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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've recently become open to the idea of meeting with couples but finding it really difficult finding any where I find both of the attractive. 
The ladies who meet them do you ever find yourself agreeing to meet even though you find the one attractive but not the other?
My main focus would be on the woman anyway since that's the part of my sexuality I'm more keen to explore so would it be worth 'taking one for the team' so to speak if I don't find the guy attractive? |
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over a year ago
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Couple meets for me would require 4 way attraction or there is "taking one for the team". I wouldn't like that, so for you I would just find a couple where you fancy both. Or at least find tolerable! Go to clubs and socials where you can tell at a glance if there is any attraction. And widen your search area. You may visit less often but have a more amazing time! I've traveled over 200 miles for a good couple before. So worth it!!   |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Couple meets for me would require 4 way attraction or there is "taking one for the team". I wouldn't like that, so for you I would just find a couple where you fancy both. Or at least find tolerable! Go to clubs and socials where you can tell at a glance if there is any attraction. And widen your search area. You may visit less often but have a more amazing time! I've traveled over 200 miles for a good couple before. So worth it!! "
Yeah maybe, problem is due to the amount of time wasters on here I'm very reluctant to travel too far just in case |
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I would suggest being honest with the couple. Explain you are looking to explore your bisexual side and would much prefer to be able to relax but still enjoy the aspect of meeting a couple...failing that a swift kick in the crotch may work. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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yes it would be hard to properly enjoy myself if I didn't fancy both...but I can see what you mean as if I liked the woman, I may be tempted to give it a whirl. not saying it's the right thing to do though.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yeah can imagine it's a tricky one...personally would think it'd stand out a mile if you didn't fancy the 'other' and would kinda put a damper on the whole thing x |
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"I've recently become open to the idea of meeting with couples but finding it really difficult finding any where I find both of the attractive.
The ladies who meet them do you ever find yourself agreeing to meet even though you find the one attractive but not the other?
My main focus would be on the woman anyway since that's the part of my sexuality I'm more keen to explore so would it be worth 'taking one for the team' so to speak if I don't find the guy attractive?"
No I have turned alot of couples down as need to find them both attractive to play. Turned one down in a club, but went on to play with fem only after all agreed. That resulted in the arsehole husband having a rant afterwards(even tho both agreed). They split up shortly afterwards. Some couples are hard work. |
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"I would suggest being honest with the couple. Explain you are looking to explore your bisexual side and would much prefer to be able to relax but still enjoy the aspect of meeting a couple...failing that a swift kick in the crotch may work."
he he love the last line....and a much more sensible answer than mine...but then again I'm desparetly bi curious dammit lol |
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It’s very hard to find a couple where I’m attracted to both, even harder to find profiles where the male half has photos . Then there’s the arranging of the meet . But when you find them it’s totally worth it  |
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"I would suggest being honest with the couple. Explain you are looking to explore your bisexual side and would much prefer to be able to relax but still enjoy the aspect of meeting a couple...failing that a swift kick in the crotch may work.
he he love the last line....and a much more sensible answer than mine...but then again I'm desparetly bi curious dammit lol"
I should probably have added that was the male of the couple giving that answer, the Mrs doesn't go around kicking crotches lol...mostly.
It really is a minefield though finding 4 people who all find eachother equally attractive as a couple so you have to expect some knockbacks.
We did have one couple who asked us in a club if i could wait in the bar area though and not even enter the play rooms whilst they borrowed chief.. 
I felt SO HOT that night haha. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've recently become open to the idea of meeting with couples but finding it really difficult finding any where I find both of the attractive.
The ladies who meet them do you ever find yourself agreeing to meet even though you find the one attractive but not the other?
My main focus would be on the woman anyway since that's the part of my sexuality I'm more keen to explore so would it be worth 'taking one for the team' so to speak if I don't find the guy attractive?
No I have turned alot of couples down as need to find them both attractive to play. Turned one down in a club, but went on to play with fem only after all agreed. That resulted in the arsehole husband having a rant afterwards(even tho both agreed). They split up shortly afterwards. Some couples are hard work."
