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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So been here for a little while and learned the term 'unicorn' We have been searching for a while now, what seemed to be a relativley easy idea is turning into a quest of epic proportions, but rest assured we will find our unicorn and she will be ours lol
Anyone else enjoying the hunt? Or any unicorns want to surrender? Lol x |
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Not sure why the meaning unicorn on here just means single bisexual women....surely a unicorn means something that is perfect and very rare....so that can be female or male...depending on what one is searching for..... |
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"Possibly because we don't want to be 'hunted' by predatory couples. "
Oh come on!
The profile is hardly predatory!!
TBH op you have a good profile and good pics (nice ones of you together which is rare!) so I can’t see why you wouldn’t find an interested female!
Have you tried clubs (on couples and single fem nights perhaps?) and socials? They’re a great way to meet potential matches without pressure on either side!  x |
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"Yea i may have worded that a bit wrong lol "
Not at all....you are “fab” correct....it seems that the single bisexual women have taken it upon themselves that that is what they are....when really everyone idea of a unicorn is different  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hahaha no we are not predatory. Yes! We are going to a club this sat to see whats what. Will be our first time so a tad nervous but from we understand these places are very welcoming and relaxed which soumds awesome. We are not sure why we havent had much attention we do realise that bi females only account for a small percentage of the site |
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"Possibly because we don't want to be 'hunted' by predatory couples.
Oh come on!
The profile is hardly predatory!!
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Some of the worst egoists on here are the so called fab “unicorns” ...."
Couldn’t agree more!
Fortunately I’m too old for an ego! It’d play havoc with my arthritis and thread veins!!  |
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I think lots of people cringe at the term "unicorn". Possibly because it is generally used by people into the most hetero normative type of swinging. That is where he gets to fuck another woman and gets off on seeing his partner with said woman, but she doesn't fuck another man.
All seems a bit patriarchal. |
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"I think lots of people cringe at the term "unicorn". Possibly because it is generally used by people into the most hetero normative type of swinging. That is where he gets to fuck another woman and gets off on seeing his partner with said woman, but she doesn't fuck another man.
All seems a bit patriarchal. "
And possibly why the so called “unicorns” think they have the upper hand.... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I think lots of people cringe at the term "unicorn". Possibly because it is generally used by people into the most hetero normative type of swinging. That is where he gets to fuck another woman and gets off on seeing his partner with said woman, but she doesn't fuck another man.
All seems a bit patriarchal. "
Partriarchal (my new word of the day) i see your point however, she is not intrested in other men only women. This situation does exist. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"I think lots of people cringe at the term "unicorn". Possibly because it is generally used by people into the most hetero normative type of swinging. That is where he gets to fuck another woman and gets off on seeing his partner with said woman, but she doesn't fuck another man.
All seems a bit patriarchal. "
Maybe because it’s a huge generalisation? |
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"Not sure why the meaning unicorn on here just means single bisexual women....surely a unicorn means something that is perfect and very rare....so that can be female or male...depending on what one is searching for....."
Because a rare genuine single male is called a Dudeicorn |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Plenty of us unicorns around, but we're wary prey animals and often stay hidden in our caves til it's safe to venture out. "
“Unicorns” are in very high demand and venturing out is risky with these predators around! |
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"I think lots of people cringe at the term "unicorn". Possibly because it is generally used by people into the most hetero normative type of swinging. That is where he gets to fuck another woman and gets off on seeing his partner with said woman, but she doesn't fuck another man.
All seems a bit patriarchal.
Maybe because it’s a huge generalisation?"
Of course, which is why I used words like "generally" and "possibly". |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Hahaha no we are not predatory. Yes! We are going to a club this sat to see whats what. Will be our first time so a tad nervous but from we understand these places are very welcoming and relaxed which soumds awesome. We are not sure why we havent had much attention we do realise that bi females only account for a small percentage of the site "
Have a great night, I'm sure you'll meet some great people x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Think maybe take a more relaxed approach it's really not that hard it's all we've done so far... just look for women with similar profiles and beliefs/wants as yourselfs, make sure you both want the extra lady for the right reasons.... then send some nice messages with face pics |
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Be aware that "unicorn hunting" is generally a phrase which is frowned upon. Remember you are looking for a human being with her own needs, desires and wants.... Not a jigsaw piece.
Now... Think about the numbers...
By definition you seek a bi lady, so that limits you to perhaps 3% of the population. You are looking for a lady who is open to a menage a trois..... We are perhaps down to 1‰.
You seek a lady who finds the male half of your existing couple attractive.... Maybe 0.5% now?
And she must also find the female attractive. 0.25%...
And you both must find her attractive.
Being very generous, 0.1% of the population might suit. In reality I am being generous with the figures. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"I think lots of people cringe at the term "unicorn". Possibly because it is generally used by people into the most hetero normative type of swinging. That is where he gets to fuck another woman and gets off on seeing his partner with said woman, but she doesn't fuck another man.
All seems a bit patriarchal.
Maybe because it’s a huge generalisation?
Of course, which is why I used words like "generally" and "possibly". "
Wouldn’t it make more sense to prefix it with ‘In my imagination’, then? Because that’s all your generalisation is, rather than one based on empirical knowledge of all relationships that would fit. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"Be aware that "unicorn hunting" is generally a phrase which is frowned upon. Remember you are looking for a human being with her own needs, desires and wants.... Not a jigsaw piece.
