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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey all
I’ve not had a meet since the end of October, and that was with a regular FB I had at the time.
She then just disappeared one day without even saying goodbye or giving me a reason why she didn’t want to meet anymore.
Since then I’ve not had a meet as I say and I’m starting to lose confidence in my looks and my ability to attract women... am I overthinking things or is this the end of the road for my swinging life?
I do try and put effort into my messages with women but get very few replies, and then those times when I do a meet never seems to happen... I get the old “I’m washing my hair” excuse or similar...
Anyone know what my next step should be?
*btw clubs are off the table at the moment as I don’t have a car currently |
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"Hey all
I’ve not had a meet since the end of October, and that was with a regular FB I had at the time.
She then just disappeared one day without even saying goodbye or giving me a reason why she didn’t want to meet anymore.
Since then I’ve not had a meet as I say and I’m starting to lose confidence in my looks and my ability to attract women... am I overthinking things or is this the end of the road for my swinging life?
I do try and put effort into my messages with women but get very few replies, and then those times when I do a meet never seems to happen... I get the old “I’m washing my hair” excuse or similar...
Anyone know what my next step should be?
*btw clubs are off the table at the moment as I don’t have a car currently"
There are other ways to travel, book a B&B near to a club and you can walk there and back on the night.
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I don’t bother messaging. If they are looking for someone like me then they can do a search. All info is on my profile for them to make a decision. The quality of messaging tends to be quite low in some cases anyway so I’d rather not be sent those ones. |
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"Hey all
I’ve not had a meet since the end of October, and that was with a regular FB I had at the time.
She then just disappeared one day without even saying goodbye or giving me a reason why she didn’t want to meet anymore.
Since then I’ve not had a meet as I say and I’m starting to lose confidence in my looks and my ability to attract women... am I overthinking things or is this the end of the road for my swinging life?
I do try and put effort into my messages with women but get very few replies, and then those times when I do a meet never seems to happen... I get the old “I’m washing my hair” excuse or similar...
Anyone know what my next step should be?
*btw clubs are off the table at the moment as I don’t have a car currently"
Man up, don't be a princess and stop feeling sorry for yourself.
Talk to women at work, say good morning and smile(in a none creepy way) at women occasionally throughout the day
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OP - you look and sound great to me. I’d be chuffed if we were local.
Can you get active in the forums? Upbeat, chatty, funny. Raise your profile on Fab. Start threads that are easy for people to respond to “what was your first pet’s name?” or “best Easter egg” or “misheard song lyrics” then respond to the people who post.
Your pics and profile are good. Maybe it’s just that not enough people are seeing you. |
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"Hey all
I’ve not had a meet since the end of October, and that was with a regular FB I had at the time.
She then just disappeared one day without even saying goodbye or giving me a reason why she didn’t want to meet anymore.
Since then I’ve not had a meet as I say and I’m starting to lose confidence in my looks and my ability to attract women... am I overthinking things or is this the end of the road for my swinging life?
I do try and put effort into my messages with women but get very few replies, and then those times when I do a meet never seems to happen... I get the old “I’m washing my hair” excuse or similar...
Anyone know what my next step should be?
*btw clubs are off the table at the moment as I don’t have a car currently"
Harsh truth is that you are an average single bloke which means you are at the bottom of the fab hierarchy given there are 17 men for every woman on here. No reflection on you personally, just a function of the numbers.
I see you have been to clubs before and had success and it would seem to me that's the way to go. I wouldn't let lack of a car stop you. Getting cabs is expensive I know, but saving up for a night out once a month maybe would be a worthwhile investment. |
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"OP - you look and sound great to me. I’d be chuffed if we were local.
Can you get active in the forums? Upbeat, chatty, funny. Raise your profile on Fab. Start threads that are easy for people to respond to “what was your first pet’s name?” or “best Easter egg” or “misheard song lyrics” then respond to the people who post.
Your pics and profile are good. Maybe it’s just that not enough people are seeing you. "
Oh god no! Please! No more of those silly threads! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey all
I’ve not had a meet since the end of October, and that was with a regular FB I had at the time.
She then just disappeared one day without even saying goodbye or giving me a reason why she didn’t want to meet anymore.
Since then I’ve not had a meet as I say and I’m starting to lose confidence in my looks and my ability to attract women... am I overthinking things or is this the end of the road for my swinging life?
I do try and put effort into my messages with women but get very few replies, and then those times when I do a meet never seems to happen... I get the old “I’m washing my hair” excuse or similar...
Anyone know what my next step should be?
*btw clubs are off the table at the moment as I don’t have a car currently
Harsh truth is that you are an average single bloke which means you are at the bottom of the fab hierarchy given there are 17 men for every woman on here. No reflection on you personally, just a function of the numbers.
I see you have been to clubs before and had success and it would seem to me that's the way to go. I wouldn't let lack of a car stop you. Getting cabs is expensive I know, but saving up for a night out once a month maybe would be a worthwhile investment. "
17, haha and the rest! |
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"We are all losing confidence, don't share it on here, won't get a sympathetic shag!
I'm not."
Me neither. Some people are so cynical.
Chin up OP, great profile. Maybe raise your visibility on here. Be more active in the forums, launch a new pic or a new (good, positive) status now and then to show up on your local radar. Its tough on here for single males. But with the right attitude can be rewarding and you may even find more than you bargained for. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We are all losing confidence, don't share it on here, won't get a sympathetic shag!
I'm not.
Me neither. Some people are so cynical.
Chin up OP, great profile. Maybe raise your visibility on here. Be more active in the forums, launch a new pic or a new (good, positive) status now and then to show up on your local radar. Its tough on here for single males. But with the right attitude can be rewarding and you may even find more than you bargained for."
Absolutely right!! Just enjoy the ride so to speak! |
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