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By *rkeb3Man
over a year ago
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yes that's too long looks like suicide dairy I wouldn't read that n spent time knowing I won't get a reply even no thanks
thereare lots of guys who read profile n understand n n send a nice message with a good manner what do they get nothing even no thanks so my self I won't read that n waste my time |
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Look at it this way... If somebody is too lazy or can't be bothered to read a profile and find out more about you, chances are they'll be too lazy in the bedroom.
If somebody just wants to look at pics and then ask for a shag, are they worth responding to?
You do this YOUR way and sod what others tell you to do.
Usually the people who come on and criticise the profiles and pics of others have shit profiles themselves. They make themselves feel better by picking on others. |
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If somebody just wants to look at pics and then ask for a shag, are they worth responding to?
You do this YOUR way and sod what others tell you to do.
Usually the people who come on and criticise the profiles and pics of others have shit profiles themselves. They make themselves feel better by picking on others."
Thanks. |
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OK. So I read your profile in LESS than 2 minutes.
I now have a bloody good idea of who you are, how you are approaching this and what you're looking for. You sound like a lovely grounded secure couple by the way.
Seriously, if people can't be arsed to give you TWO minutes of their time at the first stage, bollocks to them! They're not worth considering. |
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Thanks, we appreciate the feedback. We tried to keep the profile humorous as well so that it doesn’t become a tiresome list of what we do or don’t want. It’s supposed to be fun at the end of the day! |
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I took about 2 minutes, too. Had to have a look. Love your sense of humour.
A long(ish) profile is a good filter for those who find reading hard work. They will probably find talking and getting to know you hard work, too. Do you really want to waste your time on them? |
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"I took about 2 minutes, too. Had to have a look. Love your sense of humour.
A long(ish) profile is a good filter for those who find reading hard work. They will probably find talking and getting to know you hard work, too. Do you really want to waste your time on them?"
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"to read?
I’m on about our profile. Honestly, you’ve all got smutty minds on here! "
I think it’s fine. But I do like a good read!
If yours is too long then ours probably is also .. but hasn’t been a problem for us
I think of someone can’t be bothered to find out a bit about us, then we’re not bothered about meeting them anyway!! |
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"OK. So I read your profile in LESS than 2 minutes.
I now have a bloody good idea of who you are, how you are approaching this and what you're looking for. You sound like a lovely grounded secure couple by the way.
Seriously, if people can't be arsed to give you TWO minutes of their time at the first stage, bollocks to them! They're not worth considering."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"to read?
I’m on about our profile. Honestly, you’ve all got smutty minds on here! "
I don't think your profile is too long. Certainly no longer than mine!
I think if people can't actually be bothered to read it, likes, dislikes, then they probably can't be bothered, full stop. Yours just explains your situation, what you are looking for and what you aren't. Seems fine to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"to read?
I’m on about our profile. Honestly, you’ve all got smutty minds on here! "
Most people view on mobiles and it is the last thing on your profile on them, I have reported this ad infinitum and had post removed because of it. [I am a pro web developer] |
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We like it too.
Having content to read, give the possible contact an opportunity to write something worthy to you as their introduction. If they can't find anything beyond "hi" as their first post to you, then clearly they won't make much of an effort to justify why you should spend time with them.
There are plenty of "ins" for them to latch on to that suggest they've read your profile and introduce themselves properly.
In our view its a nice introduction to yourselves and feel that we "get" you both and where you are at with your journey, hope it's a good one for you two. |
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Nothing wrong with it. Two or three minutes to read, plenty of info, humour to keep it interesting. If someone can't be arsed to invest a couple of minutes of their time in you, then they're not going to be worth meeting. |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
Fabville |
Hi OP, I've just had a peek at your profile, and yes, it is far too long. If I was looking for a couple in your area, your text would put me off.
The majority of information could be simplified, or saved for messages/ social meets.
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"to read?
I’m on about our profile. Honestly, you’ve all got smutty minds on here! "
Stick with it guys.
It is a perfectly good profile with some hot pics too...tells it like it is and in THEORY is the kind of profile that should make FAB work a lot better.
Profiles are supposed to be the key to matching like with like. They should also save a lot of repeated Q n A for everybody.
