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Had arranged a meet with someone and then they cancelled due to my verifications where they have an issue with other people who have verified the people that I have met and it has got me a bit perplexed as how whatever has happened in the past that are way out of my control has affected their decision to meet me. Has anyone else had this happen to them? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had arranged a meet with someone and then they cancelled due to my verifications where they have an issue with other people who have verified the people that I have met and it has got me a bit perplexed as how whatever has happened in the past that are way out of my control has affected their decision to meet me. Has anyone else had this happen to them?"
Sounds like either a) an excuse not to meet you or b) someone spending far too long on verification trails and over analysing someone based on someone who has met someone they met who had met them  
Either way, chalk it up, look sharp and move on  |
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I look at men's verifications and people who have verified them and sometimes I don't want to meet them because of what I read. For instance several men who messaged me and one I had been seeing, had met a female who meets a lot of men and she does bareback, that's more risky for catching crabs and stuff. I also prefer to meet men who haven't had a meet for a while, it appeals to my sense of fair play. XXX |
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"Had arranged a meet with someone and then they cancelled due to my verifications where they have an issue with other people who have verified the people that I have met and it has got me a bit perplexed as how whatever has happened in the past that are way out of my control has affected their decision to meet me. Has anyone else had this happen to them?"
Hope it's not cause we left you a verification  |
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"Had arranged a meet with someone and then they cancelled due to my verifications where they have an issue with other people who have verified the people that I have met and it has got me a bit perplexed as how whatever has happened in the past that are way out of my control has affected their decision to meet me. Has anyone else had this happen to them?"
It may be because you have a verification from a Tv, there's a lot of women out there that won't meet people that have met tvs |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had arranged a meet with someone and then they cancelled due to my verifications where they have an issue with other people who have verified the people that I have met and it has got me a bit perplexed as how whatever has happened in the past that are way out of my control has affected their decision to meet me. Has anyone else had this happen to them?
It may be because you have a verification from a Tv, there's a lot of women out there that won't meet people that have met tvs"
That’s what I thought too. He’s got a veri from some who has veris from TVs. Makes me wonder how many degrees of separation some people need |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Had arranged a meet with someone and then they cancelled due to my verifications where they have an issue with other people who have verified the people that I have met and it has got me a bit perplexed as how whatever has happened in the past that are way out of my control has affected their decision to meet me. Has anyone else had this happen to them?
It may be because you have a verification from a Tv, there's a lot of women out there that won't meet people that have met tvs"
We didn't actually meet or speak we were just at the same club at the same time |
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"Had arranged a meet with someone and then they cancelled due to my verifications where they have an issue with other people who have verified the people that I have met and it has got me a bit perplexed as how whatever has happened in the past that are way out of my control has affected their decision to meet me. Has anyone else had this happen to them?
It may be because you have a verification from a Tv, there's a lot of women out there that won't meet people that have met tvs
We didn't actually meet or speak we were just at the same club at the same time "
Then you should display it so that it can be read that you didn't play with them and just socialised |
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"That’s what I thought too. He’s got a veri from some who has veris from TVs. Makes me wonder how many degrees of separation some people need "
That's me snookered then 
Although I prefer to be honest, if a women or couple chooses not to meet me that's a shame and outside of my control. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Firstly - ignor them, your doing fine meet wise, so you didn't really need them anyway
Secondly, some people just love winding people up - don't worry over it
I am on Fabguys (yorkman51) and to be honest I am a bot of a tart really and some idiots just loving trying to abuse/offend me - do let the buggers get you down fella
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That’s what I thought too. He’s got a veri from some who has veris from TVs. Makes me wonder how many degrees of separation some people need
That's me snookered then
Although I prefer to be honest, if a women or couple chooses not to meet me that's a shame and outside of my control. "
Totally agree. I’ve had similar on an old profile where someone didn’t want to meet me because of someone who had verified me. I just used it as a filter  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Some women get jealous of the women you have met in the past....
If you have met only skinny model types and a larger women checked out your verifications.
She might be intimidated to meet you... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've always look at the profiles of people who have left veri's if I'm interested in someone. If there's any mention of bareback then it's a no. I'd say so before arranging a meet though.
As for hiding your veri's.. that also puts me off and I'd never meet someone with hidden veri's. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some women get jealous of the women you have met in the past....
