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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"29:59 not a second more 
Will keep that in mind. It's 27mins now...."
Its fair to assume if they can't make it then they would drop you a line on here at the least if you met them here within 30 mins. |
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By *izzy. OP Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
It's the first social meet with this chap. I am sat in the pub carpark . Pain as I rarely do new meets these days. Hey ho. Stick with going to my local club. I know if someone doesn't show up, there is plenty more choice. |
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"It's the first social meet with this chap. I am sat in the pub carpark . Pain as I rarely do new meets these days. Hey ho. Stick with going to my local club. I know if someone doesn't show up, there is plenty more choice. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Half hour is too generous unless they have messaged to say they are running late.
It would be 15 minutes and a phone call or I'd be on my way home.
Like you, I don't meet very often and this is one of the reasons why, I can't be arsed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If they've not been in contact that day I'd wait maybe twenty minutes. If they message to say they're running late I'd probably wait longer than half an hour. "
I'd have messaged my potential meet a few times on the day to confirm things and see if if feel they aren't getting cold feet.
If they haven't been in touch a couple hrs before to confirm then I wouldn't go as I'd assume they're not interested and not turning up. |
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By *izzy. OP Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
It was meant to be yesterday. He changed it to today. It was confirmed earlier today . I had to go to work , but checked for any messages to cancel or postpone before I set out from home.
I can't be bothered messaging to ask where he was. Will wait for an apology or excuse..... But he isn't likely to get another chance. |
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"It was meant to be yesterday. He changed it to today. It was confirmed earlier today . I had to go to work , but checked for any messages to cancel or postpone before I set out from home.
I can't be bothered messaging to ask where he was. Will wait for an apology or excuse..... But he isn't likely to get another chance. "
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"Thanks for your thoughts....and I am off home.
So half an hour waiting is my new rule . Cheers xx "
I wouldn't give it that long, you're being way to kind, why not call him after 5 minutes then you can be on your way home.
If he's genuinely stuck in traffic etc etc a text takes 30 seconds to pull over and send to let you know where you stand or even a hands free call.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If somebody is more than 15 minutes late with no communication then it is fairly certain they are not going to turn up. Most people have a smart phone and it takes 30 seconds to log on to here and send a message. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It was meant to be yesterday. He changed it to today. It was confirmed earlier today . I had to go to work , but checked for any messages to cancel or postpone before I set out from home.
I can't be bothered messaging to ask where he was. Will wait for an apology or excuse..... But he isn't likely to get another chance. "
Report to admin, block and move on. He's probably been reading all this and thinking .... shit.
If you hadnt heard from him that evening (giving him a massive benefit of doubt) then he never was coming, just getting off and playing you and he'll do it to someone else, so report and block. Pass on his profile to friends to be aware too but don't publicly name. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well I had what I thought was a no show last night. 50 minutes late he messaged me from outside. First thoughts were tell him to go forth. Very pleased I didnt, he had good reason for being late and not letting me know. And better still we both enjoyed each other very much. There are still some decent people on here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It's the first social meet with this chap. I am sat in the pub carpark . Pain as I rarely do new meets these days. Hey ho. Stick with going to my local club. I know if someone doesn't show up, there is plenty more choice. "
How long did you wait in the end? Sorry he didn't show but hope he apologised
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By *izzy. OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It's the first social meet with this chap. I am sat in the pub carpark . Pain as I rarely do new meets these days. Hey ho. Stick with going to my local club. I know if someone doesn't show up, there is plenty more choice. How long did you wait in the end? Sorry he didn't show but hope he apologised "
I waited 30 minutes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"10 mins max omg that's no time at all, what if trains late or he got his cock caught in his zipper after having a pee I mean 10 mins flies by  "
Exxcuse Exxcuse me too many excuses and allowances. Lol  |
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"It's the first social meet with this chap. I am sat in the pub carpark . Pain as I rarely do new meets these days. Hey ho. Stick with going to my local club. I know if someone doesn't show up, there is plenty more choice. How long did you wait in the end? Sorry he didn't show but hope he apologised
I waited 30 minutes. "
What an absolute arse this man is, don’t give home the time of day, so sorry you had to endure this... can someone please try to explain what kick someone gets out of this, it absolutely baffles me???
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"It's the first social meet with this chap. I am sat in the pub carpark . Pain as I rarely do new meets these days. Hey ho. Stick with going to my local club. I know if someone doesn't show up, there is plenty more choice. How long did you wait in the end? Sorry he didn't show but hope he apologised
I waited 30 minutes.
What an absolute arse this man is, don’t give home the time of day, so sorry you had to endure this... can someone please try to explain what kick someone gets out of this, it absolutely baffles me???
HG"
Some bottle out at the last minute or just get a kick out off wasting people's time and have no intention of meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's the first social meet with this chap. I am sat in the pub carpark . Pain as I rarely do new meets these days. Hey ho. Stick with going to my local club. I know if someone doesn't show up, there is plenty more choice. How long did you wait in the end? Sorry he didn't show but hope he apologised
I waited 30 minutes.
What an absolute arse this man is, don’t give home the time of day, so sorry you had to endure this... can someone please try to explain what kick someone gets out of this, it absolutely baffles me???
