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What’s your thoughts -Holiday partner wanted to join me
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Hi,
Hope your all well and enjoying the lovely sunshine.
I’m on annual leave from the 14th of this month. Wishing to go abroad and take a likeminded swinger with me. I’ll even pay for your flight etc.
Happy to meet for a social and you can even pick the destination I’m thinking Spain or Italy?
I’ve posted on the forum in meet section but have had no joy?
Do people think this is a a joke or scam ?
Or are people actually not willing to make a new fwb?
James xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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there's quite a difference between making a new friend, and going on holiday with a virtual stranger...i'd be very suprised if anyone would be up for that with such short notice. what if you get on the plane and within minutes realise you can't bear the sound of their voice or something...and vice versa...just seems ludicrously unrealstic to me.. |
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Hi,
Thanks for your response.
Yes I do agree but was hoping the verifications and swinger culture would highlight that neither of us are serial killers to put it bluntly.
I also thought a social meet would be in order to ensure you’ve got that initial attraction as well imagine someone photoshop their photos on fab and then you get a real surprise.
James xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi,
Thanks for your response.
Yes I do agree but was hoping the verifications and swinger culture would highlight that neither of us are serial killers to put it bluntly.
I also thought a social meet would be in order to ensure you’ve got that initial attraction as well imagine someone photoshop their photos on fab and then you get a real surprise.
James xx"
i dont see how verifications would be particularly relevant , other than to confirm the person exists. I would want to know someone a lot longer than a couple of days before i went on holiday...and the whole paying aspect would put many off as well i would imagine. |
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"Hi,
Thanks for your response.
Yes I do agree but was hoping the verifications and swinger culture would highlight that neither of us are serial killers to put it bluntly.
I also thought a social meet would be in order to ensure you’ve got that initial attraction as well imagine someone photoshop their photos on fab and then you get a real surprise.
James xx"
Maybe you're still on your first murder though. Good luck though, it's a good offer for the right woman. |
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Yes of course, I’ve mentioned it on fab for a few weeks now but no joy.
The reason I haven’t specified the location because I’m willing to compromise and pick what every destination you are happy with?
James xx |
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Hey Jay,
Honestly I was going to take a friend non swinger.
However decided to postpone this holiday and with Work commitments now can’t manage to reschedule t later on in the year.
So none of them are available to join me.
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It’s a nice thought, but you may have more luck with getting somebody to go after you’ve already established a bit of a relationship with them. Maybe attend some clubs in your area and build up a bit of a network for next time.
As for this one why not go to a swinging type resort, cap would probably be the one that springs to mind. You’re bound to meet people there and will get to at least be around the lifestyle and everything if that’s the style of holiday you’d like.
Have fun wherever you end up. |
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over a year ago
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it's the money aspect that i think women will have a problem with too...well most...what if you shell out all that money, then 5 minutes after arriving the woman takes off to do her own thing? will they have a separate room? or will they be obliged to share yours? i really dont think you've thought this through at all..and as for destinantions, presumably you want to go somewhere where there are swingers clubs etc? so you must have an idea of particular destinations? |
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over a year ago
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"Wow this is a 1st  "
you'd think so, but not that rare, ive seen a few of these threads in the past..i can see why as a spur of the moment idea it might a good idea...but there's a lot to consider that seems to get missed.. |
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over a year ago
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"Wow this is a 1st
you'd think so, but not that rare, ive seen a few of these threads in the past..i can see why as a spur of the moment idea it might a good idea...but there's a lot to consider that seems to get missed.."
Exactly! It's not just a trip down to the supermarket  |
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The OP's intentions maybe completely honourable but 99% of women will see this as an attempt to buy sex.
I mean, why would anyone effectively give hundreds of pounds to a complete stranger unless they want something in return..
Will be the thought process of most women. |
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"OP what are you expecting from the companion in return for paying for the holiday?
Be honest. "
Actually, he doesn't say what gender the "like minded swinger" has to be.
OP, I'll accept your offer. I'm male. But I am sure that won't be a problem. |
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By *ur1ou2Man
over a year ago
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Why not search fab while you are out there?
Likely you will hook up with some other horny holidaymakers or expats
That’s what I’m going to do when I go to Greece later in the year
Be less risky not to mention less expensive for you
What if you get out there and have a falling out and they don’t want to play any more?
