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Single guy Vs couple experience
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I go to swingers clubs with my partner and we certainly have good times together and fun chatting and meeting new people.
However there is one thing that really surprising me ... I was much more successful as a single guy ! By far ...
Obviously there is something we must be doing wrong, as we always end up watching people having fun without being involved ...
Have you as a couple experienced it ? |
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By *abioMan
over a year ago
Newcastle and Gateshead |
because when you are a couple... there are more people that have to like each other, or it doesn't work...
if they are after a single all they need to do is agree on the guy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was on here as a couple and now single and there is a stark difference. Prefer being single on here by far. Singles are people who you can relate directly to and flirt directly with. Couples are legal entities, corporations with whom you need to negotiate. Of course I'm exaggerating. But that's how it feels. Before, being a couple, it was all so fake and juggly, trying desperately not to tread on any one of the four people involved's egg shells. Now I can just be me... and piss everyone off 
As far as clubs go... you'll both need to be equally upbeat and flirtatious and socially outgoing... *and bold* if you want to seize a passing opportunity. If it feels like one of you isn't really into it others will pick up on that and give you a wide berth. Good luck  |
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Yes I too have that same experience.
I thinks its down to a much more complex dynamic, than with a single. I mapped it out some time ago to be minimum of 23 points of agreement that need to be met before successfully play (those that no one of the 4 involved regrets) can occur as a couple meeting another couple. This Compared to about 7 or so, for a single guy with a couple. |
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"because when you are a couple... there are more people that have to like each other, or it doesn't work...
if they are after a single all they need to do is agree on the guy"
This ,finding 4 way attraction isn't easy at all
Miss |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe we should split at the entrance of the club to see how it goes lol !"
Much better to go with the attitude that you're going to have an absolutely great time teasing and fucking and playing with each other. Use it as an opportunity to enjoy some naughty public sex. Your own personal playground.
Don't be so focused on trying to play with others. People will be attracted to how much fun you're having together. If any other couples who are getting off with each other decide to "accidentally" get a little close and start blurring the lines (and you like the look of them) then wah-hey! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"because when you are a couple... there are more people that have to like each other, or it doesn't work...
if they are after a single all they need to do is agree on the guy"
From a couples point of view this is true. When we played in clubs and there was a couple there it wasn't simple. It was in stages and ended up not playing with many. Single guys are drama free. Play with each other then ask a guy to join you. So straight forward x |
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By *exi7000Couple
over a year ago
London |
Sorry in advance for the blunt answer below.
I would add that many couples, including us, do not like fuck buddies type of couples, and we can read them from miles. We prefer committed, long time relationship couples, where we can have deeper conversation too. The conversation with FB couple always vety basic and boring.
As far as SG in clubs, we see them as toys and even not necessarily we will chat for long before we pull him in a room. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sorry in advance for the blunt answer below.
I would add that many couples, including us, do not like fuck buddies type of couples, and we can read them from miles. We prefer committed, long time relationship couples, where we can have deeper conversation too. The conversation with FB couple always vety basic and boring.
As far as SG in clubs, we see them as toys and even not necessarily we will chat for long before we pull him in a room. "
I found the opposite. Married couples wanted to talk about who made the best lasagne lol x |
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"Sorry in advance for the blunt answer below.
I would add that many couples, including us, do not like fuck buddies type of couples, and we can read them from miles. We prefer committed, long time relationship couples, where we can have deeper conversation too. The conversation with FB couple always vety basic and boring.
As far as SG in clubs, we see them as toys and even not necessarily we will chat for long before we pull him in a room.
I found the opposite. Married couples wanted to talk about who made the best lasagne lol x"
Agreed. The worst thing about trying to get off with couples in clubs is the tedious small talk that seems compulsory.
With single guys, you can just invite them to come into a room and away you go.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I will always play as a single....
I’ve tried on 3 occasions to swing as a couple and these were the results.
First couple was soft swap and my girlfriend is not into women. We ended up going to dinner, night club after , and then all having sex on the same bed no swapping...
Second Couple the husband could not get hard with a condom.
Third Couple they wanted separate room play. I said no and they left very angry....
Never again
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By *exi7000Couple
over a year ago
London |
"I will always play as a single....
I’ve tried on 3 occasions to swing as a couple and these were the results.
First couple was soft swap and my girlfriend is not into women. We ended up going to dinner, night club after , and then all having sex on the same bed no swapping...
Second Couple the husband could not get hard with a condom.
Third Couple they wanted separate room play. I said no and they left very angry....
Never again
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Wow, some interesting experiences. |
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By *exi7000Couple
over a year ago
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"Sorry in advance for the blunt answer below.
I would add that many couples, including us, do not like fuck buddies type of couples, and we can read them from miles. We prefer committed, long time relationship couples, where we can have deeper conversation too. The conversation with FB couple always vety basic and boring.
As far as SG in clubs, we see them as toys and even not necessarily we will chat for long before we pull him in a room.
I found the opposite. Married couples wanted to talk about who made the best lasagne lol x"
Really? Never happened to us in more than 15 years. Usually we talk about traveling, exploring new destination, fashion, photography, golf and the boring FB couples.  |
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By *offee with MilkCouple
over a year ago
Over the roundabout and then turn right. |
We prefer to play with ltr or married couples, but there are some lovely FWBs around too, so we certainly don't discount them. As for single guys in clubs, we'll play if the mood takes us though we don't actively seek them on Fab. Single lady? We're still waiting |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
Paisley |
I’ll find out soon. Going to a club with a FB I have a couple profile with soon. Funny thing is I’ve been to the club before with a single guy and we were mistaken for a couple so it’s not always clear who are in relationships and who aren’t.
I rarely play at the club as a single female but have made arrangements to meet people I’ve met which is fun. |
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"Yes I too have that same experience.
I thinks its down to a much more complex dynamic, than with a single. I mapped it out some time ago to be minimum of 23 points of agreement that need to be met before successfully play (those that no one of the 4 involved regrets) can occur as a couple meeting another couple. This Compared to about 7 or so, for a single guy with a couple."
Would love to see those calculations... |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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It also depends on the vibe you give out as a single, and as a couple, and whether as a couple you are more focusing on each other, or focusing on other people.
I think there's a lot of different factors that come into play Personally. I know some couples that are immensely successful, and I know some who aren't. I know some singles who are absolute hits at the clubs and others who are not. |
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