Sadly the kind of people who usually complain about any profile longer than their expected 6 words "Ready to shag now, message me" will complain at the effort it takes them to read it as it deprives you of their wonderful company in the meantime.
They have bedroom talents that are so hot they need no introduction. No matter what it says in your profile these people expect you override any/all limits/restrictions you've listed and to swoon for them at first glance.
In many cases it seems they've mistaken FAB for a communal brothel where joining guarantees a shag at first message.
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"to read?
I’m on about our profile. Honestly, you’ve all got smutty minds on here!
It is long but the way you describe your kids is hysterical xx
Spend a night with them and you’ll be hysterical "
Reminds me of the modern trend for drastic cleaning products to carry a warning "Keep Away From Children"....I mean if they are afraid that their bug bomb is going to be harmed by children then it's pretty fair to say they know something about kids.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"to read?
I’m on about our profile. Honestly, you’ve all got smutty minds on here!
I think it’s fine. But I do like a good read!
If yours is too long then ours probably is also .. but hasn’t been a problem for us
I think of someone can’t be bothered to find out a bit about us, then we’re not bothered about meeting them anyway!!"
Often guys don’t seem to get past the first line of ours, and it makes it easy to delete them. |
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"Maybe couples have longer profiles in general than single people because they are writing about two people instead of one so have twice as much to say? "
And if they are looking for couples then there are two lots of preferences to express an interest in.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Can't say anything that hasn't already been said.
If people can't be bothered reading, that thins the crowd well to begin with.
We are in same boat , we have slot on ours, and find many can't be bothered reading, BUT, hasn't stopped us chatting to people...
Wishing you all the best and hope you have a fab time .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If they can't be bothered reading your profile then it's probably a bullet dodged. Your profile is witty and honest - you can't ask for anymore than that really.
Our profile is overly long as well, but as many people have mentioned here - two minutes is all it takes (which is probably longer than most of the "can't be bothered reading this" brigade, would last anyway). |
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"to read?
I’m on about our profile. Honestly, you’ve all got smutty minds on here! " I enjoyed reading your profile. ..the humour is a nice touch and having both a younger and older creature at home myself I can totally relate. You're very clear in what you both want and are very honest and sound dien to earth. ..it didn't take me long to read through. .if someone can't be bothered then they're not worth your time |
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Reading the profiles are half the fun. Information is always a good thing. It gives you a little more insight as to who they are. Many should write at least a bit more than they do, unfortunately they probably won't. Oh well, it's their loss lol.
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"Humour and honesty, the perfect mix, don't change it
Ours is long aswell, part of the filtration process
BD x "
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I have just read your profile. Yes it is a bit long but have seen much longer. But it is funny and interesting and tells me what you are about, and all i need to know about you.Think it is a very good profile. x  |
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"I have just read your profile. Yes it is a bit long but have seen much longer. But it is funny and interesting and tells me what you are about, and all i need to know about you.Think it is a very good profile. x "
Thank you, do you always get embarrassed when paying a compliment? |
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"I have just read your profile. Yes it is a bit long but have seen much longer. But it is funny and interesting and tells me what you are about, and all i need to know about you.Think it is a very good profile. x
Thank you, do you always get embarrassed when paying a compliment?" Lol am just shy. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It says what you're about. It certainly isn't too long, it took me 3 minutes to read. If someone can't be arsed to give you three minutes to learn about you, what does it say about their potential if you were to meet? |
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We liked it, we have tried very short and precise and very long profiles. All versions seemed to get totally ignored my the majority any how.
It certainly isnt filled with negatives and lists of demands, dos and donts like some on here. |
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Thank you Petra fied, I know I asked you a few weeks ago but do you want pounding tonight?
Wow, hotandspice, just read your profile. Fantastic.
Football flower, thanks for the message, I’m not ignoring it. I haven’t read it yet, I will wait until Mandy is with me, we like to read the messages together.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you Petra fied, I know I asked you a few weeks ago but do you want pounding tonight?
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Only if you ask how I am, what I'm up to, what am I into, and how my day has been  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Look at it this way... If somebody is too lazy or can't be bothered to read a profile and find out more about you, chances are they'll be too lazy in the bedroom.
If somebody just wants to look at pics and then ask for a shag, are they worth responding to?
You do this YOUR way and sod what others tell you to do.
Usually the people who come on and criticise the profiles and pics of others have shit profiles themselves. They make themselves feel better by picking on others."
