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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi all,
We're arranging an event in the next few months (not for profit, just because we're downright sinful buggers ha!) and realise that not everyone we invite will be able to attend obviously. Plus as it will take the theme of a satanic ritual, complete with bi fun, the staged "forced taking" of a nun, communion, w/s, d/s, plenty will be horny at being asked if they want to attend when they've had a few bottles of dutch courage then get cold feet later down the line?
Basically it's tricky to invite the right number of people to accurately estimate the numbers attending? So we just thought we'd ask if anyone who's organised get-togethers before has an idea of how many people you have to invite to get a rough number of people actually turning up? Is there a general ratio for the number who will either have unavoidable circumstances or just shit themselves when the date arrives?
Any advice is very gratefully received! 
I&S
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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago
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Hello
I'd say as a rule of thumb invite or rather allow 10% extra on your guest list as many will drop out.
If there is a contribution to be made get it sent via bank transfer or PayPal before. Even £5-10 deposit so you aren't left out of pocket. Plus it means those who have parted with cash are more likely to turn up.
Don't be bullied into allowing people on guest list. I check veris and activity and monitor statuses to see if they come across like a right plum.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all,
We're arranging an event in the next few months (not for profit, just because we're downright sinful buggers ha!) and realise that not everyone we invite will be able to attend obviously. Plus as it will take the theme of a satanic ritual, complete with bi fun, the staged "forced taking" of a nun, communion, w/s, d/s, plenty will be horny at being asked if they want to attend when they've had a few bottles of dutch courage then get cold feet later down the line?
Basically it's tricky to invite the right number of people to accurately estimate the numbers attending? So we just thought we'd ask if anyone who's organised get-togethers before has an idea of how many people you have to invite to get a rough number of people actually turning up? Is there a general ratio for the number who will either have unavoidable circumstances or just shit themselves when the date arrives?
Any advice is very gratefully received!
I&S
xx"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Varying advice there! 
But thank you very much, your feedback is very greatly appreciated! We'll certainly take it on board and hopefully get the numbers near enough right for what promises to be one HELL of a night!  |
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By *arlo82Couple
over a year ago
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"Hi all,
We're arranging an event in the next few months (not for profit, just because we're downright sinful buggers ha!) and realise that not everyone we invite will be able to attend obviously. Plus as it will take the theme of a satanic ritual, complete with bi fun, the staged "forced taking" of a nun, communion, w/s, d/s, plenty will be horny at being asked if they want to attend when they've had a few bottles of dutch courage then get cold feet later down the line?
Basically it's tricky to invite the right number of people to accurately estimate the numbers attending? So we just thought we'd ask if anyone who's organised get-togethers before has an idea of how many people you have to invite to get a rough number of people actually turning up? Is there a general ratio for the number who will either have unavoidable circumstances or just shit themselves when the date arrives?
Any advice is very gratefully received!
I&S
xxinvite 263 and if you're lucky 30 will show "
Not always the case. Last one I hosted 110 from 138 showed up |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Why not just start with a small gathering. And when you have more veris then plan something bigger. "
Depends what you mean by "small" as I think this may qualify (compared to Darlo's social this event certainly is), which you would expect with more of a more sinful "niche" feel to it? For the rituals and unspeakably wicked acts we wish to indulge in we require a guest list of between around a dozen and 20 I think (and roughly similar amounts of each sex) dependant upon the actual size of the premises which I shall be viewing tomorrow?
So far we have 6 who've declared themselves "definites" split with 3 of each gender with more possible attendees, so thought it right to guage opinion here first, thanks! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Because of the specific theme it isn't just a case of numbers. You really need to identify the right type which will involve plenty of delving.
Because there is no real area on the site where this particularly sits it's going to be difficult to locate like-minded souls. You will get no end of chancers putting themselves forward regardless of the theme/scenario.
Maybe put together a small questionnaire for ing purposes?
Great idea btw! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Because of the specific theme it isn't just a case of numbers. You really need to identify the right type which will involve plenty of delving.
Because there is no real area on the site where this particularly sits it's going to be difficult to locate like-minded souls. You will get no end of chancers putting themselves forward regardless of the theme/scenario.
Maybe put together a small questionnaire for ing purposes?
Great idea btw!"
Aw, thanks guys!