Now... Think about the numbers...
By definition you seek a bi lady, so that limits you to perhaps 3% of the population. You are looking for a lady who is open to a menage a trois..... We are perhaps down to 1‰.
You seek a lady who finds the male half of your existing couple attractive.... Maybe 0.5% now?
And she must also find the female attractive. 0.25%...
And you both must find her attractive.
Being very generous, 0.1% of the population might suit. In reality I am being generous with the figures. "
You should also reduce the numbers accordingly for geography, trust, social and sexual expectations, etc.
And yet, FFM meets still happen through Fab all the time! It’s a wonderful world. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Be aware that "unicorn hunting" is generally a phrase which is frowned upon. Remember you are looking for a human being with her own needs, desires and wants.... Not a jigsaw piece.
Now... Think about the numbers...
By definition you seek a bi lady, so that limits you to perhaps 3% of the population. You are looking for a lady who is open to a menage a trois..... We are perhaps down to 1‰.
You seek a lady who finds the male half of your existing couple attractive.... Maybe 0.5% now?
And she must also find the female attractive. 0.25%...
And you both must find her attractive.
Being very generous, 0.1% of the population might suit. In reality I am being generous with the figures. "
Personally I don't like the phrase 'unicorn hunting'. Makes me feel like a plaything. Having said that, I've met some lovely couples and played with both m and f. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Be aware that "unicorn hunting" is generally a phrase which is frowned upon. Remember you are looking for a human being with her own needs, desires and wants.... Not a jigsaw piece.
Now... Think about the numbers...
By definition you seek a bi lady, so that limits you to perhaps 3% of the population. You are looking for a lady who is open to a menage a trois..... We are perhaps down to 1‰.
You seek a lady who finds the male half of your existing couple attractive.... Maybe 0.5% now?
And she must also find the female attractive. 0.25%...
And you both must find her attractive.
Being very generous, 0.1% of the population might suit. In reality I am being generous with the figures. "
It's really not this hard though |
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"I think lots of people cringe at the term "unicorn". Possibly because it is generally used by people into the most hetero normative type of swinging. That is where he gets to fuck another woman and gets off on seeing his partner with said woman, but she doesn't fuck another man.
All seems a bit patriarchal.
Maybe because it’s a huge generalisation?
Of course, which is why I used words like "generally" and "possibly".
Wouldn’t it make more sense to prefix it with ‘In my imagination’, then? Because that’s all your generalisation is, rather than one based on empirical knowledge of all relationships that would fit."
I am not sure how something being a generalisation based on personal experience is not empirical. "men are generally taller than women" is a generalisation based on my personal observation . I haven't viewed all men and women in the world and some women are taller than some men.
The generalisation is still empirically true. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mixed views on here, which is right as we all have our own interests.
As a single, who plays with couples, I find the clubs are the best for me. Personally, I can see if there’s a mutual attraction and have a chin-wag. I’ve got to be relaxed because I’d be trusting two people.
OP you are looking to exclusively play girl-on-girl.... keep looking.... she will be out there, wondering where you guys are. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I originally started off looking for couples and spoke to a few. It became obvious that there aren't many couples who want 3 way sex. They were all looking for a no female, that the man didn't fuck, give oral to, or receive oral from.
I stopped looking. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I originally started off looking for couples and spoke to a few. It became obvious that there aren't many couples who want 3 way sex. They were all looking for a no female, that the man didn't fuck, give oral to, or receive oral from.
I stopped looking. "
Exactly! I want both of them - yes, I’m greedy |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Mixed views on here, which is right as we all have our own interests.
As a single, who plays with couples, I find the clubs are the best for me. Personally, I can see if there’s a mutual attraction and have a chin-wag. I’ve got to be relaxed because I’d be trusting two people.
OP you are looking to exclusively play girl-on-girl.... keep looking.... she will be out there, wondering where you guys are. "
Exactly we meet where the person is going to feel comfy, and when gmwe know there genuine send them whatever other info they may need to feel safe and excited rather than apprehensive.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I originally started off looking for couples and spoke to a few. It became obvious that there aren't many couples who want 3 way sex. They were all looking for a no female, that the man didn't fuck, give oral to, or receive oral from.
I stopped looking.
Exactly! I want both of them - yes, I’m greedy "
Has to be all 3 equal for the dynamics to work for us... anything else and someone of the three is feeling used |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"I think lots of people cringe at the term "unicorn". Possibly because it is generally used by people into the most hetero normative type of swinging. That is where he gets to fuck another woman and gets off on seeing his partner with said woman, but she doesn't fuck another man.
All seems a bit patriarchal.
Maybe because it’s a huge generalisation?
Of course, which is why I used words like "generally" and "possibly".
Wouldn’t it make more sense to prefix it with ‘In my imagination’, then? Because that’s all your generalisation is, rather than one based on empirical knowledge of all relationships that would fit.
I am not sure how something being a generalisation based on personal experience is not empirical. "men are generally taller than women" is a generalisation based on my personal observation . I haven't viewed all men and women in the world and some women are taller than some men.
