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How did you first tell your partner
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We were discussing fantasies and swinging came up. The rest as they say is history.  "
Same here... although it took nearly a decade to finally take the plunge lol xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My husbands a lot older than me and hasnt wanted sex as much as he got older, he said he would pay for me to see a male escort, we had seen a program on tv about male escorts. I thought they charged too much so i said i would go on a site like this instead.I have asked him several times if he wanted to meet other women or for him to join me with other people but he isnt interested. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Met on here so it was always on the agenda.
With my ex, we didn;t live close, never expected it to go anywhere so were very honest about fantasies because we had little to lose. We ended up being together for 4 years and again it was pretty much always going to happen.
Not sure how I would broach the subject after years in a relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were really open with each other right from the very beginning. We'd both had bi fantasies but never played them out so it all started from there. I was so excited that I had found someone that I could be that open with, it must have been the same for him because he proposed that night, 2 weeks after first meeting, we were both right cos we've just had our 10th wedding anniversary. |
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Kate had a few drinks, confessed she kept having bi fantasies, and I said leave it with me...
I can honestly say I had not had any thoughts about swinging, and neither had Kate! We were completely happy with what we had. The only reason she confessed is because we tell each other everything, she felt guilty about it so wanted to get it off her chest. When she told me, she never imagined we'd actually put her bi-curiosity to the test!
Personally I thought it would probably peak at us maybe watching a bit of bi porn or webcams...
Swinging per-se was never on the agenda, just in our search for answers ended up in a swinging club, we still find it odd calling ourselves swingers although we only started back in May so we're still newbies really. 
Not looked back at all!
Ta
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I had never thought about swinging until my partner brought it up in conversation. We 1st went to a sex club, then joined fab. So glad I tried it, love it!!
Lisa
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i met my current partner 16 months ago anyway as time went on i used to ask her about her past and she told me she used to go dogging and clubs.i wanted to know more and more it tuned me on.now we go to swinging clubs and play and soon to have our first meet,we are very honest with each other.i sometimes wonder were shes been all my life.we love this life. |
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watching porn said to her love to see her in a f2f scenen went to a club she had a ffff  watched her with a few fems over few years got into soft swap then cpl year ago soft play with men then onto watching her with men then she watched me with fem done the lot now slow but sure just pushed the boundrys at our pace. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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on the first night I met Lisa we was in a club in newquay dancing kissing away,there was three girls getting it on with each other in corner,Lisa was watching them loads smiling,I fougt then she might be bi but I didn't say anyfing that night, just smiled at her and watched her watch as I played with her.I knew she was turned on,after few more dates and about month later I asked her if she was bi she said yes how did you guess lol told her night in newquay.we talked about it and I let her go with girls on own first for experiance etc since then we have taken it further swing clubs,meets never regretted any of it,just want more meets Lisa wants more g on g fun.we are very happy together still after 6 years 5 of them experimenting together |
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We started chatting about fantasies one evening and carol wanting another woman.
An hour later we were looking on fab as i had a single male account before meeting her.
It was just a case of one thing leading to another with a happy ending. |
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By *andKCouple
over a year ago
Norfolk |
we were both on the computers in chat rooms and it kinda evolved, we both agreed to 'soft' swing to start with loads and loads of rules that we broke most of on our first meet (at Chams) and after about 8 or 9 months took the fateful step to full swap. The thing was we talked about every step we took and to this day if one or the other isn't happy with what is going on it stops no question although have to say neither of us can remember the last time we asked the other to stop something. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"we were both on the computers in chat rooms and it kinda evolved, we both agreed to 'soft' swing to start with loads and loads of rules that we broke most of on our first meet (at Chams) and after about 8 or 9 months took the fateful step to full swap. The thing was we talked about every step we took and to this day if one or the other isn't happy with what is going on it stops no question although have to say neither of us can remember the last time we asked the other to stop something."
We broke our rules on the first night too - nice to hear someone else who did the same thing lol... in the end we downsized them to four or five very basic ones that we stick to now, and every meet we have just 'flows' wherever it's going.. and it's been fantastic fun hehehe
Wolf
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That you wanted to try swinging? How did it go?!
i didnt. he was the first guy i met from fab when i started out swinging.
i still blame fab for that "
same here  |
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By *andKCouple
over a year ago
Norfolk |
"we were both on the computers in chat rooms and it kinda evolved, we both agreed to 'soft' swing to start with loads and loads of rules that we broke most of on our first meet (at Chams) and after about 8 or 9 months took the fateful step to full swap. The thing was we talked about every step we took and to this day if one or the other isn't happy with what is going on it stops no question although have to say neither of us can remember the last time we asked the other to stop something.
We broke our rules on the first night too - nice to hear someone else who did the same thing lol... in the end we downsized them to four or five very basic ones that we stick to now, and every meet we have just 'flows' wherever it's going.. and it's been fantastic fun hehehe
Wolf
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Think ours is only 2 rules now,
1. we are both happy with the situation
2. safe sex |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We met at work. Both seeing other people.
(don't shake your head and tut in the back)
Things happened as they do, on one of our early dates, I (J) liked this girl (A) I said to her she should find a guy who was into swinging.
We have been lucky to meet some fantastic people through FAB, and found out about Chams.
The rest they say is history. |
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"i didnt she told me "
That's true in my case. It was kind of a last ditch attempt at saving my marriage. Didn't work but I enjoyed swinging nonetheless.
Joined Fab after seeing someone's photo from here on another site. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We had talked about meeting others about 10 years ago but we did not take it any further until about 18 months ago Alice took me on a surprise outing to the to the Atlantis club for my birthday
She only told me on the day itself and we have not looked back since |
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By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago
yorkshire |
We owned a business and a couple came in i started talking too, asked if sue and I would like to come along. We did. No pressure to play and it was clean. Plus the hot tub was sooo good.
After two three visits. Sue played for first time. With a lady. ( which i did not know she was into ladies) So, guess we can blame Paula for us starting swinging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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both me and hubby started watching three-some porn and then slowly moved on to group sex , etc ...until he finally poped the question " would you like to try with another guy " and as they say, "rest is history"... |
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Now ex GF! Lol. 
