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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all, I'm a white guy who happens to find black women very attractive. I've had relationships and spectacularly fulfilling liaisons before, so they're not a strange new concept to cross off my bucket list (seems there are some guys like that out there, sadly). Big whoop-de-doo, I know. But please hear me out:
As I'm new here, I wonder why the "white women seeking BBC" thing is very much visible and has its own theme nights, but not the guys attracted to black ladies? I can understand personal preferences and the reality of how many/few black women actually venture here, I thought I'd better check I'm not missing something else obvious or not looking in the right places?
Is it just too niche/taboo or have I not cracked all the acronym codes properly?
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How come I always see black ladies at parties and count at least two among my friends? There are parties aimed at people like you plus those aimed at black people of both sexes, plus a lot of black ladies go to BMFC, Curvy Club and other parties. Do your research, and good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you want to answer your question you need to look deep into society, racism and white supremacism. Dating/sex and habit associated with them are just manifestations of a deeper problem |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks to those who have already replied. In my defence, I am very, very new here and to the lifestyle etc. We were all new here once!
I did follow the curvy club thread but got psyched out because I only saw lots of messages from curvy white women about black guys, so I thought I'd be laughed out of the building. And yes, that is all in my head and yes, I will learn to get over myself eventually! I'll keep my eyes open for the next event then. |
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If black women want to be singled out as 'different', then don't go crying to society that they are being treated 'differently'.
Equally, what would happen if someone wanted a white woman only club? It would be discounted as racist.
It's only the double standards that make me question the logic of this. |
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"If black women want to be singled out as 'different', then don't go crying to society that they are being treated 'differently'.
Equally, what would happen if someone wanted a white woman only club? It would be discounted as racist.
It's only the double standards that make me question the logic of this."
No one said "only". |
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"Thanks to those who have already replied. In my defence, I am very, very new here and to the lifestyle etc. We were all new here once!
I did follow the curvy club thread but got psyched out because I only saw lots of messages from curvy white women about black guys, so I thought I'd be laughed out of the building. And yes, that is all in my head and yes, I will learn to get over myself eventually! I'll keep my eyes open for the next event then."
Well, I was there. There were some really lovely black ladies. Very friendly. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I really didn't mean to start a semantics war!
As a new guy, I would instinctively not go to a bmfc event as I am excruciatingly white, and would presume any black ladies there were expressly not looking for the likes of me that night!
However, as I get to attend more events, I hope more opportunities arise. Thanks for your advice everyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I really didn't mean to start a semantics war!
As a new guy, I would instinctively not go to a bmfc event as I am excruciatingly white, and would presume any black ladies there were expressly not looking for the likes of me that night!
However, as I get to attend more events, I hope more opportunities arise. Thanks for your advice everyone."
I think events are definitely the way to go  |
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"It's only the double standards that make me question the logic of this.
No one said "only"."
You're right, I did jump to that conclusion.
I just feel that people should be people and not categorised for any reason of race. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hey OP,
I think this idea was bandied about a while back by the lady who either attends or organises the one at Radletts. I'd love to attend such an event but living in Sheffield, London is too far. I don't think there's enough black women up North to organise such an event but we did exist.
I think there's far deeper meanings behind the BMFC and BBC (hate that phrase) fetishes which I won't go into now but basically that's why they're far more visable. |
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I dont post in the forums very often but this subject interests me as someone in a interracial relationship. I think its ok for the original post member to discuss a preference. But clearly when this preference is based on beauty (which i believe the original member who posted is) thats fine. But when you start to include darker elements of raceplay e.g ghetto gagger porn it is harmful to all involved.
Fetishism exists in most if not all elements of society and it's not just sexual. It's mainstream cultures obsession with the "other" and human nature to want to experience other things. |
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"Fetishism exists in most if not all elements of society and it's not just sexual. It's mainstream cultures obsession with the "other" and human nature to want to experience other things. "
That's very true |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I did mean that I tend to
find black women more attractive, both physically and personality-wise, than my fellow Anglo-Saxons. There is no sinister racist undertone or fetishism to it, just my preference. |
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By *eyKMan
over a year ago
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Jeez they've jumped down your throat haven't they?!
I've been with several black woman but unfortunately the area I'm in isn't pararly diverse. That being said when I've searched for women on here there seems to be very few which is a real shame.
I see plenty off women searching for only BBC and there are plenty of events for women who are soley interested in black men. Having a BWFC is no different.
Each to their own and good luck in your search. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Jeez they've jumped down your throat haven't they?!
I've been with several black woman but unfortunately the area I'm in isn't pararly diverse. That being said when I've searched for women on here there seems to be very few which is a real shame.
I see plenty off women searching for only BBC and there are plenty of events for women who are soley interested in black men. Having a BWFC is no different.
Each to their own and good luck in your search. "
Totally agree, it’s all cool. |
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"I just wanted advice on where to look, as the numbers game here is hugely stacked against me. I'll just wait for the next curvy club I suppose.