The generalisation is still empirically true. "
Of course - but that’s a generalisation you can make by stepping out into the street and having a fair sample of data to give your assumption some genuine weight.
Sorry, I just found your post to be rather ridiculous, and insulting to people who may use the term ‘unicorn’ simply, like the OP, because they are on Fab and see others using it. It’s a term one might choose not to use for many good reasons, without inventing spurious ones. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I originally started off looking for couples and spoke to a few. It became obvious that there aren't many couples who want 3 way sex. They were all looking for a no female, that the man didn't fuck, give oral to, or receive oral from.
I stopped looking.
Exactly! I want both of them - yes, I’m greedy
Has to be all 3 equal for the dynamics to work for us... anything else and someone of the three is feeling used "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only oral sex i have had was with 2 couples off fab .Both were great experiences and still friends with one couple.was 3 ways fun and it worked well .Any other way not sure id bother. |
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"I originally started off looking for couples and spoke to a few. It became obvious that there aren't many couples who want 3 way sex. They were all looking for a no female, that the man didn't fuck, give oral to, or receive oral from.
I stopped
Exactly! I want both of them - yes, I’m greedy
Has to be all 3 equal for the dynamics to work for us... anything else and someone of the three is feeling used "
I dont mind being used by a Unicorn and the Mrs  |
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"I think lots of people cringe at the term "unicorn". Possibly because it is generally used by people into the most hetero normative type of swinging. That is where he gets to fuck another woman and gets off on seeing his partner with said woman, but she doesn't fuck another man.
All seems a bit patriarchal.
Maybe because it’s a huge generalisation?
Of course, which is why I used words like "generally" and "possibly".
Wouldn’t it make more sense to prefix it with ‘In my imagination’, then? Because that’s all your generalisation is, rather than one based on empirical knowledge of all relationships that would fit.
I am not sure how something being a generalisation based on personal experience is not empirical. "men are generally taller than women" is a generalisation based on my personal observation . I haven't viewed all men and women in the world and some women are taller than some men.
The generalisation is still empirically true.
Of course - but that’s a generalisation you can make by stepping out into the street and having a fair sample of data to give your assumption some genuine weight.
Sorry, I just found your post to be rather ridiculous, and insulting to people who may use the term ‘unicorn’ simply, like the OP, because they are on Fab and see others using it. It’s a term one might choose not to use for many good reasons, without inventing spurious ones."
As I say, it's a term that me and many other people find cringe worthy. Other people are fine with it. I don't see why my view about the term is in any way insulting to people who are fine with it.
I am not saying people can't conduct their "unicorn hunts". If that where your head is at, feel free to go for it and I and others will be equally free to post our views of it. |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
Bristol |
"I think lots of people cringe at the term "unicorn". Possibly because it is generally used by people into the most hetero normative type of swinging. That is where he gets to fuck another woman and gets off on seeing his partner with said woman, but she doesn't fuck another man.
All seems a bit patriarchal.
Maybe because it’s a huge generalisation?
Of course, which is why I used words like "generally" and "possibly".
Wouldn’t it make more sense to prefix it with ‘In my imagination’, then? Because that’s all your generalisation is, rather than one based on empirical knowledge of all relationships that would fit.
I am not sure how something being a generalisation based on personal experience is not empirical. "men are generally taller than women" is a generalisation based on my personal observation . I haven't viewed all men and women in the world and some women are taller than some men.
The generalisation is still empirically true.
Of course - but that’s a generalisation you can make by stepping out into the street and having a fair sample of data to give your assumption some genuine weight.
Sorry, I just found your post to be rather ridiculous, and insulting to people who may use the term ‘unicorn’ simply, like the OP, because they are on Fab and see others using it. It’s a term one might choose not to use for many good reasons, without inventing spurious ones.
As I say, it's a term that me and many other people find cringe worthy. Other people are fine with it. I don't see why my view about the term is in any way insulting to people who are fine with it.
I am not saying people can't conduct their "unicorn hunts". If that where your head is at, feel free to go for it and I and others will be equally free to post our views of it. "
As you’ll see if you’d bothered to read what I’ve written, it’s not where my head is at. And naturally, I’m free to post my views on what you’ve written too. If you don’t like how you come across as a consequence, you might try being a little more thoughtful in what you opine. |
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"I think lots of people cringe at the term "unicorn". Possibly because it is generally used by people into the most hetero normative type of swinging. That is where he gets to fuck another woman and gets off on seeing his partner with said woman, but she doesn't fuck another man.
All seems a bit patriarchal.
Maybe because it’s a huge generalisation?
Of course, which is why I used words like "generally" and "possibly".
Wouldn’t it make more sense to prefix it with ‘In my imagination’, then? Because that’s all your generalisation is, rather than one based on empirical knowledge of all relationships that would fit.
I am not sure how something being a generalisation based on personal experience is not empirical. "men are generally taller than women" is a generalisation based on my personal observation . I haven't viewed all men and women in the world and some women are taller than some men.
The generalisation is still empirically true.
Of course - but that’s a generalisation you can make by stepping out into the street and having a fair sample of data to give your assumption some genuine weight.
Sorry, I just found your post to be rather ridiculous, and insulting to people who may use the term ‘unicorn’ simply, like the OP, because they are on Fab and see others using it. It’s a term one might choose not to use for many good reasons, without inventing spurious ones.
