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Looking for a gentleman for our First MMF Threesome
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By *ailando OP Couple
over a year ago
manchester |
Looking for advice.
We are searching for a reliable straight male to join us for our first threesome / cuckold experience.
Male must be straight, muscular, discrete, clean etc.
We want complete no strings attached experience.
We have had a few MFF experience previously and MMF is our next step.
We will only entertain males that have outstanding feedback on here.
NSA is EXTREMELY essential hence we have tried to find a male escort but there doesn’t seem to be anything we like. We just want to fulfil this fantasy in a hotel room and then say good bye. No awkwardness afterwards. The Mrs wants the body. Not the mind!!
If anyone reading this can give advice or even recommend someone on here please let us know.
We are not into going to clubs as we want to do it strictly on our terms in an environment we are in full control of.
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By *ailando OP Couple
over a year ago
manchester |
We want to try both experiences at the same time.
Start off as Cuckold. Then move on to straight MMF.
We are getting messages off guys that either don’t have images or any verifications.
Verifications and pics on FAB are essential before we will even chat!
There’s got to be a guy on here that ticks the boxes?  |
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If you can't find an escort that fulfils your criteria I imagine finding someone on fab will be even more difficult.
If you've genuinely searched for and reviewed every profile in your area the next step would be to widen your search area or adjust your criteria.
I'm not sure if you require the other guy to be bi from your description.
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"We want to try both experiences at the same time.
Start off as Cuckold. Then move on to straight MMF.
We are getting messages off guys that either don’t have images or any verifications.
Verifications and pics on FAB are essential before we will even chat!
There’s got to be a guy on here that ticks the boxes? "
I would do the searching yourself rather than rely on messages
Be the hunter not hunted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Best thing to do is look at previous verifications and chat to him, make sure he know it will be a once only thing and to be certain you are comfortable with him joining you. Good luck! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you can't find an escort that fulfils your criteria I imagine finding someone on fab will be even more difficult.
If you've genuinely searched for and reviewed every profile in your area the next step would be to widen your search area or adjust your criteria.
I'm not sure if you require the other guy to be bi from your description.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We only meet single guys on here and all our meets have been great. Fortunately we go on our gut feeling about the guy and not someone else's opinion of them, verified or not we pick well |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have set your bar very high and that's your right as its your preferences..you may need to try other sites too to broaden your choices..can we just say that the disclaimer on the bottom of your profile is pointless and unenforceable as the many posts in the forums tell..this could possibly put folks of from contacting you too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We only meet single guys on here and all our meets have been great. Fortunately we go on our gut feeling about the guy and not someone else's opinion of them, verified or not we pick well "
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By *ailando OP Couple
over a year ago
manchester |
"You have set your bar very high and that's your right as its your preferences..you may need to try other sites too to broaden your choices..can we just say that the disclaimer on the bottom of your profile is pointless and unenforceable as the many posts in the forums tell..this could possibly put folks of from contacting you too"
Thanks. Our desires have changed since writing it.
We will alter our profile to suit.
Thanks for the advice. |
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By *ailando OP Couple
over a year ago
manchester |
"Thanks.
Just feel verifications May filter out time wasters and fake profiles. Which I believe is an issue on here.
If you use replyinforum+quote we can tell who you're replying to. "
Funny! Just figured that one out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks.
Just feel verifications May filter out time wasters and fake profiles. Which I believe is an issue on here.
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Having verifications doesn't guarantee anything. The best way to filter out the time wasters (in our opinion) is don't give them anything to wank over. If they're genuinely interested in meeting they'll happily talk random shite |
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By *ailando OP Couple
over a year ago
manchester |
"Thanks.
Just feel verifications May filter out time wasters and fake profiles. Which I believe is an issue on here.
Having verifications doesn't guarantee anything. The best way to filter out the time wasters (in our opinion) is don't give them anything to wank over. If they're genuinely interested in meeting they'll happily talk random shite "
Great point. Thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks.
Just feel verifications May filter out time wasters and fake profiles. Which I believe is an issue on here.
Having verifications doesn't guarantee anything. The best way to filter out the time wasters (in our opinion) is don't give them anything to wank over. If they're genuinely interested in meeting they'll happily talk random shite
Great point. Thanks. "
Good luck in your search and enjoy when it all comes together. Mfm is great fun |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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The simplest and safest way is to go to a club. There are always plenty of single guys ready for an nsa threesome. You and the guy have the opportunity to size each other up before making any commitment to play, there is never a problem with no-shows and you don't even have to exchange names if you don't want. It works perfectly for us for threesomes, foursomes and moresomes. We have also met some really nice guys and great playmates on the way. |
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By *ast_jjMan
over a year ago
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"Thanks.
