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Why ask to meet then ignore?
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We’re new and confused...
Been on here for a few weeks and had several messages like; We like your profile and would love to meet...
We say; Like yours too, how about this Saturday, or let us know when best for you...
No reply... in some cases, not even read our message?
What’s bizarre, is it’s verified couples messaging us that state in their profile how they don’t want time wasters... ??
Is this the Fab way? Or are we doing something wrong?
Any advice appreciated 
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You can't blame yourself if that happens on fab you have to take it with a pinch of salt and you can't get your hopes up to much but there are some lovely genuine people on here you just have to persevere and stick it out maybe try a social event or club it's up to you two what you want on here |
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"We’re new and confused...
Been on here for a few weeks and had several messages like; We like your profile and would love to meet...
We say; Like yours too, how about this Saturday, or let us know when best for you...
No reply... in some cases, not even read our message?
What’s bizarre, is it’s verified couples messaging us that state in their profile how they don’t want time wasters... ??
Is this the Fab way? Or are we doing something wrong?
Any advice appreciated
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It does happen and it can for a number of reasons. Have they been online since you’ve sent the message? Perhaps something has happened in the real world that has prevented them from responding to your message. Some people prefer to exchange a few messages first before considering a meet. Maybe only one of them has seen the message and yet to discuss with the other half, or they’ve changed their mind.
Unfortunately, it is what it is. Bear with it, as there are some people out there that do meet. |
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over a year ago
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There are lots of reasons people do this. Perhaps you were chatting to one half of the couple and the other half didn’t feel they wanted to meet when informed (for whatever reason).
Also many couples like to chat for a little time before a meet. In our experience (we’ve been here 4 years this is our second time profile) couples who say they will meet instantly are usually timewasters.
Your best bet is going to a club and getting verified by couples there and you will find people are much more willing to meet.
I bet it won’t be long before you pop your fab cherry and then you’ll be here asking how to juggle so many meets    |
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"We’re new and confused...
Been on here for a few weeks and had several messages like; We like your profile and would love to meet...
We say; Like yours too, how about this Saturday, or let us know when best for you...
No reply... in some cases, not even read our message?
What’s bizarre, is it’s verified couples messaging us that state in their profile how they don’t want time wasters... ??
Is this the Fab way? Or are we doing something wrong?
Any advice appreciated
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It’s happened to me too and I’m not in a couple..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We’re new and confused...
Been on here for a few weeks and had several messages like; We like your profile and would love to meet...
We say; Like yours too, how about this Saturday, or let us know when best for you...
No reply... in some cases, not even read our message?
What’s bizarre, is it’s verified couples messaging us that state in their profile how they don’t want time wasters... ??
Is this the Fab way? Or are we doing something wrong?
Any advice appreciated
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If literally your reply to their first message is let’s meet on Saturday I’m not surprised they’ve ran off. A lot of people like to chat a bit before actually fixing a date to meet |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Our last 3 contacts disappeared in to the ether.
I think it was the "We will meet for a strictly social drink at least once, maybe more before it progresses to something more"
If it wasn't that, then it was "If it progresses then we shall meet you at your home before we invite you to ours"
So either they were to impatient and wanted a shag there and then, or their status was not as described in their profile, i.e they were married
This site is 95% timewaster's. |
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"Our last 3 contacts disappeared in to the ether.
I think it was the "We will meet for a strictly social drink at least once, maybe more before it progresses to something more"
If it wasn't that, then it was "If it progresses then we shall meet you at your home before we invite you to ours"
So either they were to impatient and wanted a shag there and then, or their status was not as described in their profile, i.e they were married
This site is 95% timewaster's. "
They spoilt it for us who are genuine. Dont give up though |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
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"We’re new and confused...
Been on here for a few weeks and had several messages like; We like your profile and would love to meet...
We say; Like yours too, how about this Saturday, or let us know when best for you...
No reply... in some cases, not even read our message?
What’s bizarre, is it’s verified couples messaging us that state in their profile how they don’t want time wasters... ??
Is this the Fab way? Or are we doing something wrong?
Any advice appreciated
If literally your reply to their first message is let’s meet on Saturday I’m not surprised they’ve ran off. A lot of people like to chat a bit before actually fixing a date to meet"
This ,if we got this on our couple profile we'd prob delete too
Seems a bit too over keen |
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"We’re new and confused...
