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can anyone tell me what I am doing wrong?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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First of all I accept as. A single married Guy, this is going to be hard work. Having said that, even those specifically looking for, or not minding, married Guys ignore my 'hello' messages. Face pics are attached, but maybe that is the thing!
All comments welcome, but please limit to critical friend at most...
Thanks!
kb
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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i agree with the above poster.
plus I'd reload ur pics the correct orientation, and maybe retake the cock/body pic at a more flattering angle??
Plus if your messages really only say 'hello' u need to put more thought and words into ur messages! 
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By *LBishCouple
over a year ago
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And to add to the above, if your messages to people have just the hello, that won't help either.
messages that attract us are addressed to both of us and include more than one sentence. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My advice is to put more on your profile text about what you can offer and you and definitely more profile pics. As your profile currently stands, it's ok but nothing special. Good luck
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sassy is right plus it reminded me to add that not being to accomodate will not be to your advantage plus people will assume (rightly in your case) that you're married and playing without your wifes permission. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"First of all I accept as. A single married Guy, this is going to be hard work. Having said that, even those specifically looking for, or not minding, married Guys ignore my 'hello' messages. Face pics are attached, but maybe that is the thing!
All comments welcome, but please limit to critical friend at most...
Thanks!
kb
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Single married male?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Huge Oral Fan ??
That sounds like an interesting piece of kit, where can I get one of those from. I'd imagine it would be quite handy in the summer months when the weather is hot .. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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thing is
a profile is what YOU make it not asking for input and suggestions.
my profile is 100% me and most people who have met me at chams or socials will agree that i am feisty i am mad
i think you need to do the profile how u want to and be honest. Ok some might not like like it but if its me i PREFER honesty and openness
and get some proper photos up like body shots a face photo and a cock pic
hope this helps
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Ok, many thanks for the input, all taken in and digested.
Couple of points....
Confirms I am married (and frustrated) in main title/summary.
Single married....lol really need to re-read before posting
Huge oral fan...ditto...altough if you do get to hot I do have a HUGE HUGE oral fan as mentioned so give me a shout!
As you can proberbly see, I have looked at all your profiles. All words and pics have been stolen and will be re-published on my profile early next week. Job done!
Seriously...thanks all and good luck, be safe
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"pic isn't flattering either!"
to be honest pics like this always put me straight off...
a mixture of body/face pic maybe a nice cock pic
no other stuff in the background...
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"thing is
a profile is what YOU make it not asking for input and suggestions.
my profile is 100% me and most people who have met me at chams or socials will agree that i am feisty i am mad
i think you need to do the profile how u want to and be honest. Ok some might not like like it but if its me i PREFER honesty and openness
and get some proper photos up like body shots a face photo and a cock pic
hope this helps
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the rugby build had me pissing myself laughing. Maybe he should persuade his wife to join the fun and then she could have a profile too. I'm sure this would create more opportunities for the both of you. Happy swinging Kevin  |
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By *obletonMan
over a year ago
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I'm guessing, but do you know what I reckon your biggest mistake is?
You've set your expectations of what you're going to get from fab way too high.
So the problem isn't so much your perceived lack of success, it is in fact the dissonace between your expecation of fab and what the reality of it is.
Be mindful that only about 20-30% of single guys who join fab will ever get even one single meet.
For an average guy to get a response rate from around 1 in 20 introduction messages sent "cold" and get a meet from around 1 in 10 of the people who reply, he'd probably doing about right - in fact he'd being doing pretty well.
Although married guys with minging pics and boring profiles can probably expect considerably less than this.
Sounds harsh I know, but I just want to give you a reality check |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Try to write in sentences and always check your spelling (I know it shouldn't really matter, but it does to some, and the one it matters to, may just be the one you are looking for!)
Use some better photos, and most of all, persevere - it can take a long time to get a meet, and you are up against a lot of competition.
Ignore all the people who just shout "cheater" at you, let them have their petty prejudices and don't worry about them.
Once you do get a meet and a verification from it, you may well find that things get easier.
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"Try to write in sentences and always check your spelling (I know it shouldn't really matter, but it does to some, and the one it matters to, may just be the one you are looking for!)
Use some better photos, and most of all, persevere - it can take a long time to get a meet, and you are up against a lot of competition.
Ignore all the people who just shout "cheater" at you, let them have their petty prejudices and don't worry about them.
Once you do get a meet and a verification from it, you may well find that things get easier.
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petty....ok i avoided this thread because the OP was unlike you polite...but dismissing adultery as petty says more about you than the people you are criticizing. |
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This must be a first but im agreeing with jemima,,,
hang on a minute since when was ther such thing as a "Single Married Guy" is he having a laugh . What about his "Married Still Married Wife" or his "Mummy Whys Daddy Always Out Chidren"
We had a mail from a single guy whos opening gambit was " Im an honest guy so ill tell you now im married" DDuurr
Keep taking the tablets lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't look at any profiles where the pictures are sideways, sends me dizzy cocking my head to the side.
The type of pic, well its up to you what you post.
Profile text, again if those few words fully describe you then great. I'd describe it as unimaginative - but hopefully it will bring you success  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't look at any profiles where the pictures are sideways, sends me dizzy cocking my head to the side.
The type of pic, well its up to you what you post.
Profile text, again if those few words fully describe you then great. I'd describe it as unimaginative - but hopefully it will bring you success "
Made you dizzy, think what it did to me....not easy standing on a wall and taking a pictue at the same time! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Ok OP, firstly I hope you realise that you've been pretty fortunate so far, the anti-married pack hasn't descended on you, just a few isolated members of it!
It appears that you've been on here for only 4 months, and you've been verified, so probably not too much to complain about, plenty of 'single' guys on here take longer than that to get a 1st meet.
The simple fact is that getting meets from here has a lot to do with luck, and patience! I've found that ladies here are like buses, nothing for ages, then several at the one time. Also, although I haven't yet had to buy a separate diary to keep track of my meets, I've met some great ladies/girls from here, and I've never had a pic on my profile, I long ago gave up on the chatrooms, and I've never been to a social, party or a club.
So OP, get your profile sorted, if you want to publish a pic then do a decent one, and then be patient, and original with your messages to potential meets. |
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