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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I understand that people want there to be a certain level of social interaction before a meet but is it normal to want a dinner date first?
We had a couple interested in meeting us, we were interested so all looked ok until we said that we weren't really a dinner date kinda couple.
This prompted a mild strop then blocking us.
We don't have a lot of spare time for meets so would rather have a short social then a proper meet.
Are we asking to much? |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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No, I don't think you are. A quick coffee or a drink in the pub is enough for me to know whether I want to shag someone or not.
Can't think of anything worse than having to sit through a meal with someone you don't hit it off with. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No, I don't think you are. A quick coffee or a drink in the pub is enough for me to know whether I want to shag someone or not.
Can't think of anything worse than having to sit through a meal with someone you don't hit it off with."
Thanks, a quick drink is plenty.
Let's face it we're not looking to date them just fuck them.
You look great from your profile, fancy a quick drink lol ?? |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"No, I don't think you are. A quick coffee or a drink in the pub is enough for me to know whether I want to shag someone or not.
Can't think of anything worse than having to sit through a meal with someone you don't hit it off with.
Thanks, a quick drink is plenty.
Let's face it we're not looking to date them just fuck them.
You look great from your profile, fancy a quick drink lol ??"
Bit far tbh  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No, I don't think you are. A quick coffee or a drink in the pub is enough for me to know whether I want to shag someone or not.
Can't think of anything worse than having to sit through a meal with someone you don't hit it off with.
Thanks, a quick drink is plenty.
Let's face it we're not looking to date them just fuck them.
You look great from your profile, fancy a quick drink lol ??
Bit far tbh "
Well our offer stands  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We usually go for a drink, and usually know before going if they are the type of people we would hitnot off with. Think about it, you can make an excuse and leave if they are a bit naff, or keep on drinking and laughing if great. Our last one went on a few hours, they were both lovely.
I could think of nothing worse than a meal, just because as people have said, what of you don’t like them? C x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've heard quite a lot of times that couples enjoy the social side of swinging as much as, or even more so, than the sex. They might be one of those couples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We always say a social is a must for us to make sure there is a connection all round but a quick drink / coffee is enough to gauge that as we would have usually been talking a while before anyway . For me I hate eating in front of people , so would hate the thought of going for a meal before play especially on a first meet. Like others have said ....a drink you can make your excuses and leave but a meal could be very uncomfortable to have to sit there for quite a while .
We would do it with people that we see more regular and class as friends though . Xx
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'll try that again... I don't think there's anything wrong with dinner first. I've had a couple of socials where we've enjoyed a meal and then gone onto the fucking. If nothing else it's nice to have something to eat and a wee drink even if it doesn't go any further. Each to their own though huh?! |
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By *urse123Couple
over a year ago
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"We usually go for a drink, and usually know before going if they are the type of people we would hitnot off with. Think about it, you can make an excuse and leave if they are a bit naff, or keep on drinking and laughing if great. Our last one went on a few hours, they were both lovely.
I could think of nothing worse than a meal, just because as people have said, what of you don’t like them? C x"
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Maybe they enjoy the social side of things. Slow build up with lots of anticipation over what might happen later. Sounds like a good night.
Not everyone wants a quick drink, sex and then off out of the door.
Each to their own. |
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"Bit of an overreaction because you don't wanna have dinner with them. Even on a normal date, I'd rather go for a drink than dinner."
Me too,then you can have a quick getaway if you're not compatible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I agree with the majority.
I think going to dinner is overkill. However I know many like to socialise before play.
That being different from a social. The vast majority of my meets have been via a social, usually a coffee or drink but nothing more.
I have seen several profiles, asking for a dinner date before play, very often single females but occasionally couples too. To me that is more like dating and fab, last time I looked wasn't a dating site! |
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No,but you do it your way and others will do it theirs.
We went for a few beers and a meal with a couple socially and it was areally good night.
How you meet is up to you ,others are not wrong either though.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I had socials that range from a silly game of bowling to drinks to coffee to dinner but it's a agreed social that works for all of you. One couple I met when I was here as a couple we had met previously then the next time we went to their house, they cooked dinner, I made desert and took wine. Had a great night followed by hot tub then play time.
Some people (such as me) love the social side of swinging, some don't. Just find people that want the same as you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had dinner dates with singles and couples, some have led to play and some haven't. I've had drinks with singles and couples, some have led to play and some haven't. I've also met in a club and had very little social interaction beforehand....guess what? Some have led to play and some haven't lol. I don't think there's a right or wrong way to go about things, you just need to find compatibility in areas that are important to all parties. FWIW, regardless of the difference in opinion on the dinner date, I think you've probably had a lucky escape. If they've had a strop about that, then I can't see play going smoothly! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No you aren't asking too much. My partner and I would never want to go on a dinner date as a 1st meet, or even a 2nd or 3rd.
A dinner date is only something we would consider doing with regular long term playmates who we have met numerous times. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing more off putting to me than bad table manners. So a drink would be preferable, just in case I really want to take things further and they lick their cutlery/ plates etc |
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A dinner date is fine but surely that would be better after an initial causal social like a coffee? People may not want to sit through a whole dinner with people they turned out not to click with or feel under pressure from people they may not be attracted to in real life. If a coffee goes muturally well your in a far better possition to make the effort for dinner and to enjoy every inch each other for desert. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, I don't think you are. A quick coffee or a drink in the pub is enough for me to know whether I want to shag someone or not.
Can't think of anything worse than having to sit through a meal with someone you don't hit it off with."
God inagree |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"No, I don't think you are. A quick coffee or a drink in the pub is enough for me to know whether I want to shag someone or not.
Can't think of anything worse than having to sit through a meal with someone you don't hit it off with."
 Exactly this for me too. |
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