That has happened to me...that's why I don't meet couples anymore. Single guys and girls for me now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've recently become open to the idea of meeting with couples but finding it really difficult finding any where I find both of the attractive.
The ladies who meet them do you ever find yourself agreeing to meet even though you find the one attractive but not the other?
My main focus would be on the woman anyway since that's the part of my sexuality I'm more keen to explore so would it be worth 'taking one for the team' so to speak if I don't find the guy attractive?"
Never ever take one for the team..xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would suggest being honest with the couple. Explain you are looking to explore your bisexual side and would much prefer to be able to relax but still enjoy the aspect of meeting a couple...failing that a swift kick in the crotch may work.
he he love the last line....and a much more sensible answer than mine...but then again I'm desparetly bi curious dammit lol
I should probably have added that was the male of the couple giving that answer, the Mrs doesn't go around kicking crotches lol...mostly.
It really is a minefield though finding 4 people who all find eachother equally attractive as a couple so you have to expect some knockbacks.
We did have one couple who asked us in a club if i could wait in the bar area though and not even enter the play rooms whilst they borrowed chief..
I felt SO HOT that night haha."
oh noooooo I bet that would happen to me..lol and we were just getting brave enough to try Atlantis he he |
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"I would suggest being honest with the couple. Explain you are looking to explore your bisexual side and would much prefer to be able to relax but still enjoy the aspect of meeting a couple...failing that a swift kick in the crotch may work.
he he love the last line....and a much more sensible answer than mine...but then again I'm desparetly bi curious dammit lol
I should probably have added that was the male of the couple giving that answer, the Mrs doesn't go around kicking crotches lol...mostly.
It really is a minefield though finding 4 people who all find eachother equally attractive as a couple so you have to expect some knockbacks.
We did have one couple who asked us in a club if i could wait in the bar area though and not even enter the play rooms whilst they borrowed chief..
I felt SO HOT that night haha.
oh noooooo I bet that would happen to me..lol and we were just getting brave enough to try Atlantis he he"
Lol don't panic that's 1 time out of..well more than 1;)
And that couple tried that tactic with a number of couples that night.
More than enough great couples to make up for the occasional bump in the road. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP would you meet a single man that you didn't find attractive?
I don't think it's worth it. Maybe look for single women instead of couples?"
Exactly what I was going to say. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We’d be mortified if we thought any single lady was playing with us but didn’t want one of us particularly and was compromising, but think we’d suss it out very early on in conversation and if in a club and it became obvious in the play we’d just stop playing
Equal way dynamics is our bag
You can’t really expect as a single lady to be equally attracted to both people in a couple, just as a couple wouldn’t each find a single lady equally attractive to both of them, it doesn’t work like that
But digging into a couple just to get girl in girl play to us is a no no |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We have the same problem other then we can't find a single female we both find attractive.
It's just one of those things, I'm sure they will pop up when you least expect |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
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I understand totally where you are coming from.
Years ago I used to be open to meeting couples, it happened once or twice but and just seemed to lead to drama for various reasons.
I did find it hard to find couples where I was attracted to both of them, but I wouldn't play if it didn't work for all three of us, the problem I have is finding the right couples that I can be attracted to and them me and we all get along too.
it just hasn't seemed to work like that for me so far. So I have stopped looking for couples.
If somehow it did happen that I happen to meet a couple by chance in a club and it was like that I would take a chance but it is not something I'm actively looking for, as for me it just doesn't seem to work out.
I openly admit, it might be just that I struggle with it for reasons I don't completely understand, but whatever it is I just can't seem to find the right balance |
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"We’d be mortified if we thought any single lady was playing with us but didn’t want one of us particularly and was compromising, but think we’d suss it out very early on in conversation and if in a club and it became obvious in the play we’d just stop playing
Equal way dynamics is our bag
You can’t really expect as a single lady to be equally attracted to both people in a couple, just as a couple wouldn’t each find a single lady equally attractive to both of them, it doesn’t work like that
But digging into a couple just to get girl in girl play to us is a no no"
Why can't single ladies find both people in a couple equally attractive? That is exactly how it should work for equal dynamics. |
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By *hingy2Woman
over a year ago
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"I've recently become open to the idea of meeting with couples but finding it really difficult finding any where I find both of the attractive.
