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By *aterboatman OP Man over a year ago

Somewhere in Hampshire

I know it's personal preference, but what are your thoughts on disability versus fab?

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By *illie83lCouple over a year ago

Leeds

Sadly it is for quite a few on here...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I guess it depends on the disability..

Mine is invisible so i do ok

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

If i had a choice between an able bodied person or a disabled person id choose able. Less perceived complications.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know it's personal preference, but what are your thoughts on disability versus fab?"

Depends on the disability

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Be honest I wouldn't shag someone who was disabled

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By *edbath 5Man over a year ago

london

Ive not got a problem with any disability.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I dont think there is anything wrong with meeting someone with a disability expecially off fab as everyone one has needs

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By *ot40sCouple over a year ago

birmingham

"Ive not got a problem with any disability. "

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By *aterboatman OP Man over a year ago

Somewhere in Hampshire

I appreciate that comment thanks

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By *aterboatman OP Man over a year ago

Somewhere in Hampshire

I appreciate your comment that's very honest

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By *aterboatman OP Man over a year ago

Somewhere in Hampshire

"Ive not got a problem with any disability.

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I appe that thank you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes i think so this is not the first time some asked about disability but anyway just go with the flow now that what I've done.

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By *iscean MaleMan over a year ago

Darlaston

Not an issue for me... dated a color blind lady, a lady on a wheel chair with 1 leg. Ok it made going out a little difficult.. but its easy to make excuses I find to make a disabled person not feel wanted.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Given how difficult most men find it to get a meet on here, I suspect many disabilities would make it difficult if not impossible to get a meet on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It would depend on the disability.

I'm not totally able-bodied, but I do ok. Men can be quite understanding and helpful during sex and I always tell them there are things I can't do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Given how difficult most men find it to get a meet on here, I suspect many disabilities would make it difficult if not impossible to get a meet on here"
i would agree

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would have sex with a disabled man, sex isn't all about cocks, there's tongues and fingers too. I would want to know before meeting though. XXX

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By *entle giraffeMan over a year ago

Minehead

No, someone having a disability is not a turn off for me.

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By *orticiaWoman over a year ago

Wirral

Depending on the disability, I would have no issues - and if you ruled out everyone with a disability (including invisible ones) you’d probably lose about a third of Fab, if not more!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My ex had mild cerebral palsy and it never bothered me one bit, so I would never rule it out on here.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It would totally depend on the person, but sex and swinging cover so much it wouldn’t rule them out for me.

I see in your profile that you are upfront about your disability, but I wonder if it’s worth adding a line about how it impacts your life, sex etc. without focusing too much on it. Focus more what you have to offer.

The reason I suggest the it because I have heard of the condition but don’t actually know what impact that would have on someone and unless I REALLY liked someone’s profile I’m unlikely to make the effort to go off and read up how that’s likely to impact things. Just a suggestion and one that people/ you might totally disagree with.

But anyway happy fabbing.

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By *FFB69Woman over a year ago

Torfaen/Gwent

As others have said. Depends on the disability. I’m technically disabled but it’s completely invisible.

I don’t tell meets unless they’re someone I trust as it doesn’t affect my sex life.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I dont think there is anything wrong with meeting someone with a disability expecially off fab as everyone one has needs "

I fully agree mate, you have the right attitude I think

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By *weet and Spicy69Couple over a year ago

Northwest

I would like to think people could look passed a disability, but I know that is not always the case. There is a person there x

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By *rygveMan over a year ago

The Shires

No issues from me. Would def have a quick chat about any limitations or needs tho

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By *aterboatman OP Man over a year ago

Somewhere in Hampshire

"I would like to think people could look passed a disability, but I know that is not always the case. There is a person there x "
thank you

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By *xtrafun4youMan over a year ago

Dunstable

Each to there own! Wouldn’t bother me !

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By *aterboatman OP Man over a year ago

Somewhere in Hampshire

"It would totally depend on the person, but sex and swinging cover so much it wouldn’t rule them out for me.

But anyway happy fabbing. "
thank you for your advice. I'll take it on board and see what happens. Happy fabbing

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By *aterboatman OP Man over a year ago

Somewhere in Hampshire

"Depending on the disability, I would have no issues - and if you ruled out everyone with a disability (including invisible ones) you’d probably lose about a third of Fab, if not more!"
wow I didn't realise that static that has surprised me

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By *ookornotMan over a year ago

fife

"I know it's personal preference, but what are your thoughts on disability versus fab?"

we turned up on last min meet with a couple and the guy couldnt walk with any real help or effort, but we had no idea and a little shocked , but what feckin laugh we all had that night and great fun

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By *aterboatman OP Man over a year ago

Somewhere in Hampshire

"I know it's personal preference, but what are your thoughts on disability versus fab?

we turned up on last min meet with a couple and the guy couldnt walk with any real help or effort, but we had no idea and a little shocked , but what feckin laugh we all had that night and great fun

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glad it ended well

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I would have sex with a disabled man, sex isn't all about cocks, there's tongues and fingers too. I would want to know before meeting though. XXX"
seeing is believing

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

I say about my disability briefly on my profile, but since it usually has little impact on my sex life, I don't discuss it fully.

If people ask , I explain and most have been interested and considerate with regards to any limitations I may have.

Not one person has reacted badly. But I guess it depends on how the disability is perceived.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Depends what the disability is.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest. Main thing for me is personality. Ok there does have to be a little attraction but it’s not a deal breaker. In fact if anyone does have a disability and would like to meet an understanding genuine male feel free to get in touch

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By *uited staffs guyMan over a year ago

staffordshire

Not bothered in the slightest - if I fancy the person I fancy them - any disability is an irrelevance given that

It the person is someone I’m interested in has a disability vs someone who’s up themselves or I don’t fancy and much it’s a no brainier for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’m disabled but I just adapt and I tell my meets if we plan them , however I’m no longer meeting so just go with the flow x

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

I think some people get too caught up on what they can't change about themselves and see any "rejection" as a rejection against their "difference".

