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Don’t know if I’m being catfished. Help !
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 I questioned her further as even her eyes and nose were different but she got quite upset and reckoned I didn’t want to proceed with the whole Dom/sub thing and I was just picking faults.
Moving along, she asked me to do certain things on video and to send in an explicit image of my private parts. I told her that I will not send in any sort of videos/ explicit images as I’m still not convinced she is who she says she is. She was hurt but understood.
However, as the convo moved along, I felt a bit risky and provided two mini videos, just of my voice when I am about to cum... you cannot see my face... body or anything as she knew I didn’t trust her, so she requested to put the video face down. I did not send any explicit images of myself. She also mentioned that she would send an image of herself, providing a message that I asked her to write. I’m still waiting for that.
I don’t know what to do FAB people. Is she a fake ? Am I wasting my time ? How can I spot fakes / know I’m being catfished ? | |||
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"THe whole BDSM thing relies on trust. if you dont trust that she is who she is saying she is then walk away." That’s exactly what she said. | |||
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"The whole Dom/Sub thing requires building trust - and you never go into any sub situation until you have got to know the Dom personally and have talked it all out at length. Remember - the Sub must always be the one in ultimate control - not the Dom!!! I hear lots of warning alarms in what you've said - walk away - or better still, block and run! "Thanks ! What warning signs can you spot ? The Dom did say that it will take a while to build trust and doesn’t want to rush things. | |||
"THe whole BDSM thing relies on trust. if you dont trust that she is who she is saying she is then walk away. That’s exactly what she said."  | |||
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"Always go with your gut. Probably a guy who has got a random woman to stand in which is why she doesn't resemble her profile pix. If it feels dodgy it probably is." But she’s very keen to meet. Surely if she was dodgy, she would be avoiding a social meet. | |||
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"Always go with your gut. Probably a guy who has got a random woman to stand in which is why she doesn't resemble her profile pix. If it feels dodgy it probably is. But she’s very keen to meet. Surely if she was dodgy, she would be avoiding a social meet." The behaviour seems very male, but if she sent proof she was female, I would cut to a social and see what happens. What's the worse that can happen? You don't fancy her and have wasted a couple of hours. On the other hand, it might be exactly what you are looking for. | |||
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" Thanks ! What warning signs can you spot ? The Dom did say that it will take a while to build trust and doesn’t want to rush things." The fact that she's already expecting you to provide videos is all wrong - she should work at getting to know you and meeting you first. Never trust a webcam view of someone - it can be a recording of anyone at all! If they seem to be on webcam - ask them to wave at you to prove that it's live. Always have a cheap spare mobile with a pay-as-you-go card that you can throw away, then ask her to phone you - do you hear a genuine woman's voice? I often find that most "women" find excuses not to phone at this point! She should answer all your questions honestly and openly, and work towards meeting first - then slowly build a dom/sub relationship if everything clicks. Trying to con you into "of course it's about trust - and you should trust me.." is a massive no-go! There should be no attempt at all to tell you what to do at this stage! Run away...!!! There are genuine people out there - take your time, and learn how to find them. It's worth missing out on a few until you really feel that you know what you are doing... If you want to learn about dom/sub - go and observe at some clubs or shows first! | |||
"Always go with your gut. Probably a guy who has got a random woman to stand in which is why she doesn't resemble her profile pix. If it feels dodgy it probably is. But she’s very keen to meet. Surely if she was dodgy, she would be avoiding a social meet." I'd put money on the social meet not happening. There are "couples" (for couple read actually single men)on here who have tried to arrange meets with me but it's just a ruse to keep you talking, try and get more pix vid or wank material out of you with no intention of a meet. Call her bluff. Ask to voice verify by phone, arrange a social and see what happens. Good luck x | |||