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"Thank you Petra fied, I know I asked you a few weeks ago but do you want pounding tonight?
Only if you ask how I am, what I'm up to, what am I into, and how my day has been "
Do we have to ask every time?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I skim long profiles in order to get the main points. I tend to read a long profile properly if we’re going to meet, or have met and want to see again. That being said, ours is quite long. Conscious that most people won’t read the whole thing, I put the main points in the first couple of paragraphs.
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By *reykiwi500Man
over a year ago
West Kent (near Tonbridge) |
"OK. So I read your profile in LESS than 2 minutes.
I now have a bloody good idea of who you are, how you are approaching this and what you're looking for. You sound like a lovely grounded secure couple by the way.
Seriously, if people can't be arsed to give you TWO minutes of their time at the first stage, bollocks to them! They're not worth considering."
I feel exactly the same way in all respects. Occasionally I wonder if mine is a bit long as well, but it should (hopefully) answer most of the usual questions. |
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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago
Wakefield |
"to read?
I’m on about our profile. Honestly, you’ve all got smutty minds on here! "
Yes too long for us even though it is informative and interesting.
It is not a profile that grabs our attention. Sorry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OK. So I read your profile in LESS than 2 minutes.
I now have a bloody good idea of who you are, how you are approaching this and what you're looking for. You sound like a lovely grounded secure couple by the way.
Seriously, if people can't be arsed to give you TWO minutes of their time at the first stage, bollocks to them! They're not worth considering."
Totally agree |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ive took my long profile off as most would not read it so instead of having a good idea of what we want via the profile from the off they now have to find out via messages that take 3 or 4 more times longer ...either way they are not meeting me until they understand what i want and weather they fit what i want ... |
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"Look at it this way... If somebody is too lazy or can't be bothered to read a profile and find out more about you, chances are they'll be too lazy in the bedroom.
If somebody just wants to look at pics and then ask for a shag, are they worth responding to?
You do this YOUR way and sod what others tell you to do.
Usually the people who come on and criticise the profiles and pics of others have shit profiles themselves. They make themselves feel better by picking on others."
Spot on!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"yes that's too long looks like suicide dairy I wouldn't read that n spent time knowing I won't get a reply even no thanks
thereare lots of guys who read profile n understand n n send a nice message with a good manner what do they get nothing even no thanks so my self I won't read that n waste my time "
Ain't this the Truth, I don't bother sending first messages, I prefer to be contacted first, people expect way to much. I'm not in too pen pals, writing out my favorite scenes from a porn I saw once. Or entertaining fools. Expect us to write them an epic from a Shakespeare.
Way I see it you got the Pick of the bunch so pick, don't sit there in you're own glory loathing over 100s messages you got fueling your ego and only replying to one lol |
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I loved your profile. Good work out for the pelvic floor. I may have to steale some of it.
Having been round the block a few times. Chasing after the icecream van. We've treid, long detailed profiles, and next to nothing ones. Even our short, shaight to the point short one now makes no differance. Most don't even read the last few words of the profile title.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Tweaking constantly but it doesn’t seem to get shorter!
It is long but it’s quite fun to read
Agreed.
And it's shorter than the flibbertigibbet that is my profile.... "
Nothing about tow bars though...
Yes, I am keeping this going! |
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"Tweaking constantly but it doesn’t seem to get shorter!
It is long but it’s quite fun to read
Agreed.
And it's shorter than the flibbertigibbet that is my profile....
Nothing about tow bars though...
Yes, I am keeping this going! "
You're all heart....
Although I probably ought to add something in about that, now you mention it. After all, it's the one bit of notoriety I have going for me  |
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"Tweaking constantly but it doesn’t seem to get shorter! "
Well I think it’s great, and not too long at all (pretty sure mine’s longer). And to answer the original question - I’ve come to believe that boners cause men to lose the ability to read! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Look at it this way... If somebody is too lazy or can't be bothered to read a profile and find out more about you, chances are they'll be too lazy in the bedroom.
If somebody just wants to look at pics and then ask for a shag, are they worth responding to?bloody well said
You do this YOUR way and sod what others tell you to do.
Usually the people who come on and criticise the profiles and pics of others have shit profiles themselves. They make themselves feel better by picking on others."
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