For me this is fantasy and my fantasy figure is quite specific. Add to that my playroom is at the top of my three storey house away from where I entertain my friends and family.

Someone with mobility difficulties would struggle. Someone with hearing loss would be unable to hear/read my lips if blind folded.

Those of us less than perfect will face challenges but we shouldn't mistake lack of sexual attraction to any ism etc.

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By *inkerbell67Woman over a year ago

Clacton on sea essex

I have a form of disability but don't let it get my way .

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

I've assumed not but also realise that single men have to put proportionally more effort into being successful here, compared to others on average

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By *agermeisterMan over a year ago

Leeds

I had a relationship with a woman wheelchair bound with MS.

Great woman and an utterly amazing shag.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I could get laid every night of the week by a different man, judging by my messages etc.

When people think they know my body and limitations better than I do by asking questions or making assumptions about my impairment, their ignorance and bigotry means they don't deserve to get laid by me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My ex was in a wheelchair with limited use of her legs. It just meant that we had to be more creative and I took control - something we both liked

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By *oloandsaabWoman over a year ago

Essex

"Be honest I wouldn't shag someone who was disabled"

Your verification is from a lady in a wheelchair!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Be honest I wouldn't shag someone who was disabled

Your verification is from a lady in a wheelchair!"

No she wisny in a wheelchair when a shagged her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Be honest I wouldn't shag someone who was disabled

Your verification is from a lady in a wheelchair!"

Just sent the same in a message to save his blushes. Got a mouth full and was told that the other veri was from the hottest woman on Fab

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By *-CrassClownMan over a year ago

Cardiff

As with most thinks, would be situation and person dependant. As long as both parties are upfront on what they want and there is a physical and mental connection, I personally wouldn't be turned off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I haven't had any problems with meets. Everyone has been just lovely about it. It's my lack of confidence about myself that is the problem

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Be honest I wouldn't shag someone who was disabled

Your verification is from a lady in a wheelchair!

Just sent the same in a message to save his blushes. Got a mouth full and was told that the other veri was from the hottest woman on Fab

Aye well that's fact

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

I’ve played with a guy who has Parkinson’s he’s early 40’s so it was a shock for him to accept his diagnosis. I’m also friends with a guy who has Asperger’s and we’ve played as well. Others I’ve met whilst not condsidered to be disabled have had major operations or injuries and are self conscious about scars.

I’m not disabled but I do have limits to what I can do at times and it just takes communication and understanding.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know it's personal preference, but what are your thoughts on disability versus fab?"
if they can fuck & move around then who’s to judge we’re all horny fuckers deep deep down

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

We used to see a couple where the guy was paralysed from the chest down, we had great fun!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We used to see a couple where the guy was paralysed from the chest down, we had great fun!

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By *oan of DArcCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

"Be honest I wouldn't shag someone who was disabled"

What about disabled in the head??

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By *elshsunsWoman over a year ago

Flintshire

Not a problem for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had fun with a few wheelchair bound ladies, who just wanted a good fucking like normal able women. Just wouldnt touch anything mentally disabled.x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Bound. Seriously.

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By *oloandsaabWoman over a year ago

Essex

"I've had fun with a few wheelchair bound ladies, who just wanted a good fucking like normal able women. Just wouldnt touch anything mentally disabled.x"

Anything? Surely you mean anyone? Even at that it's very rude

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some incredibly honest replies. Are people searching for their perceived perfect meets? I find it depends on the person and if they are nice to others or not. Anyone of us could have a life changing situation that would probably change our opinions ! In short then disability or not isn't something I care about for a meet (in fact it helps if the date is blind

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had fun with a few wheelchair bound ladies, who just wanted a good fucking like normal able women. Just wouldnt touch anything mentally disabled.x"

How very magnanimous!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Being disabled shouldnt stop you doing anything , you just adapt ! We all have the same needs and desires ! It takes understanding on both sides but no reason why it cant be satisfying for both parties

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By *oan of DArcCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

"I've had fun with a few wheelchair bound ladies, who just wanted a good fucking like normal able women. Just wouldnt touch anything mentally disabled.x"

Jesus

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By *hris 62Man over a year ago

HEREFORD

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Surprised nobody went for the “I left a girl unable to walk once”.... bah bum tish!!

I’ll get me coat

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It would definitely depend on the disability.

And the honesty.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

"I've had fun with a few wheelchair bound ladies, who just wanted a good fucking like normal able women. Just wouldnt touch anything mentally disabled.x"

Mental health problems can affect any one of us - and there's a diverse range of symptoms and you may not be told by people who don't trust you to know something that they feel sensitive about.

I think it's reasonable to share things that could make a material difference for a partner, to ensure compatibility beforehand. I also think it's reasonable to take your time to learn and determine who is trustworthy and would respect your wellbeing.

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By *ilbearniMan over a year ago

peninsula

"I've had fun with a few wheelchair bound ladies, who just wanted a good fucking like normal able women. Just wouldnt touch anything mentally disabled.x

Jesus

Wept

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By *naswingdressWoman over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

It's not necessarily about the disability for me, it's about connection. I'd never rule anything out.

I have invisible disabilities which may or may not become apparent with my Fab meets. I also seriously injured myself (amounting to a temporary disability I suppose) a few days after joining Fab. I was upfront about it (still am). Some are/ were OK with it, some vanished, and I got a ridiculous amount of accusations of being a time waster and out and out abuse for it. As if I'd insulted people by being on Fab, not meeting right now, and being upfront about my temporary incapacity. Some of those people, if I didn't block them at the time, are now asking if I'm better. If I remember, I'm sure as hell blocking them now.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Being disabled shouldnt stop you doing anything , you just adapt ! We all have the same needs and desires ! It takes understanding on both sides but no reason why it cant be satisfying for both parties"

Being disabled means just that. It's not my impairment that disables me it's other people

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My gut says no but my reasons are complex. I've never had experience of anyone with a physical disability. So I worry that my ignorance, maybe I'd give them an uncensored weird look, or I'd say something I hadn't thought through properly... and it would make them feel ugly and that would just be a disaster. I also worry that, when it came to it, I genuinely wouldn't find it attractive... and there's nothing you can do about that. Finally I worry about the baggage they'd bring. It's a bit like swiping left on a woman who has just lost all her kids in a tragic accident. My heart of course would go out to her but I'm not secure enough in my own life to really be able to take all that on. Just being honest.

