot of the stuff that seems to waste my time. Its safe, and if I do no more than have a social chat, a bit of a dance and make the new platonic friend, I'm all good with that |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe?
If its happening "almost every time" you need to change your selection process..
As for the guy going to the loo and not returning "I'd take that as a not interested"
Selection process? I've no interest in someone's wealth, other than the need for chemistry I'm not swayed by looks. I don't get it!
I figured he wasn't interested! "
Wealth ..where do you get wealth from.?
Yep.. selection process who you're messaging, the checks , balances that you use when arranging a meet..
Your words "almost every time".. your process ain't working .. you need to change something . |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe?
If its happening "almost every time" you need to change your selection process..
As for the guy going to the loo and not returning "I'd take that as a not interested"
Selection process? I've no interest in someone's wealth, other than the need for chemistry I'm not swayed by looks. I don't get it!
I figured he wasn't interested! "
I can’t speak for the person who posted that comment but my selection process doesn’t work on looks or wealth. The selection process is how you out the ones who aren’t likely to show or are a bit of a tool. |
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over a year ago
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe?
If its happening "almost every time" you need to change your selection process..
As for the guy going to the loo and not returning "I'd take that as a not interested"
Selection process? I've no interest in someone's wealth, other than the need for chemistry I'm not swayed by looks. I don't get it!
I figured he wasn't interested! "
He meant how you select your meets!
Do you chat with then on the phone/cam before meeting?
Do you do socials before play meets?
There does seem to be a lot of threads about this lately and for a change they're not all started by guys. |
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over a year ago
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Sorry to read that OP.. Scouts honour that not everybody is a waste of time and having had a peep at your profile, all I can say is he must be mad! Onwards and upwards.
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe?
If its happening "almost every time" you need to change your selection process..
As for the guy going to the loo and not returning "I'd take that as a not interested"
Selection process? I've no interest in someone's wealth, other than the need for chemistry I'm not swayed by looks. I don't get it!
I figured he wasn't interested!
He meant how you select your meets!
Do you chat with then on the phone/cam before meeting?
Do you do socials before play meets?
There does seem to be a lot of threads about this lately and for a change they're not all started by guys. "
Always a social after usually camchatting, I'm pan sexual but that just seems to make it harder!
Always a social in a public space, as a single female I am able to accommodate but it takes a meet or two become willing!
Do they just see it as too much like hard work?!  |
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"Sorry to read that OP.. Scouts honour that not everybody is a waste of time and having had a peep at your profile, all I can say is he must be mad! Onwards and upwards.
Kisses,Bonnie "
Aww thanks bonnie!  |
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"Sorry for giggling OP but your title gave me a good laugh.
On the topic of no shows etc.. it’s the same over here in Ireland. Lads arranging meets and chickening out or just being abducted by aliens.. who knows.
Hope your luck changes.
X "
I hope yours does too!
Glad you giggled! |
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe?
If its happening "almost every time" you need to change your selection process..
As for the guy going to the loo and not returning "I'd take that as a not interested"
Selection process? I've no interest in someone's wealth, other than the need for chemistry I'm not swayed by looks. I don't get it!
I figured he wasn't interested!
I can’t speak for the person who posted that comment but my selection process doesn’t work on looks or wealth. The selection process is how you out the ones who aren’t likely to show or are a bit of a tool."
Oooo okay, what should I be doing?! |
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I don't meet newbies that often as I've a few long time regulars, last one was about 6 months ago. My free weekends are precious so had tomorrow planned for a 'new meet. Had a couple times planned but life got in the way... but planned tomorrow a while now. Don't like hotels much and booked a flat. Just got message saying sorry can't make it as been called in to work as a favour owed to another work colleague.
It's happening a lit on fab and it's one reason I rarely do new meets since rejoining. Gutted as now it's probably a day working on my bike or sitting around.
So I understand how you feel about fab OP.... its happening a lot. |
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"I don't meet newbies that often as I've a few long time regulars, last one was about 6 months ago. My free weekends are precious so had tomorrow planned for a 'new meet. Had a couple times planned but life got in the way... but planned tomorrow a while now. Don't like hotels much and booked a flat. Just got message saying sorry can't make it as been called in to work as a favour owed to another work colleague.
It's happening a lit on fab and it's one reason I rarely do new meets since rejoining. Gutted as now it's probably a day working on my bike or sitting around.
So I understand how you feel about fab OP.... its happening a lot."
Oh that's super shit! I once had to cancel a meet on the day we had it planned for as I had a raging kidney infection, she sent bloody awful messages and he sent very strange and pushy ones! Quickly blocked! Although we had all met before! I'd never agree to work when I had something scintillating to attend to! |
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"It is a long game, Pigletchickster.
