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Hi all
Taken quite a long break from fab due to an awful meet and lack of body confidence but am keen to get back out there. Any advice on how to ease myself back into it. As a single female I am not confident enough to go to clubs alone. Any advice would be much appreciated x |
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Clubs are great but it is nerve wracking going for the first time.
It might be worth looking for another lady to go with you as a wing woman. You can support each other and have a laugh. Treat it just like a night out on the town and if one or both of you "pulls" you can play there and then  |
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"Clubs are great but it is nerve wracking going for the first time.
It might be worth looking for another lady to go with you as a wing woman. You can support each other and have a laugh. Treat it just like a night out on the town and if one or both of you "pulls" you can play there and then "
That’s definitely worth looking into. Thank you x |
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Welcome back!
I'd also look at the clubs themselves, and what you might want. For example, some clubs don't have private playrooms - if you're easing your way back in, private rooms may be a criteria. The layout may also be the same - a non-play, chilled area may be worth a looking for so you can chat first.
I'd also look at what events are on. For example, Jaydees have a greedy girls night regularly. You may not want to be a greedy girl but it does mean there are lots of other single women usually. Often they'll post they're going. Drop them a note and the organiser - we've definitely seen them take other ladies under their proverbial wings. Couples will obviously do the same but you may feel happier with another woman.
And body confidence...? Well we like what we see  . But there are some other good threads currently which I think will help reassure you x There is someone for everyone x
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"Welcome back!
I'd also look at the clubs themselves, and what you might want. For example, some clubs don't have private playrooms - if you're easing your way back in, private rooms may be a criteria. The layout may also be the same - a non-play, chilled area may be worth a looking for so you can chat first.
I'd also look at what events are on. For example, Jaydees have a greedy girls night regularly. You may not want to be a greedy girl but it does mean there are lots of other single women usually. Often they'll post they're going. Drop them a note and the organiser - we've definitely seen them take other ladies under their proverbial wings. Couples will obviously do the same but you may feel happier with another woman.
Another great suggestion and thank you for your kind words. Had forgotten what a great bunch of people are on here x x x
And body confidence...? Well we like what we see . But there are some other good threads currently which I think will help reassure you x There is someone for everyone x
Hmm and Her"
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In addition to the other great advice on this thread... try to learn from past mistakes. Don't dwell on it negatively. And discard unuseful self criticisms. But if you can figure out what you could have done to avert the bad experience you had then it'll help you feel more comfortable trying again... and from comfort comes confidence  Welcome back beautiful  |
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"Same, I think one of the reason I don’t meet much is because the lack of body confidence. I don’t like getting fully naked. "
Think of all problems as possibilities. You don't like getting naked? Don't get naked then. Say your kink is clothed sex. Heck that's one of my kinks too. It's not a lie is it? Whatever it is that you'd like to do that would make a meet amazing for you. Visualise it and put it out there. Think of solutions not problems |
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"Hi all
Taken quite a long break from fab due to an awful meet and lack of body confidence but am keen to get back out there. Any advice on how to ease myself back into it. As a single female I am not confident enough to go to clubs alone. Any advice would be much appreciated x"
Looking great as you are  get out there and let that beauty show.
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"Same, I think one of the reason I don’t meet much is because the lack of body confidence. I don’t like getting fully naked.
Think of all problems as possibilities. You don't like getting naked? Don't get naked then. Say your kink is clothed sex. Heck that's one of my kinks too. It's not a lie is it? Whatever it is that you'd like to do that would make a meet amazing for you. Visualise it and put it out there. Think of solutions not problems "
Great advice
I don't ever get naked with a meet and never had an issue
My body confidence is zero but dressed in a sexy outfit (usually bodystocking) I gain confidence some how
As for the op middle finger up to the haters and welcome back
I'm sure there'll be someone willing to accompany you and make you realise you've nothing to feel worried about
Jane x |
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Wow. Thank you all for the suggestions and positive comments. Really helped me find my mojo and realise I’m here for me and if people don’t like me they can walk on by. Need to do what makes me happy.