If you have met only skinny model types and a larger women checked out your verifications.
She might be intimidated to meet you..."
Really ? I'd assume he'd approached her and therefore found her attractive. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That’s what I thought too. He’s got a veri from some who has veris from TVs. Makes me wonder how many degrees of separation some people need
That's me snookered then
Although I prefer to be honest, if a women or couple chooses not to meet me that's a shame and outside of my control.
Totally agree. I’ve had similar on an old profile where someone didn’t want to meet me because of someone who had verified me. I just used it as a filter "
Sadly very common on here and sadly we never know if the other people they objected to had done something wrong, so rather than challenging them about it, they take the easy route and just block,,,,,,,,grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I look at men's verifications and people who have verified them and sometimes I don't want to meet them because of what I read. For instance several men who messaged me and one I had been seeing, had met a female who meets a lot of men and she does bareback, that's more risky for catching crabs and stuff. I also prefer to meet men who haven't had a meet for a while, it appeals to my sense of fair play. XXX"
Exactly how i see it as well .too many men have random hook ups and when you look at trail it's can put you off. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Some women get jealous of the women you have met in the past....
If you have met only skinny model types and a larger women checked out your verifications.
She might be intimidated to meet you...
Really ? I'd assume he'd approached her and therefore found her attractive. "
I did find her attractive lol |
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"Had arranged a meet with someone and then they cancelled due to my verifications where they have an issue with other people who have verified the people that I have met and it has got me a bit perplexed as how whatever has happened in the past that are way out of my control has affected their decision to meet me. Has anyone else had this happen to them?"
Some people are childish twats.
I've had this, just hide my verifications now, saves a lot of angst. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some women get jealous of the women you have met in the past....
If you have met only skinny model types and a larger women checked out your verifications.
She might be intimidated to meet you...
Really ? I'd assume he'd approached her and therefore found her attractive. "
Yes, but she could still be intimidated by his previous meets.... |
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"Had arranged a meet with someone and then they cancelled due to my verifications where they have an issue with other people who have verified the people that I have met and it has got me a bit perplexed as how whatever has happened in the past that are way out of my control has affected their decision to meet me. Has anyone else had this happen to them?
Sounds like either a) an excuse not to meet you or b) someone spending far too long on verification trails and over analysing someone based on someone who has met someone they met who had met them
Either way, chalk it up, look sharp and move on "
Exactly why I hide mine can't be bothered with judgemental people on a swingers site |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Plenty more fish in the sea mate. I'm not sure why it's got to you so much. Is it the first time you've been told no thanks on here?"
No I've been told no before. But this is the first time being told no because she doesn't like the past actions of the people that have verified me that I had no control over
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"Plenty more fish in the sea mate. I'm not sure why it's got to you so much. Is it the first time you've been told no thanks on here?
No I've been told no before. But this is the first time being told no because she doesn't like the past actions of the people that have verified me that I had no control over
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Oh right. Well it's her loss then mate. If people are that concerned on a site like this then bwoy. I wouldn't give it a seconds thought. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Plenty more fish in the sea mate. I'm not sure why it's got to you so much. Is it the first time you've been told no thanks on here?
No I've been told no before. But this is the first time being told no because she doesn't like the past actions of the people that have verified me that I had no control over
Oh right. Well it's her loss then mate. If people are that concerned on a site like this then bwoy. I wouldn't give it a seconds thought. "
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"Had arranged a meet with someone and then they cancelled due to my verifications where they have an issue with other people who have verified the people that I have met and it has got me a bit perplexed as how whatever has happened in the past that are way out of my control has affected their decision to meet me. Has anyone else had this happen to them?"
You're cute. Don't let it worry you. |
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"Plenty more fish in the sea mate. I'm not sure why it's got to you so much. Is it the first time you've been told no thanks on here?
No I've been told no before. But this is the first time being told no because she doesn't like the past actions of the people that have verified me that I had no control over
Oh right. Well it's her loss then mate. If people are that concerned on a site like this then bwoy. I wouldn't give it a seconds thought. "
Totally agree sod em and move on |
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"Had arranged a meet with someone and then they cancelled due to my verifications where they have an issue with other people who have verified the people that I have met and it has got me a bit perplexed as how whatever has happened in the past that are way out of my control has affected their decision to meet me. Has anyone else had this happen to them?"