That having been said... if I met a woman, got chatting and flirting, and felt I wanted to fuck her. If I found out she was physically disabled I definitely wouldn't run away purely on that account. I'd probably be quite open to giving it a try if I felt we clicked and it was going to be quite natural.

As always, hypotheticals and reality are often miles apart

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"Some incredibly honest replies. Are people searching for their perceived perfect meets? I find it depends on the person and if they are nice to others or not. Anyone of us could have a life changing situation that would probably change our opinions ! In short then disability or not isn't something I care about for a meet (in fact it helps if the date is blind

I'm searching for my fantasy meet...I have a parner. No strings is just that for me and fantasy. I do find it odd people want to apply equality to sexual preference.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's like you're all doing disabled people a favour by fucking them. Best you actually do then a favour and stay the hell away.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"My gut says no but my reasons are complex. I've never had experience of anyone with a physical disability. So I worry that my ignorance, maybe I'd give them an uncensored weird look, or I'd say something I hadn't thought through properly... and it would make them feel ugly and that would just be a disaster. I also worry that, when it came to it, I genuinely wouldn't find it attractive... and there's nothing you can do about that. Finally I worry about the baggage they'd bring. It's a bit like swiping left on a woman who has just lost all her kids in a tragic accident. My heart of course would go out to her but I'm not secure enough in my own life to really be able to take all that on. Just being honest.

As always, hypotheticals and reality are often miles apart

Oh, that’s big of you.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I've had fun with a few wheelchair bound ladies, who just wanted a good fucking like normal able women. Just wouldnt touch anything mentally disabled.x"

How devastating for them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh, that’s big of you."

Actually I didn't think it was very big of me. I probably shouldn't have posted it but there you go. I did. It's a complex issue compacted by my inexperience with it. Shoot me down if you like. I was only trying to answer the question. Not that it was really worth answering was it. Oh well another thread another day

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By *hingy2Woman over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Ive not got a problem with any disability. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's like you're all doing disabled people a favour by fucking them. Best you actually do then a favour and stay the hell away."

I would only have sex with a disabled man if I was attracted to him. I've never fucked anyone out of pity.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh, that’s big of you.

I like your honesty. It's better than being patronising.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had fun with a few wheelchair bound ladies, who just wanted a good fucking like normal able women. Just wouldnt touch anything mentally disabled.x

How devastating for them. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The usual things apply don't they? Are you attracted to the person, do you connect, do you both fancy meeting and seeing where things go?

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By *hingy2Woman over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"I've had fun with a few wheelchair bound ladies, who just wanted a good fucking like normal able women. Just wouldnt touch anything mentally disabled.x

Jesus

Wept

Oh and what do you class as mentally disabled??? Nearly everyone at some point in their lives has had mental health issues!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's like you're all doing disabled people a favour by fucking them. Best you actually do then a favour and stay the hell away."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh, that’s big of you.

I like your honesty. It's better than being patronising."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had fun with a few wheelchair bound ladies, who just wanted a good fucking like normal able women. Just wouldnt touch anything mentally disabled.x

Jesus

Wept

Oh and what do you class as mentally disabled??? Nearly everyone at some point in their lives has had mental health issues!!!"

Being mentally disabled isn't the same as having mental health issues. My sister had severe spastic cerebral palsy. I have chronic depression and anxiety. I can still function ok, she couldn't.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's like you're all doing disabled people a favour by fucking them. Best you actually do then a favour and stay the hell away.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll put my hand up and admit to being fickle...it's verging on the impossible that I'd meet someone from here with a visible physical disability

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Please explain the term invisible disabilities for the American....

I’m not stupid, I’m just can’t think of any invisible disease that would disable someone.

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By *ORDERMANMan over a year ago

wrexham

Going to tell a joke.....pc brigade may object ....but shows no difference with abilities or disabilities...

Guy in a nightclub spots this stunning girl sitting at a table, saunters over and starts chatting her up, they get on like a house on fire , buys her drinks and there is a spark between them.

DJ plays a popular hit, he ask's if she fancy's a dance..."bit awkward " pushing herself away from table reveals she's actually in wheelchair, "so what" he retorts and pushes her onto the floor.

Night progresses and both are enjoying each others company, he ask's if he can walk her home, she agrees...When they get to her street, he enquires if he can see her again and would she mind if he gave her a goodnight kiss, she agrees to both... Leaning forward they begin to kiss which gets hotter and hotter and hotter....till she whispers you can caress me ....and his hands starts to caress her body and her hands his.

Getting more and more turned on, she tells him she wants to make love, perplexed he asks how they can go about it, she says "look, lift me out of the wheelchair and dangle my arms over those railings and you should be able to enter me"

So following her instructions places her on the railings and they proceed to make passionate love in the cool night air....

When they finnish he wheels her to her front door which is opened by her mother who instantly makes a fuss of him, thanking him for bringing her home , would he like a coffee , can she dive him home.....going really overboard, he explains he's met her daughter really likes her, would like to see her again but doesn't understand the mother's reaction....mother replies he's the first decent lad she's ever brought home as most of the local bastards leave her dangling on the railings....!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

some very shallow people on this forum in my opinion, so what if they have a disability it doesn't make them any different. we all have something we cant do as good as someone else

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"some very shallow people on this forum in my opinion, so what if they have a disability it doesn't make them any different. we all have something we cant do as good as someone else"
i would agree with you 100% that they look down on people who have disability due to been born with it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I know it's personal preference, but what are your thoughts on disability versus fab?"