You will be stuck with a bill for 2 and nothing for it!! |
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over a year ago
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The issue for me would be expectations. Let's say we met for a quick social, seemed to get on OK and went off together. What if I decided I didn't want to have sex with you? What if I met another guy? What if l just wanted to do my own thing? Single rooms or double?
There are just a lot of ways this could potentially go wrong, particularly for a woman. |
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"Why not search fab while you are out there?
Likely you will hook up with some other horny holidaymakers or expats
That’s what I’m going to do when I go to Greece later in the year
Be less risky not to mention less expensive for you
What if you get out there and have a falling out and they don’t want to play any more?
You will be stuck with a bill for 2 and nothing for it!!"
You make it sound like he's paying for a prostitute. |
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"Why not search fab while you are out there?
Likely you will hook up with some other horny holidaymakers or expats
That’s what I’m going to do when I go to Greece later in the year
Be less risky not to mention less expensive for you
What if you get out there and have a falling out and they don’t want to play any more?
You will be stuck with a bill for 2 and nothing for it!!
You make it sound like he's paying for a prostitute. "
I think that's broadly what he's looking for. I highly doubt he just wants company. |
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Through POF I met a women for coffee. I invited her to join me on an upcoming five day ski holiday. She agreed and paid her way. We had not previously had more than a peck on the cheek before sharing the hotel room. The sex was fantastic, she really was terrific . Snored like a warthog though . We both knew nothing more would come of it and we parted amicably after both having a great time.
It can be done. Good luck OP |
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over a year ago
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If I didn’t have kids then I would if there was attraction both ways and a good social first, I’d pay my way and we would both have a good week, you only live once! Good luck OP x |
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Make sure you take your clinic piece of paper confirming you’re ‘clean’
My opinion is that if you’re naive enough to use the useless ‘legal’ warning, I wouldn’t trust you to buy a cinema ticket never mind a plane ticket. |
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"Also the drivel on your profile about get tested and the Sydney uni shite makes you look very naive
In your opinion. Not in mine. Swingers generally don't talk enough about testing."
So we should all display our recent health checks in the forums? Ffs I don't need to prove to anyone on here that I value my health  |
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over a year ago
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"Just get yourself down to Cap d'Agde by yourself and try your luck there. There'll be plenty of single guys who do it that can advise you. "
zombie wankers - have to admit that we found Cap way too full on - especially when we had a neighbour who had to call the police as a single guy (British) walked in and refused to leave! We did however meet a really weird couple where he had advertised a fully paid holiday for her on craig's list and he got quite a few replies. They were a funny couple and you could see why their other halves wanted a break but as much as you may be derided it is obviously possible. |
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"Also the drivel on your profile about get tested and the Sydney uni shite makes you look very naive
In your opinion. Not in mine. Swingers generally don't talk enough about testing.
So we should all display our recent health checks in the forums? Ffs I don't need to prove to anyone on here that I value my health "
I bet you're a real health fanatic |
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By *exi7000Couple
over a year ago
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"Just get yourself down to Cap d'Agde by yourself and try your luck there. There'll be plenty of single guys who do it that can advise you. "
Don't go to Cap as a single guy. You will be massively disappointed. Most single guys there are pure wankers, and I mean to the extreme and rearly get fun. |
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"Also the drivel on your profile about get tested and the Sydney uni shite makes you look very naive
In your opinion. Not in mine. Swingers generally don't talk enough about testing.
So we should all display our recent health checks in the forums? Ffs I don't need to prove to anyone on here that I value my health
I bet you're a real health fanatic "
Sure am! |
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"Hi,
Hope your all well and enjoying the lovely sunshine.
I’m on annual leave from the 14th of this month. Wishing to go abroad and take a likeminded swinger with me. I’ll even pay for your flight etc.
Happy to meet for a social and you can even pick the destination I’m thinking Spain or Italy?
I’ve posted on the forum in meet section but have had no joy?
Do people think this is a a joke or scam ?
Or are people actually not willing to make a new fwb?
James xx"
Why take snow to the arctic ?
Surely part of the fun on holiday is the flirting and trying to pull a female and then if you don't get on after you can go your own separate ways.
I think that any one you paid to take with you would feel like a prostitute and most feel obliged to have sex and if you argue you're stuck together
Good luck though,  |
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There was a program on a while back about lodgings for sex - and people advertising for it, this basically the same thing, and it turns out it is actually illegal to do.
I told my missus about it, and as I paid for our last holiday and we had sex while there - I said it now means she’s a whore! Which she said yeah the best one you’ll get lol! 
