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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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can someone tell me why, someone would chat and flirt in the chat applett ask for a pic, say "oooh yes" then ask for an email to be sent, i send one back and say yes im interested only for that person to turn round and say "sorry i dont do black guys even though im asian and not black"
is that timewasting or is that timewasting, fair enough she dont to coloured gents thats just preference theres plenty asian and black women that only do black and asian and why dont she put it in her profile to say that she dont do coloured guys.
the user in question should be banned imo.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is a lose lose situation.
If a person who puts they donot meet coloured people in thier profile, then get mail from people who think they are racist.
move on. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It is a lose lose situation.
If a person who puts they donot meet coloured people in thier profile, then get mail from people who think they are racist.
move on."
no it doesnt, not at all, its preference nothing racist about it, there are a few ive seen where they have put white guys only or black guys only etc. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Its a preference and we all have them not a bannable offence really
and certainly not what I would call timewasting
She turned you down with a reason and you have to accept that and move on or else you'll be tearing your hair out pretty damn quickly on here  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Its a preference and we all have them not a bannable offence really
and certainly not what I would call timewasting
She turned you down with a reason and you have to accept that and move on or else you'll be tearing your hair out pretty damn quickly on here "
yes but why not just say that in the first place with a polite email instead of looking at my profile clearly says im asian then saying yes shes interested ping ponging email game and then saying she dont coloured guys wtf dont u think thats a little daft. |
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Chances are it just wasnt you she was looking for and the excuse/reason she gave seemed as reasonable as any other to her at the time...
...would you have been more or less upset if she had said "it's cos you is ugly"? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its a preference and we all have them not a bannable offence really
and certainly not what I would call timewasting
She turned you down with a reason and you have to accept that and move on or else you'll be tearing your hair out pretty damn quickly on here
yes but why not just say that in the first place with a polite email instead of looking at my profile clearly says im asian then saying yes shes interested ping ponging email game and then saying she dont coloured guys wtf dont u think thats a little daft."
Daft but not bannable,plenty of weird,daft and wonderful people on here
Don't stress about it though,just move on |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Chances are it just wasnt you she was looking for and the excuse/reason she gave seemed as reasonable as any other to her at the time...
...would you have been more or less upset if she had said "it's cos you is ugly"?"
course not theres a certain way to do it more appropriate to say "sorry your not what im looking for so im going to have to say no good luck in your search"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I do agree to some extent, I would rather hear the real reason than an excuse... that said, it happened, so no point worrying.... It may happen when you've spoken to them much longer than that and be even more disappointing, but still nothing you can do, and certainly no reason to ban whatsoever. |
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In many areas of life, not just on here, people find it hard to give someone notice of a rejection - whether it's i don't want to meet you for sex, you didnt get the job, i don't want to buy your car etc etc.
The fact is that most people feel bad about saying no to anyone no matter what the reason, most people don't do it that often and so it can come across as cold, rude or arrogant when it really wasnt meant to.
The problem with rejection on here is it's hard not to take it personally, but if you're going be put yourself out there on a site like this you have to take the bad with the good - and don't forget, when the good happens, it's pretty damned good and you will soon forget about the crap rejections!
Just my 2p worth. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In many areas of life, not just on here, people find it hard to give someone notice of a rejection - whether it's i don't want to meet you for sex, you didnt get the job, i don't want to buy your car etc etc.
The fact is that most people feel bad about saying no to anyone no matter what the reason, most people don't do it that often and so it can come across as cold, rude or arrogant when it really wasnt meant to.
The problem with rejection on here is it's hard not to take it personally, but if you're going be put yourself out there on a site like this you have to take the bad with the good - and don't forget, when the good happens, it's pretty damned good and you will soon forget about the crap rejections!
Just my 2p worth."
missing the point though chaps, if she wasnt interested in the first place why would you go and ask for a pic see it say nice ask for an email send a pic back then say your not interested in blacks wtf its stupid, nothing wrong with rejection i can take it but not when ive gone to the effort of chatting with someone sending emails to and fro and then being told its come to nothing.
the rejection is not the problem, the problem is being messed around. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know exactly what you mean. After all .... the stringent test to be able to be a member here. I never thought I'd pass. Interview after interview. All the written exams..... sigh. The etiquette test was the most difficult. Mind you ..... i'm lucky ....with an i.q of 150 and an absolutely water tight breeding pedigree i'm in. My friend tho ... different kettle of fish. She failed the aural manners element. She's gutted. I ALWAYS know exactly what to say in response to people I don't want sex with and i'm sure everyone else here has exactly the same opportunity to do so. They just choose not to. Bastards.... find them ... kill them .... skin them first.... above all spend the rest of the day thinking about them. Do nothing until you've written it on a forum posting and spent all day reading responses you don't agree with ... We ALL know all the members here are social geniuses ( genius' / geni ? fukkit I failed pluralisation) and respond badly in spite!!! Gits.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In many areas of life, not just on here, people find it hard to give someone notice of a rejection - whether it's i don't want to meet you for sex, you didnt get the job, i don't want to buy your car etc etc.