The ladies who meet them do you ever find yourself agreeing to meet even though you find the one attractive but not the other?
My main focus would be on the woman anyway since that's the part of my sexuality I'm more keen to explore so would it be worth 'taking one for the team' so to speak if I don't find the guy attractive?
No I have turned alot of couples down as need to find them both attractive to play. Turned one down in a club, but went on to play with fem only after all agreed. That resulted in the arsehole husband having a rant afterwards(even tho both agreed). They split up shortly afterwards. Some couples are hard work."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is difficult, we tend to meet in clubs as we can get to know people, we have met a few single fems and we always discus between our selves if we want to take it further, if 1 of the 3 is not up for it as an all play scenario then it shouldn't happen.
We think as a couple we should take things at the pace of the fem as it's more daunting for a single to meet a couple xx |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We’d be mortified if we thought any single lady was playing with us but didn’t want one of us particularly and was compromising, but think we’d suss it out very early on in conversation and if in a club and it became obvious in the play we’d just stop playing
Equal way dynamics is our bag
You can’t really expect as a single lady to be equally attracted to both people in a couple, just as a couple wouldn’t each find a single lady equally attractive to both of them, it doesn’t work like that
But digging into a couple just to get girl in girl play to us is a no no"
Well that's not really what I said is it?
If it was just a way of getting girl on girl then I wouldn't be bothered about being attracted to the man would I? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We’d be mortified if we thought any single lady was playing with us but didn’t want one of us particularly and was compromising, but think we’d suss it out very early on in conversation and if in a club and it became obvious in the play we’d just stop playing
Equal way dynamics is our bag
You can’t really expect as a single lady to be equally attracted to both people in a couple, just as a couple wouldn’t each find a single lady equally attractive to both of them, it doesn’t work like that
But digging into a couple just to get girl in girl play to us is a no no
Well that's not really what I said is it?
If it was just a way of getting girl on girl then I wouldn't be bothered about being attracted to the man would I?"
We were not implying that you were, but it’s something that does happen sometimes
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By (user no longer on site)
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Personally I wouldn't do anything with anyone I wasn't attracted too.
It is really hard to find a couple where you are attracted to them both, fem speaking, for me that is what I am looking for and owing to that we have yet to go further than meeting socially with a couple.
Have you considered meeting just a fem as you are looking to explore that? I would find that a little daunting, and I'd either need to meet someone confident, or someone as inexperienced as myself and a bottle of wine. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Personally I wouldn't do anything with anyone I wasn't attracted too.
It is really hard to find a couple where you are attracted to them both, fem speaking, for me that is what I am looking for and owing to that we have yet to go further than meeting socially with a couple.
Have you considered meeting just a fem as you are looking to explore that? I would find that a little daunting, and I'd either need to meet someone confident, or someone as inexperienced as myself and a bottle of wine. "
I don't know if I find the idea of meeting a woman on her own more or less intimidating  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally I wouldn't do anything with anyone I wasn't attracted too.
It is really hard to find a couple where you are attracted to them both, fem speaking, for me that is what I am looking for and owing to that we have yet to go further than meeting socially with a couple.
Have you considered meeting just a fem as you are looking to explore that? I would find that a little daunting, and I'd either need to meet someone confident, or someone as inexperienced as myself and a bottle of wine.
I don't know if I find the idea of meeting a woman on her own more or less intimidating "
Ive had a few socials with single females, but theyve gone no further, I'm pretty naff at reading women, so it would take someone to be quite direct with me or someone as inexperienced as myself after a few drinks for dutch courage (not smashed, I'm a sleepy d*unk ).
We have been asked about whether I would join a couple before for a ffm and the fem then join us, I'm not sure I could if I'm honest. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Personally I wouldn't do anything with anyone I wasn't attracted too.
It is really hard to find a couple where you are attracted to them both, fem speaking, for me that is what I am looking for and owing to that we have yet to go further than meeting socially with a couple.