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"some very good advice above. A few extra pointers which might help. Join FL (the main fetish website) find your local London groups and get yourself to some of the socials (mnunches) where you get chance to speak with people of all sorts of persuasions who actually do fetish/kink/bdsm. You can always invite (them) along where you can both find out how real they are in a peer group of kinksters. As has been said before, long before any D/s roles are assumed, you need to both know and trust this individual, know their knowledge and competencies and, like swinging, know there is enough of a spark to do anything Good luck and feel free to message with fet queries xx" Best advice ever! Going to your local munch gets you into the kink community, where safety and consent advice is easily available from the experienced. It will give you a chance to get to know people and perhaps find a safer way to explore than this yes-probably-cat fishing experience. Good luck x | |||
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"Hello FabSwingers. I’ve recently got myself talking to a woman on here. She is very much into the whole DOM/SUB BDSM scene and is basically looking for a woman Sub. This has always been a fantasy of mine but with caution of course but It sounded interesting, we liked the look of each other and we proceeded to talk some more. We talked in detail on another messaging app and I was able to prove myself geniuine by taking a live picture. This Dom, is very into making videos, and asked me to do something on camera (a simple gesture) to prove I’m really genuine. I told her that Im not comfortable taking countless videos/pics as I’ve come across many pic/vid collectors on here, plus she hasn’t proved to herself that she too is genuine. Anyway, she agreed and took a video of herself doing the simple gesture she asked me to. However ! She looked very different from the pictures I’ve seen on her profile on FAB. I questioned this to her and she said “Her hair is different but that’s all her” I questioned her further as even her eyes and nose were different but she got quite upset and reckoned I didn’t want to proceed with the whole Dom/sub thing and I was just picking faults.
Moving along, she asked me to do certain things on video and to send in an explicit image of my private parts. I told her that I will not send in any sort of videos/ explicit images as I’m still not convinced she is who she says she is. She was hurt but understood.
However, as the convo moved along, I felt a bit risky and provided two mini videos, just of my voice when I am about to cum... you cannot see my face... body or anything as she knew I didn’t trust her, so she requested to put the video face down. I did not send any explicit images of myself. She also mentioned that she would send an image of herself, providing a message that I asked her to write. I’m still waiting for that.
I don’t know what to do FAB people. Is she a fake ? Am I wasting my time ? How can I spot fakes / know I’m being catfished ?"Ask her to do a telephone call. After that ask her to do a Skype video call. You can keep your video off until you feel safe enough to switch it on. If she is unwilling to do a video call I would be very suspicious. | |||
"Always go with your gut. Probably a guy who has got a random woman to stand in which is why she doesn't resemble her profile pix. If it feels dodgy it probably is. But she’s very keen to meet. Surely if she was dodgy, she would be avoiding a social meet." True up to a point. First do a Skype video call. If she looks ok and doesn't behave like a nutter as you chat arrange a social meet. Make the social meet in a very public place such as a pub, cafe, etc. Make the social meet just a social meet. Do not go home with her or invite her to yours. Meet for some fun when you feel safe to do so. | |||
"The whole Dom/Sub thing requires building trust - and you never go into any sub situation until you have got to know the Dom personally and have talked it all out at length. Remember - the Sub must always be the one in ultimate control - not the Dom!!! I hear lots of warning alarms in what you've said - walk away - or better still, block and run! "Seconded...and report if you can prove that any of their images are fake | |||
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"THe whole BDSM thing relies on trust. if you dont trust that she is who she is saying she is then walk away." Im sorry thats not true because it’s about building trust together not a one side takes all thing | |||
"Hello FabSwingers. I’ve recently got myself talking to a woman on here. She is very much into the whole DOM/SUB BDSM scene and is basically looking for a woman Sub. This has always been a fantasy of mine but with caution of course but It sounded interesting, we liked the look of each other and we proceeded to talk some more. We talked in detail on another messaging app and I was able to prove myself geniuine by taking a live picture. This Dom, is very into making videos, and asked me to do something on camera (a simple gesture) to prove I’m really genuine. I told her that Im not comfortable taking countless videos/pics as I’ve come across many pic/vid collectors on here, plus she hasn’t proved to herself that she too is genuine. Anyway, she agreed and took a video of herself doing the simple gesture she asked me to. However ! She looked very different from the pictures I’ve seen on her profile on FAB. I questioned this to her and she said “Her hair is different but that’s all her” I questioned her further as even her eyes and nose were different but she got quite upset and reckoned I didn’t want to proceed with the whole Dom/sub thing and I was just picking faults.