Just feel verifications May filter out time wasters and fake profiles. Which I believe is an issue on here.
Having verifications doesn't guarantee anything. The best way to filter out the time wasters (in our opinion) is don't give them anything to wank over. If they're genuinely interested in meeting they'll happily talk random shite
Great point. Thanks. "
Great advice. A good way to put the time wasters is to chat on cam and chat a lot. You'll find the guys after a quick wank will disappear fairly quickly as they will try get dirty on cam. Genuine guys will take the time to chat and find out what it is you both like and as importantly what you both don't like. Good luck with the search.  |
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By *ailando OP Couple
over a year ago
manchester |
"Thanks.
Just feel verifications May filter out time wasters and fake profiles. Which I believe is an issue on here.
Having verifications doesn't guarantee anything. The best way to filter out the time wasters (in our opinion) is don't give them anything to wank over. If they're genuinely interested in meeting they'll happily talk random shite
Great point. Thanks.
Good luck in your search and enjoy when it all comes together. Mfm is great fun "
Really looking forward to it. It’s taken us a few years to get to this stage. |
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By *ailando OP Couple
over a year ago
manchester |
"The simplest and safest way is to go to a club. There are always plenty of single guys ready for an nsa threesome. You and the guy have the opportunity to size each other up before making any commitment to play, there is never a problem with no-shows and you don't even have to exchange names if you don't want. It works perfectly for us for threesomes, foursomes and moresomes. We have also met some really nice guys and great playmates on the way."
Thanks.
Maybe one day but for now we need to set 100% our own rules of engagement. |
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By *ailando OP Couple
over a year ago
manchester |
"Thanks.
Just feel verifications May filter out time wasters and fake profiles. Which I believe is an issue on here.
Having verifications doesn't guarantee anything. The best way to filter out the time wasters (in our opinion) is don't give them anything to wank over. If they're genuinely interested in meeting they'll happily talk random shite
Great point. Thanks. Great advice. A good way to put the time wasters is to chat on cam and chat a lot. You'll find the guys after a quick wank will disappear fairly quickly as they will try get dirty on cam. Genuine guys will take the time to chat and find out what it is you both like and as importantly what you both don't like. Good luck with the search. "
Fabulous advice and something we will do!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our view is slightly different from a lot of people’s. We feel verifications when looking for an MMF arrangement essential, and we’ve never come across a timewaster. What we do is look for the guys who have been verified by a number of couples, because that suggests that they get the dynamic. There will be loads of hot guys out there, who would probably be great for a single lady, but useless for a couple. Verifications identify which guys are respected by couples and feel comfortable with couples. There are not very many of them, but there are enough. We don’t have difficulty finding the respectful experienced goodlooking guys. It might be slightly harder to find a guy with a gym fit body though, as that tends to exist more with the younger guys, who are less experienced in this lifestyle.
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By *ailando OP Couple
over a year ago
manchester |
"Our view is slightly different from a lot of people’s. We feel verifications when looking for an MMF arrangement essential, and we’ve never come across a timewaster. What we do is look for the guys who have been verified by a number of couples, because that suggests that they get the dynamic. There will be loads of hot guys out there, who would probably be great for a single lady, but useless for a couple. Verifications identify which guys are respected by couples and feel comfortable with couples. There are not very many of them, but there are enough. We don’t have difficulty finding the respectful experienced goodlooking guys. It might be slightly harder to find a guy with a gym fit body though, as that tends to exist more with the younger guys, who are less experienced in this lifestyle.
Mrs"
All really great points. And thank. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm told I'm a good looking hunky guy but have had no luck on here atall. Have done plenty online stuff but this is the first sex site I've tried.
Im also a systems analyst and it seems the fab verification expectation is the problem for single guys. It's next to impossible to get verification without verification. Most decent guys are gonna want a relationship but might try fun for a while. It's like by the time they get verified they are back in a relationship.
So looking for a decent verified single guy is gonna be next to impossible. This is why couples and single females rule on fab. |
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"I'm told I'm a good looking hunky guy but have had no luck on here atall. Have done plenty online stuff but this is the first sex site I've tried.