You don't have to have a disability on here to not get much attention, it's just the whole weirdness of fab. Sometimes think the site is a waste of time

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Please explain the term invisible disabilities for the American....

I’m not stupid, I’m just can’t think of any invisible disease that would disable someone."

When it comes to sex, there's a lot my arthritis stops me from doing. If a man wants, or expects, an energetic, epic fuck, with me squatting on his cock,putting my legs back over my head or doing the side splits as he's fucking me he's going to be disappointed.

A severe asthmatic may have breathing problems brought on by over exertion.

One of my previous regular partners had a bowel and urinary problem and had a stoma. Some positions were difficult for him and he lost his erection easily.

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By *ORDERMANMan over a year ago

wrexham

we are all beings wether we have 3 legs, 1 leg no legs.....

is anyone actually perfect......

regardless of our bodies abilities being on this site shows we have a shared interest .......sex

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"we are all beings wether we have 3 legs, 1 leg no legs.....

is anyone actually perfect......

regardless of our bodies abilities being on this site shows we have a shared interest .......sex"
you maybe true but it hard for some people than others i think

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"some very shallow people on this forum in my opinion, so what if they have a disability it doesn't make them any different. we all have something we cant do as good as someone else"

For those who are looking to fulfill their fantasies I’m afraid having certain disabilities will make the person different .

Not wanting to shag the said person doesn’t make them shallow either . No more than those who don’t want a larger person , or a black or a white person , etc.....

Fortunately we are all different and that inevitably means the old saying that there’s someone for everyone is true .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"some very shallow people on this forum in my opinion, so what if they have a disability it doesn't make them any different. we all have something we cant do as good as someone else

For those who are looking to fulfill their fantasies I’m afraid having certain disabilities will make the person different .

Not wanting to shag the said person doesn’t make them shallow either . No more than those who don’t want a larger person , or a black or a white person , etc.....

Fortunately we are all different and that inevitably means the old saying that there’s someone for everyone is true ."
the disability shouldn't have any bearing on it, it should be down to if they fancy that person enough to have sex with

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"some very shallow people on this forum in my opinion, so what if they have a disability it doesn't make them any different. we all have something we cant do as good as someone else

For those who are looking to fulfill their fantasies I’m afraid having certain disabilities will make the person different .

Not wanting to shag the said person doesn’t make them shallow either . No more than those who don’t want a larger person , or a black or a white person , etc.....

Fortunately we are all different and that inevitably means the old saying that there’s someone for everyone is true .the disability shouldn't have any bearing on it, it should be down to if they fancy that person enough to have sex with "

What if the disabled person can't perform the kind of sex that is wanted. Should we be pity fucked?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"we are all beings wether we have 3 legs, 1 leg no legs.....

is anyone actually perfect......

regardless of our bodies abilities being on this site shows we have a shared interest .......sex you maybe true but it hard for some people than others i think

Mental connection is important for some people too.

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

"some very shallow people on this forum in my opinion, so what if they have a disability it doesn't make them any different. we all have something we cant do as good as someone else

For those who are looking to fulfill their fantasies I’m afraid having certain disabilities will make the person different .

Not wanting to shag the said person doesn’t make them shallow either . No more than those who don’t want a larger person , or a black or a white person , etc.....

There are a whole host of reasons as to why people fancy or don’t fancy other people . To fancy someone enough to have sex with them will include the way they look , their personality , their age , and for some their disability , their race , their religion , their sexual orientation , oh my days I could go on ...... and perhaps some may say that none of these should be reasons not to have sex with someone . But they are and there’s nothing anyone can do to change this .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"some very shallow people on this forum in my opinion, so what if they have a disability it doesn't make them any different. we all have something we cant do as good as someone else

For those who are looking to fulfill their fantasies I’m afraid having certain disabilities will make the person different .

Not wanting to shag the said person doesn’t make them shallow either . No more than those who don’t want a larger person , or a black or a white person , etc.....

What if the disabled person can't perform the kind of sex that is wanted. Should we be pity fucked? "
there is people out there without a disability that cant perform that kind of sex, you just should write someone off as some people on here was saying just because of a disability if you like the look of them then get to know them and forget the disability

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"we are all beings wether we have 3 legs, 1 leg no legs.....

is anyone actually perfect......

regardless of our bodies abilities being on this site shows we have a shared interest .......sex you maybe true but it hard for some people than others i think

Mental connection is important for some people too. "

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By *ORDERMANMan over a year ago

wrexham

"we are all beings wether we have 3 legs, 1 leg no legs.....

is anyone actually perfect......

regardless of our bodies abilities being on this site shows we have a shared interest .......sex you maybe true but it hard for some people than others i think

Mental connection is important for some people too. "

you love the person (mind and body) not love the body..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"some very shallow people on this forum in my opinion, so what if they have a disability it doesn't make them any different. we all have something we cant do as good as someone else

For those who are looking to fulfill their fantasies I’m afraid having certain disabilities will make the person different .

Not wanting to shag the said person doesn’t make them shallow either . No more than those who don’t want a larger person , or a black or a white person , etc.....

What if the disabled person can't perform the kind of sex that is wanted. Should we be pity fucked? there is people out there without a disability that cant perform that kind of sex, you just should write someone off as some people on here was saying just because of a disability if you like the look of them then get to know them and forget the disability"

I wouldn't be meeting them either. I'm not here to do anyone any favours. If someone's disability doesn't make a difference to me I will meet them.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"we are all beings wether we have 3 legs, 1 leg no legs.....

is anyone actually perfect......

regardless of our bodies abilities being on this site shows we have a shared interest .......sex you maybe true but it hard for some people than others i think

Mental connection is important for some people too.

you love the person (mind and body) not love the body.."

For sex I don't love anything.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"we are all beings wether we have 3 legs, 1 leg no legs.....

is anyone actually perfect......

regardless of our bodies abilities being on this site shows we have a shared interest .......sex you maybe true but it hard for some people than others i think

Mental connection is important for some people too.

you love the person (mind and body) not love the body..