At 23 you should be away with your mates - where I’m sure you would meet plenty of other single women there who are “just being young” your request on here doesn’t really fit into a swinging lifestyle. |
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Sorry, but this sounds like the worst idea ever...for both of you.
By all means go with a fwb....but the f bit has to come before the departure lounge.
I've lost a few friends on holiday..no they're not buried somewhere in the Arizona desert...but the pressure of being with people almost 24/7 can be testing on even the strongest friendships.
A holiday isn't a night at a swingers' club.
If you're a successful member here, you probably have what it takes to make friends on holiday. Try that.
Speaking from personal experience, it's what got me into this whole thing to start with! |
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Hi Everyone,
Thanks for your messages and advice.
I feel I’ve come to agree with a few of you, that meeting a stranger and living with them for 24 hours might just be much to tolerate and especially if we have a disagreement.
Also for the record yes I would have expected some sex, however equally I would be happy for her to play with others if she wishes to do.
So which place would you recommend to visit for a young stud like myself to visit on my own?
James xx |
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"Hi Everyone,
Thanks for your messages and advice.
I feel I’ve come to agree with a few of you, that meeting a stranger and living with them for 24 hours might just be much to tolerate and especially if we have a disagreement.
Also for the record yes I would have expected some sex, however equally I would be happy for her to play with others if she wishes to do.
So which place would you recommend to visit for a young stud like myself to visit on my own?
James xx"
A farm?  |
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"Hi Everyone,
Thanks for your messages and advice.
I feel I’ve come to agree with a few of you, that meeting a stranger and living with them for 24 hours might just be much to tolerate and especially if we have a disagreement.
Also for the record yes I would have expected some sex, however equally I would be happy for her to play with others if she wishes to do.
So which place would you recommend to visit for a young stud like myself to visit on my own?
James xx"
Go to Negril Jamaica |
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Holidays together can harm good relationships and friendships - so people who have next to no knowledge of how they match are at risk too.
Then imagine someone doesn't know who is sharing a room or bed each day with them. Would they be safe whilst d*unk or sleeping? Someone who you may have sex with is different to being an always available shag just inches from you.
It's tough enough just going to a swinging club with some people, compared to alone.
Consider separate rooms. They can keep their body, money etc separately from a person they don't know much. |
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"Hi Everyone,
Thanks for your messages and advice.
I feel I’ve come to agree with a few of you, that meeting a stranger and living with them for 24 hours might just be much to tolerate and especially if we have a disagreement.
Also for the record yes I would have expected some sex, however equally I would be happy for her to play with others if she wishes to do.
So which place would you recommend to visit for a young stud like myself to visit on my own?
James xx"
See now I saw it as spontaneous fun wasn’t sure if you were serious and if I didn’t have work and family commitments I would of been tempted!! Live for the moment I say I would of been able to tell at a social how things would go and would of made my decision from that lol hope you get somewhere hot and have the time of your life xx |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Hi Everyone,
Thanks for your messages and advice.
I feel I’ve come to agree with a few of you, that meeting a stranger and living with them for 24 hours might just be much to tolerate and especially if we have a disagreement.
Also for the record yes I would have expected some sex, however equally I would be happy for her to play with others if she wishes to do.
So which place would you recommend to visit for a young stud like myself to visit on my own?
James xx"
You would have expected some sex?! Not on. |
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"Hi Everyone,
Thanks for your messages and advice.
I feel I’ve come to agree with a few of you, that meeting a stranger and living with them for 24 hours might just be much to tolerate and especially if we have a disagreement.
Also for the record yes I would have expected some sex, however equally I would be happy for her to play with others if she wishes to do.
So which place would you recommend to visit for a young stud like myself to visit on my own?
James xx
You would have expected some sex?! Not on. "
You know this is a swingers site right? |
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"Hi Everyone,
Thanks for your messages and advice.
I feel I’ve come to agree with a few of you, that meeting a stranger and living with them for 24 hours might just be much to tolerate and especially if we have a disagreement.
Also for the record yes I would have expected some sex, however equally I would be happy for her to play with others if she wishes to do.
So which place would you recommend to visit for a young stud like myself to visit on my own?
James xx
You would have expected some sex?! Not on.
You know this is a swingers site right? "
Yes, this is a swingers site, but swinging isn't about paying for someone to go on holiday then expecting sex in exchange is it?
To us that just sounds like a disguised way of saying that someone wants to buy sex, and isn't that wrong?
Not the best thing to expect OP. |
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"Hi Everyone,
Thanks for your messages and advice.