Moving along, she asked me to do certain things on video and to send in an explicit image of my private parts. I told her that I will not send in any sort of videos/ explicit images as I’m still not convinced she is who she says she is. She was hurt but understood.
However, as the convo moved along, I felt a bit risky and provided two mini videos, just of my voice when I am about to cum... you cannot see my face... body or anything as she knew I didn’t trust her, so she requested to put the video face down. I did not send any explicit images of myself. She also mentioned that she would send an image of herself, providing a message that I asked her to write. I’m still waiting for that.
I don’t know what to do FAB people. Is she a fake ? Am I wasting my time ? How can I spot fakes / know I’m being catfished ?"Walk away, sounds very dodgy to me! | |||
"THe whole BDSM thing relies on trust. if you dont trust that she is who she is saying she is then walk away. Im sorry thats not true because it’s about building trust together not a one side takes all thing" This is very true thats why we state she only plays sub to mr and if anyone came into that dynamic for us there would be alot of trust built up 1st on all sides. Basicly if your not getting what your putting in back then walk away would be our advice. | |||
"Hello FabSwingers. I’ve recently got myself talking to a woman on here. She is very much into the whole DOM/SUB BDSM scene and is basically looking for a woman Sub. This has always been a fantasy of mine but with caution of course but It sounded interesting, we liked the look of each other and we proceeded to talk some more. We talked in detail on another messaging app and I was able to prove myself geniuine by taking a live picture. This Dom, is very into making videos, and asked me to do something on camera (a simple gesture) to prove I’m really genuine. I told her that Im not comfortable taking countless videos/pics as I’ve come across many pic/vid collectors on here, plus she hasn’t proved to herself that she too is genuine. Anyway, she agreed and took a video of herself doing the simple gesture she asked me to. However ! She looked very different from the pictures I’ve seen on her profile on FAB. I questioned this to her and she said “Her hair is different but that’s all her” I questioned her further as even her eyes and nose were different but she got quite upset and reckoned I didn’t want to proceed with the whole Dom/sub thing and I was just picking faults.
Moving along, she asked me to do certain things on video and to send in an explicit image of my private parts. I told her that I will not send in any sort of videos/ explicit images as I’m still not convinced she is who she says she is. She was hurt but understood.
However, as the convo moved along, I felt a bit risky and provided two mini videos, just of my voice when I am about to cum... you cannot see my face... body or anything as she knew I didn’t trust her, so she requested to put the video face down. I did not send any explicit images of myself. She also mentioned that she would send an image of herself, providing a message that I asked her to write. I’m still waiting for that.
I don’t know what to do FAB people. Is she a fake ? Am I wasting my time ? How can I spot fakes / know I’m being catfished ?"Always trust your gut instinct, it’s seldom wrong. | |||
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"You run it threw a revirse image search?" Did that, nothing came up. | |||
"Well, she just sent me an image of the thing I requested... I asked her to send a specific message. She is hiding her face." So you can't make out her face at all? That's definitely a red flag. | |||
"Well, she just sent me an image of the thing I requested... I asked her to send a specific message. She is hiding her face. So you can't make out her face at all? That's definitely a red flag. " Yes, she covered the note with her face. Her body is very womanly... I have a bad feeling she’s a TV. | |||
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"..after the same thing happened before, seems very odd to let something like this get as far again, an identical situation..." | |||
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"Simply ask for a picture of her holding a spoon. No filth, no nudes, nothing. Simple picture holding a spoon including face" Or a daily newspaper. Hun the D/s life style is about trust and communication. From what you have said I would be extremely wary. For her to express her "hurt" as you describe feels more manipulative than genuine. Your submission is your gift to give. Not anyone's to demand and the pace is yours to set not hers. So adding her behavior to the possibility of being catfished says you are right to be wary xx | |||
"Simply ask for a picture of her holding a spoon. No filth, no nudes, nothing. Simple picture holding a spoon including face" Maybe because I’m American we do things differently here... But can you please explain all this picture taking to prove someone is real thing to me? They way I have always done it ... is to exchange face pics , send my number, have a voice/video chat , and then meet. | |||
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"Well, she just sent me an image of the thing I requested... I asked her to send a specific message. She is hiding her face." Ffs op. Are you really that gullible x | |||
