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Are you struggling like me?
More women/couples require verifications before first contact, yet none of the women i’ve met have verified me, few have been verified themselves. I have no desire to go to clubs or cam.
I’ve had women want to charge me to verify me, they understand the value of the process to men...even though of little consequence to themselves.
How can this system be improved? How can I get verified? Should I be bothered? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you struggling like me?
More women/couples require verifications before first contact, yet none of the women i’ve met have verified me, few have been verified themselves. I have no desire to go to clubs or cam.
I’ve had women want to charge me to verify me, they understand the value of the process to men...even though of little consequence to themselves.
How can this system be improved? How can I get verified? Should I be bothered?"
Strange that multiple women haven't verified you but not a good verification looking at it from the other side. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm probably about to make myself sound like a nasty bugger 
But this is a little bit of a red flag to me, my concern is why have the women you met not verified you???
What happened, went wrong? |
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You should report anyone who wants to charge you for verification, that's terrible and surely against site rules.
Unfortunately it's just hard going for guys here. Verification will help, but there are just many, many more men here than other demographics, and it's hard to stand out. |
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Two were not verified themselves
Two others left the site &
One i’m Still in contact with has hidden her profile due to family issues.
Plus: two have contacted me wanting money to verify me. Both have been reported |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why are you bothered about verifications if you are getting that much action ? "
Exactly this, you seem to be doing much better than most (single?) men in here. |
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Yes. I have asked her multiple times on site & by email.
We are in regular contact.
Some women don’t understand the importance of it to men.
Why i’m Bothered, is that the lack of veris means that some women i’m Attracted to won’t even open my emails.
Sad for all concerned.
PS: I have swung for years & been to many clubs via my work over the years. I don’t enjoy the cattle market mentality of many of them. I did enjoy chams Nr Birmingham...& was a member there! But swinging for me, is far more than picking up/touching up someone wearing little or Nothing in front of me. I enjoy a mental interaction not just physical. There are many like me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Are you struggling like me?
More women/couples require verifications before first contact, yet none of the women i’ve met have verified me, few have been verified themselves. I have no desire to go to clubs or cam.
I’ve had women want to charge me to verify me, they understand the value of the process to men...even though of little consequence to themselves.
How can this system be improved? How can I get verified? Should I be bothered?"
theirs no value to it don't stress over it ignore the ones who insist on it meet the ones who want to meet, it's simples |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to say. Your status would put off a lot. Not many will want to be used to get a verification. Any woman who may be interested in meeting you, will likely run a mile from that status. Have you tried cams? Or perhaps there is a social in your area, where you don't need a verification to attend. |
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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If it was that important you would do what was needed to get verified. This may not be true op, however it does feel a tad like “you come to me” and not I’ll put the effort into coming to you.
Clubs and socials are great fun and you would get verified.
Wish you the best of luck in your objective. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to say. Your status would put off a lot. Not many will want to be used to get a verification. Any woman who may be interested in meeting you, will likely run a mile from that status. Have you tried cams? Or perhaps there is a social in your area, where you don't need a verification to attend. "
oh cmon on I need a very.........hot woman
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have to say. Your status would put off a lot. Not many will want to be used to get a verification. Any woman who may be interested in meeting you, will likely run a mile from that status. Have you tried cams? Or perhaps there is a social in your area, where you don't need a verification to attend. oh cmon on I need a very.........hot woman "
In this weather, every single woman will be  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have to say. Your status would put off a lot. Not many will want to be used to get a verification. Any woman who may be interested in meeting you, will likely run a mile from that status. Have you tried cams? Or perhaps there is a social in your area, where you don't need a verification to attend. oh cmon on I need a very.........hot woman
In this weather, every single woman will be "
hot? Really |
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As several have said, i’m not doing bad for a single man, so although you fon’t Like my profile others clearly do.
This thread is about the verification system, not my IQ or profile.
As stated earlier. I don’t Cam, Club or Organised Social. Have swung for years. Not for me. Great if it is for you but please try & think what it’s like for other people who don’t share your view. |
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By *mp411Man
over a year ago
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"Are you struggling like me?