Im also a systems analyst and it seems the fab verification expectation is the problem for single guys. It's next to impossible to get verification without verification. Most decent guys are gonna want a relationship but might try fun for a while. It's like by the time they get verified they are back in a relationship.
So looking for a decent verified single guy is gonna be next to impossible. This is why couples and single females rule on fab."
I don’t thinks that’s necessarily the case .
We have met a few single guys , and at least a third of them weren’t verified till they met us .
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP: The more personal tests you put into selecting a guy the more you invest in him. This naturally increases the danger of emotions taking over from NSA when you finally meet.
If your carefully selected, very handsome, charming, intelligent guy, with a beautiful big cock, is a great lover and fucks the Mrs possibly better than hubby ever has she WILL want him again. 
If hubby sees her positive reaction and hears her wanting him again he will almost certainly feel uncomfortable (once his erection goes down).
I recommend a mature guy with plenty of veris who seems reliable. Sort the meet and just do it. If he is good, well done. If not move on to the next or better still groups. Don't over think it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm told I'm a good looking hunky guy but have had no luck on here atall. Have done plenty online stuff but this is the first sex site I've tried.
Im also a systems analyst and it seems the fab verification expectation is the problem for single guys. It's next to impossible to get verification without verification. Most decent guys are gonna want a relationship but might try fun for a while. It's like by the time they get verified they are back in a relationship.
So looking for a decent verified single guy is gonna be next to impossible. This is why couples and single females rule on fab."
We’ve had no trouble finding decent verified guys who aren’t looking for a relationship. Some of our male friends we’ve known for years. We do though prefer guys who are here as a lifestyle choice as opposed to being in a stop gap in between relationships.
Mrs |
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By *ipsxxCouple
over a year ago
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We are still on the lookout for a hot tattooed guy for a threesome very hard indeed finding the right guy at the right time would be easier if we meet a guy at a club but good things come to those who wait lol  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don’t thinks that’s necessarily the case .
We have met a few single guys , and at least a third of them weren’t verified till they met us .
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There has to be someone doing first verifications, but looking at the numbers demanding it, there are just not going to be enough.
Couples and single girls want to protect the girl.
Single guys are just going to leave unless people's expectations are managed.
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"Then for some people "well verified" turns into being "too many verifications for us". Hard to win on here!"
Exactly but I’ve often thought how can you have too many good ones that said I am a bit of a male slut |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looking for advice.
We are searching for a reliable straight male to join us for our first threesome / cuckold experience.
Male must be straight, muscular, discrete, clean etc.
We want complete no strings attached experience.
We have had a few MFF experience previously and MMF is our next step.
We will only entertain males that have outstanding feedback on here.
NSA is EXTREMELY essential hence we have tried to find a male escort but there doesn’t seem to be anything we like. We just want to fulfil this fantasy in a hotel room and then say good bye. No awkwardness afterwards. The Mrs wants the body. Not the mind!!
If anyone reading this can give advice or even recommend someone on here please let us know.
We are not into going to clubs as we want to do it strictly on our terms in an environment we are in full control of.
Thanks x"
Why don't you use one of the two single males who have verid you already? |
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"If you can't find an escort that fulfils your criteria I imagine finding someone on fab will be even more difficult.
If you've genuinely searched for and reviewed every profile in your area the next step would be to widen your search area or adjust your criteria.
I'm not sure if you require the other guy to be bi from your description.
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No, you can find them |
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"If you can't find an escort that fulfils your criteria I imagine finding someone on fab will be even more difficult.
If you've genuinely searched for and reviewed every profile in your area the next step would be to widen your search area or adjust your criteria.
I'm not sure if you require the other guy to be bi from your description.
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How can you 'not be sure' if they require the other guy to be bi???
Paragraphs 2 & 3 of OP's post read...
"We are searching for a reliable straight male to join us for our first threesome / cuckold experience.
"Male must be straight, muscular, discrete, clean etc."
It literally could not be any clearer. |
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"Then for some people "well verified" turns into being "too many verifications for us". Hard to win on here!
Exactly but I’ve often thought how can you have too many good ones that said I am a bit of a male slut"
Whamboy69 have you suggested yourself to OP? Seems to me you fit their requirements. |
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"Then for some people "well verified" turns into being "too many verifications for us". Hard to win on here!
Exactly but I’ve often thought how can you have too many good ones that said I am a bit of a male slut
Whamboy69 have you suggested yourself to OP? Seems to me you fit their requirements."