"No sure why you are still hammering away at this one. You've had loads of good advice on here. Why are you so determined to convince yourself this person is genuine when everything you have presented to us indicates that they are not? And seemingly you were in a similar situation last year? If you keep encountering fakes then you need to reassess your selection process. Or maybe it's the drama that you get off on rather than actual meets. Good luck OP. " I personally think she's talking shite x | |||
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"No sure why you are still hammering away at this one. You've had loads of good advice on here. Why are you so determined to convince yourself this person is genuine when everything you have presented to us indicates that they are not? And seemingly you were in a similar situation last year? If you keep encountering fakes then you need to reassess your selection process. Or maybe it's the drama that you get off on rather than actual meets. Good luck OP. I personally think she's talking shite x" I’m talking shit . Right ? Why would I feel the need to lie ? | |||
"Well, she just sent me an image of the thing I requested... I asked her to send a specific message. She is hiding her face. Ffs op. Are you really that gullible x" Well I can’t be, if I’m questioning it. | |||
"No sure why you are still hammering away at this one. You've had loads of good advice on here. Why are you so determined to convince yourself this person is genuine when everything you have presented to us indicates that they are not? And seemingly you were in a similar situation last year? If you keep encountering fakes then you need to reassess your selection process. Or maybe it's the drama that you get off on rather than actual meets. Good luck OP. " I merely wanted to give an update and see what you thought.If it was the drama I was seeking, trust me, you will see I would keep posting over and over again similar situations. All of you, I assume, have been on here much longer. I am quite new and I’ve only met one person on here, from FAB. This forum is about giving advice, but there has been some less understanding posters. | |||
"Simply ask for a picture of her holding a spoon. No filth, no nudes, nothing. Simple picture holding a spoon including face Maybe because I’m American we do things differently here... But can you please explain all this picture taking to prove someone is real thing to me? They way I have always done it ... is to exchange face pics , send my number, have a voice/video chat , and then meet. " Hi, It’s because pictures can be duped, as you already know. Plus, understandably, some members are wary to give out phone numbers or do live cam chats (fear of being recorded). Asking someone to take a random photo...holding a spoon, writing a certain message .... basically catches them off guard and it will prove that the person in the photo is genuine. | |||
"Simply ask for a picture of her holding a spoon. No filth, no nudes, nothing. Simple picture holding a spoon including face Or a daily newspaper. Hun the D/s life style is about trust and communication. From what you have said I would be extremely wary. For her to express her "hurt" as you describe feels more manipulative than genuine. Your submission is your gift to give. Not anyone's to demand and the pace is yours to set not hers. So adding her behavior to the possibility of being catfished says you are right to be wary xx" Thank you, this is very kind. | |||
"Well, she just sent me an image of the thing I requested... I asked her to send a specific message. She is hiding her face. Ffs op. Are you really that gullible x Well I can’t be, if I’m questioning it." Her hairs changed She's got different eyes She's got a different nose She's got you jumping through hoops She's got you sending her sex videos She covers her face You think it's a tv I'm sorry but from an outsider reading through this thread it just makes you look gullible People have given you advice and you keep saying aww but aww but. It's hard to read x | |||
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"Well, she just sent me an image of the thing I requested... I asked her to send a specific message. She is hiding her face. Ffs op. Are you really that gullible x Well I can’t be, if I’m questioning it. Her hairs changed She's got different eyes She's got a different nose She's got you jumping through hoops She's got you sending her sex videos She covers her face You think it's a tv I'm sorry but from an outsider reading through this thread it just makes you look gullible People have given you advice and you keep saying aww but aww but. It's hard to read x" Ok, well I simply wanted to give an update. But your right, and I agree, it all sounds fishy. I’ve already said what I needs to “say” to her and I’ve blocked her. Thanks for your honest advice. | |||
"Sounds like a black-mail situation to me. Heard about people being black-mailed when they send explicit videos with face in." Well, I’ve never sent explicit images of myself with my face in. In fact, I didn’t sent any. I refused to do so. | |||
"'She' now has a video of you doing a gesture that she can use to con other women into believing she's real. Probably the same way 'she' got the video to send to you- 'she' has used pics and videos of different women. Have you sent 'her' any pics of you? She will use those too. " Good point
Its a double bluff when she says walk away
She wont meet
She is a he.