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"Hi all
Taken quite a long break from fab due to an awful meet and lack of body confidence but am keen to get back out there. Any advice on how to ease myself back into it. As a single female I am not confident enough to go to clubs alone. Any advice would be much appreciated x"
Take your time. Spend a long time on Fab getting to know potential meets. Only mett when you feel ready. |
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"Same, I think one of the reason I don’t meet much is because the lack of body confidence. I don’t like getting fully naked. "
Wow really? I hope I don't sound a white knight idiot but you have a very sexy body and sexy legs. |
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"Same, I think one of the reason I don’t meet much is because the lack of body confidence. I don’t like getting fully naked. "
I’m exactly the same I hate being naked , awful isn’t it that it holds us back.
We don’t half give ourselves a hard time us women eh  |
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"Same, I think one of the reason I don’t meet much is because the lack of body confidence. I don’t like getting fully naked.
I’m exactly the same I hate being naked , awful isn’t it that it holds us back.
We don’t half give ourselves a hard time us women eh "
Give us men a hard time too by being so big and beautiful  |
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"Same, I think one of the reason I don’t meet much is because the lack of body confidence. I don’t like getting fully naked.
I’m exactly the same I hate being naked , awful isn’t it that it holds us back.
We don’t half give ourselves a hard time us women eh "
I know right? Bloody crazy but can’t help how I feel. |
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"Same, I think one of the reason I don’t meet much is because the lack of body confidence. I don’t like getting fully naked.
I’m exactly the same I hate being naked , awful isn’t it that it holds us back.
We don’t half give ourselves a hard time us women eh
I know right? Bloody crazy but can’t help how I feel. "
I just clicked on the first of your pictures and it’s got 1300 Fabs, it looks like everyone else thinks you’re crazy too
You wouldn’t say those things to another woman so why say them to yourself? |
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"Same, I think one of the reason I don’t meet much is because the lack of body confidence. I don’t like getting fully naked.
I’m exactly the same I hate being naked , awful isn’t it that it holds us back.
We don’t half give ourselves a hard time us women eh
I know right? Bloody crazy but can’t help how I feel.
I just clicked on the first of your pictures and it’s got 1300 Fabs, it looks like everyone else thinks you’re crazy too
You wouldn’t say those things to another woman so why say them to yourself?"
Guess I’m good at taking a photo, holding in my stomach and hiding certain areas I don’t like
No I wouldn’t purposely offend others. Myself I will though.
I just feel I have to be really comfortable with someone before stripping off and showing areas I don’t like. I wouldn’t like a meet and having to keep on lingerie/clothes on the whole time. I get hot and sweaty during steamy sessions and keeping on pvc, nylon or Lycra stretching things start riding up or down or just not staying in place.
I’m lucky enough to of made a few swinging friends over the years who have seen my weight yo-yo, I’m comfortable with them and they will tell me to shut up and get my kit off. They’re the ones I always meet as fully comfortable with them.
I’ve started getting into more body worshiping play without having intercourse. Those kind of meets I’ve seen how guys relish every inch of my body. So yeah I must be being silly |
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"Hi all
Taken quite a long break from fab due to an awful meet and lack of body confidence but am keen to get back out there. Any advice on how to ease myself back into it. As a single female I am not confident enough to go to clubs alone. Any advice would be much appreciated x"
I'll take you out |
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over a year ago
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I’m attempting it myself , I think drinks are a good starting point ! For me anyway .
Not that I’ve managed that yet lol .
Absolutely zero confidence for any naked ness tho , so I won’t be doing that any time soon !! |
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"I’m attempting it myself , I think drinks are a good starting point ! For me anyway .
Not that I’ve managed that yet lol .
Absolutely zero confidence for any naked ness tho , so I won’t be doing that any time soon !! "
Fancy a drink? |
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"I’m attempting it myself , I think drinks are a good starting point ! For me anyway .
Not that I’ve managed that yet lol .
Absolutely zero confidence for any naked ness tho , so I won’t be doing that any time soon !! "
Your photos look amazing ( had a little peek ) but I know that makes no difference if you don’t feel confident in yourself. Hope you find what you’re looking for x x x |
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"I’m attempting it myself , I think drinks are a good starting point ! For me anyway .
Not that I’ve managed that yet lol .
Absolutely zero confidence for any naked ness tho , so I won’t be doing that any time soon !! "
Woman to woman you look great! |
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There’s one way to settle this, you will all have to come with me to a club, we’ll sit in the hot tub naked and see how many blokes look at me jealously.
I think it will be all of them, because you look great |
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