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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I am so fed up, I am a Genuine Guy looking for a FWB and all that seems to happen is that other guys lets us genuine guys down. What am I meant to do, any advice would not go a miss. Thanks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Well, you have been verified a few times so you must be doing something right.
Your profile is extremely negative though, and that will put a lot of people off. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile is very self-entitled IMO. Yes, they might say they want some reliable, ‘genuine’ etc but that doesn’t mean that even though you’re all those things, they have to or want to meet you |
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"yeah i have same problem fab is full of single male idiots spoiling it for the genuine ones"
I agree there are a lot of single male idiots on here that need a cold shower but there are a few fake profiles so just keep your shin up. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Patience and perseverance. It's really not easy for single men on here, I feel for the genuine guys on here as there are a lot of men who spoil it by being disrespectful prays, and get single men a bad reputation.
How about going to some Fab social events and get yourself known in the scene, or attend some clubs. I know it can be daunting but it may help.
Good luck OP. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am so fed up, I am a Genuine Guy looking for a FWB and all that seems to happen is that other guys lets us genuine guys down. What am I meant to do, any advice would not go a miss. Thanks"
What to other guys do to let genuine guys down?
Mrs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It doesn’t say what sort of woman you’re interested in meeting that might get women interested maybe. I dunno it’s rare I message anyone first but more inclined to if I think I meet their needs |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your profile is a bit ranty. Nice photos
You have a strange idea of what a rant is.....just an opinion"
Obviously it’s been edited since she left that comment....  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your profile is a bit ranty. Nice photos
You have a strange idea of what a rant is.....just an opinion"
He’s probably updated it since considering this post is 3 wks old |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am so fed up, I am a Genuine Guy looking for a FWB and all that seems to happen is that other guys lets us genuine guys down. What am I meant to do, any advice would not go a miss. Thanks
What to other guys do to let genuine guys down?
Mrs"
they take all the free women  |
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"It doesn’t say what sort of woman you’re interested in meeting that might get women interested maybe. I dunno it’s rare I message anyone first but more inclined to if I think I meet their needs "
This 
I do hunt for men and not afraid to message them, but only if they state what type of person they are looking for as not everyone is into my body type. |
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"I am so fed up, I am a Genuine Guy looking for a FWB and all that seems to happen is that other guys lets us genuine guys down. What am I meant to do, any advice would not go a miss. Thanks"
Im sorry but why do other guys let genuine guys down ?
Your in charge of your own destiny on here!
If you are a genuine guy looking to swing then that should shine through if on the other hand you are just another guy looking to get laid then it aint gonna happen Im afraid .
But dont blame others just because its not happening for you |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
You do seem to have got a meet a couple of weeks ago - yay! I like your profile now and you sound like a little slice of heaven in my personal opinion.
Hope it goes onwards and upwards for you, sah! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am so fed up, I am a Genuine Guy looking for a FWB and all that seems to happen is that other guys lets us genuine guys down. What am I meant to do, any advice would not go a miss. Thanks"
Us couples can sus out the idiots from the genuine guys believe it or not so I wouldn't worry about them so much, if anything it makes the respectful decent guys stand out more |
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By *good-being-badMan
over a year ago
mis-types and auto corrects leads cock leeds |
A lot of guys don't sell themselves or what they can offer .. they'd rather blame others for their lack of success when more often than not the failing is of their own making ..
Honesty, humour with a dash of confidence add some effort and mix it all up with manners and respect and youll reap zone rewards.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Get your arse to a club!golf or rugby?
I like both. greedy? Do you play?
I watch rugby and like to have a go at golf. "
ok I like to watch international rugby and have played golf but found it to time consuming |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am so fed up, I am a Genuine Guy looking for a FWB and all that seems to happen is that other guys lets us genuine guys down. What am I meant to do, any advice would not go a miss. Thanks"
genuine guys do not get messed up because of other men.
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"A lot of guys don't sell themselves or what they can offer .. they'd rather blame others for their lack of success when more often than not the failing is of their own making ..