More women/couples require verifications before first contact, yet none of the women i’ve met have verified me, few have been verified themselves. I have no desire to go to clubs or cam.
I’ve had women want to charge me to verify me, they understand the value of the process to men...even though of little consequence to themselves.
How can this system be improved? How can I get verified? Should I be bothered?"
You can always message the lady’s you have met to veri you or go on cam |
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I've lost a couple in the past week, because the ladies have left the site.
In fact, I think I've lost about 4 or 5 now due to this since I joined.
I'm not sure if this could or should be reviewed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"As several have said, i’m not doing bad for a single man, so although you fon’t Like my profile others clearly do.
This thread is about the verification system, not my IQ or profile.
As stated earlier. I don’t Cam, Club or Organised Social. Have swung for years. Not for me. Great if it is for you but please try & think what it’s like for other people who don’t share your view."
Well, if you won’t cam, club or social you’re a bit stuffed if the ladies you meet won’t veri you either OP.
People have tried to be helpful, and you’re getting spikey with them.
How about getting your understanding wife to set up a profile, then she could give you that all important veri  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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To be fair you can't want a veri that much if you can't bring yourself to go to a social to get that all important veri.
To be fair unverified for a few months of not let it put me off but once it gets to 6 months or longer it would. As there are so many socials someone could attend just to break that newbie curse |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As several have said, i’m not doing bad for a single man, so although you fon’t Like my profile others clearly do.
This thread is about the verification system, not my IQ or profile.
As stated earlier. I don’t Cam, Club or Organised Social. Have swung for years. Not for me. Great if it is for you but please try & think what it’s like for other people who don’t share your view."
Some were trying to be genuinely helpful. I'll be sure to make a note, not to try and offer you advice again, if you do another OP.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be fair you can't want a veri that much if you can't bring yourself to go to a social to get that all important veri.
To be fair unverified for a few months of not let it put me off but once it gets to 6 months or longer it would. As there are so many socials someone could attend just to break that newbie curse "
but it's only a curse to you thats the point not everyone feels or looks at it as you do, everyone is different |
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"Are you struggling like me?
More women/couples require verifications before first contact, yet none of the women i’ve met have verified me, few have been verified themselves. I have no desire to go to clubs or cam.
I’ve had women want to charge me to verify me, they understand the value of the process to men...even though of little consequence to themselves.
How can this system be improved? How can I get verified? Should I be bothered?"
You have to meet someone or view each other on Webcam to verify them. So unless you meet someone or go on Webcam with them they are not going to verify you. Also they need to be verified to be able to verify you. |
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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago
Calderdale innit |
I'd say you're limiting yourself if you don't cam,club or social tbh op.
Veries are important to some women ,as they could be meeting /chatting to anyone .Verifications aren't the be all and end all,but do help me show they are who they say and give people an idea of what someone is like. |
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"I've lost a couple in the past week, because the ladies have left the site.
In fact, I think I've lost about 4 or 5 now due to this since I joined.
I'm not sure if this could or should be reviewed. "
It has been reviewed. The veris from people you've met that have left will still add to your verification total, you'll still keep the green tick. Only the words will be lost. |
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"I've lost a couple in the past week, because the ladies have left the site.
In fact, I think I've lost about 4 or 5 now due to this since I joined.
I'm not sure if this could or should be reviewed.
It has been reviewed. The veris from people you've met that have left will still add to your verification total, you'll still keep the green tick. Only the words will be lost. "
I realise this, but, it's what they actually said about you, that's the most important bit. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I tried...but until verified, i’m Not alllwed to either.
It’s a Catch22 situation"
Seems like you're doomed, stranded in a nightmarish limbo like Tom Hanks in that airport film. Seems like fate is telling you something.
