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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Prob not a great place to ask but here goes: are there any ladies out there that want someone to go clubbing with. Been to a few in the past but mainly when I was in a relationship. Since being single I've been clubbing and don't enjoy it half as much. You end up feeling like a stalker! Anyway, what I'm looking for someone to hang with and check out some clubs I particularly want to try out Chameleon as I've heard nothing but but things.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why not just be brave and go on your own?
Or go along with a male friend and keep each other company?
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I have and the experience is nowhere near as good. Feel like a predator stalking women hoping that they pick me over the rest of the crowd. Obvious reasons aside, I'm also more inclined to go to a normal club if out with the lads. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You say this is probably not a good place to ask. Where do you think a better place to ask might be?"
I was saying that because you usually get loads of abuse no matter what you ask. But yeah no where else I'm gonna ask, maybe in a club |
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By *ustJ0dieTV/TS
over a year ago
Burton-on-Trent |
"Prob not a great place to ask but here goes: are there any ladies out there that want someone to go clubbing with. Been to a few in the past but mainly when I was in a relationship. Since being single I've been clubbing and don't enjoy it half as much. You end up feeling like a stalker! Anyway, what I'm looking for someone to hang with and check out some clubs I particularly want to try out Chameleon as I've heard nothing but but things.
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Also, there's a huge waiting list for single guy memberships at Chams.
Have to ask what exactly would the woman get out of this arrangement? As she already gets into most places cheaper than couples. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Since being single I've been clubbing and don't enjoy it half as much"
I get this totally as sometimes going to a swing club isnt fun on your own, maybe look at going to some main social events that Chams do (look on the forums)
personally its why i like Flirts @xtasia as someone is always milling about
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Also, there's a huge waiting list for single guy memberships at Chams.
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this is a myth. i know as one of my male friends went recently and was offered a membership then and there! |
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By *ustJ0dieTV/TS
over a year ago
Burton-on-Trent |
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Also, there's a huge waiting list for single guy memberships at Chams.
this is a myth. i know as one of my male friends went recently and was offered a membership then and there!"
Then I stand corrected, but the rest? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Prob not a great place to ask but here goes: are there any ladies out there that want someone to go clubbing with. Been to a few in the past but mainly when I was in a relationship. Since being single I've been clubbing and don't enjoy it half as much. You end up feeling like a stalker! Anyway, what I'm looking for someone to hang with and check out some clubs I particularly want to try out Chameleon as I've heard nothing but but things.
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Also, there's a huge waiting list for single guy memberships at Chams.
Have to ask what exactly would the woman get out of this arrangement? As she already gets into most places cheaper than couples. "
Strange question that... what does anyone get out of a relationship? Do you always need a motive more than just wanting to spend time with people you get along with?
She would get to go to a club with a friend. Or get to know someone who's of a similar way of thinking. I would feel really weird and needy if I had to sweeten the deal or bribe someone to come out with me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"" Since being single I've been clubbing and don't enjoy it half as much"
I get this totally as sometimes going to a swing club isnt fun on your own, maybe look at going to some main social events that Chams do (look on the forums)
personally its why i like Flirts @xtasia as someone is always milling about
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Yeah flirts is not a bad shout. I've met some cool people at clubs but they're always in relationships so I wouldn't feel comfortable trying to get them out clubbing in their todd |
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By *ustJ0dieTV/TS
over a year ago
Burton-on-Trent |
"Prob not a great place to ask but here goes: are there any ladies out there that want someone to go clubbing with. Been to a few in the past but mainly when I was in a relationship. Since being single I've been clubbing and don't enjoy it half as much. You end up feeling like a stalker! Anyway, what I'm looking for someone to hang with and check out some clubs I particularly want to try out Chameleon as I've heard nothing but but things.
Let the flood gates of abuse open
Also, there's a huge waiting list for single guy memberships at Chams.
Have to ask what exactly would the woman get out of this arrangement? As she already gets into most places cheaper than couples.
Strange question that... what does anyone get out of a relationship? Do you always need a motive more than just wanting to spend time with people you get along with?
She would get to go to a club with a friend. Or get to know someone who's of a similar way of thinking. I would feel really weird and needy if I had to sweeten the deal or bribe someone to come out with me"
Then it's probably best to look for another partner isn't it? Rather than a club buddy? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"" Since being single I've been clubbing and don't enjoy it half as much"
I get this totally as sometimes going to a swing club isnt fun on your own, maybe look at going to some main social events that Chams do (look on the forums)
personally its why i like Flirts @xtasia as someone is always milling about
Yeah flirts is not a bad shout. I've met some cool people at clubs but they're always in relationships so I wouldn't feel comfortable trying to get them out clubbing in their todd"
depends what are you actually looking, as im confused
Club buddie or relationship
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Prob not a great place to ask but here goes: are there any ladies out there that want someone to go clubbing with. Been to a few in the past but mainly when I was in a relationship. Since being single I've been clubbing and don't enjoy it half as much. You end up feeling like a stalker! Anyway, what I'm looking for someone to hang with and check out some clubs I particularly want to try out Chameleon as I've heard nothing but but things.