However, with those looks and such a fine nom-de-fab, you will be a winner. "
. I'll get back to you of you're right! Not met a man who's right in a long time so I know I won't forget you  |
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"Sorry you've had such a bad time, I don't trust much on Fab anymore, but the best way for me is just to go to clubs and chat to people in person right there. It takes away a lot of the stuff that seems to waste my time. Its safe, and if I do no more than have a social chat, a bit of a dance and make the new platonic friend, I'm all good with that"
all of the above.. |
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Reporting inappropriate behavior including no shows, is the best we each can do to help admin manage and improve the site.
Analysis of your engagement with and of these people, to determine patterns can be helpful. How we communicate, promote and arrange a meet - including the commitments we get from the other party, could show where you might do things differently - or if there were warning signs earlier.
Always have a backup plan - even if just having a simple walk or something more fun or interesting.
Also, if someone is married etc, it can be helpful to work out if that is involved - perhaps speaking at times they may be with a partner. Shift the onus on to them to confirm by early morning too, so you'd not bother chasing or expecting them. |
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Op the common denominator here is you and how you choose your meets.
If it keeps happening then you need to look at what you’re doing, what leads you to choose these men, your vetting processes etc.
Unfortunately there will always be idiots on here who will mess people around, we just have to figure out how to spot them and them out so that we can arrange meets with those who will turn up. I’ve been on Fab over 5 years, hubby even longer than that. As a couple we’ve never been stood up, as singles hubby has never been stood up and I was only stood up once, that was for a social at Costa one morning when I was working an afternoon shift. |
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"It is a long game, Pigletchickster.
However, with those looks and such a fine nom-de-fab, you will be a winner. . I'll get back to you of you're right! Not met a man who's right in a long time so I know I won't forget you "
Leicester isn’t far from me |
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe? "
We’ve pretty much given up on here as it’s become so bad . We always reckoned on a third of meets not showing up , and for six years that was the case . In the past six months it’s been more like two thirds not showing up for arranged meets .
They say familiarity breeds contempt , so maybe we’ve been on here too long , and that’s why we attract so many time wasters . Well it hasn’t happened for six weeks now as we stopped meeting from fab , and we haven’t missed it one bit . So all good |
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"Sorry you've had such a bad time, I don't trust much on Fab anymore, but the best way for me is just to go to clubs and chat to people in person right there. It takes away a lot of the stuff that seems to waste my time. Its safe, and if I do no more than have a social chat, a bit of a dance and make the new platonic friend, I'm all good with that"
Spot on advice. We find Clubs are generally the answer, sadly none close by but we are happy to travel and make a night of it. Accepted we always have each other to play with, but the atmosphere & people there is usually conducive to a lot more. Give Clubs a try |
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I think that around 90% of the men on here have no intentions of meeting. They enjoy the build up, the chase, the pictures, the interest in themselves.
A couple of weeks ago I had 8 no shows. They get blocked and reported. I’ve also heard probably every excuse possible for not turning up.
Usuals are: car broken down. Kids mum hasn’t collected them. Got the trots. Called into work at the last minute |
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over a year ago
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We have had over 50% of our arranges meets either no show or drop out the moment before (as in 30 mins before), only to block us and never respond again. Very surprising when you think about it! |
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"I think that around 90% of the men on here have no intentions of meeting. They enjoy the build up, the chase, the pictures, the interest in themselves.
A couple of weeks ago I had 8 no shows. They get blocked and reported. I’ve also heard probably every excuse possible for not turning up.
Usuals are: car broken down. Kids mum hasn’t collected them. Got the trots. Called into work at the last minute "
so true! They love the chase then dont show. Twice this week for me |
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe? "
Sorry to hear you’ve not been having much luck with your meets, it really isn’t usually the case for a single female in here! You’ve had some good advice from others already, but the main points I would suggest you look for are verifications, a phone chat (call him and withhold your number), and social meet somewhere public. I would also maybe rethink who you are actually looking for, adjust your preferences to give a wider search field?
As a single male profile in here for a little over 5 years, I’ve enjoyed my private meets, and continue to do so. I can think of only 3 letdowns in all that time, but I’ve been selective about what I’m looking for, and from whom.
Single females do very well on the club scene, try that for a while. You may find a couple of guys there for private meets afterwards.
All the best |
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe? "
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Ive never had it happen....yet though no doubt it will.
If I arrange to meet, I will always turn up and if by any chance something comes up I let the person know ASAP. I'm sure it has nothing to do with you OP, don't give up as there are some really nice genuine people on here xx |
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So sorry to hear that OP.
There are a lot of fantasists and dreamers on here, and maybe the one who went to the toilet and didn't return realised that you were too good for him.
