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By *ophlee OP Couple
over a year ago
Fareham |
So, tonight we have our first meet (with a single guy) in a very long time. The anticipation is killing me and I’m now starting to feel the nerves. I know it will all be fine once we get going. Just curious as to how you all deal with the nerves beforehand?
~Sophie |
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O ensure I only allow positive thoughts and excitement. I may do some yoga, to get me relaxed and with the right vibe. This week's needed a cold bath though, so I'd meet with energy, not drained. I also work out, so excess mental energy is used up - a walk is good too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I’m trying to relax, believe me. But the tummy butterflies have kicked in now  "
Thats all part of the fun for us, the nervous excitement of not knowing how things will play out. Hope you enjoy ! X |
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I usually find that keeping myself busy helps. Just gets you out of your own head. Also a SMALL glass of wine (insert drink of choice) helps. Emphasis on the small, you dont want to be d*unk before as that definitely wont help! |
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By *ophlee OP Couple
over a year ago
Fareham |
"Have you met him before or for a social or is it a blind meet so to speak? "
Lee met him for a social first. This is my first time meeting him although we’ve been messaging for the last couple of days... |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
Dublin and London |
"Have you met him before or for a social or is it a blind meet so to speak?
Lee met him for a social first. This is my first time meeting him although we’ve been messaging for the last couple of days..."
That's good at least. Doesn't stop the nerves but hopefully eases them..as soon as the first move is made and the chatting is done you'll be fine I'm sure...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, tonight we have our first meet (with a single guy) in a very long time. The anticipation is killing me and I’m now starting to feel the nerves. I know it will all be fine once we get going. Just curious as to how you all deal with the nerves beforehand?
~Sophie"
It not nerves it’s excitement  have a little drink not to much mind. Watch a little porn have a little play to get warmed up. I like to buy some new underwear as always makes me feel good too. Enjoy x |
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"So, tonight we have our first meet (with a single guy) in a very long time. The anticipation is killing me and I’m now starting to feel the nerves. I know it will all be fine once we get going. Just curious as to how you all deal with the nerves beforehand?
~Sophie
It not nerves it’s excitement have a little drink not to much mind. Watch a little porn have a little play to get warmed up. I like to buy some new underwear as always makes me feel good too. Enjoy x"
what she said, the anticipation of a new meet is one of the best bits for me....
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Embrace the nervousness! The nerves help to build adrenaline when you do meet which should make things more enjoyable for you. I know that when I stop feeling nervous before a meet it will be time for me to leave Fab x |
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We usually pretend that we're just meeting an old friend. It can help with the nerves if it's 'just Dave from the pub'. 
It can also help if you plan something for after the meet and then focus on that.
But generally we try and embrace the nervous energy and laugh about it together. If you are ever not nervous then it's probably a sign to give it up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I sent you a little pm op but I see you took my advice anyway so either someone else beat me to it or you figured it out by yourself. Have a lovely evening. I'm sure it'll be great  |
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"So, tonight we have our first meet (with a single guy) in a very long time. The anticipation is killing me and I’m now starting to feel the nerves. I know it will all be fine once we get going. Just curious as to how you all deal with the nerves beforehand?
~Sophie"
Hi Sophie the nervous excitement is all part of the fun. Enjoy it... you'll miss it when it's gone. Hope you have a great meet and please do come back tomorrow to tell us it all went well.
I'm sure such a message will be appreciated by all the Fabbers who feel just like you |
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By *ara JTV/TS
over a year ago
Bristol East |
"So, tonight we have our first meet (with a single guy) in a very long time. The anticipation is killing me and I’m now starting to feel the nerves. I know it will all be fine once we get going. Just curious as to how you all deal with the nerves beforehand?
~Sophie"
That sense of anticipation, that not quite knowing what is coming next . . . it's a thrill that never goes away.
I usually pace the house lololol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ah I hope it went well. I've been known to pull out of a meet due to nerves which is so daft, I'm usually fine when I get there. It's only human nature to be nervous.
S xx |
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By *khot1Couple
over a year ago
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I tend to just pace up and down for about an hour, my wife hates it lol... The worst part for me is the initial meet, the awkwardness of introducing yourself, after that I'm fine, I talk about nonsense for hours |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a pacer, if my LTP is coming to me; even after 8 years.
When I'm travelling to someone new-usually by train-i'm so relieved I've got off the tube I'm glad to see them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi all. Thanks for all your words of encouragement and snippets of advice. We had a great time last night. The nerves were gone as soon as the door opened
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Just read the veri’s you left each other! Sounds like a very kinky scenario and lots of fun!
Mr |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all. Thanks for all your words of encouragement and snippets of advice. We had a great time last night. The nerves were gone as soon as the door opened "
Knew it Good on you. So glad it was a lovely experience for you both... that the guy turned up... and he didn't mess it up It's nice to have a success story on the forum every now and then. |
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"Hi all. Thanks for all your words of encouragement and snippets of advice. We had a great time last night. The nerves were gone as soon as the door opened
Knew it Good on you. So glad it was a lovely experience for you both... that the guy turned up... and he didn't mess it up It's nice to have a success story on the forum every now and then. "
This! X |
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By *ophlee OP Couple
over a year ago
Fareham |
"Hi all. Thanks for all your words of encouragement and snippets of advice. We had a great time last night. The nerves were gone as soon as the door opened
Just read the veri’s you left each other! Sounds like a very kinky scenario and lots of fun!
Mr "
It was a good night and different from most |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, tonight we have our first meet (with a single guy) in a very long time. The anticipation is killing me and I’m now starting to feel the nerves. I know it will all be fine once we get going. Just curious as to how you all deal with the nerves beforehand?
~Sophie"
Definite no no' S
Drink, food, drugs or any inhibiters.
Yes yes
Breather nice and deep, relaxing bath, slow sensuous music anything that defers your thoughts about tonight. Oh and knowing whatever happens there is more life after the meet. |
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"Have a glass of wine, just the one though!
Worked a treat although think it was more than one lol"
Hi Sophie
Your meet sounded great fun. Please write it up in the stories section as im sure it will be appreciated by more than me |
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Love the nerves before a planned meet. The problem for me is my brain is now so conditioned to these meets being cancelled at the last minute (you know my dogs poorly, I’ve got to take my goldfish for a walk), that I’ve stopped getting nervous. I WANT THAT NERVOUS FEELING BACK! |
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