Let the flood gates of abuse open
Also, there's a huge waiting list for single guy memberships at Chams.
Have to ask what exactly would the woman get out of this arrangement? As she already gets into most places cheaper than couples.
Strange question that... what does anyone get out of a relationship? Do you always need a motive more than just wanting to spend time with people you get along with?
She would get to go to a club with a friend. Or get to know someone who's of a similar way of thinking. I would feel really weird and needy if I had to sweeten the deal or bribe someone to come out with me
Then it's probably best to look for another partner isn't it? Rather than a club buddy? "
Not sure what you're trying to say here....
I can still be friends with someone I go clubbing with without them being a partner. The fact that you mentioned there having to be a reason for them to go with me probably means we are polar opposites in thinking anyway. To me spending time with people I think are cool is very important. I don't need any other reason |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Prob not a great place to ask but here goes: are there any ladies out there that want someone to go clubbing with. Been to a few in the past but mainly when I was in a relationship. Since being single I've been clubbing and don't enjoy it half as much. You end up feeling like a stalker! Anyway, what I'm looking for someone to hang with and check out some clubs I particularly want to try out Chameleon as I've heard nothing but but things.
Let the flood gates of abuse open
Also, there's a huge waiting list for single guy memberships at Chams.
Have to ask what exactly would the woman get out of this arrangement? As she already gets into most places cheaper than couples.
Strange question that... what does anyone get out of a relationship? Do you always need a motive more than just wanting to spend time with people you get along with?
She would get to go to a club with a friend. Or get to know someone who's of a similar way of thinking. I would feel really weird and needy if I had to sweeten the deal or bribe someone to come out with me
Then it's probably best to look for another partner isn't it? Rather than a club buddy?
Not sure what you're trying to say here....
I can still be friends with someone I go clubbing with without them being a partner. The fact that you mentioned there having to be a reason for them to go with me probably means we are polar opposites in thinking anyway. To me spending time with people I think are cool is very important. I don't need any other reason"
I go with a few girl friends and boy friends for this reason occasion, split the bill, split the drinks bill and taxi and hotel if needed |
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By *eeleyWoman
over a year ago
Dudley |
"Prob not a great place to ask but here goes: are there any ladies out there that want someone to go clubbing with. Been to a few in the past but mainly when I was in a relationship. Since being single I've been clubbing and don't enjoy it half as much. You end up feeling like a stalker! Anyway, what I'm looking for someone to hang with and check out some clubs I particularly want to try out Chameleon as I've heard nothing but but things.
Let the flood gates of abuse open
Also, there's a huge waiting list for single guy memberships at Chams.
Have to ask what exactly would the woman get out of this arrangement? As she already gets into most places cheaper than couples.
Strange question that... what does anyone get out of a relationship? Do you always need a motive more than just wanting to spend time with people you get along with?
She would get to go to a club with a friend. Or get to know someone who's of a similar way of thinking. I would feel really weird and needy if I had to sweeten the deal or bribe someone to come out with me
Then it's probably best to look for another partner isn't it? Rather than a club buddy?
Not sure what you're trying to say here....
I can still be friends with someone I go clubbing with without them being a partner. The fact that you mentioned there having to be a reason for them to go with me probably means we are polar opposites in thinking anyway. To me spending time with people I think are cool is very important. I don't need any other reason"
Ive messaged you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"" Since being single I've been clubbing and don't enjoy it half as much"
I get this totally as sometimes going to a swing club isnt fun on your own, maybe look at going to some main social events that Chams do (look on the forums)
personally its why i like Flirts @xtasia as someone is always milling about
Yeah flirts is not a bad shout. I've met some cool people at clubs but they're always in relationships so I wouldn't feel comfortable trying to get them out clubbing in their todd
depends what are you actually looking, as im confused
Club buddie or relationship
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Neither, either, both. Depends on their situation and how we both feel I guess. Someone open minded like me who's cool with the club scene would do. I don't like labelling things and putting pressure on myself |
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By *ustJ0dieTV/TS
over a year ago
Burton-on-Trent |
"Prob not a great place to ask but here goes: are there any ladies out there that want someone to go clubbing with. Been to a few in the past but mainly when I was in a relationship. Since being single I've been clubbing and don't enjoy it half as much. You end up feeling like a stalker! Anyway, what I'm looking for someone to hang with and check out some clubs I particularly want to try out Chameleon as I've heard nothing but but things.
Let the flood gates of abuse open
Also, there's a huge waiting list for single guy memberships at Chams.
Have to ask what exactly would the woman get out of this arrangement? As she already gets into most places cheaper than couples.
Strange question that... what does anyone get out of a relationship? Do you always need a motive more than just wanting to spend time with people you get along with?
She would get to go to a club with a friend. Or get to know someone who's of a similar way of thinking. I would feel really weird and needy if I had to sweeten the deal or bribe someone to come out with me
Then it's probably best to look for another partner isn't it? Rather than a club buddy?
Not sure what you're trying to say here....