Well thanks for putting me forward I know it’s tough work but someone has to do it lol
I have indeed pmd them inviting them to message me and have a chat I may or may not fit their requirements but maybe I could help put them in the right direction |
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"Looking for advice.
We are searching for a reliable straight male to join us for our first threesome / cuckold experience.
Male must be straight, muscular, discrete, clean etc.
We want complete no strings attached experience.
We have had a few MFF experience previously and MMF is our next step.
We will only entertain males that have outstanding feedback on here.
NSA is EXTREMELY essential hence we have tried to find a male escort but there doesn’t seem to be anything we like. We just want to fulfil this fantasy in a hotel room and then say good bye. No awkwardness afterwards. The Mrs wants the body. Not the mind!!
If anyone reading this can give advice or even recommend someone on here please let us know.
We are not into going to clubs as we want to do it strictly on our terms in an environment we are in full control of.
Thanks x"
Totally understand that! If me n wife was to have a mmf I would want to treat it as another cock in bed as a sex toy not a romantic encounter or become life long friends just sex |
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"Looking for advice.
We are searching for a reliable straight male to join us for our first threesome / cuckold experience.
Male must be straight, muscular, discrete, clean etc.
We want complete no strings attached experience.
We have had a few MFF experience previously and MMF is our next step.
We will only entertain males that have outstanding feedback on here.
NSA is EXTREMELY essential hence we have tried to find a male escort but there doesn’t seem to be anything we like. We just want to fulfil this fantasy in a hotel room and then say good bye. No awkwardness afterwards. The Mrs wants the body. Not the mind!!
If anyone reading this can give advice or even recommend someone on here please let us know.
We are not into going to clubs as we want to do it strictly on our terms in an environment we are in full control of.
Thanks x
Why don't you use one of the two single males who have verid you already? "
As the op has not replied to their pm or bothered to reply to the above and given all their verifications were from web cam I think they’ve probably decided to stick to the fantasy rather than the reality |
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I know your post says you don't want to do the scenario in a club, but why not a club visit and see if there's anyone there who does match what you're looking for, and see if their interested in helping with the play you have in mind.
At least then you can see straight up what your getting, if everyone is interested and on the same page and if they're at a club unlikely to be just a fantasist. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"We only meet single guys on here and all our meets have been great. Fortunately we go on our gut feeling about the guy and not someone else's opinion of them, verified or not we pick well "
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
leeds |
"MMF OR MFM?
I thought mmf is bi male fun with the couple...  "
Total myth and time it was abandoned for good. We enjoy MMF, MMMF MMMMF etc with totally straight guys. How would you write the last two if the order of the letters had to be changed for bi and straight guys? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you can't find an escort that fulfils your criteria I imagine finding someone on fab will be even more difficult.
If you've genuinely searched for and reviewed every profile in your area the next step would be to widen your search area or adjust your criteria.
I'm not sure if you require the other guy to be bi from your description.
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I can be hunted down
As this was one of the reasons I joined this site
So I could explore this practice in a safe environment |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We only meet single guys on here and all our meets have been great. Fortunately we go on our gut feeling about the guy and not someone else's opinion of them, verified or not we pick well "
Better choices your own course and being satisfied by your on actions |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"We want to try both experiences at the same time.
Start off as Cuckold. Then move on to straight MMF.
We are getting messages off guys that either don’t have images or any verifications.
Verifications and pics on FAB are essential before we will even chat!
There’s got to be a guy on here that ticks the boxes? "
BLOCK unverified, newbies and people with no profile pics for a while, that will help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Op, you said you want the man to be straight, muscular, discreet, clean, and with great veris. This pretty much describes every man we've ever met from Fab (and we've met a few, cough). You definitely have not set the bar too high - there's loads that fit the bill.
Thing is, though, we have never, ever met any man who messaged us first. Everyone we've met came about from us doing the searching and sending a well-written message describing what we were looking for. These days we don't even tick any of the 'looking for' boxes on our profile, because we've learned that the best way to get what we want is to take the lead.
Good luck, and if we can help with any questions you have feel free to message us (we don't meet couples, so this is not a sneaky way to get into your knickers - lol )
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All I can suggest is finding a tottaly cool guy, who has well know and respected form. I would say your best chance is finding someone other couples can vouch for. I wouldn't trust fab varifications alone. I know it's a bit stalkery but if you find someone on here you like you could always maybe approch the source of the varifications for more information. |
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