I bet it’s happened to us loads of times !
Whenever we put our verification summary up we get a bit of flack , and it’s definately harder to get meets . Probably because we have so many veris including a few from TVs .
I would be a bit more selective about what veris you display or simply crack on as you are and stuff the haters |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Had arranged a meet with someone and then they cancelled due to my verifications where they have an issue with other people who have verified the people that I have met and it has got me a bit perplexed as how whatever has happened in the past that are way out of my control has affected their decision to meet me. Has anyone else had this happen to them?
I bet it’s happened to us loads of times !
Whenever we put our verification summary up we get a bit of flack , and it’s definately harder to get meets . Probably because we have so many veris including a few from TVs .
I would be a bit more selective about what veris you display or simply crack on as you are and stuff the haters "
I remember reading one of your verifications from about a year ago (I think) and just thinking ‘holy fuck these guys know how to have fun!’
Sorry, slightly off topic |
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You should be honest. Hiding your veris is just conning somebody into bed with you. Some people just want to be careful, you can't blame them for that. You be happy and let them be happy. If it's a no from them, never mind find someone else. |
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I'm afraid I'm one of those people who do an 'audit trail' on someone's verifications before I meet them. It will put me off meeting if I don't like what I see. |
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"Had arranged a meet with someone and then they cancelled due to my verifications where they have an issue with other people who have verified the people that I have met and it has got me a bit perplexed as how whatever has happened in the past that are way out of my control has affected their decision to meet me. Has anyone else had this happen to them?
I bet it’s happened to us loads of times !
Whenever we put our verification summary up we get a bit of flack , and it’s definately harder to get meets . Probably because we have so many veris including a few from TVs .
I would be a bit more selective about what veris you display or simply crack on as you are and stuff the haters
I remember reading one of your verifications from about a year ago (I think) and just thinking ‘holy fuck these guys know how to have fun!’
Sorry, slightly off topic "
And for every one person who thinks like you , there will be ten that think ‘ oh my , I’m not going with those dirty bastards ! ‘ .
The thing is this . If anyone thinks that a style of play , or the people we meet isn’t for them , then we probably aren’t for them either .
The one thing that has never ceased to amaze me in the swinging world , is how judgemental swingers can be .
We have had some absolutely amazing meets with newbies , more often than not soft swing , gentle and erotic , no pressure mutual fun . And we’ve had some f the most hardcore filthy meets too which would possibly shock a few of you . Tats the beauty of swinging , variety |
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"I'm afraid I'm one of those people who do an 'audit trail' on someone's verifications before I meet them. It will put me off meeting if I don't like what I see."
I should hope so too .
As a single woman it would be daft not too |
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"Plenty more fish in the sea mate. I'm not sure why it's got to you so much. Is it the first time you've been told no thanks on here?
No I've been told no before. But this is the first time being told no because she doesn't like the past actions of the people that have verified me that I had no control over
Oh right. Well it's her loss then mate. If people are that concerned on a site like this then bwoy. I wouldn't give it a seconds thought.
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See. If my favourite cake lady agrees,i must be right. Hey gorgeous |
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"Had arranged a meet with someone and then they cancelled due to my verifications where they have an issue with other people who have verified the people that I have met and it has got me a bit perplexed as how whatever has happened in the past that are way out of my control has affected their decision to meet me. Has anyone else had this happen to them?
I bet it’s happened to us loads of times !
Whenever we put our verification summary up we get a bit of flack , and it’s definately harder to get meets . Probably because we have so many veris including a few from TVs .
I would be a bit more selective about what veris you display or simply crack on as you are and stuff the haters
I remember reading one of your verifications from about a year ago (I think) and just thinking ‘holy fuck these guys know how to have fun!’
Sorry, slightly off topic "
No. That's about right with you. Your name should be nympho kitty. Haha |
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"You should be honest. Hiding your veris is just conning somebody into bed with you. Some people just want to be careful, you can't blame them for that. You be happy and let them be happy. If it's a no from them, never mind find someone else."
If it's a question about sexual activity then yes be honest,as in a meet you've had does bareback etc . If it's them just having a general problem then hide them if you feel to. It's your profile and you do as you wish.