I can still be friends with someone I go clubbing with without them being a partner. The fact that you mentioned there having to be a reason for them to go with me probably means we are polar opposites in thinking anyway. To me spending time with people I think are cool is very important. I don't need any other reason"
Not trying to get at you, just trying to understand why you are specifically looking for someone to go to clubs with, rather than in general. As it sounds like you get the best deal. Clubs are tough places for guys yes. But you're pretty fit, I imagine a single woman at a club would be interested. So probably best to carry on as normal and just try to stand out more from the wanking dead, and perhaps find one for another relationship where you both benefit. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Prob not a great place to ask but here goes: are there any ladies out there that want someone to go clubbing with. Been to a few in the past but mainly when I was in a relationship. Since being single I've been clubbing and don't enjoy it half as much. You end up feeling like a stalker! Anyway, what I'm looking for someone to hang with and check out some clubs I particularly want to try out Chameleon as I've heard nothing but but things.
Let the flood gates of abuse open
Also, there's a huge waiting list for single guy memberships at Chams.
Have to ask what exactly would the woman get out of this arrangement? As she already gets into most places cheaper than couples.
Strange question that... what does anyone get out of a relationship? Do you always need a motive more than just wanting to spend time with people you get along with?
She would get to go to a club with a friend. Or get to know someone who's of a similar way of thinking. I would feel really weird and needy if I had to sweeten the deal or bribe someone to come out with me
Then it's probably best to look for another partner isn't it? Rather than a club buddy?
Not sure what you're trying to say here....
I can still be friends with someone I go clubbing with without them being a partner. The fact that you mentioned there having to be a reason for them to go with me probably means we are polar opposites in thinking anyway. To me spending time with people I think are cool is very important. I don't need any other reason
I go with a few girl friends and boy friends for this reason occasion, split the bill, split the drinks bill and taxi and hotel if needed "
Yeah I need more mates into the scene. Would be loads more comfortable in a club if I was with mates drinking and having a laugh. Rather than feeling like a vulture waiting for a kill to fall in my lap |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Prob not a great place to ask but here goes: are there any ladies out there that want someone to go clubbing with. Been to a few in the past but mainly when I was in a relationship. Since being single I've been clubbing and don't enjoy it half as much. You end up feeling like a stalker! Anyway, what I'm looking for someone to hang with and check out some clubs I particularly want to try out Chameleon as I've heard nothing but but things.
Let the flood gates of abuse open
Also, there's a huge waiting list for single guy memberships at Chams.
Have to ask what exactly would the woman get out of this arrangement? As she already gets into most places cheaper than couples.
Strange question that... what does anyone get out of a relationship? Do you always need a motive more than just wanting to spend time with people you get along with?
She would get to go to a club with a friend. Or get to know someone who's of a similar way of thinking. I would feel really weird and needy if I had to sweeten the deal or bribe someone to come out with me
Then it's probably best to look for another partner isn't it? Rather than a club buddy?
Not sure what you're trying to say here....
I can still be friends with someone I go clubbing with without them being a partner. The fact that you mentioned there having to be a reason for them to go with me probably means we are polar opposites in thinking anyway. To me spending time with people I think are cool is very important. I don't need any other reason
Not trying to get at you, just trying to understand why you are specifically looking for someone to go to clubs with, rather than in general. As it sounds like you get the best deal. Clubs are tough places for guys yes. But you're pretty fit, I imagine a single woman at a club would be interested. So probably best to carry on as normal and just try to stand out more from the wanking dead, and perhaps find one for another relationship where you both benefit. "
Ahh right, sorry if I came across a bit snappy. So used to getting stick on here I thought I was being lined up for an attack... plus I feel like I'm banging my head against a brick wall at time meeting nice girls in normal clubs, that have no interest in swinging, or swingers that are in relationships. Think I need some stress relief
Anyway, thanks! I think you're right and I just need to get amongst it more. So easy to lose faith on here because of the constant rejections. |
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"Prob not a great place to ask but here goes: are there any ladies out there that want someone to go clubbing with. Been to a few in the past but mainly when I was in a relationship. Since being single I've been clubbing and don't enjoy it half as much. You end up feeling like a stalker! Anyway, what I'm looking for someone to hang with and check out some clubs I particularly want to try out Chameleon as I've heard nothing but but things.
Let the flood gates of abuse open
Also, there's a huge waiting list for single guy memberships at Chams.
Have to ask what exactly would the woman get out of this arrangement? As she already gets into most places cheaper than couples. "
The average single female entry fee is 57p with £10 cashback isn't it?  |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
Stoke area |
From a ladies point of you...
I go to a club free or quiet cheap. I have a chat, dance and see if I connect with anyone in the club. If I do, I pounce and whisk them off to have some fun.
I go to a club with a chap as a club buddy. We go in as a couple. I get along ok with him and maybe some fun with him....but he cramps my style. I can't wander about and flirt as a single woman. I can't really get to know other single men, as I am keeping the club buddy company.
This is ok if you have a close relationship with someone and love to go to club's as a couple. But a single woman won't want to have her wings clipped.. ..just so that you have more chance of getting lucky !!!! |
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