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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You get people of all shapes and sizes.
Most clubs have very friendly staff who make you feel at ease.
Embrace it and go! We love Cupid's , your profile is hidden so can't see your location to recommend clubs near to you.
Good luck xx
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No, it's all ages, shapes and sizes. Don't worry about your size and age, be confident.
As to going alone, it can depend on the club and the night. I would have said it'll be fine up until recently, when I had a bad experience (which would have been much worse had I not had a friend with me). |
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over a year ago
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who is at a club is very much luck of the draw on the night but you do get all ages. You might like to choose a club that has either a specific night or parties for BBWs and their admirers, such as Chameleons in Birmingham, also it might be an idea to make sure the club know you are a nervous newbie, they might even find you one of the regulars to chaperone you about a bit till you feel comfortable.
As for being safe, realistically you are safer in a swingers club than you would be in a normal vanilla nightclub
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By *ools47Woman
over a year ago
Failsworth |
Completely understand how you feel OP. I'm in a similar situation, and so nervous about going, I'm no slim him and really self conscious about the dressing down aspect.
I have however found someone on here who is used to clubs and he has said be will take me and look after me, is this something that you could do?
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"No, it's all ages, shapes and sizes. Don't worry about your size and age, be confident.
As to going alone, it can depend on the club and the night. I would have said it'll be fine up until recently, when I had a bad experience (which would have been much worse had I not had a friend with me). "
Maybe find a few other nervous club newbie girls to go with .... possibly ?  |
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I’ve been on my own, it’s nervewracking beforehand but fine once you’re there! There are people of all shapes and sizes, all ages you won’t feel out of place I’m sure.
Good luck! You could put up a meet or a post to find other single women in your area to go with. I’d go with you if you were near me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m a larger, older woman and feel less judged about my body in clubs generally than in real life social occasions. People of all shapes and sizes really do attend and have fun. I would happily accompany a woman to a local club if she wanted to experience it. No licking of bits expected or necessary. |
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By *ottie 13Woman
over a year ago
Happy go lucky |
I'm in a similar situation really want to go but nervous about going on my own for the first one so I'm going to a social at a club localish to me on friday and take it from there I'm sure it will be ok once I'm there  |
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"I would really like to visit a club but as an older larger lady I’m finding it hard to pluck up the courage. Are all the clubs full of young beautiful people as I imagine?"
You will be amazed by the diversity of the people you will see in the clubs.
There will be something for everyone and you will have a great time.
Fingers crossed for you x |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
As a lady in my 50s and of larger size, I feel much happier going into a swingers club alone, than I would a pub.
I get admired and chatted to in a club. I get ignored or frowned at in a regular pub.
Once you have been you will love it.
I suggest you mention the club you are hoping to go to in your status and ask if anyone one would accompany you. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
"Thinking about it myself, had offers but id prefer to meet a lady 1st 1to1 to see how it goes before id go to club together..."
I meant to go in together and keep her company initially until she finds her feet. Not to spend the night together or any promises of action. So it would be a helpful social, |
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"I would really like to visit a club but as an older larger lady I’m finding it hard to pluck up the courage. Are all the clubs full of young beautiful people as I imagine?"
most clubs yeah they do |
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"I would really like to visit a club but as an older larger lady I’m finding it hard to pluck up the courage. Are all the clubs full of young beautiful people as I imagine?"
I am in the same position ...I don't know anyone yet who would be willing to go with me ..and I so want to experience the club scene ..I am close to Northampton and Rugby but would also consider traveling to Birmingham ....
If there are any other solo ladies out there wanting to go maybe we could go together ?? |
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"I would really like to visit a club but as an older larger lady I’m finding it hard to pluck up the courage. Are all the clubs full of young beautiful people as I imagine?
I am in the same position ...I don't know anyone yet who would be willing to go with me ..and I so want to experience the club scene ..I am close to Northampton and Rugby but would also consider traveling to Birmingham ....
If there are any other solo ladies out there wanting to go maybe we could go together ?? "
A great idea. Just remember to arrange it out of the forums or you may end up with a lot more company than you expected  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hi all i have only in the last 2weeks done my first club...eventually...purple mamba in nottingham...and i carnt reccomend it enough tbh i dont know why i worked myself up all this time,carnt wait to go again...i must thank my close friend for accompanying me tho |
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"I would really like to visit a club but as an older larger lady I’m finding it hard to pluck up the courage. Are all the clubs full of young beautiful people as I imagine?
I am in the same position ...I don't know anyone yet who would be willing to go with me ..and I so want to experience the club scene ..I am close to Northampton and Rugby but would also consider traveling to Birmingham ....
If there are any other solo ladies out there wanting to go maybe we could go together ?? "
Drop us a pm. We would gladly chaperone you at Chameleons if you were interested.  |
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"Thanks Scottish guy...
I should have added any other solo ladies or gents even who fancy getting together to visit a club ..please message me privately. "
Honestly, clubs are not as daunting as anyone who has never been will be imagining. Ladies will be well looked after by staff, especially if they request it, and guys just need to be willing to engage and chat with people.
I won't message you as you are all messaged out |
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"I would really like to visit a club but as an older larger lady I’m finding it hard to pluck up the courage. Are all the clubs full of young beautiful people as I imagine?"
We attended VA festival of fun as our 1st club visit. There were people all shapes and sizes x
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By *nest OP Woman
over a year ago
Okehampton |
"No, it's all ages, shapes and sizes. Don't worry about your size and age, be confident.
As to going alone, it can depend on the club and the night. I would have said it'll be fine up until recently, when I had a bad experience (which would have been much worse had I not had a friend with me).
Maybe find a few other nervous club newbie girls to go with .... possibly ? "
that’s a good shout. Hadn’t thought of that ta |
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By *elnkazCouple
over a year ago
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I went as a single for 4 yes.. And I'm far from young and beautiful..or slim. Go for it. It certainly does build your confidence. No way would I have thought 4 yrs ago I would walk around a club In lingerie. Let alone naked.. Plus I've met and made loads of friends from Going regular. Oh and yeah got a husband from it too. Lol met Del in my club almost 3 yrs ago. |
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