 |
By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
"Evening all we are looking for some advice on how to start a conversation, we find no issues in person but find messaging a little awkward any tips to help us along our way? Many thanks S n J xx"
Well I am the opposite I find hard in person and easier on here. On here if someone has put something on the forum that catches me, and has a nice profile, just a message to say something like I saw what you put etc, and maybe compliments them on profile
In person everyone says I am chatty I just am crap at asking people to play lol |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
Definitely!
Especially people who say 'dont ask me how I am, don't ask me what I'm looking for, don't ask me x/y/z, don't send something boring lol'
Maybe it's just cause we're so new, but I'm not used to being really bold 
So hopefully I can follow this thread and get some ideas haha  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
It’s always helps if I spelt the thread right  Haha yeah I see that a lot with peoples profiles, one minute they say they don’t want one of meets and aren’t on here to shag the whole site but on the other hand they don’t want you to ask them what they are looking for ect can be confusing |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
"Definitely!
Especially people who say 'dont ask me how I am, don't ask me what I'm looking for, don't ask me x/y/z, don't send something boring lol'
Maybe it's just cause we're so new, but I'm not used to being really bold
So hopefully I can follow this thread and get some ideas haha "
You don’t need to say fancy a fuck in the first message  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Evening all we are looking for some advice on how to start a conversation, we find no issues in person but find messaging a little awkward any tips to help us along our way? Many thanks S n J xx
Well I am the opposite I find hard in person and easier on here. On here if someone has put something on the forum that catches me, and has a nice profile, just a message to say something like I saw what you put etc, and maybe compliments them on profile
In person everyone says I am chatty I just am crap at asking people to play lol "
I do find that “asking someone to play” can be awkward we feel it’s better for it to happen in the heat of the moment |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
"Evening all we are looking for some advice on how to start a conversation, we find no issues in person but find messaging a little awkward any tips to help us along our way? Many thanks S n J xx
Well I am the opposite I find hard in person and easier on here. On here if someone has put something on the forum that catches me, and has a nice profile, just a message to say something like I saw what you put etc, and maybe compliments them on profile
In person everyone says I am chatty I just am crap at asking people to play lol
I do find that “asking someone to play” can be awkward we feel it’s better for it to happen in the heat of the moment "
It’s different for single guys as I often find couples and females like you to be assertive and ask
Also in the clubbing scene asking is seen as more polite |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
"Definitely!
Especially people who say 'dont ask me how I am, don't ask me what I'm looking for, don't ask me x/y/z, don't send something boring lol'
Maybe it's just cause we're so new, but I'm not used to being really bold
So hopefully I can follow this thread and get some ideas haha
You don’t need to say fancy a fuck in the first message "
Well that tends to be my view of things too, but a few people we've spoken to wanted to get straight to the point haha. Whatever floats your boat though I suppose  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Definitely!
Especially people who say 'dont ask me how I am, don't ask me what I'm looking for, don't ask me x/y/z, don't send something boring lol'
Maybe it's just cause we're so new, but I'm not used to being really bold
So hopefully I can follow this thread and get some ideas haha
You don’t need to say fancy a fuck in the first message
Well that tends to be my view of things too, but a few people we've spoken to wanted to get straight to the point haha. Whatever floats your boat though I suppose "
If we get a message saying fancy a fuck or Something similar it’s a simple delete and block, it’s just rude, if we were at a club or party I would put money on it no one would walk up to you and say “fancy a fuck” so why is it acceptable in messages? |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
"Definitely!
Especially people who say 'dont ask me how I am, don't ask me what I'm looking for, don't ask me x/y/z, don't send something boring lol'
Maybe it's just cause we're so new, but I'm not used to being really bold
So hopefully I can follow this thread and get some ideas haha
You don’t need to say fancy a fuck in the first message
Well that tends to be my view of things too, but a few people we've spoken to wanted to get straight to the point haha. Whatever floats your boat though I suppose
If we get a message saying fancy a fuck or Something similar it’s a simple delete and block, it’s just rude, if we were at a club or party I would put money on it no one would walk up to you and say “fancy a fuck” so why is it acceptable in messages?"
Fancy a duck I have seen work a number of times at in acubb  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
|
"Definitely!
Especially people who say 'dont ask me how I am, don't ask me what I'm looking for, don't ask me x/y/z, don't send something boring lol'
Maybe it's just cause we're so new, but I'm not used to being really bold
So hopefully I can follow this thread and get some ideas haha
You don’t need to say fancy a fuck in the first message
Well that tends to be my view of things too, but a few people we've spoken to wanted to get straight to the point haha. Whatever floats your boat though I suppose
If we get a message saying fancy a fuck or Something similar it’s a simple delete and block, it’s just rude, if we were at a club or party I would put money on it no one would walk up to you and say “fancy a fuck” so why is it acceptable in messages?
Fancy a duck I have seen work a number of times at in acubb "
Yeah although funny, I just think it’s would put us off like right away to bold to start with |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
harrow |
"Definitely!
Especially people who say 'dont ask me how I am, don't ask me what I'm looking for, don't ask me x/y/z, don't send something boring lol'
Maybe it's just cause we're so new, but I'm not used to being really bold
So hopefully I can follow this thread and get some ideas haha
You don’t need to say fancy a fuck in the first message
Well that tends to be my view of things too, but a few people we've spoken to wanted to get straight to the point haha. Whatever floats your boat though I suppose
If we get a message saying fancy a fuck or Something similar it’s a simple delete and block, it’s just rude, if we were at a club or party I would put money on it no one would walk up to you and say “fancy a fuck” so why is it acceptable in messages?
Fancy a duck I have seen work a number of times at in acubb
Yeah although funny, I just think it’s would put us off like right away to bold to start with "
Yeah it has put me off before if I didn’t know the person but sometimes you have to go with flow  |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
|
By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
|
There is no advice that can be given here.
The rules are different for every woman/couple and you are expected to know the rules before you have even spoken to them.
Send a milquetoast opener - Boring
Send a bold opener - Tryhard
Send an indirect opener - Dull, possible creep
Send a direct opener - Entitled male.
Fact is, 99% of the decision making that goes into people's reaction to your message is done in their pants, not their head. The only rules that can be absolutely relied upon to exist here are these:
Rule 1: Be attractive
Rule 2: Don't be unattractive.
If you can follow these, you will succeed. If you can't, well, join the club |
Reply privately, Reply in forum +quote
or View forums list | |
» Add a new message to this topic
