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Advice on accommodating
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Heyloo fabbers!
So we're new to this so looking for a bit of advice.
We're happy to accommodate fabbers at home, however, are there any tips for doing that 'correctly'? Have you ever had a bad experience accommodating(or being accommodated at someone else's place) & if so what did you learn from that? Is there any unspoken rule we should know about or anything?
Any advice or experiences are much appreciated! 
Happy fabbing!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I haven’t had many couples over, some have stayed the night some haven’t.
My advice is meet at a neutral venue to see if you all click (if it’s a first meet)
Then make sure you discuss or set your your rules, you might not want Danvers to stay over etc.
Just be sure you explore all your accommodating desires before you agree to meet.
I’ve never had a bad meet at my home experience. Oh apart from a soaked mattress as no one mentioned she gushed until I got a face full lol lol lol
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We have been accommodated on several occasions and it has always been positive. Some of these have even been with limited discussions and last minute. But we've only ever been to couples who have good profiles (descriptive, verifications and photos). We have always treated it as a social and if anything happens it happens. If you're having a party always invite more than you want to attend as it is guaranteed at least half will not show. We can't accommodate due to family but if we could we would. I personally would have no problem asking someone to leave if I we didn't like them or just having a social if there was no sexual chemistry. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have never had any problems with the people we have had at our home...when you say accommodate, I presume you do not mean overnight and just accommodate for a few hours of fun..if you do mean overnight then that is one thing we have never done or are likely to, so we can not offer you any advice regarding that..if you meet somebody first via a social and they seem fine ,that in itself is no guarantee once you invite them back..We have been swingers for around 20 years and most of our meets are/were at our place and not once have we had any bother ..lets face it everyone wants the same thing and same outcome..we have never met anybody first via a social because we have little free time and we just rather get on with it so to speak ..but like we say we have never had any issues .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have been accommodated on several occasions and it has always been positive. Some of these have even been with limited discussions and last minute. But we've only ever been to couples who have good profiles (descriptive, verifications and photos). We have always treated it as a social and if anything happens it happens. If you're having a party always invite more than you want to attend as it is guaranteed at least half will not show. We can't accommodate due to family but if we could we would. I personally would have no problem asking someone to leave if I we didn't like them or just having a social if there was no sexual chemistry. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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We have accommodated and they have stayed in the spare room after play ended in the early hours.We all had breakfast together that morning and off they went. A really nice way to end a good meet. I guess you have to trust your instincts when inviting people into your home and have had some meaningful contact with them leading up to it. For us personally we are more comfortable meeting in familiar surroundings. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You're looking for advice on do's and don'ts. From my experience when you host then the obligation may fall more on your shoulders to break the ice and move things along at a certain time. I once went to a party that quickly filled up with nervous but quite sexy people. It definitely reached a point where something needed to happen. And I'm often happy to break the ice at these moments. But then, in this couple's house, it just didn't feel right. The moment passed and soon people started leaving. It was the only "failure" I ever went to. The hosts really should've taken their kit off at some point or got frisky with each other and the rest of us would've totally followed suit.
This should give you an indication of what hosting means  |
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Set a limit on when you want them to arrive and when you want them to leave. Ensure anything of value is safely stored away for their protection as much as yours. If you aren't keen on the people you're hosting knowing too much about you put family photos, identifying correspondence etc away. Identify clearly how much access to your home you're happy for your guests to have and clearly mark certain rooms as out of bounds if need be. This might all sound a little paranoid but you genuinely have no idea of the true nature of the person/people you're inviting.
Apart from that ensure there are condoms, clean towels, easy access to the shower and any snacks and drinks and treat your guests as you would any other...except for the sex bit |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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I used to accommodate, but won't anymore due to a stalker and two guys trying to get into my house at 2 am, also people messaging me saying things like saw you in town, know where you work/live etc. I've also been harassed in public. I now insist on a social in a public place first, if people don't want to do that I won't meet them for anything else. It's a shame I have to be like this as I am free to accommodate as I'm single, live alone with no ties. |
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"I used to accommodate, but won't anymore due to a stalker and two guys trying to get into my house at 2 am, also people messaging me saying things like saw you in town, know where you work/live etc. I've also been harassed in public. I now insist on a social in a public place first, if people don't want to do that I won't meet them for anything else. It's a shame I have to be like this as I am free to accommodate as I'm single, live alone with no ties. "
Yeah. The probability for this type of thing to happen is pretty high. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I’ve accommodated for fun but would never let strangers stay the night.
It’s one thing having fun but quite another once the horse has bolted and you need your suave back.
Plus I don’t want to wake up to find I’ve been robbed!
As far as play goes, then make it clear where the fun will happen and any rooms that are out of bounds.
A duvet and pillows on the floor in the living room gets things moving quickly as you don’t need to make that awkward move upstairs.
A visible supply of tissues, condoms and a bin are a good idea too, especially if it’s group play.
Enjoy! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I used to accommodate, but won't anymore due to a stalker and two guys trying to get into my house at 2 am, also people messaging me saying things like saw you in town, know where you work/live etc. I've also been harassed in public. I now insist on a social in a public place first, if people don't want to do that I won't meet them for anything else. It's a shame I have to be like this as I am free to accommodate as I'm single, live alone with no ties. "
This would be my worry. People can seem nice and have ulterior motives, or what happens if there's a huge fallout between a couple youve met and they come knocking on your door?
I would take the risk. My home/family life is separate to my fab life, and that's how I want it to stay.
People who accommodate must be very trusting characters, in my opinion. Or maybe it's because I've had some bad experiences. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I once met a couple, they hadn’t told me there was a child asleep upstairs. I only realised when one went off to check on them. I left then, as to me it didn’t feel right. |
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Yeah, we've done socials and for us that's a must! Gotta meet them first 