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Look for information on the site. There are other parties. Try BMFC, BWFC and others. You clearly went to school, so use your research skills. |
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I think the suggestions that have been made are good. Regardless of your ethnicity if you go to bmfc event you'll find cool people from all backgrounds. Any fears you personally may have I assure you wouldn't be an issue as the nature of the event leaves us all with a degree of vulnerability. Also you would be surprised how many black women in the scene are attracted only to white males |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Aren't they all just women? 
Err.. No.
Are you saying black women aren't women 
I can't believe you are so what did you mean?"
I assumed by saying "aren't they all just women" you were suggesting we're all the same. So no, black women aren't the same as other women. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would love to go to a BWFC party if there ever as one!
As a black girl who loves the white male I think I’d fit in nicely! Haha.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with seeking what you fancy. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would love to go to a BWFC party if there ever as one!
As a black girl who loves the white male I think I’d fit in nicely! Haha.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with seeking what you fancy. "
Thanks for your contribution, my dear. It seems there may be such a club night in Radlett in September. I am going to write to them and apply, hopefully I'll be there |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Jeez they've jumped down your throat haven't they?!
I've been with several black woman but unfortunately the area I'm in isn't pararly diverse. That being said when I've searched for women on here there seems to be very few which is a real shame.
I see plenty off women searching for only BBC and there are plenty of events for women who are soley interested in black men. Having a BWFC is no different.
Each to their own and good luck in your search. "
I agree.
There is nothing wrong with having a preference and I can’t see anything wrong with what the OP has said.
We all have preferences whether it be race, size, age, hair colour, etc etc and we are entitled to them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would love to go to a BWFC party if there ever as one!
As a black girl who loves the white male I think I’d fit in nicely! Haha.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with seeking what you fancy.
Thanks for your contribution, my dear. It seems there may be such a club night in Radlett in September. I am going to write to them and apply, hopefully I'll be there"
Ooh is there?!
I’d be interested in this.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would love to go to a BWFC party if there ever as one!
As a black girl who loves the white male I think I’d fit in nicely! Haha.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with seeking what you fancy.
Thanks for your contribution, my dear. It seems there may be such a club night in Radlett in September. I am going to write to them and apply, hopefully I'll be there
Ooh is there?!
I’d be interested in this.
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I've messaged you a link! |
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By *ensualMan
over a year ago
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I really don't care about what people prefer so if white women want to go only with black men or black women want to go only with white men, or if people are bi, it is none of mine or anyone else's business but their own.
But I will defend the current interracial parties because on the whole they do not exclude white men. A number of woman attend with their white husbands. As far as know none exclude white men, or Asian men.
At these parties there are black women as well. So they on a whole are truly interracial.
Whereas when I people mention black women fan club, the sub text is the exclusion of black men even though many black men appreciate all women and quite a few I know only like black women. Be that it as it may if the parties were to be black women and white men only if it's the ladies preference that's fine sensible people should get over it.
But please don't moan about the dearth of these parties, go out and start your own. It is perfectly possible to organise and if the effort is put in and if it is truly popular it will take off.
When I started on the scene 5 years ago there were not that many interracial parties. People have put their money where there mouth is and it has taken off. I respect the BMFC as they have worked damn hard to be successful and maintain success. In fact I respect anyone on the scene that holds parties or runs clubs of whatever persuasion, whether BBW, Milf, Bi, kink or or just the standard clubs. They have not looked at other parties and moaned,a lot were swingers before being owners they have gone out and done it and made a success. Therefore I wish any black woman fan club well. I hope plenty spring up and run for years. But please stop comparing and get on with it.
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"I really don't care about what people prefer so if white women want to go only with black men or black women want to go only with white men, or if people are bi, it is none of mine or anyone else's business but their own.
But I will defend the current interracial parties because on the whole they do not exclude white men. A number of woman attend with their white husbands. As far as know none exclude white men, or Asian men.
At these parties there are black women as well. So they on a whole are truly interracial.
Whereas when I people mention black women fan club, the sub text is the exclusion of black men even though many black men appreciate all women and quite a few I know only like black women. Be that it as it may if the parties were to be black women and white men only if it's the ladies preference that's fine sensible people should get over it.
But please don't moan about the dearth of these parties, go out and start your own. It is perfectly possible to organise and if the effort is put in and if it is truly popular it will take off.
When I started on the scene 5 years ago there were not that many interracial parties. People have put their money where there mouth is and it has taken off. I respect the BMFC as they have worked damn hard to be successful and maintain success. In fact I respect anyone on the scene that holds parties or runs clubs of whatever persuasion, whether BBW, Milf, Bi, kink or or just the standard clubs. They have not looked at other parties and moaned,a lot were swingers before being owners they have gone out and done it and made a success. Therefore I wish any black woman fan club well. I hope plenty spring up and run for years. But please stop comparing and get on with it.
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Love the new look.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd love to attend such an event but living in Sheffield, London is too far. I don't think there's enough black women up North to organise such an event but we did exist.
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There are dozens of us! DOZENS!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would love to go to a BWFC party if there ever as one!
As a black girl who loves the white male I think I’d fit in nicely! Haha.