You're right about the delving, we are only searching for those who like to partake in the various indulgencies that will be involved during the evening of utter debauchery and basing our search on those parameters?
So far our search is working at least, but you're right about it needing to be thorough! The questionaire idea is a very good one though, would this be suitable?
- Would you and your partner if you have one have what you would think is a sense of adventure?
- Does the thought of indulging in acts that are declared taboo by the mainstream secretly (or not so secretly) make you aroused?
-Do you enjoy a feeling of delightful wickedness often during sex?
-Do you (and partner if appropriate) enjoy indulging in the following; Dom/sub play, mutual masturbation, exhibitionism, cos play, oral chains, group fun, role play, watersports and playfully bi fun (curious perhaps, don't need to be fully bi)
-Do you have a sense of mischief and are definitely no shrinking violet?
Incidently we couldn't help but notice that you both fit MOST of these requirements ha!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Because of the specific theme it isn't just a case of numbers. You really need to identify the right type which will involve plenty of delving.
Because there is no real area on the site where this particularly sits it's going to be difficult to locate like-minded souls. You will get no end of chancers putting themselves forward regardless of the theme/scenario.
Maybe put together a small questionnaire for ing purposes?
Great idea btw!
Aw, thanks guys!
You're right about the delving, we are only searching for those who like to partake in the various indulgencies that will be involved during the evening of utter debauchery and basing our search on those parameters?
So far our search is working at least, but you're right about it needing to be thorough! The questionaire idea is a very good one though, would this be suitable?
- Would you and your partner if you have one have what you would think is a sense of adventure?
- Does the thought of indulging in acts that are declared taboo by the mainstream secretly (or not so secretly) make you aroused?
-Do you enjoy a feeling of delightful wickedness often during sex?
-Do you (and partner if appropriate) enjoy indulging in the following; Dom/sub play, mutual masturbation, exhibitionism, cos play, oral chains, group fun, role play, watersports and playfully bi fun (curious perhaps, don't need to be fully bi)
-Do you have a sense of mischief and are definitely no shrinking violet?
Incidently we couldn't help but notice that you both fit MOST of these requirements ha!
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Wouldn't make them yes/no questions as any chancers will just say yes if there's a chance of getting their end away. You need to align your questions with your vision of the meet and fellow participants.
Yeah, we like delving deeper! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Because of the specific theme it isn't just a case of numbers. You really need to identify the right type which will involve plenty of delving.
Because there is no real area on the site where this particularly sits it's going to be difficult to locate like-minded souls. You will get no end of chancers putting themselves forward regardless of the theme/scenario.
Maybe put together a small questionnaire for ing purposes?
Great idea btw!
Aw, thanks guys!
You're right about the delving, we are only searching for those who like to partake in the various indulgencies that will be involved during the evening of utter debauchery and basing our search on those parameters?
So far our search is working at least, but you're right about it needing to be thorough! The questionaire idea is a very good one though, would this be suitable?
- Would you and your partner if you have one have what you would think is a sense of adventure?
- Does the thought of indulging in acts that are declared taboo by the mainstream secretly (or not so secretly) make you aroused?
-Do you enjoy a feeling of delightful wickedness often during sex?
-Do you (and partner if appropriate) enjoy indulging in the following; Dom/sub play, mutual masturbation, exhibitionism, cos play, oral chains, group fun, role play, watersports and playfully bi fun (curious perhaps, don't need to be fully bi)
-Do you have a sense of mischief and are definitely no shrinking violet?
Incidently we couldn't help but notice that you both fit MOST of these requirements ha!
Wouldn't make them yes/no questions as any chancers will just say yes if there's a chance of getting their end away. You need to align your questions with your vision of the meet and fellow participants.
Yeah, we like delving deeper!"
Points taken on board guys! Both of them.. |
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Many will talk the talk, but how many turn up will depend on a number of factors.
Location... if its easy to find/get to, with good free (secure) parking then that's a big plus.
Travel time... linked with the above point, you'd be surprised how many will baulk at traveling for just a sort time.
Day/date... its becoming less of an issue as more people move away from traditional (9-5 mon - fri) working, but picking the right day/night of the week can make a big difference.
New / unknown hosts... many parties/events fail because they just don't have the network of contacts/friends/playmates to get that all-important first party off the ground... however, roping in one or two "known players" to help spread the word can often pay off.