Honesty, humour with a dash of confidence add some effort and mix it all up with manners and respect and youll reap zone rewards.. "
Exactly !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am so fed up, I am a Genuine Guy looking for a FWB and all that seems to happen is that other guys lets us genuine guys down. What am I meant to do, any advice would not go a miss. Thanks"
I find it very strange that guys put their lack of meets down to other guys. What a copout.
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By *irthandgirthMan
over a year ago
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Just read the thread and profile. Not as bad as I was expecting, but by the looks of it you have taken on board some advice. There are a lot of military on here and a lot try and use the army/uniform thing as a main selling point. Maybe your username is putting some off?
You are doing well with meets. On my first profile it took 6 months to get a meet.
Just remember that unless you are one of the lucky few,(read handsome, ripped, intelligent, decent cocked bastards) most guys success rates on here are significantly less than an average night going out on the pull.
The ladies on here generally make informed sober decisions about who they get intimate with, with more options.
Good luck fella. |
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"Just read the thread and profile. Not as bad as I was expecting, but by the looks of it you have taken on board some advice. There are a lot of military on here and a lot try and use the army/uniform thing as a main selling point. Maybe your username is putting some off?
You are doing well with meets. On my first profile it took 6 months to get a meet.
Just remember that unless you are one of the lucky few,(read handsome, ripped, intelligent, decent cocked bastards) most guys success rates on here are significantly less than an average night going out on the pull.
The ladies on here generally make informed sober decisions about who they get intimate with, with more options.
Good luck fella. "
This
OP how is other guys making it bad and difficult for you? |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"yeah i have same problem fab is full of single male idiots spoiling it for the genuine ones"
They spoil it for themselves. Nothing worse than people blaming others for their own lack of success. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yeah i have same problem fab is full of single male idiots spoiling it for the genuine ones
They spoil it for themselves. Nothing worse than people blaming others for their own lack of success. "
but it was him honest Mrs |
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By *uttycutMan
over a year ago
Walton on Thames |
Trust me I know how you feel its the idiots who pester and abuse women when they don't get replies that make it so hard for us nice guys to get to chat and possably meet up but be patient and be your self I am sure it will happen |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am so fed up, I am a Genuine Guy looking for a FWB and all that seems to happen is that other guys lets us genuine guys down. What am I meant to do, any advice would not go a miss. Thanks"
Other guys let no one down but themselves
In fact the more other guys behave like twats,the easier they make it for the guys that don't. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"yeah i have same problem fab is full of single male idiots spoiling it for the genuine ones"
No. They spoil it for themselves. People need to stop blaming others for their lack of success and look a bit closer to home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just been reading another thred yes these people are letting us decent ones down
Not good"
Hardly unless you are bi and these guys are letting you down by not meeting you.
Other single guys have little impact on you. Some may mess people about but then people don't meet them they meet someone else.
An individual male has his own destiny in his own hands here its not in another guys hands well not if he is straight anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am so fed up, I am a Genuine Guy looking for a FWB and all that seems to happen is that other guys lets us genuine guys down. What am I meant to do, any advice would not go a miss. Thanks"
you can't change the opinion of the masses, maybe it's your approach to, just keep sending polite messages based on the target profile and eventually good things come to those who wait
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The crap men **do** cause issues for decent men. The crap men piss women and couples off and often put them off meeting anyone.
There's more and more women saying on threads that they've given up meeting because of the idiot types. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Cant blame other people, i dont in person im funny, relaxed respectful, etc, on line i cant seem to bring that out on the screen hahaha and cant take a decent picture to save my life |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven't met a new person on fab except at a fab social in 8 months. I've made a few good friends over the years whom I meet some more frequently than others. It does take a lot of work to get to meet fabbers, maybe I haven't got the time it takes anymore for new fab meets between fske profiles, time wasters, 'just chatters' and those you know you're in a waiting queue with, it's so much easier to just meet with friends I've made over the years. I do prefer the regular repeat meets too as they tend to improve each time. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"The crap men **do** cause issues for decent men. The crap men piss women and couples off and often put them off meeting anyone.
