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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just a quick question especially for the single ladies.
Is it true that you check the accommodate answer on profiles and if it says No then it means the guy is married?
Yes I am married and I often accommodate in a hotel so answered yes. Been told off tonight so changed profile - is it really that important??? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its not important if guys dont accommodate, im single but i dont accommodate so dont moan at others for not doing what im not doing
however it is important that their not married before i meet them |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its actually something I never look at. I like to meet at my home, mainly because I dont drive, and im not keen on staying at peoples, so if I accommodate I can kick out when I want.
I couldnt care less why someone doesnt accommodate. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My choice of accomodation is a hotel too and I am SINGLE but some on here jump to there own conclusions ."
true
i dont accommodate as im single and i have kids and i just dont think its wise handing out my address to loads of single guys off the internet
Not everyones as they seem and it only takes one to abuse your trust, and i dont want guys turing up unannounced when my kids are home, or i have friends or family here, my privacy and kids safty is number 1 to me
but i get accused all the time of cheating, lot cant get their heads round the fact some single people just dont want to accommodate
Because of this i never ask or expect anyone to accommodate me, tho im more than happy to go to guys home if thats what they prefer, i never expect it
not all singles who cant accommodate are playing away
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its the double standars about accommodating that annoy me.
Its ok for women to say they dont, the main reason being they have kids, and dont want every Tom, Dick and Harry knowing where they live. Thats acceptable.
But should a single guy, who maybe doesnt have his kids full time (or maybe does) says he cant, thats not acceptable.
Why is it any different? Its still his kids home, wither they are there 7 days a week or 1 day a week, why should he have to be happy to hand his address out to a random woman?
I accommodate because I dont have kids. If I did, I know I wouldnt be inviting strangers into my home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its the double standars about accommodating that annoy me.
Its ok for women to say they dont, the main reason being they have kids, and dont want every Tom, Dick and Harry knowing where they live. Thats acceptable.
But should a single guy, who maybe doesnt have his kids full time (or maybe does) says he cant, thats not acceptable.
Why is it any different? Its still his kids home, wither they are there 7 days a week or 1 day a week, why should he have to be happy to hand his address out to a random woman?
I accommodate because I dont have kids. If I did, I know I wouldnt be inviting strangers into my home."
i agree i dont mind if guys dont accommodate, what does piss me off tho is guys who cant accommodate themselves trying to talk me into letting them come round here
i would have thought people in the same possition as me would be more understanding |
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i also can't accommodate and get very annoyed by the men who are insistant that it would be so much better if we met at my house - even though they can't accommodate either! They seem to have no understanding that as a single woman living alone handing out my address over the internet is potentially dangerous...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only go to peoples homes if they are single ladies- I know it's odd but I feel safer meeting a lady on her own territory than a male. I don't accommodate so don't expect others too either..
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"Just a quick question especially for the single ladies.
Is it true that you check the accommodate answer on profiles and if it says No then it means the guy is married?
Yes I am married and I often accommodate in a hotel so answered yes. Been told off tonight so changed profile - is it really that important??? "
you are a grown man, have your profile how you want it not how someone tells you to have it
i very raely look at whether or no someone can accomodate to be honest but it is very clear looking around the various threads on here that some do instantly jump to conclusions when they see the cant accomodate bit |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have come across men though who put can accomodate on their profile and then push to meet at mine (I can't accomodate)
Because some women see it as they are married they lie about it anyway so is is fundamentally flawed as a filtering system
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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago
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I genuinely can`t accomodate and it`s in my profile why. I have stated that I`m happy to meet at a mutually convenient hotel. As for the cost of the hotel, well that would depend entirely on the circumstances and would have to be discussed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's one of the first things I look at yes. I also have I don't meet in hotels either.
I don't assume a man is married, I assume he thinks his house is sacrosant but my house is a knocking shop. I live in a very lovely house which I share with my adult children. When they are out I accommodate. It's my choice to meet at home, also my choice to expect playmates to reciprocate if need be.
It's on my profile so not to waste anyone's time, if they can't accommodate in their home, they're not coming to mine, and I don't think that unreasonable!
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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago
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I dont accomodate at mine any more for reasons that others have stated. I meet people in my local club normally but often get mailed from men that travel and dont accomodate and want to meet at mine as its going to cost them to meet in the club.
If a man puts on that he travels and is in my area this week(heard that sooooo many times) then it does make me question if he is married or have a partner and if he doesnt accomodate at home and is local to me then I do question too. I dont assume tho.
It is more improtant for me to know they arent attatched than anything |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You should prob say on your profile that you are married  "
Have to say we totally agree with that , we would think more of the guy if he just told the truth |
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Iam single but can't accommadate, as I have a grown up daughter and my old Mum both livign with me. But yes folsk always assume ur attached.
I accom in hotels, but thats a thing to discuss when u talk about meeting. It's safer anyway not accom at first even if u can. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I do. If it says they can't accommodate, I ask why not though I don't read a profile where I can see that they are married as I prefer single guys. Can't accommodate doesn't necessarily mean married as some share a house or have kids staying either permanent or as visitation. If I am messages by someone who has cannot accommodate, I suggest they say why on their profile and explain why |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Iam single but can't accommadate, as I have a grown up daughter and my old Mum both livign with me. But yes folsk always assume ur attached.
I accom in hotels, but thats a thing to discuss when u talk about meeting. It's safer anyway not accom at first even if u can."
I don't see hotels as accommodating, only ones home |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks to everyone for replying.
Just want to say that I am on here with my ladies permission. I understand the desire to avoid meets with people who are on here without permission of their partners and want avoid misleading those people.
I have tried stating the married bit in my profile but I feel its better to discuss it and that is better done when making contact. I am more than happy to accept the rejection if someone doesn't like it. I never make a fuss about it as I know this can often come from being hurt by a past partner and have no wish to add to the hurt.