Ambition... trying too hard to be something that you cant deliver will kill an event dead. Most just want to turn up, drink, socialise and play, sometimes anything else is just a distraction. Start small and build.
Security... no-one wants to get noticed by the wrong people, so this is something to consider.
Vetting... linked with security, vet the potential attendees, make sure they are at least play verified to prevent unwanted "strangers".
Ultimately, your catchment area will be a big decider, if you are holding an event/party in a densely populated area with a high number of swinger venues, then there is a good chance of success, the market dictates that those venues must have a regular clientele, which means a high number of real swingers who will be interested.
From personal experience, invite 100 for 25 to turn up, but cater for 40 just in case lol!
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hi all,
We're arranging an event in the next few months (not for profit, just because we're downright sinful buggers ha!) and realise that not everyone we invite will be able to attend obviously. Plus as it will take the theme of a satanic ritual, complete with bi fun, the staged "forced taking" of a nun, communion, w/s, d/s, plenty will be horny at being asked if they want to attend when they've had a few bottles of dutch courage then get cold feet later down the line?
Basically it's tricky to invite the right number of people to accurately estimate the numbers attending? So we just thought we'd ask if anyone who's organised get-togethers before has an idea of how many people you have to invite to get a rough number of people actually turning up? Is there a general ratio for the number who will either have unavoidable circumstances or just shit themselves when the date arrives?
Any advice is very gratefully received!
I&S
xxinvite 263 and if you're lucky 30 will show
Not always the case. Last one I hosted 110 from 138 showed up "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I have run two small events. One time 8 out of 12 turned up. One time 1 out of 16 turned up. Exactly the same set up etc.
No idea how to work that out .
Good luck. "
Sounds like we'll need it! We've got a provisional date of 23rd March set for it as the venue is (for now at least!) still free on that friday, indeed it's the only friday left which we can make it that the place is still vacant!
Already we've had one couple not available on that date, and they're good friends with another couple that for now are attending too so it's trickier than first thought!
From experience are we best relying more on searching for and messaging people, relying on those attending recommending others or slapping an event up in the relevant forum? |
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By *izzy.Woman
over a year ago
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"I have run two small events. One time 8 out of 12 turned up. One time 1 out of 16 turned up. Exactly the same set up etc.
No idea how to work that out .
Good luck.
Sounds like we'll need it! We've got a provisional date of 23rd March set for it as the venue is (for now at least!) still free on that friday, indeed it's the only friday left which we can make it that the place is still vacant!
Already we've had one couple not available on that date, and they're good friends with another couple that for now are attending too so it's trickier than first thought!
From experience are we best relying more on searching for and messaging people, relying on those attending recommending others or slapping an event up in the relevant forum?"
Put an event on a forum, message people you know. Ask them to mention it to people they know. It depends what sort of numbers you are hoping for.
I don't pay to hire a room . There are pubs with free function rooms I use. I don't publicise the name of the venue, so people have to message me. That way I don't get lots of unexpected people turning up. I also usually have a rough idea who will attend, as I message then 2 days before to give final information.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I have run two small events. One time 8 out of 12 turned up. One time 1 out of 16 turned up. Exactly the same set up etc.
No idea how to work that out .
Good luck.
Sounds like we'll need it! We've got a provisional date of 23rd March set for it as the venue is (for now at least!) still free on that friday, indeed it's the only friday left which we can make it that the place is still vacant!
Already we've had one couple not available on that date, and they're good friends with another couple that for now are attending too so it's trickier than first thought!
From experience are we best relying more on searching for and messaging people, relying on those attending recommending others or slapping an event up in the relevant forum?
Put an event on a forum, message people you know. Ask them to mention it to people they know. It depends what sort of numbers you are hoping for.
I don't pay to hire a room . There are pubs with free function rooms I use. I don't publicise the name of the venue, so people have to message me. That way I don't get lots of unexpected people turning up. I also usually have a rough idea who will attend, as I message then 2 days before to give final information.
Good luck. "
Many thanks, we shall put an event post with more details of the ceremony up today!
We're not revealing the venue itself till closer to the time, just the rough location and nature of the venue to help those with travel plans and "getting a feel for it" as it were?
Pub function rooms whilst perfect for a social are probably completely out, given the nature of the event ha! 
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