As I say, it's a term that me and many other people find cringe worthy. Other people are fine with it. I don't see why my view about the term is in any way insulting to people who are fine with it.
I am not saying people can't conduct their "unicorn hunts". If that where your head is at, feel free to go for it and I and others will be equally free to post our views of it.
As you’ll see if you’d bothered to read what I’ve written, it’s not where my head is at. And naturally, I’m free to post my views on what you’ve written too. If you don’t like how you come across as a consequence, you might try being a little more thoughtful in what you opine."
I was using "your" in a generic, not personal sense.
We are all indeed free to write what we like. However, I don't think telling someone their view is "insulting" adds anything to the discussion.
I am fine with how I come across and am happy to engage in a debate about the semiotics of "unicorn hunting" if you like |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I was looking for a Bi female to meet with my former FWB, it was for three way fun, including oral all round and cock for the Bi female. I would meet a couple by myself but I want the same kind of three way fun and not just to be a curious lady's guinea pig or to put on the show for a male.
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I dunno about it the rest of the country, but round here you can't go to a social, club or party without almost being trampled to death by herds of them lol.
But seriously, drop the term unicorn, they are people, and labels tend to be a bit off-putting. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"When I was looking for a Bi female to meet with my former FWB, it was for three way fun, including oral all round and cock for the Bi female. I would meet a couple by myself but I want the same kind of three way fun and not just to be a curious lady's guinea pig or to put on the show for a male.
XXX"
Unfortunately this seems to be the norm...
"I would meet a couple by myself but I want the same kind of three way fun and not just to be a curious lady's guinea pig or to put on the show for a male." |
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We have a few bi female friends that we’ve met both on here and off. They do exist and there’s plenty of these lovely lady’s about.
Just remember that they have their own desires and reasons to be with a couple, and aren’t just there to please you.
As mentioned above these women are friends first and foremost, and when we play it’s because the dynamic and everything is right between us all, and everything just flows naturally and equally between us all. Have no doubts that you’ll find the right person for you, just approach it as looking for a friend instead of trying to net a trophy unicorn.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I originally started off looking for couples and spoke to a few. It became obvious that there aren't many couples who want 3 way sex. They were all looking for a no female, that the man didn't fuck, give oral to, or receive oral from.
I stopped looking.
Exactly! I want both of them - yes, I’m greedy "
me too lmao |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So been here for a little while and learned the term 'unicorn' We have been searching for a while now, what seemed to be a relativley easy idea is turning into a quest of epic proportions, but rest assured we will find our unicorn and she will be ours lol
Anyone else enjoying the hunt? Or any unicorns want to surrender? Lol x"
Based on profile and pics I would meet you (if I was meeting couples)
Don't see anything wrong imo |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"We have a few bi female friends that we’ve met both on here and off. They do exist and there’s plenty of these lovely lady’s about.
Just remember that they have their own desires and reasons to be with a couple, and aren’t just there to please you.
As mentioned above these women are friends first and foremost, and when we play it’s because the dynamic and everything is right between us all, and everything just flows naturally and equally between us all. Have no doubts that you’ll find the right person for you, just approach it as looking for a friend instead of trying to net a trophy unicorn.
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You have it spot on the couples I meet are good friends we also meet socially x |
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The last two couples I met were such massive letdowns I stopped meeting couples. I’d become disillusioned with couples before that so it was a rare thing to agree to meet a couple anyway. I was very clear about what I wanted and didn’t want, such as I’m bi not gay therefore I want to play fully with both and I don’t put on a show, when it came to it they both effectively turned it into a show and the guy didn’t play fully with me. When single bi girls are so rare, why would you do this because you’re not going to have a repeat meet?!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You didn't meet the right one! There are some and were some amazing couples out there."
With respect you are a male not a female, so you are giving the male perspective not the Bi females XXX |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You didn't meet the right one! There are some and were some amazing couples out there.
With respect you are a male not a female, so you are giving the male perspective not the Bi females XXX"
I suppose as a single guy yes. However, with respect i am giving it from the couple point of view that i was part of. |
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I've made some proper good mates by meeting couples.
I think as the single fem, I need to be confident enough to speak up if things aren't going well. If I sense any uncomfortable vibes from anyone involved I'll suggest a break (maybe get a drink, toilet, etc)
From there it's easier to bring it to an end. It doesn't mean anyone has to stomp off all offended, it just means taking responsibility of a situation. Personally I've found the couple's I've met respect my honesty. I'll talk things over with them, no problem there. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I originally started off looking for couples and spoke to a few. It became obvious that there aren't many couples who want 3 way sex. They were all looking for a no female, that the man didn't fuck, give oral to, or receive oral from.
I stopped looking.
Exactly! I want both of them - yes, I’m greedy
Has to be all 3 equal for the dynamics to work for us... anything else and someone of the three is feeling used "
I want to be fucked as I'm going down on a woman. |
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I had a bit of a bad experience with the two couples I met and just ended up feeling a bit like a ‘toy’ and it was all about them
I know I should try again but it’s really put me off. I’d rather just meet the girl on her own |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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I must be the complete opposite if I am meeting a couple I love to be watched by the man playing with the woman. Don’t get me wrong I also like watching them play together and also joint pleasure of the lady |
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"I originally started off looking for couples and spoke to a few. It became obvious that there aren't many couples who want 3 way sex. They were all looking for a no female, that the man didn't fuck, give oral to, or receive oral from.
