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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey girls and guys. What’s your take on the best way for a guy to pull a girl in public.
I feel less like the teen I used to be where we’d just chat up any girls our age but now more mature.
How would you approach or would you keep it aside for after hours |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yeah I wish it was like that. Everyone’s heads glued to their phones. It’s like a “don’t even try to talk to me” vibe going on.
I’ll try it tomorrow on the way to work. See who’s disconnected and speak to them  |
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"Yeah I wish it was like that. Everyone’s heads glued to their phones. It’s like a “don’t even try to talk to me” vibe going on.
I’ll try it tomorrow on the way to work. See who’s disconnected and speak to them "
is it the phone thing that's stopping it happening nowadays? I suppose its difficult to strike up a conversation with someone who's looking at their phone. I used to read on my commute but it didn't stop people talking to me. It was usually just a quick comment about the weather or something like that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm big on going offline. Soooo many benefits. I've chewed my way through lots of advice on pick up etc. But I very much cherry pick the rare gems and chuck the rest. I think it's all about coming up with something that you're comfortable with... something that works for you.
Plus... there are killer secrets I'm not going to share online or they'd ruin my advantage haha  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is really the world we live in......
Young people don’t know how to communicate anymore........
Op everything starts with eye contact and then a smile.... if he/she smiles back.... Say hello , my name is ***** , what’s your name?
Come back after you completed this first task.... |
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By *inge61Couple
over a year ago
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do everything of the phone or pc lol it makes you laugh that people think life is on line get out there chat flirt across a room go old style it works try going out and leave the phone at home once  |
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Young people do communicate, I see it every day. I also see loads of older people sitting together staring out of windows, reading papers or just looking at their phones.
The way we communicate is changing but face to face will continue until AI completely takes over. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its very odd so many young people are social retards.
just imaging the hunched backed people in 50 years or so all with severe arithritis in their thumbs.
I do not go to pubs anymore as there is no conversation. just miserable young people moaning about their life to others on facebook etc . |
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"Its very odd so many young people are social retards.
just imaging the hunched backed people in 50 years or so all with severe arithritis in their thumbs.
I do not go to pubs anymore as there is no conversation. just miserable young people moaning about their life to others on facebook etc ."
How do you know what these people are posting on facebook.
Social inadequacy was prevalent long before mobiles were invented |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Its very odd so many young people are social retards.
just imaging the hunched backed people in 50 years or so all with severe arithritis in their thumbs.
I do not go to pubs anymore as there is no conversation. just miserable young people moaning about their life to others on facebook etc .
How do you know what these people are posting on facebook.
Social inadequacy was prevalent long before mobiles were invented"
 As were excuses not to approach people |
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"Its very odd so many young people are social retards.
just imaging the hunched backed people in 50 years or so all with severe arithritis in their thumbs.
I do not go to pubs anymore as there is no conversation. just miserable young people moaning about their life to others on facebook etc .
How do you know what these people are posting on facebook.
Social inadequacy was prevalent long before mobiles were invented
As were excuses not to approach people "
Indeed! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey girls and guys. What’s your take on the best way for a guy to pull a girl in public.
I feel less like the teen I used to be where we’d just chat up any girls our age but now more mature.
How would you approach or would you keep it aside for after hours "
The teen you still are you mean?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Haha, I’m back. Just noticed that the way I’ve worded the question makes me look like a loner/ loser  I’m far from socially awkward. I talk to a lot of strangers and have a lot of chit chat. It’s actually the rest. They’re weird. I look at them and they’re pretty much glued to their phones.
Anywho, saw a group of girls at lunch. Spoke to them and ate with them. Got their numbers |
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"Haha, I’m back. Just noticed that the way I’ve worded the question makes me look like a loner/ loser I’m far from socially awkward. I talk to a lot of strangers and have a lot of chit chat. It’s actually the rest. They’re weird. I look at them and they’re pretty much glued to their phones.
Anywho, saw a group of girls at lunch. Spoke to them and ate with them. Got their numbers "
Good. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey girls and guys. What’s your take on the best way for a guy to pull a girl in public.
I feel less like the teen I used to be where we’d just chat up any girls our age but now more mature.
How would you approach or would you keep it aside for after hours "
If they arnt on their phone make a corny joke anything to start up conversation.
People in London do look more angry, I’ve found so long as you don’t say hello it’s all good haha. An up north , you say hello an nothing else lol good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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is it the phone thing that's stopping it happening nowadays?"
Phone and music are potential big blockers to conversations in public. Apparently many young women wear headphones to stop public harassment and that's a very real thing for a lot of women. Feminists are very big on street harassment and often write about why women should be left alone in those circumstances. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey girls and guys. What’s your take on the best way for a guy to pull a girl in public.
I feel less like the teen I used to be where we’d just chat up any girls our age but now more mature.