The fact is that most people feel bad about saying no to anyone no matter what the reason, most people don't do it that often and so it can come across as cold, rude or arrogant when it really wasnt meant to.
The problem with rejection on here is it's hard not to take it personally, but if you're going be put yourself out there on a site like this you have to take the bad with the good - and don't forget, when the good happens, it's pretty damned good and you will soon forget about the crap rejections!
Just my 2p worth.
missing the point though chaps, if she wasnt interested in the first place why would you go and ask for a pic see it say nice ask for an email send a pic back then say your not interested in blacks wtf its stupid, nothing wrong with rejection i can take it but not when ive gone to the effort of chatting with someone sending emails to and fro and then being told its come to nothing.
the rejection is not the problem, the problem is being messed around."
Oh im beginning to wonder if you're gonna get on in here at all now,which is a shame as I thought your introduction post was really nice
If you think that you have been messed about because someone saw a pic of you and for whatever reason did'nt want to take it any further then you will have nothing but stress from being on here
Just move on and chat to someone else,it won't be the last time you chat to someone and nothing comes of it
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By *ugby 123Couple
over a year ago
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"In many areas of life, not just on here, people find it hard to give someone notice of a rejection - whether it's i don't want to meet you for sex, you didnt get the job, i don't want to buy your car etc etc.
The fact is that most people feel bad about saying no to anyone no matter what the reason, most people don't do it that often and so it can come across as cold, rude or arrogant when it really wasnt meant to.
The problem with rejection on here is it's hard not to take it personally, but if you're going be put yourself out there on a site like this you have to take the bad with the good - and don't forget, when the good happens, it's pretty damned good and you will soon forget about the crap rejections!
Just my 2p worth.
missing the point though chaps, if she wasnt interested in the first place why would you go and ask for a pic see it say nice ask for an email send a pic back then say your not interested in blacks wtf its stupid, nothing wrong with rejection i can take it but not when ive gone to the effort of chatting with someone sending emails to and fro and then being told its come to nothing.
the rejection is not the problem, the problem is being messed around."
I can see what you are getting at, it isn't the rejection, just the fact if the person knew she wasn't into asian or black guys, why not just say no thanks at the beginning?
I can understand your frustration, but as others have said, we will never know why some people do certain things.
It isn't a bannable offence though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In many areas of life, not just on here, people find it hard to give someone notice of a rejection - whether it's i don't want to meet you for sex, you didnt get the job, i don't want to buy your car etc etc.
The fact is that most people feel bad about saying no to anyone no matter what the reason, most people don't do it that often and so it can come across as cold, rude or arrogant when it really wasnt meant to.
The problem with rejection on here is it's hard not to take it personally, but if you're going be put yourself out there on a site like this you have to take the bad with the good - and don't forget, when the good happens, it's pretty damned good and you will soon forget about the crap rejections!
Just my 2p worth.
missing the point though chaps, if she wasnt interested in the first place why would you go and ask for a pic see it say nice ask for an email send a pic back then say your not interested in blacks wtf its stupid, nothing wrong with rejection i can take it but not when ive gone to the effort of chatting with someone sending emails to and fro and then being told its come to nothing.
the rejection is not the problem, the problem is being messed around.
I can see what you are getting at, it isn't the rejection, just the fact if the person knew she wasn't into asian or black guys, why not just say no thanks at the beginning?
I can understand your frustration, but as others have said, we will never know why some people do certain things.
It isn't a bannable offence though."
thank you very much, hit the nail on the head, but anyway end of subject i will put it behind me.
thanks all for comments. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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ive encountered my fair share of timewasters - the way i think you sieve out the timewasters is:
if theyve looked at your profile and they like the pics and like the content of your profile
you should have no problems - with u asking(very nicely)for their contact details and then a further chat and arranging a possible meet
ive noticed timewasters like to do the email ping pong |
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I only wish people knew what they wanted and could be more positive in giving you a chance; the verification that this website filter for our benefit is great, members should feel more relaxed and in any case further verifications by means of web cam and phone is also appreciated, but why so many people want to see so many photos of you…. we are not all porno stars! It comes to a point when someone has to take the plunge and go for it, after all that is the only way to find out!!?? |
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It says timewaster 1.......does that mean we're going to hear about number 2,3,4 and so on 