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with seeking what you fancy. "
How far is Wolverhampton again?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Be very careful what you post and how you phrase things in these forums. If you don't add a disclaimer to every statement, you'll have the forum clique and the forum police down on you in a heartbeat.
While we profess to be in a culturally diverse society and we are expected.. rightly so.. to accept it, it's mightily ironic that we get slated for specifying a preference to another skin colour, race, religion to our own. If you're white man and only want a white woman, your racist, if you're white man and only want a black woman, there's some underlying tone of ghetto whore appreciation or dark seated roots of slavery where you subconsciously want to control a black female chambermaid!
This is the absolute hypocrisy and irony of the world we live in and these forums are the daily proof of these.
You're not allowed to find a skin colour attractive or not on here. You can have a favourite shade of brown felt tip pen tho and nobody bats an eyelid. You can worship a white sports car and again, not a problem. Come to show a bit of desire for human skin colour tho and wo betide you!
People think it's all down to skin colour and 'big cock' in my case, or in your case it's down to skin colour and 'seeing if it's pink on the inside'. People make assumptions based on their own ill-founded beliefs. They fail to recognise that humans of a different origin have traits that are attractive and different to the humans of the same origin. By origin I don't mean 'but I was born in England' origin, I refer to ethnic origin.
I find black guys have a far superior respect for me as a woman than most white guys and yet my husband is white.
I'll not keep waffling on, but please, don't get yourself embroiled in any debates on these forums. This place is riddled with pretentious guys who'll say anything they think a woman wants to hear, couples who take whichever side has the strongest majority, and women who'll just play holier than tho to everyone because... although they hate 'labels'.. they'll happily call themselves Unicorns to portray themselves as desirable to an audience they choose to condemn on a daily basis.
It's as fickle as it gets in here fella. Tread with caution.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you for your candid and honest opinion.
Looking at the positive side I, and a couple of gorgeous black ladies, have discovered that such a club night does already exist, so now we just have to play the waiting game.
Happy Fabbing! I've got SLS on Friday to look forward to... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd love to attend such an event but living in Sheffield, London is too far. I don't think there's enough black women up North to organise such an event but we did exist.
There are dozens of us! DOZENS! "
So.. they'll be you and I hehe.. party for 2 ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So far, this thread has revealed the existence of 2 (possibly) relevant nights, both within the M25 area. That's great for a southerner like me, but obviously there is scope for a BWFC party further north of London than Watford!
Does anyone know of existing clubs up there that might be convinced to host one, or do we all pool together, go maverick and start our own?
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Be very careful what you post and how you phrase things in these forums. If you don't add a disclaimer to every statement, you'll have the forum clique and the forum police down on you in a heartbeat.
While we profess to be in a culturally diverse society and we are expected.. rightly so.. to accept it, it's mightily ironic that we get slated for specifying a preference to another skin colour, race, religion to our own. If you're white man and only want a white woman, your racist, if you're white man and only want a black woman, there's some underlying tone of ghetto whore appreciation or dark seated roots of slavery where you subconsciously want to control a black female chambermaid!
This is the absolute hypocrisy and irony of the world we live in and these forums are the daily proof of these.
You're not allowed to find a skin colour attractive or not on here. You can have a favourite shade of brown felt tip pen tho and nobody bats an eyelid. You can worship a white sports car and again, not a problem. Come to show a bit of desire for human skin colour tho and wo betide you!
People think it's all down to skin colour and 'big cock' in my case, or in your case it's down to skin colour and 'seeing if it's pink on the inside'. People make assumptions based on their own ill-founded beliefs. They fail to recognise that humans of a different origin have traits that are attractive and different to the humans of the same origin. By origin I don't mean 'but I was born in England' origin, I refer to ethnic origin.
I find black guys have a far superior respect for me as a woman than most white guys and yet my husband is white.
I'll not keep waffling on, but please, don't get yourself embroiled in any debates on these forums. This place is riddled with pretentious guys who'll say anything they think a woman wants to hear, couples who take whichever side has the strongest majority, and women who'll just play holier than tho to everyone because... although they hate 'labels'.. they'll happily call themselves Unicorns to portray themselves as desirable to an audience they choose to condemn on a daily basis.
It's as fickle as it gets in here fella. Tread with caution.
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"I just wanted advice on where to look, as the numbers game here is hugely stacked against me. I'll just wait for the next curvy club I suppose.
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I too tend to find black women more attractive, not exclusively but just what I find most attractive. If you're looking to meet women on the scene then I can recommend chameleons at the weekend, a very busy club and very attractive women of all types, however propotionately more black women by far than any other club. |
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"Aren't they all just women?
Err.. No.
Are you saying black women aren't women
I can't believe you are so what did you mean?
I assumed by saying "aren't they all just women" you were suggesting we're all the same. So no, black women aren't the same as other women."
Damn right you are there, just grab the hair by mistake in the heat of the moment and you can lose your dick, lol. |
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As an example, 3 weeks ago at chameleons as we were leaving a little early there were 20 mixed black and white couples, unusually split evenly f/m and m/F and about 25+ white or other mix. And an amazing normal night.
Although I have to admit it was by far the highest white male, black female mix we've ever seen. And quite a few single girls too, |
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