I feel I’ve come to agree with a few of you, that meeting a stranger and living with them for 24 hours might just be much to tolerate and especially if we have a disagreement.
Also for the record yes I would have expected some sex, however equally I would be happy for her to play with others if she wishes to do.
So which place would you recommend to visit for a young stud like myself to visit on my own?
James xx
You would have expected some sex?! Not on.
You know this is a swingers site right?
Yes, this is a swingers site, but swinging isn't about paying for someone to go on holiday then expecting sex in exchange is it?
To us that just sounds like a disguised way of saying that someone wants to buy sex, and isn't that wrong?
Not the best thing to expect OP."
It's an offer that people are free to accept or reject. There's nothing offensive about offering the deal. Of course he wants something in return, that's hardly a revelation. |
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"Hi Everyone,
Thanks for your messages and advice.
I feel I’ve come to agree with a few of you, that meeting a stranger and living with them for 24 hours might just be much to tolerate and especially if we have a disagreement.
Also for the record yes I would have expected some sex, however equally I would be happy for her to play with others if she wishes to do.
So which place would you recommend to visit for a young stud like myself to visit on my own?
James xx
You would have expected some sex?! Not on.
You know this is a swingers site right?
Yes, this is a swingers site, but swinging isn't about paying for someone to go on holiday then expecting sex in exchange is it?
To us that just sounds like a disguised way of saying that someone wants to buy sex, and isn't that wrong?
Not the best thing to expect OP.
It's an offer that people are free to accept or reject. There's nothing offensive about offering the deal. Of course he wants something in return, that's hardly a revelation. "
Very true.
We only posted our opinion. We fully respect everyone else's. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Hi Everyone,
Thanks for your messages and advice.
I feel I’ve come to agree with a few of you, that meeting a stranger and living with them for 24 hours might just be much to tolerate and especially if we have a disagreement.
Also for the record yes I would have expected some sex, however equally I would be happy for her to play with others if she wishes to do.
So which place would you recommend to visit for a young stud like myself to visit on my own?
James xx
You would have expected some sex?! Not on.
You know this is a swingers site right?
Yes, this is a swingers site, but swinging isn't about paying for someone to go on holiday then expecting sex in exchange is it?
To us that just sounds like a disguised way of saying that someone wants to buy sex, and isn't that wrong?
Not the best thing to expect OP."
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There is one thing I have to say about this young man - whoever does take the offer up will have a great time- he is courteous, charming and assured, respectful of the other with, communicative, sensual etc. If I wasn’t on a work trip already (where I can’t invite him as it’s based on invited accreditation’s), I would have offered to go. |
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"Hi,
Hope your all well and enjoying the lovely sunshine.
I’m on annual leave from the 14th of this month. Wishing to go abroad and take a likeminded swinger with me. I’ll even pay for your flight etc.
Why don't you go to Gran Canaria..there are lots of swingers clubs and a naturist beach where people meet during the day. You could chat and have great social meets with lovely people.
I've been there on my own and loved it.
Happy to meet for a social and you can even pick the destination I’m thinking Spain or Italy?
I’ve posted on the forum in meet section but have had no joy?
Do people think this is a a joke or scam ?
Or are people actually not willing to make a new fwb?
James xx"
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"Hi Everyone,
Thanks for your messages and advice.
I feel I’ve come to agree with a few of you, that meeting a stranger and living with them for 24 hours might just be much to tolerate and especially if we have a disagreement.
Also for the record yes I would have expected some sex, however equally I would be happy for her to play with others if she wishes to do
It's an offer that people are free to accept or reject. There's nothing offensive about offering the deal. Of course he wants something in return, that's hardly a revelation. "
Unfortunately the law says differently - a bit of a fucked up law, I agree, but it’s the same as the lodgings for sex scandal - again those women are free to choose if they should decide to live with someone, but by the simple fact someone says they expect sex in return for free rent it’s a criminal offence. Offering a free holiday, with no expectations other than company - and should sex occur of free choice is ok, but stating from the off that sex is expected in return for the ticket is illegal, I suppose you can look at it like prostitution, men and women free to do what they like but the minute someone says there a fee and expectation it becomes illegal, buying a drink for a girl at the bar however isn’t! |
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"Hi Everyone,
Thanks for your messages and advice.
I feel I’ve come to agree with a few of you, that meeting a stranger and living with them for 24 hours might just be much to tolerate and especially if we have a disagreement.