For sex I don't love anything. "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be honest i find it insulting when people look down on people with disables no matter if the sexy or not it wrong to judge people in this day and age.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To be honest i find it insulting when people look down on people with disables no matter if the sexy or not it wrong to judge people in this day and age.

No one is looking down on you. They just don't want sex with you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh and what do you class as mentally disabled??? Nearly everyone at some point in their lives has had mental health issues!!!

Being mentally disabled isn't the same as having mental health issues. My sister had severe spastic cerebral palsy. I have chronic depression and anxiety. I can still function ok, she couldn't. "

I'm really sorry to hear about your sister. My ex had it mildly, there was a lot of things she couldn't do for herself. I had to bathe her and help her get dressed.

She wasn't in a wheelchair, she could walk, but she got tired very easily. Her entire left side was shorter than the right, so she struggled a lot.

Even things we take for granted like opening up a purse or making a cup of tea, she couldn't do it without help because her grip wasn't strong enough or her balance was off. I saw her try to run once when her dog escaped and it broke my heart, I immediately started crying because I fully realised just how hard it was for her and just how much she was missing out on. I'm tearing up just thinking about it now.

I'll give her credit, she was a fighter, she pushed herself just so she could enjoy life as best she could.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh and what do you class as mentally disabled??? Nearly everyone at some point in their lives has had mental health issues!!!

Being mentally disabled isn't the same as having mental health issues. My sister had severe spastic cerebral palsy. I have chronic depression and anxiety. I can still function ok, she couldn't.

I'm really sorry to hear about your sister. My ex had it mildly, there was a lot of things she couldn't do for herself. I had to bathe her and help her get dressed.

She wasn't in a wheelchair, she could walk, but she got tired very easily. Her entire left side was shorter than the right, so she struggled a lot.

I'll give her credit, she was a fighter, she pushed herself just so she could enjoy life as best she could."

Some people with disabilities can have a great life, with people like you around.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh and what do you class as mentally disabled??? Nearly everyone at some point in their lives has had mental health issues!!!

Being mentally disabled isn't the same as having mental health issues. My sister had severe spastic cerebral palsy. I have chronic depression and anxiety. I can still function ok, she couldn't.

I'm really sorry to hear about your sister. My ex had it mildly, there was a lot of things she couldn't do for herself. I had to bathe her and help her get dressed.

She wasn't in a wheelchair, she could walk, but she got tired very easily. Her entire left side was shorter than the right, so she struggled a lot.

I'll give her credit, she was a fighter, she pushed herself just so she could enjoy life as best she could.

Some people with disabilities can have a great life, with people like you around. "

Thank you, I appreciate that, it means a lot. Sometimes I feel like I didn't do enough for her. I hope I did.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh and what do you class as mentally disabled??? Nearly everyone at some point in their lives has had mental health issues!!!

Being mentally disabled isn't the same as having mental health issues. My sister had severe spastic cerebral palsy. I have chronic depression and anxiety. I can still function ok, she couldn't.

I'm really sorry to hear about your sister. My ex had it mildly, there was a lot of things she couldn't do for herself. I had to bathe her and help her get dressed.

She wasn't in a wheelchair, she could walk, but she got tired very easily. Her entire left side was shorter than the right, so she struggled a lot.

I'll give her credit, she was a fighter, she pushed herself just so she could enjoy life as best she could."
it sounds like ur pitying her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Doesn't bother me in the slightest

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh and what do you class as mentally disabled??? Nearly everyone at some point in their lives has had mental health issues!!!

Being mentally disabled isn't the same as having mental health issues. My sister had severe spastic cerebral palsy. I have chronic depression and anxiety. I can still function ok, she couldn't.

I'm really sorry to hear about your sister. My ex had it mildly, there was a lot of things she couldn't do for herself. I had to bathe her and help her get dressed.

She wasn't in a wheelchair, she could walk, but she got tired very easily. Her entire left side was shorter than the right, so she struggled a lot.

I'll give her credit, she was a fighter, she pushed herself just so she could enjoy life as best she could.

Some people with disabilities can have a great life, with people like you around.

Thank you, I appreciate that, it means a lot. Sometimes I feel like I didn't do enough for her. I hope I did."
good on u mate well done

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Doesn't bother me in the slightest "
if that true the seeing is believing i would say

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"Doesn't bother me in the slightest if that true the seeing is believing i would say"

She doesn't have to prove anything to anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Oh and what do you class as mentally disabled??? Nearly everyone at some point in their lives has had mental health issues!!!

Being mentally disabled isn't the same as having mental health issues. My sister had severe spastic cerebral palsy. I have chronic depression and anxiety. I can still function ok, she couldn't.

I'm really sorry to hear about your sister. My ex had it mildly, there was a lot of things she couldn't do for herself. I had to bathe her and help her get dressed.

She wasn't in a wheelchair, she could walk, but she got tired very easily. Her entire left side was shorter than the right, so she struggled a lot.

I'll give her credit, she was a fighter, she pushed herself just so she could enjoy life as best she could.it sounds like ur pitying her"

Watching someone you love struggle with things we find so easy is heart breaking. It's not pity; it's caring.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is the big problem: You show you care and you are accused of showing pity. You act like you don't care and you're accused of being heartless.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Watching someone you love struggle with things we find so easy is heart breaking"

I've gone through this with a loved one and it was deeply traumatic for me. I hope I never experience such a thing ever again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is the big problem: You show you care and you are accused of showing pity. You act like you don't care and you're accused of being heartless.

Thank you. That comment by them really fucking hurt. I was already shedding a few tears thinking about her and then it turned into a full on breakdown.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is the big problem: You show you care and you are accused of showing pity. You act like you don't care and you're accused of being heartless"

I don't think long term disabled people are really looking for any sign that we care or not... they're just looking for understanding

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is the big problem: You show you care and you are accused of showing pity. You act like you don't care and you're accused of being heartless

I don't think long term disabled people are really looking for any sign that we care or not... they're just looking for understanding "

I have no idea about that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is the big problem: You show you care and you are accused of showing pity. You act like you don't care and you're accused of being heartless.