I stopped looking.
Exactly! I want both of them - yes, I’m greedy
Has to be all 3 equal for the dynamics to work for us... anything else and someone of the three is feeling used
I want to be fucked as I'm going down on a woman."
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Best chance of finding a real one will be at a club but be on guard for the pretenders who aren’t bi but will play at being so to get to your guy.
Seen it on a few occasions now, horrendous and the aftermath was even worse.
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I get that but for it to work for the fabled unicorn its best when everyone plays - equally and together when everyone gets equal pleasure - spoiling one another at all points. Playful and sensually surely. Or is that just me. Be the same in a MMF situation. |
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"Best chance of finding a real one will be at a club but be on guard for the pretenders who aren’t bi but will play at being so to get to your guy.
Seen it on a few occasions now, horrendous and the aftermath was even worse.
The joys "
What? Were they just leaving the F of the couple out. How weird. |
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"Best chance of finding a real one will be at a club but be on guard for the pretenders who aren’t bi but will play at being so to get to your guy.
Seen it on a few occasions now, horrendous and the aftermath was even worse.
The joys
What? Were they just leaving the F of the couple out. How weird. "
No the fem in question was part of a couple but was playing Bi.
Her and her partner plied the fem of the younger couple with cocktails until she was suitably d*unk then the fem took the guy from the other couple off whilst hubby kept his partner busy at the bar.
When it dawned on her and she realised, she went off to find him, she was none to pleased to find him with the other woman and was then hotly presumed into the ladies followed by the other lady. |
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"Not sure why the meaning unicorn on here just means single bisexual women....surely a unicorn means something that is perfect and very rare....so that can be female or male...depending on what one is searching for....."
Single bisexual men are not that rare.
So similar to unicorns, but easily found, so sometimes known as stallions. |
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I’m another who’s not keen on the term but I appreciate it’s rarely meant in a negative way.
Personally, I prefer to meet couples in clubs - more chance of an instant chemistry check with all parties and it’s easy to chat with both so you get an instant idea of mutual attraction all round. |
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"Not sure why the meaning unicorn on here just means single bisexual women....surely a unicorn means something that is perfect and very rare....so that can be female or male...depending on what one is searching for.....
Single bisexual men are not that rare.
So similar to unicorns, but easily found, so sometimes known as stallions. "
Missing my point totally......you are still talking about Fab....I am talking about in the real world..... |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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I haven’t played with a couple yet (yes, I know, shocker, I’m usually so jaded). It’s been for much the same reasons as already noted in the comments - I would want fully equal play and I’d have to fancy both of them and vice versa. Now, I don’t fancy women with my height or build (again, I know, totally superficial). However, guys in a couple that dig me, tend to have similar partners. It’s a quandary.
I fricking love the term unicorn hunting though! Bloody primal side of me
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"I haven’t played with a couple yet (yes, I know, shocker, I’m usually so jaded). It’s been for much the same reasons as already noted in the comments - I would want fully equal play and I’d have to fancy both of them and vice versa. Now, I don’t fancy women with my height or build (again, I know, totally superficial). However, guys in a couple that dig me, tend to have similar partners. It’s a quandary.
I fricking love the term unicorn hunting though! Bloody primal side of me
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*Quietly hoping you might be into petite brunettes* |
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We are also seeking a fem for ffm play but often find once chatting she only wants fem play with him watching no 3 way which for me as the Mrs takes away the excitement and fun and fantasy of us both sharing and pleasuring a woman together .. he says it’s ok with him as long as he can still play with me as he wants to see me having as much fun and pleasure as possible but for me to fully enjoy it has to be the three playing equally x on another site we used it took several months to find a single bi fem .. they are out there I’m sure you will find a lovely lady to join you x another option for you guys might be to find a hot wife couple where the guy just wants to watch that way you get the 3way with the added bonus of a voyear who wants to look but not touch so not pushing the boundaries of your wife’s limits on play with other men . X |
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"Not sure why the meaning unicorn on here just means single bisexual women....surely a unicorn means something that is perfect and very rare....so that can be female or male...depending on what one is searching for....."
The key word there is rare.
Very attractive males are a dime a dozen on here. And they have manners.
Halfway attractive bi-females with manners, well they are somewhere above the Yeti and somewhere below the Loch Ness monster in terms of rarity |
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We mainly play with single bi females. It’s much much easier to meet them in clubs than on Fab. I find women expect lots of chasing and pandering to on Fab but in the flesh, with single women in clubs, you can just have a down to earth conversation about what they are looking for, what they enjoy and if they are willing to join you.
Having said that, when I had a single female profile, the messages I used to get from couples were shockingly rude. Asking to give me a present to the husband, asking me to come round to be abused by them, asking for me to go and service them. When I pulled them up on what they’d say, they couldn’t even understand why I wasn’t willing to take them up on their ‘offers’ |
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"Not sure why the meaning unicorn on here just means single bisexual women....surely a unicorn means something that is perfect and very rare....so that can be female or male...depending on what one is searching for.....