Also for the record yes I would have expected some sex, however equally I would be happy for her to play with others if she wishes to do
It's an offer that people are free to accept or reject. There's nothing offensive about offering the deal. Of course he wants something in return, that's hardly a revelation.
Unfortunately the law says differently - a bit of a fucked up law, I agree, but it’s the same as the lodgings for sex scandal - again those women are free to choose if they should decide to live with someone, but by the simple fact someone says they expect sex in return for free rent it’s a criminal offence. Offering a free holiday, with no expectations other than company - and should sex occur of free choice is ok, but stating from the off that sex is expected in return for the ticket is illegal, I suppose you can look at it like prostitution, men and women free to do what they like but the minute someone says there a fee and expectation it becomes illegal, buying a drink for a girl at the bar however isn’t!"
It's not illegal, you're conflating different things. There's no tenancy agreement here and it's a holiday, not a home. You're way off sorry, have you ever wondered why hotels don't need to evict you if you over stay your booking? Nor is prostitution illegal either, men and women are free to sell sex in this country. |
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I get what you’re trying to do op and no harm in it but like the others have said if it was me I’d want to get a bit of a friendship/thing going first. I’d been seeing someone on here as an FWB type thing really liked each other but could only really spend a weekend together before we got on each other’s nerves  |
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"Hi Everyone,
Thanks for your messages and advice.
I feel I’ve come to agree with a few of you, that meeting a stranger and living with them for 24 hours might just be much to tolerate and especially if we have a disagreement.
Also for the record yes I would have expected some sex, however equally I would be happy for her to play with others if she wishes to do
It's an offer that people are free to accept or reject. There's nothing offensive about offering the deal. Of course he wants something in return, that's hardly a revelation.
Unfortunately the law says differently - a bit of a fucked up law, I agree, but it’s the same as the lodgings for sex scandal - again those women are free to choose if they should decide to live with someone, but by the simple fact someone says they expect sex in return for free rent it’s a criminal offence. Offering a free holiday, with no expectations other than company - and should sex occur of free choice is ok, but stating from the off that sex is expected in return for the ticket is illegal, I suppose you can look at it like prostitution, men and women free to do what they like but the minute someone says there a fee and expectation it becomes illegal, buying a drink for a girl at the bar however isn’t!
It's not illegal, you're conflating different things. There's no tenancy agreement here and it's a holiday, not a home. You're way off sorry, have you ever wondered why hotels don't need to evict you if you over stay your booking? Nor is prostitution illegal either, men and women are free to sell sex in this country. "
It's not illegal to offer a free holiday in return for sex, but equally it is not an enforceable contract. Hence someone could take up the OPs offer, refuse to have sex with him when they got there and he would have no comeback. |
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"Hi Everyone,
Thanks for your messages and advice.
I feel I’ve come to agree with a few of you, that meeting a stranger and living with them for 24 hours might just be much to tolerate and especially if we have a disagreement.
Also for the record yes I would have expected some sex, however equally I would be happy for her to play with others if she wishes to do
It's an offer that people are free to accept or reject. There's nothing offensive about offering the deal. Of course he wants something in return, that's hardly a revelation.
Unfortunately the law says differently - a bit of a fucked up law, I agree, but it’s the same as the lodgings for sex scandal - again those women are free to choose if they should decide to live with someone, but by the simple fact someone says they expect sex in return for free rent it’s a criminal offence. Offering a free holiday, with no expectations other than company - and should sex occur of free choice is ok, but stating from the off that sex is expected in return for the ticket is illegal, I suppose you can look at it like prostitution, men and women free to do what they like but the minute someone says there a fee and expectation it becomes illegal, buying a drink for a girl at the bar however isn’t!
It's not illegal, you're conflating different things. There's no tenancy agreement here and it's a holiday, not a home. You're way off sorry, have you ever wondered why hotels don't need to evict you if you over stay your booking? Nor is prostitution illegal either, men and women are free to sell sex in this country.
It's not illegal to offer a free holiday in return for sex, but equally it is not an enforceable contract. Hence someone could take up the OPs offer, refuse to have sex with him when they got there and he would have no comeback. "
He could take her on judge rinder |
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"Hi Everyone,
Thanks for your messages and advice.
I feel I’ve come to agree with a few of you, that meeting a stranger and living with them for 24 hours might just be much to tolerate and especially if we have a disagreement.