I always chat for quite a while before agreeing to meet, that way you can get a 'feeling' for someone.
Keep trying OP, there are some really genuine people on here.
Also try Fab socials and clubs, that way you will get to meet genuine people too.
Good luck OP |
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Yesterday I wrote to someone: "many men behave like high school girls": they only kinda want
It happens to everyone here, not just you One of the reasons I mostly see verified people, although even that is not a guarantee
I think you're super hot and your profile is really interesting, totally dont understand
It's their loss hun |
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe? "
Some women are just bad pickers |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ve been messed about twice, I just blocked them after.
I think some are here for the cyber sex & not the real thing, and rather than say from the start they will carry it out over days and days and only pluck up the courage to f*ck off when you’re supposed to be meeting them!
Now I’m even more picky and not so quick to try arrange my first meet with someone, I’d rather wait! |
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe? Some women are just bad pickers "
I said yes to you....your point is proven pmsl |
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe? Some women are just bad pickers
I said yes to you....you
r point is proven pmsl "
Sorry??! |
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe? Some women are just bad pickers
I said yes to you....you
r point is proven pmsl
Sorry??!"
Not for you OP...my post was to James |
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over a year ago
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"Sorry to read this op
I havent arranged a meet for ages,but by the sound of the numerous posts,people are getting stood up quite often.
I don't know why anyone would do that to someone?its just nasty .
Hope you reported them op.
What? How do you report? Do I report the no shows? The one who never came back from the loo? The one who was much much younger than he claimed? The ones much much older? All of the above are verified more than once, so surely it must just be me?!"
Report to admin is all |
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe? "
Spend a long time getting to know somebody online before you meet them.
Then you can out
The "Wanna fuck?" guys.
The ones looking for a quick one off fuck.
The ones looking for another notch on the bedpost.
The ones who don't respect you.
The ones who think it's not called fabswingers it is called ifuckanybodywhoasksme.com.
The liars.
The idiots.
The nutters.
The dangerous ones.
The cheaters who have a wife or girlfriend.
The ones just looking for validation that they are still attractive to the opposite (or same) sex.
The timewasters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I had a guy ghost me this week despite arranging this weekend etc which isn’t a bad thing as I’m now having to work
Same as me but with the opposite sex, it’s okay though as I’m now going to BSB
BSB?
British SuperBikes! "
much better option anyway |
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By *W1967Man
over a year ago
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In general I reckon older guys are more reliable. In the days prior to mobile phones, you had to arrange where and when to meet in advance. You then turned up barring disasters as neither person had anyway of communicating to the other.
You'd think with mobile communication it would improve things, but the opposite seems to be true. |
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"In general I reckon older guys are more reliable. In the days prior to mobile phones, you had to arrange where and when to meet in advance. You then turned up barring disasters as neither person had anyway of communicating to the other.
You'd think with mobile communication it would improve things, but the opposite seems to be true."
Both older guys I arranged meets with on here recently wasted my time.
One stood me up, the other made up about three excuses in one night.
Age & reliability don’t go hand in hand. |
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"In general I reckon older guys are more reliable. In the days prior to mobile phones, you had to arrange where and when to meet in advance. You then turned up barring disasters as neither person had anyway of communicating to the other.
You'd think with mobile communication it would improve things, but the opposite seems to be true."
The last meet I had, we had no way of communicating when we left to meet at our social....totally forgot to get each other's number...there was a slight confusion as to the correct venue but we got there in the end. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe? "
Ahhhh so it's not just me then?? I thought it was just a site full of game playeres |
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I think it's crazy! For me I'd never dream of ghosting or leaving a social without saying something. Even then it's unlikely that I'd leave unless it's a disaster and then it would be a mutual discussion of goodbye and happy fabbing.
I'm sure I'm echoing many men who'd say it's hard enough to get a meet here without standing up those who do want to meet!!
*shakes head* some people are just time wasting idiots. I hope that they stay away from the OP and the other ladies who've commented here about time wasting morons.
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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago
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Never let down by a couple but when we first started meeting single guys we had 3, one lost his bottle, the other I think was in a relationship and was just after an ego boost and the other left the sure, now I chat to the guy for a year before arranging anything lol |
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over a year ago
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"I had a guy ghost me this week despite arranging this weekend etc which isn’t a bad thing as I’m now having to work
Same as me but with the opposite sex, it’s okay though as I’m now going to BSB "
Your guaranteed a good weekend then my friend .BSB is ace . |
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Reporting does nothing sadly so really not much point I like the idea of ‘meet arranged’ etc but would people use it knowing their report would be ignored??