Been on here for a few weeks and had several messages like; We like your profile and would love to meet...
We say; Like yours too, how about this Saturday, or let us know when best for you...
No reply... in some cases, not even read our message?
What’s bizarre, is it’s verified couples messaging us that state in their profile how they don’t want time wasters... ??
Is this the Fab way? Or are we doing something wrong?
Any advice appreciated
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who knows you have very sexy pics must be the people you picked, did you chat on phone? |
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I'd agree with another poster and say you were perhaps jumping the gun a bit. If I sent a message to someone saying I'd potentially be interested in meeting, I'd still want to chat first, see face pics etc before setting a date and time. And I imagine it's even more complex for couples as you need to discuss boundaries and the like. |
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"I'd agree with another poster and say you were perhaps jumping the gun a bit. If I sent a message to someone saying I'd potentially be interested in meeting, I'd still want to chat first, see face pics etc before setting a date and time. And I imagine it's even more complex for couples as you need to discuss boundaries and the like. "
We do all of this, but it still doesn't work! See earlier reply about 5 up from this one! |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
"I'd agree with another poster and say you were perhaps jumping the gun a bit. If I sent a message to someone saying I'd potentially be interested in meeting, I'd still want to chat first, see face pics etc before setting a date and time. And I imagine it's even more complex for couples as you need to discuss boundaries and the like.
We do all of this, but it still doesn't work! See earlier reply about 5 up from this one! "
Just read your profile and dont know who you are looking to meet tbh |
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Nothing wrong with your profile, it just seems to happen and happens to us as well,whilst it can be bloody annoying the amount of nice couples who aren't rude and ignorant make up for the ones that are
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By (user no longer on site)
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We lose alot of interest when we say we only do our meets in clubs and that's fine. We prefer doing it this way as their is no pressure on either party if the attractions not there in person  |
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"We’re new and confused...
Been on here for a few weeks and had several messages like; We like your profile and would love to meet...
We say; Like yours too, how about this Saturday, or let us know when best for you...
No reply... in some cases, not even read our message?
What’s bizarre, is it’s verified couples messaging us that state in their profile how they don’t want time wasters... ??
Is this the Fab way? Or are we doing something wrong?
Any advice appreciated
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Single male = wife came home early. |
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"We lose alot of interest when we say we only do our meets in clubs and that's fine. We prefer doing it this way as their is no pressure on either party if the attractions not there in person "
We’re the same. Much prefer parties or large group socials |
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Thanks everyone, some interesting thoughts there. I guess you can never know..
We’re looking forward to a club visit later this month, at least we can see who we’re speaking to, and hopefully we can get one or two verifications xx |
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"We’re new and confused...
Been on here for a few weeks and had several messages like; We like your profile and would love to meet...
We say; Like yours too, how about this Saturday, or let us know when best for you...
No reply... in some cases, not even read our message?
What’s bizarre, is it’s verified couples messaging us that state in their profile how they don’t want time wasters... ??
Is this the Fab way? Or are we doing something wrong?
Any advice appreciated
If literally your reply to their first message is let’s meet on Saturday I’m not surprised they’ve ran off. A lot of people like to chat a bit before actually fixing a date to meet
This ,if we got this on our couple profile we'd prob delete too
Seems a bit too over keen "
Same. We don't do fuck and runs, so anyone suggesting a meet after 1 message would be ignored.
If that's your preferred way of playing, a club would probably suit you better. |
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Personally I found your profile a little "wordy", even though mine probably is too! I know long sentences can put some people off who are rapidly screening profiles before moving on.
That people are unreliable is frustrating but common to a site of this nature, as said before something may happen in their family life to halt proceedings but also, there are some who get their kick out of initial contact and flirting but who are afraid of the "actual meet". Sadly this is human nature.
I understand that you do not want to be hounded by single men, thus block contact from them...but I wanted to send this to you as a PM/helpful note and wasn't allowed to because I'm "single".
Stick with it. When you've a good group of friends and a few meets under your belt it will start to run like clockwork...only more FUN!
Kind Regards! |
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"We lose alot of interest when we say we only do our meets in clubs and that's fine. We prefer doing it this way as their is no pressure on either party if the attractions not there in person "
Same here and a lot of people disappear when we tell them but we find its the best way to meet people by far |
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" Just read your profile and dont know who you are looking to meet tbh "
That surprises us somewhat, thought it was relatively clear.
Just had another timewaster as well |
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