Fet life is a good site, only meet people who are verified by regular and trusted members and they will vouch for them. But the same goes for here as well, there are a few Mistresses/Dominants around on here as well.
Men often collect pics and videos so they can have a wank. You got taken in and caught up in the moment, dont beat yourself up about it, we all make mistakes, especially if your nature is to please people, which subbing is alot about, but do learn from it.
Good luck in finding someone.  | |||
"Well, she just sent me an image of the thing I requested... I asked her to send a specific message. She is hiding her face. Ffs op. Are you really that gullible x Well I can’t be, if I’m questioning it. Her hairs changed She's got different eyes She's got a different nose She's got you jumping through hoops She's got you sending her sex videos She covers her face You think it's a tv I'm sorry but from an outsider reading through this thread it just makes you look gullible People have given you advice and you keep saying aww but aww but. It's hard to read x Ok, well I simply wanted to give an update. But your right, and I agree, it all sounds fishy. I’ve already said what I needs to “say” to her and I’ve blocked her. Thanks for your honest advice." Anytime chick Just get a bit of savvy about you and go with your gut Good luck x | |||
"Simply ask for a picture of her holding a spoon. No filth, no nudes, nothing. Simple picture holding a spoon including face Maybe because I’m American we do things differently here... But can you please explain all this picture taking to prove someone is real thing to me? They way I have always done it ... is to exchange face pics , send my number, have a voice/video chat , and then meet. Hi, It’s because pictures can be duped, as you already know. Plus, understandably, some members are wary to give out phone numbers or do live cam chats (fear of being recorded). Asking someone to take a random photo...holding a spoon, writing a certain message .... basically catches them off guard and it will prove that the person in the photo is genuine." Ok so a picture with a spoon is more proof than a live cam chat. Just so you know a cam chat is just two people looking at each other live. Basically just two faces being shown. What people could record and black mail with is beyond my simple brain. Just a little advice don’t go through all this trouble in the future for casual sex. This is supposed to be fun not something to get you stressed about... | |||
"Simply ask for a picture of her holding a spoon. No filth, no nudes, nothing. Simple picture holding a spoon including face Maybe because I’m American we do things differently here... But can you please explain all this picture taking to prove someone is real thing to me? They way I have always done it ... is to exchange face pics , send my number, have a voice/video chat , and then meet. Hi, It’s because pictures can be duped, as you already know. Plus, understandably, some members are wary to give out phone numbers or do live cam chats (fear of being recorded). Asking someone to take a random photo...holding a spoon, writing a certain message .... basically catches them off guard and it will prove that the person in the photo is genuine. Ok so a picture with a spoon is more proof than a live cam chat. Just so you know a cam chat is just two people looking at each other live. Basically just two faces being shown. What people could record and black mail with is beyond my simple brain. Just a little advice don’t go through all this trouble in the future for casual sex. This is supposed to be fun not something to get you stressed about..." Trust your gut. | |||
"'She' now has a video of you doing a gesture that she can use to con other women into believing she's real. Probably the same way 'she' got the video to send to you- 'she' has used pics and videos of different women. Have you sent 'her' any pics of you? She will use those too. Good point
Its a double bluff when she says walk away
She wont meet
She is a he.
Fet life is a good site, only meet people who are verified by regular and trusted members and they will vouch for them. But the same goes for here as well, there are a few Mistresses/Dominants around on here as well.
Men often collect pics and videos so they can have a wank. You got taken in and caught up in the moment, dont beat yourself up about it, we all make mistakes, especially if your nature is to please people, which subbing is alot about, but do learn from it.
