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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all just after advice on messages!
I’ve tried sending all sorts of messages to different females but just seem to get ignored or deleted, ( not being pushy or perverted) and I’m not desperate but just wondering what sort of things would be a good start message? If I do get a reply very rare, it’s no sorry not for me which is fine I understand I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, but I’m guessing I’m probably messaging the wrong things!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I send a few messages out that never get a reply, what I have found is if you are just true to who you are and what you’re looking for in your message eventually you will get an answer, don’t sweat it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all just after advice on messages!
I’ve tried sending all sorts of messages to different females but just seem to get ignored or deleted, ( not being pushy or perverted) and I’m not desperate but just wondering what sort of things would be a good start message? If I do get a reply very rare, it’s no sorry not for me which is fine I understand I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, but I’m guessing I’m probably messaging the wrong things!
Thanks in advance "
Do you read their profiles?
If people read ours, and add something from it, it makes us more inclined to answer( if they are looking for the same things as us of course)
We can usually tell if it’s a copy and paste message sent to 20 people at a time. |
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For us, a message from someone who has clearly read the profile will always get a reply, even if its a thanks but no thanks.
For example, we can't accommodate, so if someone messages us that also doesn't accommodate we'd likely ignore unless some solution to the logistics of meeting were mentioned.
A message purely aimed at one of us usually gets ignored too (I despise messages like 'your missus has great tits')
And never send a cock pic unless requested.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm also getting hacked off, I always read the profile, make sure we have something in common. Never cut and paste, I'm polite, complimentary, and usually make a reference to something in the profile. Usually it's just deleted straight away.
It is especially frustrating when someone says " put (insert stupid phrase) in the message title and I promise I'll reply coz I'll know you read the whole profile.
And then delete your message....
Sorry to rant |
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Well OP I do feel your emotions about this but also you have to look from a ladys point of view who you reply too. As most of them from my lady friends on here get so many messages that they become blinded by volume.
You have to think in terms of numbers on here and try doing a role reversals how would you feel if you had to do 300 mails a day?
I am sure some ladies have their own criteria’s on how they vet mails so it’s knowing what they want is the key to success. Also if you send a mail are they seeing it straight away that intrigues them or does it get lost in the pile of other mail which is being sent to them.
I am sure ladies that find you attractive and want to meet will get in touch also making friends on here is another good way to get meetings as believe it people do talk outside fab either at clubs on socials or as real life friends so if your a good guy then you will be spotted.
So my advice is don’t get too hung up on if a lady doesn’t reply as they might delete it but that could be a mass deletion. If they aren’t interested I find ladies do tell you. Be patient and just be yourself.
Hope it helps |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm also getting hacked off, I always read the profile, make sure we have something in common. Never cut and paste, I'm polite, complimentary, and usually make a reference to something in the profile. Usually it's just deleted straight away.
It is especially frustrating when someone says " put (insert stupid phrase) in the message title and I promise I'll reply coz I'll know you read the whole profile.
And then delete your message....
Sorry to rant"
It's just their bullshit way of trying to exert power and control. I'd ignore any profile expecting a key word in the message title  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm also getting hacked off, I always read the profile, make sure we have something in common. Never cut and paste, I'm polite, complimentary, and usually make a reference to something in the profile. Usually it's just deleted straight away.
It is especially frustrating when someone says " put (insert stupid phrase) in the message title and I promise I'll reply coz I'll know you read the whole profile.
And then delete your message....
Sorry to rant
It's just their bullshit way of trying to exert power and control. I'd ignore any profile expecting a key word in the message title "
We send messages, don’t include the secret phrase, then take the pew when they reply to us 
Childish, but fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm also getting hacked off, I always read the profile, make sure we have something in common. Never cut and paste, I'm polite, complimentary, and usually make a reference to something in the profile. Usually it's just deleted straight away.
It is especially frustrating when someone says " put (insert stupid phrase) in the message title and I promise I'll reply coz I'll know you read the whole profile.
And then delete your message....
Sorry to rant"
maybe the hi viz jacket pic isn't helping your cause |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm also getting hacked off, I always read the profile, make sure we have something in common. Never cut and paste, I'm polite, complimentary, and usually make a reference to something in the profile. Usually it's just deleted straight away.
It is especially frustrating when someone says " put (insert stupid phrase) in the message title and I promise I'll reply coz I'll know you read the whole profile.
And then delete your message....
Sorry to rant
It's just their bullshit way of trying to exert power and control. I'd ignore any profile expecting a key word in the message title
We send messages, don’t include the secret phrase, then take the pew when they reply to us
Childish, but fun. "
yes I have done that in the past but generally it's a block ha |
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"I'm also getting hacked off, I always read the profile, make sure we have something in common. Never cut and paste, I'm polite, complimentary, and usually make a reference to something in the profile. Usually it's just deleted straight away.
It is especially frustrating when someone says " put (insert stupid phrase) in the message title and I promise I'll reply coz I'll know you read the whole profile.
And then delete your message....
Sorry to rantmaybe the hi viz jacket pic isn't helping your cause "
Well... he is trying to get noticed  |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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"Hi all just after advice on messages!
I’ve tried sending all sorts of messages to different females but just seem to get ignored or deleted, ( not being pushy or perverted) and I’m not desperate but just wondering what sort of things would be a good start message? If I do get a reply very rare, it’s no sorry not for me which is fine I understand I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, but I’m guessing I’m probably messaging the wrong things!
Thanks in advance
Do you read their profiles?
If people read ours, and add something from it, it makes us more inclined to answer( if they are looking for the same things as us of course)
We can usually tell if it’s a copy and paste message sent to 20 people at a time."
Agree with this
Referring to something in my profile is more likely to get my attention and show you have read what i'm after
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had a message an hour ago that read.... "hi x"
Those messages are the worst.
My reply was
Hey, I just met you
And this is crazy
Put more effort in
Coz that was lazy
No response back |
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"Someone posted the exact same thing the other day. If you press the green arrow next to my name it will show you what threads I've posted to. There was some good advice on there....."
Wow. Never knew the green arrow trick. Thank you. |
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"I had a message an hour ago that read.... "hi x"
Those messages are the worst.
My reply was
Hey, I just met you
And this is crazy
Put more effort in
Coz that was lazy
No response back "
I love you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I had a message an hour ago that read.... "hi x"
Those messages are the worst.
My reply was
Hey, I just met you
And this is crazy
Put more effort in
Coz that was lazy
No response back
I love you. "
You're using that now aren't you x |
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"I had a message an hour ago that read.... "hi x"
Those messages are the worst.
My reply was
Hey, I just met you
And this is crazy
Put more effort in
Coz that was lazy
No response back
I love you.
You're using that now aren't you x "
I might steal it  |
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We have messages that are directed to the female only as if she is the one that is reading and replying,if single guys can't be bothered to read the profile that states it's a couples profile then they have no chance,be polite;send more than a one line message and you will get a response even if it's a no thanks |
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