Thank you. That comment by them really fucking hurt. I was already shedding a few tears thinking about her and then it turned into a full on breakdown. "

She was blessed to have your support.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is the big problem: You show you care and you are accused of showing pity. You act like you don't care and you're accused of being heartless

I don't think long term disabled people are really looking for any sign that we care or not... they're just looking for understanding

I have no idea about that "

I suspect (I can only imagine) that having people react to a physical disability several years or more after the fact soon gets tiresome. Like Lionel Richie being asked to sing f*cking "Hello" all the f*cking time. "Oi Lionel! is it me you're looking for?" You just know sooner or later Lionel is going to go postal screaming "No it's not f*cking you!! Agghh"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is the big problem: You show you care and you are accused of showing pity. You act like you don't care and you're accused of being heartless

I don't think long term disabled people are really looking for any sign that we care or not... they're just looking for understanding

I have no idea about that

Who knows. One of my oldest friends is very grateful for all the help and care she gets; she wouldn't travel the world or go out without it. I suppose it depends on the disability and the person.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is the big problem: You show you care and you are accused of showing pity. You act like you don't care and you're accused of being heartless

I don't think long term disabled people are really looking for any sign that we care or not... they're just looking for understanding

I have no idea about that

Who knows. One of my oldest friends is very grateful for all the help and care she gets; she wouldn't travel the world or go out without it. I suppose it depends on the disability and the person. "

And also depend on the reaction.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is the big problem: You show you care and you are accused of showing pity. You act like you don't care and you're accused of being heartless.

Thank you. That comment by them really fucking hurt. I was already shedding a few tears thinking about her and then it turned into a full on breakdown.

She was blessed to have your support. "

Thanks. She used to hate me bathing her, she found it degrading and even though I was more than happy to help, I have to admit I could see where she was coming from. I used to find it romantic when we'd have a bath together and she'd wash me, but if I had to have someone wash me every single day because I couldn't do it myself I'd find it pretty degrading too.

It is sad to see someone you love struggle on a daily basis, but that's not pity, that's just a basic human emotion. I think empathy is something that a lot of people lack these days.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is the big problem: You show you care and you are accused of showing pity. You act like you don't care and you're accused of being heartless.

Thank you. That comment by them really fucking hurt. I was already shedding a few tears thinking about her and then it turned into a full on breakdown.

She was blessed to have your support.

It is sad to see someone you love struggle on a daily basis, but that's not pity, that's just a basic human emotion. I think empathy is something that a lot of people lack these days."

Empathy is certainly lacking on here. My husband would have had me bathe him every day if he could.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Empathy is certainly lacking on here. My husband would have had me bathe him every day if he could. "

I think people lack it in general. If they haven't experienced something personally or at least know someone who has, then they don't quite get it. I think mental health suffers from a lack of empathy more than physical disabilities, maybe it's just my experiences with depression, but I've very rarely met anyone who understood what I was going through.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Empathy is certainly lacking on here. My husband would have had me bathe him every day if he could.

"
same here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is the big problem: You show you care and you are accused of showing pity. You act like you don't care and you're accused of being heartless.

"
i think there are a lot of heartless people out there that why the world is in such a mess i think

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By *oAnCouple over a year ago

Streatham

We've met a few disabled people through swinging never had a problem. Met some deaf couples and a few guys.

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By *onguentasticMan over a year ago

Ballymoney

Never new there was soo many disabled people on fab makes me feel more at ease to write about my disability on my profile

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just dont like the fact of feeling im taking advantage of a vulnerable person.... and SOME people with disabilities fall under that . I have seen and met many people where a disability is not their identity and personality, those people i meet

. Ive seen a woman on here tgat cucks her hubby and i think she had a slight 'disfigurement' (dont like using that word so forgive me i cant think of another word) and she is smoking fucking hot. She is not whining on about it and ypu can read about her and what she likes..... i would ruin her

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

"I just dont like the fact of feeling im taking advantage of a vulnerable person.... and SOME people with disabilities fall under that . I have seen and met many people where a disability is not their identity and personality, those people i meet

Lucky girl.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is the big problem: You show you care and you are accused of showing pity. You act like you don't care and you're accused of being heartless

I don't think long term disabled people are really looking for any sign that we care or not... they're just looking for understanding "

Your make a lot of assumptions.

I couldn't give a shit if you care or understand.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had fun with a few wheelchair bound ladies, who just wanted a good fucking like normal able women. Just wouldnt touch anything mentally disabled.x"

"Anything mentally" i hope you mean anyone a person doesnt become a "thing "

Because of a mental illness.

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman over a year ago

south yorkshire

Never had an issue with it, I'm upfront about it and my limitations x

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman over a year ago

south yorkshire

Yes! The ability to help me put a dislocated joint back in position is handy too lol, or not fainting when I go 'click/thud/crack' and a joint comes out lol.

I can't be arsed with all the sympathy stuff, I see soooo many people on Facebook just desperate for attention and sympathy! Ugh

The way I see it ...life has it's crap days, did way too much the last few days she I hurt like hell. I'm lucky, thanks to the NHS I have medication, I get physio etc, I have a house with a warm, comfy bed. It's not terminal, yeah there's a much higher risk of bursting blood vessels but I've not had the awful 'you've so and so months left'. When I can't sleep for pain I tell myself I'm fortunate! Some parts of the world have virtually no health care, kids die from the runs! I'm not sat at the bedside of a dying child.

It's physical pain, it won't go away, but it can be eased. I have all my limbs, what's to feel sorry for myself about? X

Never had a problem with meets or clubs, I'm upfront and open about it.

Does make me laugh though when I can't sleep for pain, I'm braced and taped to keep joints in place etc and I get the 'want to meet now' messages! Not a chance in hell lol x

Don't set me off on silly people offering meets and drugs!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm totally open on this. It may involve a few tweaks to have sex with a disabled person. But hey could be fun for all.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"some very shallow people on this forum in my opinion, so what if they have a disability it doesn't make them any different. we all have something we cant do as good as someone else"

For the love of Mike...!!!