Good luck in finding someone. "Well said | |||
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"OP you've still not answered the questions about how the very similar situation you posted about last year panned out? Did you not learn from that?" Oh sorry ! Well, from that encounter... that’s when I first joined FAB, I came across the “woman” aka a man, who seemed genuine, we furthered our conversation via KiK, a messaging app. She requested to send pictures via the KIK’s live camera to prove that I’m genuine (which is true, but I later found out you can fake these). She also sent me photos via the KIK camera, which suggested to me she was who she said she was. She asked me to send explicit photos of myself via the KIK camera , which I did but I never showed my face in these, but still... I kept requesting social meet ups but she always had an excuse. The first clue, that suggested to me that she might be fake was when I asked what was her Occupation, it was predominantly a Male profession, that probably might sound sexist. I then remembered what someone mentioned to me, who I met online, that to catch a fake...catch them off guard and request that they do something odd (e.g. holding a spoon on your nose, showing two fingers, balancing a book on your head) as you can fake cams/videos and photos. Taking that on board, I asked the “woman” aka the man, to do a live web cam chat.... which took FOREVER for “her” to do but I assume she thought I was going to show some nooky on Cam, so the risk was worth it. Once we were on live webcam, it was CLEAR that the video was taped/recorded in some way... just to be sure, I asked her “can you show me three fingers please”. “She” immediantly clocked on, turned the web cam off and blocked me. I managed to contact one of her veri’s as they put up a good veri of her and reckoned she was genuine. However, when speaking to them, they too had slight concerns but couldn’t be one hundred percent sure. From this, I learnt not to show explicit pictures of myself to anyone. If they want to test I’m genuine, I’ll just show them a simple picture where I am fully clothed. I would ask for proper verification, for example, a phone call, doing something random on camera/ video. | |||
"OP you've still not answered the questions about how the very similar situation you posted about last year panned out? Did you not learn from that? Oh sorry ! Well, from that encounter... that’s when I first joined FAB, I came across the “woman” aka a man, who seemed genuine, we furthered our conversation via KiK, a messaging app. She requested to send pictures via the KIK’s live camera to prove that I’m genuine (which is true, but I later found out you can fake these). She also sent me photos via the KIK camera, which suggested to me she was who she said she was. She asked me to send explicit photos of myself via the KIK camera , which I did but I never showed my face in these, but still... I kept requesting social meet ups but she always had an excuse. The first clue, that suggested to me that she might be fake was when I asked what was her Occupation, it was predominantly a Male profession, that probably might sound sexist. I then remembered what someone mentioned to me, who I met online, that to catch a fake...catch them off guard and request that they do something odd (e.g. holding a spoon on your nose, showing two fingers, balancing a book on your head) as you can fake cams/videos and photos. Taking that on board, I asked the “woman” aka the man, to do a live web cam chat.... which took FOREVER for “her” to do but I assume she thought I was going to show some nooky on Cam, so the risk was worth it. Once we were on live webcam, it was CLEAR that the video was taped/recorded in some way... just to be sure, I asked her “can you show me three fingers please”. “She” immediantly clocked on, turned the web cam off and blocked me. I managed to contact one of her veri’s as they put up a good veri of her and reckoned she was genuine. However, when speaking to them, they too had slight concerns but couldn’t be one hundred percent sure. From this, I learnt not to show explicit pictures of myself to anyone. If they want to test I’m genuine, I’ll just show them a simple picture where I am fully clothed. I would ask for proper verification, for example, a phone call, doing something random on camera/ video. " And can you not see how similar that all sounds to the situation you are now describing on this thread? Maybe you should take the lessons learned from that and apply them to this latest situation | |||
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"When I was on another now closed cam website you would get the savvy guys video the women and live stream to others as if they were the ones doing it. I dont understand why you dont get a Fab fone and a cheap sim to actually do direct Facetime early on or have a Fab skype account. Seems the most sensible way to find out if you are talking to a m or f. To me if a person is faffing around back and forth with out video they are hiding something . " Thank you, never thought of that. I will take this on board. | |||
"When I was on another now closed cam website you would get the savvy guys video the women and live stream to others as if they were the ones doing it. I dont understand why you dont get a Fab fone and a cheap sim to actually do direct Facetime early on or have a Fab skype account. Seems the most sensible way to find out if you are talking to a m or f. To me if a person is faffing around back and forth with out video they are hiding something . Thank you, never thought of that. I will take this on board."  | |||