You might be better giving up trying to get feedback here and try selling some stuff on Ebay to serve your desires. |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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Veris are’t the be and end all on this site if you have a decent profile and pictures, which yours certainly seems to fulfil. Though I’m not sure I enjoy being referred to as a ‘more mature sub’. Makes me feel like an Olay advert with Helen Mirren. Knowledgeable or experienced would go down better for me
Stop worrying about it...just go with the flow and you’ll get one. Just...erm...don’t ask for one. Or hassle. I’ll leave one if I feel no pressure to do so but I don’t like feeling like I’m a veri fuck |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
OP you say some of the people you met weren't verified either so can't verify you? There's a simple enough solution to that - one or other of you pop into the chat rooms and politely request a webcam veri - doesn't have to be anything more than a couple of minutes chat to confirm you are who you say you are - once that veri is given either you can verify the other person or they you and you hide the webcam veri - job done!!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Are you struggling like me?
More women/couples require verifications before first contact, yet none of the women i’ve met have verified me, few have been verified themselves. I have no desire to go to clubs or cam.
I’ve had women want to charge me to verify me, they understand the value of the process to men...even though of little consequence to themselves.
How can this system be improved? How can I get verified? Should I be bothered?"
Try not to care mate, that takes their power away |
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"Hey the vice squad watch most of these clubs just go bang on white van outside they'll verify you  "
Why would the Vice Squad be outside properly licensed, legal establishments?
They are more likely to turn up at illegal parties. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mission Accomplished!
Thank you for your kind comments & assistance!
I’m verified by cam AND meet ! Check it out!!"
Cam you said no way too.
She knew you before
Why did make this post.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be fair you can't want a veri that much if you can't bring yourself to go to a social to get that all important veri.
To be fair unverified for a few months of not let it put me off but once it gets to 6 months or longer it would. As there are so many socials someone could attend just to break that newbie curse but it's only a curse to you thats the point not everyone feels or looks at it as you do, everyone is different "
the original poster obviously does ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Mission Accomplished!
Thank you for your kind comments & assistance!
I’m verified by cam AND meet ! Check it out!!"
So next it’ll be a meet at a club, then a social.... |
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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago
Craggy Island |
"Are you struggling like me?
More women/couples require verifications before first contact, yet none of the women i’ve met have verified me, few have been verified themselves. I have no desire to go to clubs or cam.
I’ve had women want to charge me to verify me, they understand the value of the process to men...even though of little consequence to themselves.
How can this system be improved? How can I get verified? Should I be bothered?"
I don't go chasing after verification.
The only ones I have are from party organisers or from a couple that asked me for one so I got one in return, I don't bother with getting verification from single ladies, their are more then welcome to give me one (pardon the pun) and I will return, but it just not worth the hassle. |
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"As several have said, i’m not doing bad for a single man, so although you fon’t Like my profile others clearly do.
This thread is about the verification system, not my IQ or profile.
As stated earlier. I don’t Cam, Club or Organised Social. Have swung for years. Not for me. Great if it is for you but please try & think what it’s like for other people who don’t share your view."
So you don't like the "meat market" of clubs, preferring to make a connection etc, however you won't go to socials? Sounds to me like you want it all your own way, sometimes you just have to accept that you can either take the advice, go to a social and grin and bear it, or maintain the status quo and struggle on. |
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"Hey the vice squad watch most of these clubs just go bang on white van outside they'll verify you "
I saw the van, banged on it and got into trouble with the owner. Turned out it wasn't the vice after all. |
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"I have to say. Your status would put off a lot. Not many will want to be used to get a verification. Any woman who may be interested in meeting you, will likely run a mile from that status. Have you tried cams? Or perhaps there is a social in your area, where you don't need a verification to attend. "
It might be different where you live but there aren’t many/any organised socials round near us. Hardly ever anyway and then for a single guy there might be a problem getting an invite. I don’t think this is a magic answer to the veri problem. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hey the vice squad watch most of these clubs just go bang on white van outside they'll verify you
Why would the Vice Squad be outside properly licensed, legal establishments?
They are more likely to turn up at illegal parties. "
detectives are the horniest guys on planet oh and have you never seen police cars sitting outside pubs cmon old boy |
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"Hey the vice squad watch most of these clubs just go bang on white van outside they'll verify you
I saw the van, banged on it and got into trouble with the owner. Turned out it wasn't the vice after all."
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Fair play though from what you have said you seem to be doing ok
As you were 