There's more and more women saying on threads that they've given up meeting because of the idiot types."
Totally disagree!! It's just a deflection technique used by *some* men to "explain" why they can't get meets when they should really look a little closer to home for the answer.
I can't say I've seen that many threads where women/couples say they're no longer meeting either - don't deny it happens but it's by no means a significant number. Even if it were true there are still plenty of people who ARE looking to meet and who DO find the people they're looking for.
The fact remains no-one ruins the chances of someone else apart from the person themselves. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The crap men **do** cause issues for decent men. The crap men piss women and couples off and often put them off meeting anyone.
There's more and more women saying on threads that they've given up meeting because of the idiot types.
Totally disagree!! It's just a deflection technique used by *some* men to "explain" why they can't get meets when they should really look a little closer to home for the answer.
I can't say I've seen that many threads where women/couples say they're no longer meeting either - don't deny it happens but it's by no means a significant number. Even if it were true there are still plenty of people who ARE looking to meet and who DO find the people they're looking for.
The fact remains no-one ruins the chances of someone else apart from the person themselves."
I absolutely agree some men should definitely look at themselves rather than blaming other people for their dismal social skills. Those types are obvious to everyone but themselves. 
Some people are meeting and very happy. Some are put off by the crappy people though. It does happen. Not just on the forums. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"The crap men **do** cause issues for decent men. The crap men piss women and couples off and often put them off meeting anyone.
There's more and more women saying on threads that they've given up meeting because of the idiot types.
Totally disagree!! It's just a deflection technique used by *some* men to "explain" why they can't get meets when they should really look a little closer to home for the answer.
I can't say I've seen that many threads where women/couples say they're no longer meeting either - don't deny it happens but it's by no means a significant number. Even if it were true there are still plenty of people who ARE looking to meet and who DO find the people they're looking for.
The fact remains no-one ruins the chances of someone else apart from the person themselves.
I absolutely agree some men should definitely look at themselves rather than blaming other people for their dismal social skills. Those types are obvious to everyone but themselves.
Some people are meeting and very happy. Some are put off by the crappy people though. It does happen. Not just on the forums. "
As I said, I don't deny it happens but it's by no means a significant number - if it was the site wouldn't serve a purpose for many and would cease to exist.
Either way I stand by my point that the only people that the idiots that send crap messages or have rubbish profiles etc ruin things for is themselves. |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
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"3 Veris since March is more than some guys have in 3 years onsite - consider yourself doing grand.
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WOW! I've got two in less than two months. I must have taken in all the valuable on board and done something right for once.
Listen to the women in here. They know what they like. |
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"3 Veris since March is more than some guys have in 3 years onsite - consider yourself doing grand.
WOW! I've got two in less than two months. I must have taken in all the valuable on board and done something right for once.
Listen to the women in here. They know what they like."
It’s because you’re a Peter Gabriel fan . |
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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago
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"3 Veris since March is more than some guys have in 3 years onsite - consider yourself doing grand.
WOW! I've got two in less than two months. I must have taken in all the valuable on board and done something right for once.
Listen to the women in here. They know what they like.
It’s because you’re a Peter Gabriel fan ."
Aah, of course! Women do like man, who is quite articulate with words, has a dry sense of humour, someone who shuns the lime light, has an eccentric side...oh yes and that other bloke too, you know the one. The one who wears his wife's red dress and smacks his head with two plasticine hammers. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am so fed up, I am a Genuine Guy looking for a FWB and all that seems to happen is that other guys lets us genuine guys down. What am I meant to do, any advice would not go a miss. Thanks"
You have no pictures, why would any woman or couple message you when many others have. |
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"I am so fed up, I am a Genuine Guy looking for a FWB and all that seems to happen is that other guys lets us genuine guys down. What am I meant to do, any advice would not go a miss. Thanks"
You’re blaming other men for your own lack of success? |
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If you can't get yourself to shine through your profile, then you need to go where likeminded people are and stand out in person.
It also helps that they are real people not keyboard fantasists that have a warped sense of humour. |
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