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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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A few years ago i found some steamy messages from my wife to an ex, saying that he'd made her thwe happiest she'd been in years. They discussed at length the old times in detail. At the time my mum was in hospital so i was away for a couple of weeks. She went out for the day, with a GF (she said) to the park and in the evening "went to a theatre" ,,, I told her id found her messages. She said she'd only been talking to him, nothing had happenend etc etc....which i didnt and still dont beleive. However, she promised not to contact him again....but 2 years later i found out she had a secret phone and had carried on contcating, and probably seeing him. Should I have stayed...we no longer sleep together, I am bi, but she dont know that, and also a CD in private. we have child so its hard to just walk out but now beginning to wish I had as we just dont get on at all, what do you reckon? |
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personally i dont think "staying for the child" is necessarily the right decision, an upset enviroment can be worse for the child than one in which one parent is with and the child sees the other parent too, as to the cheating bit, if your sure you correct then personally I would not stay  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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How old is the kid? Mine was 4. So I figured, if I was going to split, now was the best time to do it. We did it relatively amicably and now, about 9 months later, he seems much happier and has settled into having two homes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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She has her secrets but you have yours and that's a recipe for a disaster of a marriage, full open honest frank discussion where you tell her everything is the only chance, if you can't do that, call it a day and consult a solicitor. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if you cant be open and honest with your wife and the mother of your child.its time to look to end it and "staying for the child" isnt an reason just a lame excuse and most people will look at you and think "wuss" |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be true to yourself. Children are very resilient and will be fine as long as you don't call their mother ... I split from my ex wife of nearly 20 years 4 years ago and share the care of my children with their Mum... I've never been happier.. Only you can make that decision.. We now get on better are good friends and help each other out with child care |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds to me like your relationship has reached the end, you're both hiding things or lying to each other, which will slowly but surely turn a tense atmosphere into a toxic one. Do you really want your child living in and growing up in that kind of home? |
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I presume she doesn't know you are on here either ,so sounds like neither of you are fulfilled or happy or truthful.
Staying in my opinion won't help any of you,time to have an honest chat and either decode you can work it out,or go your seperate ways and make your childs happiness a priority. |
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