I had an fb who let me down 4 times in a row, no text, call to say he wasn’t turning up so I told him to delete my number and not to contact me again Today he calls me, I ignore his calls I won’t block him because I want the satisfaction of him ringing and getting no answer
I’ve met a guy from here that doesn’t want sex until he gets to know the woman after a few months of meeting and talking  . What the hell is that all about?
Single woman get lots of attention in clubs???? Hmmmmm Sorry but I don’t agree with that. Majority of single men faced with a couple or a single woman will go for the couple every time.
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"Single woman get lots of attention in clubs???? Hmmmmm Sorry but I don’t agree with that. Majority of single men faced with a couple or a single woman will go for the couple every time.
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I strongly disagree with that statement. It may be your experience that single men go for a couple rather than you but my observations and personal choice say that ain't so. |
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over a year ago
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe? "
really, bathroom where? |
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I would say the evidence suggests you need to change your approch to selection and/or how you go about things. Simply you need something to change as it's not working for you. My guess is the wrong people for you, rather than you. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"After a few shockingly shit weeks in here I'm questioning why I'm still here! I love the community aspect of swinging, the friendships and playmates found, but why why why am I being stood up almost every time? And the last one who did actually turn up, went to the bathroom two hours in to the meet and never came back! Do I have just shit luck and taste or is this more common than I believe?
Spend a long time getting to know somebody online before you meet them.
Then you can out
The "Wanna fuck?" guys.
The ones looking for a quick one off fuck.
The ones looking for another notch on the bedpost.
The ones who don't respect you.
The ones who think it's not called fabswingers it is called ifuckanybodywhoasksme.com.
The liars.
The idiots.
The nutters.
The dangerous ones.
The cheaters who have a wife or girlfriend.
The ones just looking for validation that they are still attractive to the opposite (or same) sex.
The timewasters."
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"From 11 weeks ago, profile hidden, yeah whatever! Mmmmnnnn, what would make someone jump ship after 2 hours? Only the OP can answer that!!! "
Your point being what exactly? Maybe she's taking a break from timewasters and sarcasm. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just reading through all this and am amazed what goes on here I'm still new and can understand now why people are saying they will only meet verified people
It seems to be a massive problem here
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over a year ago
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I agree there should be a button to click for actually turning up. Ive been quite lucky, but the couple who enthusiastically arranged a meet then didn't answer the door were a bit galling. You do get a feeling for genuine people in here after a while. I also insist on WhatsApp or Kik first now, or a phone call... |
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"I agree there should be a button to click for actually turning up. Ive been quite lucky, but the couple who enthusiastically arranged a meet then didn't answer the door were a bit galling. You do get a feeling for genuine people in here after a while. I also insist on WhatsApp or Kik first now, or a phone call... "
Yes if people don't want to chat on kik or WhatsApp you know something is wrong.
You need to make it easy to meet once both parties are chatting. |
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"I agree there should be a button to click for actually turning up. Ive been quite lucky, but the couple who enthusiastically arranged a meet then didn't answer the door were a bit galling. You do get a feeling for genuine people in here after a while. I also insist on WhatsApp or Kik first now, or a phone call...
Yes if people don't want to chat on kik or WhatsApp you know something is wrong.
You need to make it easy to meet once both parties are chatting. "
Disagree, I never chat away from the site before meeting, and yet always meet when I say I will |
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Not just me then (female half ) single males used to complain it was hard getting meets, but either there's some conspiracy to knock back and humiliate us ordinary girls (who let's face aren't supermodels but aren't monsters either !)it just seems acceptable to ghost/stupid excuse etc. Why not be honest and say you've changed your mind. It's alot of work to get ready or create time for yourself. Come on guys ! |
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Not being funny but if it's happening all the time maybe you need to look at your selection process?
Do you send recent pictures as a clear way to say this is me before we meet that way guys can't say oh you don't look like your pics?
Do you chat on the phone to make sure they are real?
If a guy went to the bathroom and never came back I would take that personally as he didn't like what he saw?
If a guy just stands you up with no reason then he's a knob.
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"Sorry to read this op
I havent arranged a meet for ages,but by the sound of the numerous posts,people are getting stood up quite often.
I don't know why anyone would do that to someone?its just nasty .
Hope you reported them op."
Oh it must be time you shook the dust off then |
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"Not being funny but if it's happening all the time maybe you need to look at your selection process?
Do you send recent pictures as a clear way to say this is me before we meet that way guys can't say oh you don't look like your pics?
Do you chat on the phone to make sure they are real?
If a guy went to the bathroom and never came back I would take that personally as he didn't like what he saw?
If a guy just stands you up with no reason then he's a knob.
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Four good points there I think some people really don't look at what they do pre meeting. |
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