My talking mirror tells me I'm the fairest in the land. When wearing my rose coloured specs I agree, but the reality is I KNOW I'm not going to appeal to everyone.

I'm over 50...as is my bmi. Am I offended/upset some won't find me sexually attractive? Hell no! Do I think them shallow? Hell no! Do I think people should give me a go because old fatties need good loving too? Hell no!

I applaud those with an ecumenical approach to sex. I'll stick to sexual attraction and if it excludes some...oh well!

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"some very shallow people on this forum in my opinion, so what if they have a disability it doesn't make them any different. we all have something we cant do as good as someone else i would agree with you 100% that they look down on people who have disability due to been born with it."

So because people have preferences they look down on others outwith what they're looking for?!!

Wow! Who knew...Every day's a learning day.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"some very shallow people on this forum in my opinion, so what if they have a disability it doesn't make them any different. we all have something we cant do as good as someone else

For those who are looking to fulfill their fantasies I’m afraid having certain disabilities will make the person different .

Not wanting to shag the said person doesn’t make them shallow either . No more than those who don’t want a larger person , or a black or a white person , etc.....

Fortunately we are all different and that inevitably means the old saying that there’s someone for everyone is true ."

My point exactly!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"some very shallow people on this forum in my opinion, so what if they have a disability it doesn't make them any different. we all have something we cant do as good as someone else

For the love of Mike...!!!

My talking mirror tells me I'm the fairest in the land. When wearing my rose coloured specs I agree, but the reality is I KNOW I'm not going to appeal to everyone.

I applaud those with an ecumenical approach to sex. I'll stick to sexual attraction and if it excludes some...oh well!"

I think some people don’t understand that you will not appeal to everyone....

If you state in the forums something is not for you .... you get attacked.....

My question is....

Why do people participate in a forum discussions if they don’t want to hear a counter argument?

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"some very shallow people on this forum in my opinion, so what if they have a disability it doesn't make them any different. we all have something we cant do as good as someone else

For those who are looking to fulfill their fantasies I’m afraid having certain disabilities will make the person different .

Not wanting to shag the said person doesn’t make them shallow either . No more than those who don’t want a larger person , or a black or a white person , etc.....

Speaking for myself: I have a partner, met him on here we just got talking. Whilst sexually adventurous he can't even say "sub" and whilst he'd happily partake in anything I'd want to do it wouldn't work for me. That's why I meet a certain type of man. Those I exclude (and that excludes the other half) for my D/s play are not inferior in anyway shape or form...they just don't meet my play criteria.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"some very shallow people on this forum in my opinion, so what if they have a disability it doesn't make them any different. we all have something we cant do as good as someone else

For the love of Mike...!!!

My talking mirror tells me I'm the fairest in the land. When wearing my rose coloured specs I agree, but the reality is I KNOW I'm not going to appeal to everyone.

I applaud those with an ecumenical approach to sex. I'll stick to sexual attraction and if it excludes some...oh well!

I think some people don’t understand that you will not appeal to everyone....

If you state in the forums something is not for you .... you get attacked.....

My question is....

Why do people participate in a forum discussions if they don’t want to hear a counter argument?"

I think people are so scared of being labeled an "ist" of any kind they agree and bolster.

We all know we don't have universal appeal but some have an inflated sense of entitlement, fuelled by those too chicken shit to tell them to get over themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"some very shallow people on this forum in my opinion, so what if they have a disability it doesn't make them any different. we all have something we cant do as good as someone else

For the love of Mike...!!!

My talking mirror tells me I'm the fairest in the land. When wearing my rose coloured specs I agree, but the reality is I KNOW I'm not going to appeal to everyone.

I applaud those with an ecumenical approach to sex. I'll stick to sexual attraction and if it excludes some...oh well!"

That's the point.

What makes me baulk is the pity or disgust shown. I don't need pity, my life is wonderful and I could get as much sex as I wanted. I couldn't give a shit if my impairment turns someone off, but many seem to think I should. Mainly those with the offensive opinions, I suspect.

I want society to offer me the same choices as non disabled people, access being top of the list. But it also includes being treated by others as they would treat a non disabled person. That includes rejection, but rejection without the pity or disgust that isn't shown to non disabled people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is the big problem: You show you care and you are accused of showing pity. You act like you don't care and you're accused of being heartless

I don't think long term disabled people are really looking for any sign that we care or not... they're just looking for understanding "

I'd guess they are just looking for respect.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is the big problem: You show you care and you are accused of showing pity. You act like you don't care and you're accused of being heartless

I don't think long term disabled people are really looking for any sign that we care or not... they're just looking for understanding

I'd guess they are just looking for respect."

Exactly.

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

"some very shallow people on this forum in my opinion, so what if they have a disability it doesn't make them any different. we all have something we cant do as good as someone else

For the love of Mike...!!!

My talking mirror tells me I'm the fairest in the land. When wearing my rose coloured specs I agree, but the reality is I KNOW I'm not going to appeal to everyone.

I applaud those with an ecumenical approach to sex. I'll stick to sexual attraction and if it excludes some...oh well!

That's the point.

I understand and agree 100%.

I avoid bbw threads whether in favour or against for that reason.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

The Wild Wetness

It's about attraction. If we are attracted then a missing limb, or a mental disability will not make any difference.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't mind!

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS over a year ago

Bristol.

As has been said it depends on the disability..

One of the biggest disabilities and most relevant on here would be erectile dysfunction..

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By *rs Myvanwy Scarlet-BlackTV/TS over a year ago

Whitby

I have a disability where I only have the use of one arm and it's never Been a problem with anyone that I've meet and the sex must still be great as most come back for more xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've got Tourette's.

Anyone for a fuck??