The key word there is rare.
Very attractive males are a dime a dozen on here. And they have manners.
Halfway attractive bi-females with manners, well they are somewhere above the Yeti and somewhere below the Loch Ness monster in terms of rarity"
Ah yes....it will be the manners that are missing then lol |
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Im interested in playing with a couple but have found so far with the ones I've spoken to that they only want the female half to play with me, and male watching. Hard to find couples where f doesn't mind m fucking me too. |
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"Im interested in playing with a couple but have found so far with the ones I've spoken to that they only want the female half to play with me, and male watching. Hard to find couples where f doesn't mind m fucking me too. "
Checking-in!
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By *osweet69Couple
over a year ago
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Finding a lovely single lady is not really the problem. The problem is finding one where there is a three way mutual attraction and sexual chemistry.This is why Jen is free to meet single ladies on her own as it up the odds of that happening.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Best chance of finding a real one will be at a club but be on guard for the pretenders who aren’t bi but will play at being so to get to your guy.
Seen it on a few occasions now, horrendous and the aftermath was even worse.
The joys
What? Were they just leaving the F of the couple out. How weird.
No the fem in question was part of a couple but was playing Bi.
Her and her partner plied the fem of the younger couple with cocktails until she was suitably d*unk then the fem took the guy from the other couple off whilst hubby kept his partner busy at the bar.
When it dawned on her and she realised, she went off to find him, she was none to pleased to find him with the other woman and was then hotly presumed into the ladies followed by the other lady."
He could have said no thanks?! |
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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago
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"Best chance of finding a real one will be at a club but be on guard for the pretenders who aren’t bi but will play at being so to get to your guy.
Seen it on a few occasions now, horrendous and the aftermath was even worse.
The joys
What? Were they just leaving the F of the couple out. How weird.
No the fem in question was part of a couple but was playing Bi.
Her and her partner plied the fem of the younger couple with cocktails until she was suitably d*unk then the fem took the guy from the other couple off whilst hubby kept his partner busy at the bar.
When it dawned on her and she realised, she went off to find him, she was none to pleased to find him with the other woman and was then hotly presumed into the ladies followed by the other lady.
He could have said no thanks?! "
Yes, that all sounds a bit odd. Didn’t the guy have any say in it? Presumably he was happy seeing his partner being intoxicated by this other couple so he could be taken off without her knowledge?
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I don’t mind the term ‘unicorn’ as a light and playful remark.....I’ve had lots of messages from ladies who want to meet me.......but want their man there for ‘safety’ reasons!! Or until they feel brave enough to meet alone...... That’s a sneaky way of wanting a ffm.....do they think I might not notice when he joined in.....??  |
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Really surprised to read the amount of couples who just want Him to watch and not take part, surely that's the whole point of a threesome so ALL of you can explore each other. Granted there's been times in clubs where he feels awkward about asking to take part but when a woman wants us both then she's damn well sure getting that!  |
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"We have a few bi female friends that we’ve met both on here and off. They do exist and there’s plenty of these lovely lady’s about.
Just remember that they have their own desires and reasons to be with a couple, and aren’t just there to please you.
As mentioned above these women are friends first and foremost, and when we play it’s because the dynamic and everything is right between us all, and everything just flows naturally and equally between us all. Have no doubts that you’ll find the right person for you, just approach it as looking for a friend instead of trying to net a trophy unicorn.
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Here here on that point. We have too! I genuinely am bi and in a loving couple and it really works for us. The fem spending time with us and having fun is our priority and we do have lots of fun and great sex in a three. Enjoy everyone and be respectful. Let’s not let the wrong ‘ens affect our fun xxx |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"Best chance of finding a real one will be at a club but be on guard for the pretenders who aren’t bi but will play at being so to get to your guy.
Seen it on a few occasions now, horrendous and the aftermath was even worse.
The joys
What? Were they just leaving the F of the couple out. How weird.
No the fem in question was part of a couple but was playing Bi.
Her and her partner plied the fem of the younger couple with cocktails until she was suitably d*unk then the fem took the guy from the other couple off whilst hubby kept his partner busy at the bar.
When it dawned on her and she realised, she went off to find him, she was none to pleased to find him with the other woman and was then hotly presumed into the ladies followed by the other lady.
He could have said no thanks?!
Yes, that all sounds a bit odd. Didn’t the guy have any say in it? Presumably he was happy seeing his partner being intoxicated by this other couple so he could be taken off without her knowledge?
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Exactly, he's as bad as they are,if not worse |
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"I’m another who’s not keen on the term but I appreciate it’s rarely meant in a negative way.
Personally, I prefer to meet couples in clubs - more chance of an instant chemistry check with all parties and it’s easy to chat with both so you get an instant idea of mutual attraction all round. "
this is me too.
Off to the club in a few weeks and purposely choosing a couples night for this reason. |
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"Not sure why the meaning unicorn on here just means single bisexual women....surely a unicorn means something that is perfect and very rare....so that can be female or male...depending on what one is searching for....."
Unicorns because bi-girls who will play with couples are so rare and hard to coax into a meet.
We could call Men "bacteria" as the are so numerous. Hahaha |
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I think its definitely easier to play with a single bi fem if you meet at a club, party, or social, as then you can all chat and see if there is a mutual threeway attraction.