HG
Some bottle out at the last minute or just get a kick out off wasting people's time and have no intention of meeting."
This.
It’s happened to me twice on here now, I don’t even bother her angry.
I’m now even more picky about who I’ll chat to thanks to them though! |
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By *ymaleMan
over a year ago
nr Bradford |
"It's the first social meet with this chap. I am sat in the pub carpark . Pain as I rarely do new meets these days. Hey ho. Stick with going to my local club. I know if someone doesn't show up, there is plenty more choice. How long did you wait in the end? Sorry he didn't show but hope he apologised
I waited 30 minutes.
What an absolute arse this man is, don’t give home the time of day, so sorry you had to endure this... can someone please try to explain what kick someone gets out of this, it absolutely baffles me???
HG
Some bottle out at the last minute or just get a kick out off wasting people's time and have no intention of meeting.
This.
It’s happened to me twice on here now, I don’t even bother her angry.
I’m now even more picky about who I’ll chat to thanks to them though! "
Have to say I've spoken to you briefly a few times on here, and I've found you nothing but polite and engaging. So if there's fault to be had, it's the clowns who let you down. And your positive response is a credit to you. I think the lesson is, don't let others weaknesses taint your outlook and to those who do waste others time, perhaps you should grow up or grow a pair and stop pissing people around...you know who you are I'm sure. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's the first social meet with this chap. I am sat in the pub carpark . Pain as I rarely do new meets these days. Hey ho. Stick with going to my local club. I know if someone doesn't show up, there is plenty more choice. How long did you wait in the end? Sorry he didn't show but hope he apologised
I waited 30 minutes.
What an absolute arse this man is, don’t give home the time of day, so sorry you had to endure this... can someone please try to explain what kick someone gets out of this, it absolutely baffles me???
HG
Some bottle out at the last minute or just get a kick out off wasting people's time and have no intention of meeting.
This.
It’s happened to me twice on here now, I don’t even bother her angry.
I’m now even more picky about who I’ll chat to thanks to them though!
Have to say I've spoken to you briefly a few times on here, and I've found you nothing but polite and engaging. So if there's fault to be had, it's the clowns who let you down. And your positive response is a credit to you. I think the lesson is, don't let others weaknesses taint your outlook and to those who do waste others time, perhaps you should grow up or grow a pair and stop pissing people around...you know who you are I'm sure."
Aw thank you!
I’m nothing other than polite unless people give me a reason not to be.
I blocked both guys who messed me about, one ended up making a new profile to apologise three times and state he made a huge mistake and would like to make it up to me, no thank you!
I just think having your time wasted comes with sites like this, so I don’t let it bother me, but I totally get why it pisses people off. I just think it was probably not meant to be and it’s another bullet dodged! |
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By *ymaleMan
over a year ago
nr Bradford |
"It's the first social meet with this chap. I am sat in the pub carpark . Pain as I rarely do new meets these days. Hey ho. Stick with going to my local club. I know if someone doesn't show up, there is plenty more choice. How long did you wait in the end? Sorry he didn't show but hope he apologised
I waited 30 minutes.
What an absolute arse this man is, don’t give home the time of day, so sorry you had to endure this... can someone please try to explain what kick someone gets out of this, it absolutely baffles me???
HG
Some bottle out at the last minute or just get a kick out off wasting people's time and have no intention of meeting.
This.
It’s happened to me twice on here now, I don’t even bother her angry.
I’m now even more picky about who I’ll chat to thanks to them though!
Have to say I've spoken to you briefly a few times on here, and I've found you nothing but polite and engaging. So if there's fault to be had, it's the clowns who let you down. And your positive response is a credit to you. I think the lesson is, don't let others weaknesses taint your outlook and to those who do waste others time, perhaps you should grow up or grow a pair and stop pissing people around...you know who you are I'm sure.
Aw thank you!
I’m nothing other than polite unless people give me a reason not to be.
I blocked both guys who messed me about, one ended up making a new profile to apologise three times and state he made a huge mistake and would like to make it up to me, no thank you!
I just think having your time wasted comes with sites like this, so I don’t let it bother me, but I totally get why it pisses people off. I just think it was probably not meant to be and it’s another bullet dodged! "
Frighteningly pragmatic and a credit to you. But do you think a large part of the issue of no shows lies in a lack of respect for others? Because by pulling the no show stunt, it's bound to be taken as a slight. I'll admit to being late to a meet because my sat nav sold me a kipper, but I kept in touch and made it in the end. So it's not as though courtesy in the face of delay isn't possible, unless you don't give a monkeys?! |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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I would only wait until I've finished my drink. If there's no contact from them on meet day, I know I've been ghosted and don't even bother going. I send them a polite message saying no contact on meet day, I don't leave my house. I explain this early on so they know it. I don't meet very often as it's a waste of time in most cases. I tend to meet friends of friends now and totally understand why a lot of people are mainly meeting at clubs. Unfortunately there aren't any in my area.  |
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Ive never had a no show but id finish my drink and go. However, if they arrived in that time but more than 10 minutes late(with no contact) the social would be nil and void as id already be pissed off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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not been stood up or a no show so personally i dont know.
but if it did, enough time for me to finish my drink and No i personally wouldn't give another chance! |
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