A question - how do you know if a single is lying about their status? I suspect their are plenty of 'singles' on here who are as attached as me.
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"Thanks to everyone for replying.
Just want to say that I am on here with my ladies permission. I understand the desire to avoid meets with people who are on here without permission of their partners and want avoid misleading those people.
I have tried stating the married bit in my profile but I feel its better to discuss it and that is better done when making contact. I am more than happy to accept the rejection if someone doesn't like it. I never make a fuss about it as I know this can often come from being hurt by a past partner and have no wish to add to the hurt.
A question - how do you know if a single is lying about their status? I suspect their are plenty of 'singles' on here who are as attached as me.
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How do you know...for a one of shag you dont,but i dont meet single men for one offs,so its pretty obvious after getting to know them.
Oh and people tend to end up telling me their life story |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks to everyone for replying.
Just want to say that I am on here with my ladies permission. I understand the desire to avoid meets with people who are on here without permission of their partners and want avoid misleading those people.
I have tried stating the married bit in my profile but I feel its better to discuss it and that is better done when making contact. I am more than happy to accept the rejection if someone doesn't like it. I never make a fuss about it as I know this can often come from being hurt by a past partner and have no wish to add to the hurt.
A question - how do you know if a single is lying about their status? I suspect their are plenty of 'singles' on here who are as attached as me.
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I can assure you you don't need to be Mrs Marple to spot a man is married/attached.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks to everyone for replying.
Just want to say that I am on here with my ladies permission. I understand the desire to avoid meets with people who are on here without permission of their partners and want avoid misleading those people.
I have tried stating the married bit in my profile but I feel its better to discuss it and that is better done when making contact. I am more than happy to accept the rejection if someone doesn't like it. I never make a fuss about it as I know this can often come from being hurt by a past partner and have no wish to add to the hurt.
A question - how do you know if a single is lying about their status? I suspect their are plenty of 'singles' on here who are as attached as me.
I can assure you you don't need to be Mrs Marple to spot a man is married/attached. "
cannot accomodate no photo usually gives that away :p
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"Thanks to everyone for replying.
Just want to say that I am on here with my ladies permission. I understand the desire to avoid meets with people who are on here without permission of their partners and want avoid misleading those people.
I have tried stating the married bit in my profile but I feel its better to discuss it and that is better done when making contact. I am more than happy to accept the rejection if someone doesn't like it. I never make a fuss about it as I know this can often come from being hurt by a past partner and have no wish to add to the hurt.
A question - how do you know if a single is lying about their status? I suspect their are plenty of 'singles' on here who are as attached as me.
I can assure you you don't need to be Mrs Marple to spot a man is married/attached.
cannot accomodate no photo usually gives that away :p
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and if ,like us you confirm by phone very early in the process... set times to call that are more complex than the g20 attempts to bail out Greece |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i also can't accommodate and get very annoyed by the men who are insistant that it would be so much better if we met at my house - even though they can't accommodate either! They seem to have no understanding that as a single woman living alone handing out my address over the internet is potentially dangerous... "
thats because a lot of them are to lazy and tight to sort a hotel
if it dont involve getting in the car and nipping round to your for a shag they have no interest
its ok for them to safe guard their family and privacy but womens dont matter, cause......well we're just here for a fuck arnt we? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks to everyone for replying.
Just want to say that I am on here with my ladies permission. I understand the desire to avoid meets with people who are on here without permission of their partners and want avoid misleading those people.
I have tried stating the married bit in my profile but I feel its better to discuss it and that is better done when making contact. I am more than happy to accept the rejection if someone doesn't like it. I never make a fuss about it as I know this can often come from being hurt by a past partner and have no wish to add to the hurt.
A question - how do you know if a single is lying about their status? I suspect their are plenty of 'singles' on here who are as attached as me.
I can assure you you don't need to be Mrs Marple to spot a man is married/attached.
cannot accomodate no photo usually gives that away :p
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loads of things give a guy whos cheating away
cant accommodate, dont give out phone number, after day meet, or if they do meet in evening cant stay long and go before the pubs close, wont give out pics, dont want to meet in public etc
you get a guy whos got 2 or 3 of these traits going you know something dodgys going off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have, at various points been able to accomodate and not accomodate and have given reasons why when not able. Never saw it as a problem....
As it stannds i do not accomodate couples as my flatmate does not like the idea of having a couple at her house. Thats the way it is, i dont appologise for it and if it stops me meeting couples, well thats just anothet reason on a fairly long list......
Just as an adendum, i invariably play at the ladies place as i dont jave toys etc at mine and more often than not I travel to the meet. I wouldnt dream of turning up unanounced..... I realy do apreciate the danger thing, though, so often suggest a neutral meeting place. If, after say 2 or 3 meets they still dont trust me then, frankly, they aren't very good judges of charachter and we probably wouldn't meet again anyway........ |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Kinky, have to say I love the first inital bit of what your not looking for on your profile...it is fab xxx"
Thank you, a shame most people don't read it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thanks to everyone for replying.
Just want to say that I am on here with my ladies permission. I understand the desire to avoid meets with people who are on here without permission of their partners and want avoid misleading those people.
I have tried stating the married bit in my profile but I feel its better to discuss it and that is better done when making contact. I am more than happy to accept the rejection if someone doesn't like it. I never make a fuss about it as I know this can often come from being hurt by a past partner and have no wish to add to the hurt.
A question - how do you know if a single is lying about their status? I suspect their are plenty of 'singles' on here who are as attached as me.
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Don't forget there are also those of us that were hurt terribly as children by a parent cheating on their spouse, not very nice and even worse when they flaunt the other man in front of ones husband/father |
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