That's harder to do on Fab, and ladies obviously become wary of those "couples" profiles who are either completely bogus, or where its more the guys fantasy.
I guess we are lucky, there is a great social scene here in South Wales, and we hit the ground running with invites to parties when we first started swinging, so we quickly built up a large network of great friends, who knew Jayne is very bi and not just "going through the motions". |
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The way a lot of couples seem to do it is for the lady to set up her own profile and recruit. Then say, Oh but I have a hubby, fwb, bloke I know who wants to join in... |
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"The way a lot of couples seem to do it is for the lady to set up her own profile and recruit. Then say, Oh but I have a hubby, fwb, bloke I know who wants to join in... "
That’s it exactly!! I love meeting couples as well as singles but like to know up front  |
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"Best chance of finding a real one will be at a club but be on guard for the pretenders who aren’t bi but will play at being so to get to your guy.
Seen it on a few occasions now, horrendous and the aftermath was even worse.
The joys
What? Were they just leaving the F of the couple out. How weird.
No the fem in question was part of a couple but was playing Bi.
Her and her partner plied the fem of the younger couple with cocktails until she was suitably d*unk then the fem took the guy from the other couple off whilst hubby kept his partner busy at the bar.
When it dawned on her and she realised, she went off to find him, she was none to pleased to find him with the other woman and was then hotly presumed into the ladies followed by the other lady.
He could have said no thanks?!
Yes, that all sounds a bit odd. Didn’t the guy have any say in it? Presumably he was happy seeing his partner being intoxicated by this other couple so he could be taken off without her knowledge?
Exactly, he's as bad as they are,if not worse "
Agree but you should have seen the look on his face when she found them. |
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"Best chance of finding a real one will be at a club but be on guard for the pretenders who aren’t bi but will play at being so to get to your guy.
Seen it on a few occasions now, horrendous and the aftermath was even worse.
The joys
What? Were they just leaving the F of the couple out. How weird.
No the fem in question was part of a couple but was playing Bi.
Her and her partner plied the fem of the younger couple with cocktails until she was suitably d*unk then the fem took the guy from the other couple off whilst hubby kept his partner busy at the bar.
When it dawned on her and she realised, she went off to find him, she was none to pleased to find him with the other woman and was then hotly presumed into the ladies followed by the other lady.
He could have said no thanks?!
Yes, that all sounds a bit odd. Didn’t the guy have any say in it? Presumably he was happy seeing his partner being intoxicated by this other couple so he could be taken off without her knowledge?
Exactly, he's as bad as they are,if not worse
Agree but you should have seen the look on his face when she found them."
And by that I don’t mean one of guilt, it was a rabbit in the headlights moment.
It was as if he believed it was okay’d by his lady but then was a reality check when it seemed that it wasn’t.
It was horrible to see and is the reason we have only been to that club once and will never return.
Apologies for stealing the OP’s thread but it’s a reality to be aware of when looking for our fantasies. |
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"I originally started off looking for couples and spoke to a few. It became obvious that there aren't many couples who want 3 way sex. They were all looking for a no female, that the man didn't fuck, give oral to, or receive oral from.
I stopped looking.
Exactly! I want both of them - yes, I’m greedy
Has to be all 3 equal for the dynamics to work for us... anything else and someone of the three is feeling used
I want to be fucked as I'm going down on a woman.
Oh yes "
We've been fortunate enough to have 2 bi sexual women as friends and when we meet as a 3sum it's always 3 way but one of the beauty of our dynamics is if tray or they want a night of ff then they do without me being involved or watching and likewise if they just fancy normal mf then it works as well so we're pretty lucky that the dynamics work for us |
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"So been here for a little while and learned the term 'unicorn' We have been searching for a while now, what seemed to be a relativley easy idea is turning into a quest of epic proportions, but rest assured we will find our unicorn and she will be ours lol
Anyone else enjoying the hunt? Or any unicorns want to surrender? Lol x"
We have met two single ladies who play both ways, not from FAB btw in a club. They approached us on both occasions.
What we have found is easier is to find another couple with a Bi lady and let the girls have fun do the FMF bits then all join in after! |
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"True unicorns are women into TVs or TVs that top, they're much rarer than bi women "
Had a lil Moan that I can’t find a tv that wants a 1-2-1 with a woman on another thread. My inbox soon proved me wrong |
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"Best chance of finding a real one will be at a club but be on guard for the pretenders who aren’t bi but will play at being so to get to your guy.
Seen it on a few occasions now, horrendous and the aftermath was even worse.
The joys
What? Were they just leaving the F of the couple out. How weird.
No the fem in question was part of a couple but was playing Bi.
Her and her partner plied the fem of the younger couple with cocktails until she was suitably d*unk then the fem took the guy from the other couple off whilst hubby kept his partner busy at the bar.
When it dawned on her and she realised, she went off to find him, she was none to pleased to find him with the other woman and was then hotly presumed into the ladies followed by the other lady.
He could have said no thanks?!
Yes, that all sounds a bit odd. Didn’t the guy have any say in it? Presumably he was happy seeing his partner being intoxicated by this other couple so he could be taken off without her knowledge?
Exactly, he's as bad as they are,if not worse
Agree but you should have seen the look on his face when she found them.