How would you approach or would you keep it aside for after hours "
show her a cock pic then say what ya think? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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is it the phone thing that's stopping it happening nowadays?
Phone and music are potential big blockers to conversations in public. Apparently many young women wear headphones to stop public harassment and that's a very real thing for a lot of women. Feminists are very big on street harassment and often write about why women should be left alone in those circumstances."
Being harassed in the street is very different to someone starting a friendly and appropriate conversation in public spaces. |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
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"Hey girls and guys. What’s your take on the best way for a guy to pull a girl in public.
I feel less like the teen I used to be where we’d just chat up any girls our age but now more mature.
How would you approach or would you keep it aside for after hours "
Just walk up to her and say "Your lucks in, you've pulled."  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Aha, nah it’s not that I can’t pull. It’s more when I’m commuting and stuff like that. At a pub, bar or club it’s all good aha"
I see what you mean OP, a different approach is needed entirely as at a bar or club it is much accepted that others will find you attractive and "make a move" so to speak, alcohol is often involved as well.
Whereas in everyday life minds are elsewhere often with work, kids, the day to day stuff that needs doing etc?
It's still simple enough though, it just requires you being more subtle. Show you're genuine and don't take yourself too seriously for a start. And show you pay attention to those you find attractive and make the effort, it's often appreciated. And a compliment still goes a long way, provided it's neither too cheesy or too laden with smut ha!
Though smut provided it's done in a funny cheeky way is permissable, I once came to a halt at some traffic lights in north London driving a crew van and alongside me was an attractive lady driving a 4x4 with what looked like a large shrub strapped down to the roof. I glanced across at her and she looked back and after I quickly gauged that she was A) in a good mood and B) Approachable in a flirtatious way I simply smiled in the right way to show no offence would be made and remarked "That's a lovely bush you've got there, pet." To which she actually smiled back and winked... Only a little thing, but though I'm a genuinely nice person I can also be a cheeky so-and-so ha!
Generally it's chance occurrances like these that lead to further encounters in the vanilla world?
But try to gauge the reaction first and put yourself in their shoes, I can't stress this enough; EMPATHISE. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey girls and guys. What’s your take on the best way for a guy to pull a girl in public.
I feel less like the teen I used to be where we’d just chat up any girls our age but now more mature.
How would you approach or would you keep it aside for after hours "
make a woman laugh and you're half way there, I make women laugh all the time ha |
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By (user no longer on site)
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is it the phone thing that's stopping it happening nowadays?
Phone and music are potential big blockers to conversations in public. Apparently many young women wear headphones to stop public harassment and that's a very real thing for a lot of women. Feminists are very big on street harassment and often write about why women should be left alone in those circumstances.
Being harassed in the street is very different to someone starting a friendly and appropriate conversation in public spaces."
To you and I, yes. But street harassment really means public harassment - pavement, train, bus etc. And even if it is harassment or not in reality, talking to women in such circumstances such as I described is routinely called harassment in articles and memes, especially if headphones are being worn. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Yeah I wish it was like that. Everyone’s heads glued to their phones. It’s like a “don’t even try to talk to me” vibe going on.
I’ll try it tomorrow on the way to work. See who’s disconnected and speak to them
is it the phone thing that's stopping it happening nowadays? I suppose its difficult to strike up a conversation with someone who's looking at their phone. I used to read on my commute but it didn't stop people talking to me. It was usually just a quick comment about the weather or something like that."
I think this is the case, everyone seems to be plugged into something nowadays. We are losing the art of conversation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah I wish it was like that. Everyone’s heads glued to their phones. It’s like a “don’t even try to talk to me” vibe going on.
I’ll try it tomorrow on the way to work. See who’s disconnected and speak to them
is it the phone thing that's stopping it happening nowadays? I suppose its difficult to strike up a conversation with someone who's looking at their phone. I used to read on my commute but it didn't stop people talking to me. It was usually just a quick comment about the weather or something like that.
I think this is the case, everyone seems to be plugged into something nowadays. We are losing the art of conversation. "
A slight tangent, but a very valid point.
It is ironic and slightly sad that technology invented to further communication in the last couple of decades is actually robbing the human race of the ability to do just that face to face. 
Not for me though! For I am what is affectionately known as a chatterbox/gobshite/dinosaurin years to come (delete as appropriate!) |
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Definitely not a bad idea to talk to someone you find attractive In public..
As long as your respectful and confident its all good.
Its 30% attraction the rest is game.
Dont get it twisted its a science, and you can have success in the 90% region if you get it down.
Just don't be your own enemy.. Go get em
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Anywhere. Just smile, be nice and strike up a conversation. Getting talking, judge the vibe (look for mutral flirtation etc). Then if the indications are good be brave and subtly make your intentions know, maybe suggest you take things somewhere else. Then if they do let things flow naturally. That seems to work in my experiance. |
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