Have you considered meeting just a fem as you are looking to explore that? I would find that a little daunting, and I'd either need to meet someone confident, or someone as inexperienced as myself and a bottle of wine.
I don't know if I find the idea of meeting a woman on her own more or less intimidating "
I found it less intimidating. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The one time I've met a single lady for a one on one meet it's been a lot less scary than meeting couples, cause there's no "oh shit what if one of them isn't as attractive in person" moment.
I still find it pretty scary doing any meets with a woman involved, but mainly because I feel like I don't know what I'm doing, but the other ladies do, so I'd be inclined to agree with the person who suggested finding someone equally nervous and having a giggle and working it out together. |
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Wouldn't bother us if you only played with one of us.It is difficult to find attraction but maybe slightly easier in a club environment in there would be more choice of people.Im certainly not one to throw a paddy fit if you only played with Mrs.Am happy as long as everyone is it's all fun at the end of the day! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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There was a time when we were interested in meeting single women, but boy was it hard work finding a match. As the op says, the woman has to fancy both, and of course both halves of the couple have to fancy the woman. We did though have a few great meets, so can't complain. The key was to share good, honest face pics, and meet for a no-commitment social first. Good luck, op! |
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It's hard finding ladies who want to join us. I know that's the same for most couples but with Miss.Red being predominantly straight it adds an extra layer of difficulty as the lady that joins us main focus will need to be me. If that's the case I'm almost competing with every guy on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's hard finding ladies who want to join us. I know that's the same for most couples but with Miss.Red being predominantly straight it adds an extra layer of difficulty as the lady that joins us main focus will need to be me. If that's the case I'm almost competing with every guy on here."
It will be a barrier to some women, maybe most, but it happened for us so it can happen for you, too. Fortune favours the persistent  |
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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago
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"I've recently become open to the idea of meeting with couples but finding it really difficult finding any where I find both of the attractive.
The ladies who meet them do you ever find yourself agreeing to meet even though you find the one attractive but not the other?
My main focus would be on the woman anyway since that's the part of my sexuality I'm more keen to explore so would it be worth 'taking one for the team' so to speak if I don't find the guy attractive?"
That's interesting because many couples have exactly the inverse problem: Finding a single girl who both find attractive. |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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I am not bi, so can't comment from a personal perspective. But I know that many such MFF encounters get arranged at club's and if you are able to visit one on a few occasions, then people will get to know you and your preferences, and you get chance to know people who attend regularly and other newbies too.
I think it's easier to arrange at club's, as you can see each other and chat so much quicker and "real" than via messages on fab. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don’t take one for the team or you will not get the full enjoyment from the experience.. it has to be mutual for all otherwise it’s just not quite sensual erotic experience it should be , I ( Mrs ) find though that after chatting for a while I become more attracted to someone because of their mind and then the looks matter a little less because I very much need my mind to be aroused too x |
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"My main focus would be on the woman since that's the part of my sexuality I'm more keen to explore, so would it be worth 'taking one for the team' so to speak if I don't find the guy attractive?"
"That's interesting because many couples have exactly the inverse problem: Finding a single girl who both find attractive. "
So would the same question apply to the couples as it does to the single woman? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Consider also whether both halves of the couple are really up for it. A couple of the worst experiences I had on here were down to the woman doing it for her man (or she felt she was taking one for the team...truly horrible when you are on the wrong end of that interaction) or couples drama.
Stability is important too. So many couples split up while we're still arranging the meet.
I look now for long term couples where the woman is leading the conversation and meets with those people have been some of my sexiest times on fab.
Really hope you find some sexy people who work for you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Consider also whether both halves of the couple are really up for it. A couple of the worst experiences I had on here were down to the woman doing it for her man (or she felt she was taking one for the team...truly horrible when you are on the wrong end of that interaction) or couples drama.
Stability is important too. So many couples split up while we're still arranging the meet.
I look now for long term couples where the woman is leading the conversation and meets with those people have been some of my sexiest times on fab.
Really hope you find some sexy people who work for you!"
Good advice. When we used to meet single women everything was managed between the two women. I was invited to the socials, though, thank goodness! |
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