And by that I don’t mean one of guilt, it was a rabbit in the headlights moment.
It was as if he believed it was okay’d by his lady but then was a reality check when it seemed that it wasn’t.
It was horrible to see and is the reason we have only been to that club once and will never return.
Apologies for stealing the OP’s thread but it’s a reality to be aware of when looking for our fantasies."
Seems very strange behaviour on the part of everyone.
Bar staff serving drinks beyond reason.
Someone allowing themselves to be intoxicated by another.
A male partner going off and doing what he fancies with no concern for his overly intoxicated partner.
A couple using underhand and somewhat grooming methods of behaviour to get a shag, when there are a vast quantity of single men out there of outstanding quality.
As for finding bi fems, they are in a minority, but probably also in the highest demand so it is always going to be difficult to find someone who can click.
The Mrs loves her bi side so if she saw a couple she liked she could easily go unicorn for a night. But you'd have to go about it the right way. |
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I'm really open to it, as long as we all chat first and I know I'm not going to cause any issues. I like to focus on the woman more and make sure she's happy and confident and she's ready. Once we meet I like to be social first, get her relaxed and make sure she isn't threatened or anything. I just treat it how I would like to be treated, it's a big thing to bring someone else into a relationship and everyone should want to make it as easy as possible. |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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"Best chance of finding a real one will be at a club but be on guard for the pretenders who aren’t bi but will play at being so to get to your guy.
Seen it on a few occasions now, horrendous and the aftermath was even worse.
The joys
What? Were they just leaving the F of the couple out. How weird.
No the fem in question was part of a couple but was playing Bi.
Her and her partner plied the fem of the younger couple with cocktails until she was suitably d*unk then the fem took the guy from the other couple off whilst hubby kept his partner busy at the bar.
When it dawned on her and she realised, she went off to find him, she was none to pleased to find him with the other woman and was then hotly presumed into the ladies followed by the other lady."
What happened to the d*unk female? I’d be concerned by this behaviour. |
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You do get tired of the pretenders who say they’re bi but just meet you to be dominated by the M and less from the F of the couple and do little to reciprocate what they receive. Where are the genuine bi females who really want to properly enjoy both M and F equally? X |
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"I'm really open to it, as long as we all chat first and I know I'm not going to cause any issues. I like to focus on the woman more and make sure she's happy and confident and she's ready. Once we meet I like to be social first, get her relaxed and make sure she isn't threatened or anything. I just treat it how I would like to be treated, it's a big thing to bring someone else into a relationship and everyone should want to make it as easy as possible. "
Shame we are out of your age range! |
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We are here. Trying to find the couples who don’t want a Girl on girl show but a shared play! "
Absolutely sounds perfect But couples are blocked from contacting you x |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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We are here. Trying to find the couples who don’t want a Girl on girl show but a shared play!
Absolutely sounds perfect But couples are blocked from contacting you x"
Perhaps she's doing her own hunting  |
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"Oh well guess we are one of the lucky couples then as we have one and always together in clubs and out of clubs "
We are lucky too for sure, not short of meets privately (we don’t really do clubs) but I’d really like to meet more dom bi fems x |
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"Not sure why the meaning unicorn on here just means single bisexual women....surely a unicorn means something that is perfect and very rare....so that can be female or male...depending on what one is searching for.....
Because a rare genuine single male is called a Dudeicorn "
Haha now I now what to call myself |
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"Here
We are here. Trying to find the couples who don’t want a Girl on girl show but a shared play!
Absolutely sounds perfect But couples are blocked from contacting you x
Perhaps she's doing her own hunting "
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"Here
We are here. Trying to find the couples who don’t want a Girl on girl show but a shared play!
Absolutely sounds perfect But couples are blocked from contacting you x"
Had to put full filters up: no new messages. It got exhausting. I had a profile saying my preference etc... but ignored by couples and males. Decided to continue meeting and playing at the club. It worked with my last profile  |
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Hi all, speaking as a FWB couple (although Sara is genuinely bi-sexual and has met couples on her own).....
Like others on this thread we would like to meet a genuine single Lass for some proper threeway fun one day but alas we have yet to find the right Lass who seeks what we seek - but we haven't given up
As some have suggested though, we do go to clubs (and off to Jaydees on Friday  ) but until we do find someone who is truly interested in playing with us both we shall continue to have fun with others.
Happy searching everyone |
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"True unicorns are women into TVs or TVs that top, they're much rarer than bi women "
This is what I was looking for. For me though the Tgirl has to be convincing in looks and voice. Couldn't find such a stunning lady, so gave up. |
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"We’ve been looking for a bi female too but seems quiet hard to find someone that’s serious.
There are plenty of single bi fems on here and in clubs. Can't understand those saying there aren't. "
Not saying there aren't but certainly fewer. I think it's then the usual challenge - there has to be a 3way attraction. We have similar tastes in ladies, but one or both of us has been told not to the liking of the ladies we like. Not in a horrible way on the whole, but more that there is so much competition that we're struggling. Not moaning (well ok, perhaps a touch of self-pitying!) just the way it is.
And our problem at clubs is identifying who is bi to even start that process. I sugggest a big neon arrow....No wait, then everybody else would know! |
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