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By *otgirl32Woman over a year ago

Ashton Under Lyne

I guess it depends on the disability - medical issues which are invisible are much easier to deal with than physical ones but for me it's about minds meeting and ultimately a physical disability should get lost behind other considerations

I met a great guy on another swinging site he has an above knee amputation. He told me about it we clicked so met for a social and I took him home. Didn't make one bit of a difference. Between the passionate kissing and touching and oral and the really good fucking I couldn't have cared less about his disability. I still see him from time to time

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By *tu250Man over a year ago

Nottingham Area

Disability not a problem for me, I used to see a lady in a wheel chair no legs below the knees and a piss bag connected to her stomach, was great fun in bed but restrictive

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By *tu250Man over a year ago

Nottingham Area

Disability not a problem for me, I used to see a lady in a wheel chair no legs below the knees and a piss bag connected to her stomach, was great fun in bed but restrictive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not a problem

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is the big problem: You show you care and you are accused of showing pity. You act like you don't care and you're accused of being heartless

I don't think long term disabled people are really looking for any sign that we care or not... they're just looking for understanding

I'd guess they are just looking for respect.

Exactly. "

That's just ridiculous and patronising. Respect someone just because they're in a wheelchair? How is that any different from the kind of respect young kids in the American suburbs feel they should command simply because they have a knife or a gun?

I'll respect somebody who *earns* my respect. People in wheelchairs can be total idiots too. So can old people or rich people. Being any of those things doesn't automatically entitle you to respect in my eyes. Empathy and understanding? Yes. Respect? No. You'll have to earn that just like anyone else

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By *oan of DArcCouple over a year ago

Glasgow

"This is the big problem: You show you care and you are accused of showing pity. You act like you don't care and you're accused of being heartless

I don't think long term disabled people are really looking for any sign that we care or not... they're just looking for understanding

I'd guess they are just looking for respect.

Exactly.

I think the point about respect is that disabled folks are so often disrespected as the norm simply due to their disability.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think the point about respect is that disabled folks are so often disrespected as the norm simply due to their disability."

I don't see much hunger among the public to disrespect disabled people. Quite the reverse. What I do see, however, is widespread lack of empathy or understanding for them. Like cinemas that put steps in and just don't even think about what that means. Or, as happened near where I used to live, closing a manned railway crossing in favour of a steep ramp up to an existing foot bridge. But so steep that in winter anyone on wheels would surely slide and go careening out of control and into the brambles at the bottom.

Well meaning patronising lack of understanding... that's endemic. Not disrespect

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think the point about respect is that disabled folks are so often disrespected as the norm simply due to their disability.

Well meaning patronising lack of understanding... that's endemic. Not disrespect "

Oh and obviously the whole invisibility, sweep it under the carpet, thing. As with homeless people. That's endemic too. I guess you could define that as disrespectful, as indeed it is. But I don't think it comes from a desire to disrespect. It's more complex than that imo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is the big problem: You show you care and you are accused of showing pity. You act like you don't care and you're accused of being heartless

I don't think long term disabled people are really looking for any sign that we care or not... they're just looking for understanding

I'd guess they are just looking for respect.

Exactly.

I think the point about respect is that disabled folks are so often disrespected as the norm simply due to their disability."
i would agree 100% due to been born with a disability

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't see much hunger among the public to disrespect disabled people. Quite the reverse. "

There was a thread on here a couple of days ago about mobility scooter. In all my years on the forum or is easily one of the most unpleasant I've ever read. So you don't need to look far to find evidence of a complete lack of respect. The generalisations and bile was unbelievable

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I think the point about respect is that disabled folks are so often disrespected as the norm simply due to their disability.

Well meaning patronising lack of understanding... that's endemic. Not disrespect "

I sincerely hope you never become disabled.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

shame on you. We can be as good as the next shag you choose! maybe even better.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This is the big problem: You show you care and you are accused of showing pity. You act like you don't care and you're accused of being heartless

I don't think long term disabled people are really looking for any sign that we care or not... they're just looking for understanding

Your make a lot of assumptions.

I couldn't give a shit if you care or understand."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes! The ability to help me put a dislocated joint back in position is handy too lol, or not fainting when I go 'click/thud/crack' and a joint comes out lol.

I can't be arsed with all the sympathy stuff, I see soooo many people on Facebook just desperate for attention and sympathy! Ugh

It's physical pain, it won't go away, but it can be eased. I have all my limbs, what's to feel sorry for myself about? X

Never had a problem with meets or clubs, I'm upfront and open about it.

Does make me laugh though when I can't sleep for pain, I'm braced and taped to keep joints in place etc and I get the 'want to meet now' messages! Not a chance in hell lol x

Don't set me off on silly people offering meets and drugs!!! "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had fun with a few wheelchair bound ladies, who just wanted a good fucking like normal able women. Just wouldnt touch anything mentally disabled.x

"Anything mentally" i hope you mean anyone a person doesnt become a "thing "

Because of a mental illness."
May I ask whats a Normal?? cant disabled be normal to? or is it that something else we are judging? so if that the case you might as well drop the able women and just have disabled and women. we are all normal as isn't what we all do is normal to us.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I sincerely hope you never become disabled."

The world has more than its fair share of idiots and arrogant tw*ts. There is no real sanctuary from their twatishness. We all encounter it. We just learn to ignore it because it's clearly their problem not ours.

If you're telling me, as you seem to be, that disabled people are disproportionately targeted by such people then that's really sh!tty. If you're saying that everyone, including myself, are arses in this way... I think that's just cynicism. But maybe I'm wrong. If so that's pretty sh!tty too.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I sincerely hope you never become disabled.

I'm telling you that you clearly have zero understanding of what it's like to be disabled.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I sincerely hope you never become disabled.

I'm telling you that you clearly have zero understanding of what it's like to be disabled."

You're absolutely right. I have absolutely zero understanding of what it's like to be disabled. I think I was pretty up front with that info. That doesn't mean I don't want to understand

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Soulful kinky, from your posts here you're not looking to understand. You've contradicted all you've been told.

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