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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So after a recent incident I have changed my profile, what do people think?"
Respect definitely due for your absolute honesty and for warning those who have met you. Your profile will without a doubt act as a good filter, but that depends on who will take the time to read it 
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"So after a recent incident I have changed my profile, what do people think?"
It’s your profile to do with as you see fit .
By stating what you had , and warning others I think you are doing the right thing . Well done for being so brave , and I hope you don’t get too much abuse for it . |
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By *VBeth OP TV/TS
over a year ago
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"I don't get why you would put it on your profile if you don't have it anymore."
It felt wrong to pretend it didn't happen and although I messaged all those I felt were at risk, I can't guarantee I caught everyone. Hopefully the shock value will make people get a check.... |
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"I don't get why you would put it on your profile if you don't have it anymore.
It felt wrong to pretend it didn't happen and although I messaged all those I felt were at risk, I can't guarantee I caught everyone. Hopefully the shock value will make people get a check...."
I think it shows a level of honesty that would increase the chance of us meeting people who take your approach. STDs are an occupational hazard of swinging and too many people want to bury their head in the sand about it. |
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over a year ago
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It could happen to anyone here, I'm sorry you've had to deal with it, but have a huge amount of respect for you. I think you are demonstrating exceptional maturity as well as selfless consideration for others. Bravo!
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"It could happen to anyone here, I'm sorry you've had to deal with it, but have a huge amount of respect for you. I think you are demonstrating exceptional maturity as well as selfless consideration for others. Bravo!
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"I don't get why you would put it on your profile if you don't have it anymore.
It felt wrong to pretend it didn't happen and although I messaged all those I felt were at risk, I can't guarantee I caught everyone. Hopefully the shock value will make people get a check...."
Ok well that makes sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's admirable you've been so open, yes you're treated and all ok now, other people might not have even got tested and known they had it, let alone advise past meets to get checked out. I think you've been very responsible.
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"I think it's admirable you've been so open, yes you're treated and all ok now, other people might not have even got tested and known they had it, let alone advise past meets to get checked out. I think you've been very responsible.
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Agreed, can't be nice, but reassuring that there are people with honor and have the decency to do the right thing rather than bury their heads in the sand and let others continue without conscious. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I aplaud you for being honest. It gives everyone youve met the heads up.
But also gives people s bad name doing unprotected sex. Where are these peoples common sense? |
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"So after a recent incident I have changed my profile, what do people think?"
It's different. Not sure it's a smart move though. And unless it was contracted orally it kind of makes the no BB part a bit suspect.
Not judging, That's just how I would read it if I came upon your profile cold and not from this thread. |
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Seems a bit strange to me. Absolutely you should tell the people you have had sex with so they can get checked, but why announce it publicly? You had it and it's been treated so anyone you meet in the future is not at risk.
You seem to me to be lessening your chance of a meet for no good reason at all. |
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"Seems a bit strange to me. Absolutely you should tell the people you have had sex with so they can get checked, but why announce it publicly? You had it and it's been treated so anyone you meet in the future is not at risk.
You seem to me to be lessening your chance of a meet for no good reason at all. "
I don't get why it would lessen their chances? If someone told me that they once had an STD but it's cured. That seems more credible that the party line of "oh I've never had anything". Especially if you research the prevalence of HPV in society. |
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"Seems a bit strange to me. Absolutely you should tell the people you have had sex with so they can get checked, but why announce it publicly? You had it and it's been treated so anyone you meet in the future is not at risk.
You seem to me to be lessening your chance of a meet for no good reason at all.
I don't get why it would lessen their chances? If someone told me that they once had an STD but it's cured. That seems more credible that the party line of "oh I've never had anything". Especially if you research the prevalence of HPV in society. "
That may apply to you, but unfortunately there remains a stigma around STDs and most people would be put off if someone openly said they had had something.
In any event, it's strictly irrelevant. The OP doesn't have an STD now, so the fact that they once had one is no more relevant than if they once had measles. |
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"So after a recent incident I have changed my profile, what do people think?
It's different. Not sure it's a smart move though. And unless it was contracted orally it kind of makes the no BB part a bit suspect.
Not judging, That's just how I would read it if I came upon your profile cold and not from this thread. "
You can still get a sti through a condom. A woman can still get pregnant when using a condom
Condoms are never 100% safe EVER |
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"So after a recent incident I have changed my profile, what do people think?
It's different. Not sure it's a smart move though. And unless it was contracted orally it kind of makes the no BB part a bit suspect.
Not judging, That's just how I would read it if I came upon your profile cold and not from this thread.
You can still get a sti through a condom. A woman can still get pregnant when using a condom
Condoms are never 100% safe EVER"
They should put that on the box |
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"So after a recent incident I have changed my profile, what do people think?
It's different. Not sure it's a smart move though. And unless it was contracted orally it kind of makes the no BB part a bit suspect.
Not judging, That's just how I would read it if I came upon your profile cold and not from this thread.
You can still get a sti through a condom. A woman can still get pregnant when using a condom
Condoms are never 100% safe EVER"
Yeah, I know that. But it's less than 1%. So if I'd looked at Beth's profile and read what she's put, then I'd be having doubts. |
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"So after a recent incident I have changed my profile, what do people think?
It's different. Not sure it's a smart move though. And unless it was contracted orally it kind of makes the no BB part a bit suspect.
Not judging, That's just how I would read it if I came upon your profile cold and not from this thread.
You can still get a sti through a condom. A woman can still get pregnant when using a condom
Condoms are never 100% safe EVER
Yeah, I know that. But it's less than 1%. So if I'd looked at Beth's profile and read what she's put, then I'd be having doubts. "
Then talk to the person see what they say then decide |
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"So after a recent incident I have changed my profile, what do people think?
It's different. Not sure it's a smart move though. And unless it was contracted orally it kind of makes the no BB part a bit suspect.
Not judging, That's just how I would read it if I came upon your profile cold and not from this thread.
You can still get a sti through a condom. A woman can still get pregnant when using a condom
Condoms are never 100% safe EVER
They should put that on the box"
They should put it in big block letters!
*really hoping your comment was a Friends reference, otherwise mine may look weird now.... 
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"So after a recent incident I have changed my profile, what do people think?
It's different. Not sure it's a smart move though. And unless it was contracted orally it kind of makes the no BB part a bit suspect.
Not judging, That's just how I would read it if I came upon your profile cold and not from this thread.
You can still get a sti through a condom. A woman can still get pregnant when using a condom
Condoms are never 100% safe EVER
Yeah, I know that. But it's less than 1%. So if I'd looked at Beth's profile and read what she's put, then I'd be having doubts.
Then talk to the person see what they say then decide "
Yes but a lot won't. That's what happens, people scan profiles and decide in an instant. They won't stop to ask that question.
That's why I think, though commendable, it's a mistake to put it on there. |
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