Also for the record yes I would have expected some sex, however equally I would be happy for her to play with others if she wishes to do
It's an offer that people are free to accept or reject. There's nothing offensive about offering the deal. Of course he wants something in return, that's hardly a revelation.
Unfortunately the law says differently - a bit of a fucked up law, I agree, but it’s the same as the lodgings for sex scandal - again those women are free to choose if they should decide to live with someone, but by the simple fact someone says they expect sex in return for free rent it’s a criminal offence. Offering a free holiday, with no expectations other than company - and should sex occur of free choice is ok, but stating from the off that sex is expected in return for the ticket is illegal, I suppose you can look at it like prostitution, men and women free to do what they like but the minute someone says there a fee and expectation it becomes illegal, buying a drink for a girl at the bar however isn’t!
It's not illegal, you're conflating different things. There's no tenancy agreement here and it's a holiday, not a home. You're way off sorry, have you ever wondered why hotels don't need to evict you if you over stay your booking? Nor is prostitution illegal either, men and women are free to sell sex in this country.
It's not illegal to offer a free holiday in return for sex, but equally it is not an enforceable contract. Hence someone could take up the OPs offer, refuse to have sex with him when they got there and he would have no comeback.
He could take her on judge rinder"
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"I've seen a few of these offers but never known anyone to take them up on it, who would put themselves in that situation? You're 24 years old, get away with your friends for a holiday"
Totally this.
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What surprised me the most oN this thread is the people who think that "sex would be expected" "because this is swinging". Last time I checked, women enjoyed sex as much as men did and therefore it cannot be something that can be "expected" of them but rather something that they do because they want to. The whole monetisation thing is very troubling. No one owes anyone anything other than maybe their share of the expenses. |
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"What surprised me the most oN this thread is the people who think that "sex would be expected" "because this is swinging". Last time I checked, women enjoyed sex as much as men did and therefore it cannot be something that can be "expected" of them but rather something that they do because they want to. The whole monetisation thing is very troubling. No one owes anyone anything other than maybe their share of the expenses."
That's why he won't get any takers. Women can see this a mile off. He's paying for the holiday so the woman will feel obliged to have sex with him in return. |
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"Hi,
Thanks for your response.
Yes I do agree but was hoping the verifications and swinger culture would highlight that neither of us are serial killers to put it bluntly.
I also thought a social meet would be in order to ensure you’ve got that initial attraction as well imagine someone photoshop their photos on fab and then you get a real surprise.
James xx"
Oh but some of us may well be serial killers |
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"What surprised me the most oN this thread is the people who think that "sex would be expected" "because this is swinging". Last time I checked, women enjoyed sex as much as men did and therefore it cannot be something that can be "expected" of them but rather something that they do because they want to. The whole monetisation thing is very troubling. No one owes anyone anything other than maybe their share of the expenses.
That's why he won't get any takers. Women can see this a mile off. He's paying for the holiday so the woman will feel obliged to have sex with him in return. "
Other threads of this nature have been successful. Someone on our hotlist had a status pretty much asking for a holiday in exchange for sex the other day! |
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"What surprised me the most oN this thread is the people who think that "sex would be expected" "because this is swinging". Last time I checked, women enjoyed sex as much as men did and therefore it cannot be something that can be "expected" of them but rather something that they do because they want to. The whole monetisation thing is very troubling. No one owes anyone anything other than maybe their share of the expenses.
That's why he won't get any takers. Women can see this a mile off. He's paying for the holiday so the woman will feel obliged to have sex with him in return.
Other threads of this nature have been successful. Someone on our hotlist had a status pretty much asking for a holiday in exchange for sex the other day! "
I suspect it's vanishingly rare. If you asked a sex worker to come on holiday with you you would have to pay them thousands as well as pay for the holiday in return for on tap sex.
I can't see many women being willing to do it for the price of a holiday. |
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"What surprised me the most oN this thread is the people who think that "sex would be expected" "because this is swinging". Last time I checked, women enjoyed sex as much as men did and therefore it cannot be something that can be "expected" of them but rather something that they do because they want to. The whole monetisation thing is very troubling. No one owes anyone anything other than maybe their share of the expenses.
That's why he won't get any takers. Women can see this a mile off. He's paying for the holiday so the woman will feel obliged to have sex with him in return.
Other threads of this nature have been successful. Someone on our hotlist had a status pretty much asking for a holiday in exchange for sex the other day! "
Purely by mistake I stumbled across the American version of POF, a woman stated in her profile that she was looking for a guy in Florida to accommodate her for a two week holiday. |
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