Me and my husband have done everything except full swop, we always talk about what we'd love to do and what we'd like to see eachother doing, but deep down I think I'm scared he's going to enjoy it so much that our own sex lives will suffer what advice can u all give  |
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That's very good that ye are talking about it.. my wife will only let me find guys for her to enjoy and fuck but says it would make her to jealous to watch me fuck a woman. ???? |
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set your rules before doing anything and if same room keep the conection with hugs and kisses before and after and touches and eye contact during (odd parts, you know) hard to explain over message but stick with what you two agree, and during dont be afraid to say no or something your not happy with at the time. talk to the other couple too, need to know about all first xx |
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"Me and my husband have done everything except full swop, we always talk about what we'd love to do and what we'd like to see eachother doing, but deep down I think I'm scared he's going to enjoy it so much that our own sex lives will suffer what advice can u all give "
If you have any doubts that it will affect your own lives in any way negatively, don't do it. If he can't reassure you that nothing will change unless it's for the better or you can't be sure yourself that it won't it isn't worth the risk.
It's interesting that you aren't worried that you'll enjoy it too much and that you refer to your pwn sex lives separately to swinging. If you don't want to do full swop, don't. If you see swinging as not part of your joint sex life, don't do it. Discuss it some more, make sure you want it as much as your husband and that any doubts you have are cleared up. |
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"Me and my husband have done everything except full swop, we always talk about what we'd love to do and what we'd like to see eachother doing, but deep down I think I'm scared he's going to enjoy it so much that our own sex lives will suffer what advice can u all give
If you have any doubts that it will affect your own lives in any way negatively, don't do it. If he can't reassure you that nothing will change unless it's for the better or you can't be sure yourself that it won't it isn't worth the risk.
It's interesting that you aren't worried that you'll enjoy it too much and that you refer to your pwn sex lives separately to swinging. If you don't want to do full swop, don't. If you see swinging as not part of your joint sex life, don't do it. Discuss it some more, make sure you want it as much as your husband and that any doubts you have are cleared up."
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"Me and my husband have done everything except full swop, we always talk about what we'd love to do and what we'd like to see eachother doing, but deep down I think I'm scared he's going to enjoy it so much that our own sex lives will suffer what advice can u all give
If you have any doubts that it will affect your own lives in any way negatively, don't do it. If he can't reassure you that nothing will change unless it's for the better or you can't be sure yourself that it won't it isn't worth the risk.
It's interesting that you aren't worried that you'll enjoy it too much and that you refer to your pwn sex lives separately to swinging. If you don't want to do full swop, don't. If you see swinging as not part of your joint sex life, don't do it. Discuss it some more, make sure you want it as much as your husband and that any doubts you have are cleared up.
Good advice x "
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Find this hard to answer but let’s be honest if he did not enjoy it why would he do it
On that basis my advise would be don’t even try stick like the others have said to what you are comfortable with |
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During the time I swung with my ex a guy never brought her to orgasm once. It was nice, even the young guys with massive cocks, but it was basically just foreplay for us later when they left. On my side, the quest for fulfilling sex with a stranger was equally elusive. I seriously doubt you've got anything to worry about.
But if your own sex is pretty crap and it feels like your relationship is in a weak place I wouldn't risk it. Don't take my word as gospel. Do what feels right for you  |
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We soft-swung for our first few swaps as she was worried I'd be jealous watching her and another man fucking. We talked about it and I reassured her so next club visit we had a full-swap foursome. I really enjoyed watching her, so her worries were unfounded.
On your particular point, we usually enjoy sex with other people but its just sexual pleasure and doesn't affect ore relationship. Some men can get her cumming better than I can, but I don't take that as a personal insult. Talk about it all in detail and just do what feels right for both. |
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I think it’s one of those things where if it happens it will feel right. My ex partner and I had amazing times softswapping and even though we did full swap it wasn’t a thing we sought. It happened when we were comfortable in the situation. As long as you trust one another like we did it will work out. If you have any nervousness your partner will surely pick up on this and just stick with your comfort level. It is, after all a shared experience.
But like a lot of the advise. Talk and only go where you feel comfortable going.
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