"90% of the "Doms" on FL are fake so be aware." I would disagree with that as I am Domme and real and know several other Dommes and Doms But I would insist on a meet before you provide anymore videos. A good sub Domme relationships is built on trust. Arrange a meet in a public place before you go any further. Mrs B | |||
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"When I was on another now closed cam website you would get the savvy guys video the women and live stream to others as if they were the ones doing it. I dont understand why you dont get a Fab fone and a cheap sim to actually do direct Facetime early on or have a Fab skype account. Seems the most sensible way to find out if you are talking to a m or f. To me if a person is faffing around back and forth with out video they are hiding something . Thank you, never thought of that. I will take this on board." mabey it's the same person as last time with a different profile.. | |||
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"Simply ask for a picture of her holding a spoon. No filth, no nudes, nothing. Simple picture holding a spoon including face Maybe because I’m American we do things differently here... But can you please explain all this picture taking to prove someone is real thing to me? They way I have always done it ... is to exchange face pics , send my number, have a voice/video chat , and then meet. Hi, It’s because pictures can be duped, as you already know. Plus, understandably, some members are wary to give out phone numbers or do live cam chats (fear of being recorded). Asking someone to take a random photo...holding a spoon, writing a certain message .... basically catches them off guard and it will prove that the person in the photo is genuine. Ok so a picture with a spoon is more proof than a live cam chat. Just so you know a cam chat is just two people looking at each other live. Basically just two faces being shown. What people could record and black mail with is beyond my simple brain. Just a little advice don’t go through all this trouble in the future for casual sex. This is supposed to be fun not something to get you stressed about..." That's exactly what I asked some 'Doms to do when they me pictures of 'themselves'. If they have an object in their picture say a hairbrush, I asked them to take a picture of themselves holding the hairbrush. They never did or ignored it. Then if they try and money off you for something like a hotel booking,don't be daft, run away! | |||
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"She may have sent a photo of her doing a specific thing but if it was something that she suggested then she could be using a fake photo? When chatting with someone I always get them to do a photo that I suggest and then I do one that they suggest. Best way to be sure though is to just video chat, like a proper back and forth chat, not just them typing and videoing as it can be a recording. Instinct is usually right x" Back in the day you were the first couple we video chatted with lol | |||
"She may have sent a photo of her doing a specific thing but if it was something that she suggested then she could be using a fake photo? When chatting with someone I always get them to do a photo that I suggest and then I do one that they suggest. Best way to be sure though is to just video chat, like a proper back and forth chat, not just them typing and videoing as it can be a recording. Instinct is usually right x Back in the day you were the first couple we video chatted with lol " You were our first couple for a lot of things! | |||
"You sound like a very wise head on young shoulders. What you could've done was to request her to make a gesture that you alone have decided upon. That way the other person can't just use a pre recorded gesture. Then if they say they haven't got time, or my hand was recently eaten by a shark or some excuse to prove themselves, then you will know they are fake." She did, she wrote a message on a piece of paper like I told her to. However, she was hiding her face AND she was in some odd pose. Very likely she was a TV. | |||
"She may have sent a photo of her doing a specific thing but if it was something that she suggested then she could be using a fake photo? When chatting with someone I always get them to do a photo that I suggest and then I do one that they suggest. Best way to be sure though is to just video chat, like a proper back and forth chat, not just them typing and videoing as it can be a recording. Instinct is usually right x" Yes ! Exactly ! As to why I then asked her “To take a photo of you writing a specific message”. She did do this but she hid her face whilst taking the photo . However, next time, I’ll do this by live video. | |||
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"You sound like a very wise head on young shoulders. What you could've done was to request her to make a gesture that you alone have decided upon. That way the other person can't just use a pre recorded gesture. Then if they say they haven't got time, or my hand was recently eaten by a shark or some excuse to prove themselves, then you will know they are fake. She did, she wrote a message on a piece of paper like I told her to. However, she was hiding her face AND she was in some odd pose. Very likely she was a TV." Oh yeah sorry didn't see that bit. Well if she looks different to her fab pics and is now hiding her face then that sounds very dodgy. | |||
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"What do you think she was trying to do?" She/he may have tried to video you waiting like a chump. | |||