We're all conning people into bed with good camera angles. Give over haha |
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"Had arranged a meet with someone and then they cancelled due to my verifications where they have an issue with other people who have verified the people that I have met and it has got me a bit perplexed as how whatever has happened in the past that are way out of my control has affected their decision to meet me. Has anyone else had this happen to them?
I bet it’s happened to us loads of times !
Whenever we put our verification summary up we get a bit of flack , and it’s definately harder to get meets . Probably because we have so many veris including a few from TVs .
I would be a bit more selective about what veris you display or simply crack on as you are and stuff the haters
I remember reading one of your verifications from about a year ago (I think) and just thinking ‘holy fuck these guys know how to have fun!’
Sorry, slightly off topic
And for every one person who thinks like you , there will be ten that think ‘ oh my , I’m not going with those dirty bastards ! ‘ .
The thing is this . If anyone thinks that a style of play , or the people we meet isn’t for them , then we probably aren’t for them either .
The one thing that has never ceased to amaze me in the swinging world , is how judgemental swingers can be .
We have had some absolutely amazing meets with newbies , more often than not soft swing , gentle and erotic , no pressure mutual fun . And we’ve had some f the most hardcore filthy meets too which would possibly shock a few of you . Tats the beauty of swinging , variety "
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"I'm afraid I'm one of those people who do an 'audit trail' on someone's verifications before I meet them. It will put me off meeting if I don't like what I see.
I should hope so too .
As a single woman it would be daft not too "
What's being a single female got to do with anything?. |
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"Veris! One persons gold another’s rubbish?? Met in person is only time you reLly find out if it works"
If they don't like me bcz of who i've met and not who i am,or what i'm like as a person then they don't deserve to meet me.
I can almost say with some degree of certainty that it ain't my loss lol. As one door closes,another one opens. Revolving,swinging doors that is. Hehe  |
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"I'm afraid I'm one of those people who do an 'audit trail' on someone's verifications before I meet them. It will put me off meeting if I don't like what I see.
I should hope so too .
As a single woman it would be daft not too
What's being a single female got to do with anything?. "
It’s imperative for a single woman to feel safe on meeting someone , so every effort she makes to do so ( including checking the veri trail ) is to be recommended . |
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"Some women get jealous of the women you have met in the past....
If you have met only skinny model types and a larger women checked out your verifications.
She might be intimidated to meet you...
Really ? I'd assume he'd approached her and therefore found her attractive.
Yes, but she could still be intimidated by his previous meets...."
This is me, not only with first meets, but if I’d hoped to see them again and they get a good veri in the meantime it makes me think I won’t live up to it and I back out. The downside of Fab for those with confidence issues! |
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"I'm afraid I'm one of those people who do an 'audit trail' on someone's verifications before I meet them. It will put me off meeting if I don't like what I see.
I should hope so too .
As a single woman it would be daft not too
What's being a single female got to do with anything?.
It’s imperative for a single woman to feel safe on meeting someone , so every effort she makes to do so ( including checking the veri trail ) is to be recommended ."
Think you're thinking far too deep into now and you're just stating the obvious. All people have to be safe,not just women. |
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"Some women get jealous of the women you have met in the past....
If you have met only skinny model types and a larger women checked out your verifications.
She might be intimidated to meet you...
Really ? I'd assume he'd approached her and therefore found her attractive.
Yes, but she could still be intimidated by his previous meets....
This is me, not only with first meets, but if I’d hoped to see them again and they get a good veri in the meantime it makes me think I won’t live up to it and I back out. The downside of Fab for those with confidence issues!"
Really. Wow. First time i've heard that. Not sure why as you're nice and there will always be someone that's different and does things different. That doesn't necessarily mean better |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Some women get jealous of the women you have met in the past....
If you have met only skinny model types and a larger women checked out your verifications.
She might be intimidated to meet you...
Really ? I'd assume he'd approached her and therefore found her attractive.
Yes, but she could still be intimidated by his previous meets....
This is me, not only with first meets, but if I’d hoped to see them again and they get a good veri in the meantime it makes me think I won’t live up to it and I back out. The downside of Fab for those with confidence issues!
Really. Wow. First time i've heard that. Not sure why as you're nice and there will always be someone that's different and does things different. That doesn't necessarily mean better "
I know, I have a thing about being compared, I can’t help it |
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