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Single Asian guy in swingers club???
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Always wanted to join a club but not sure how welcome a single Asian guy would be.. I'm in the Midlands area ideally would like q girl to go with as better in a couple.. I get put off seeing the statuses on here saying no Asians so was wondering what the club scene was like.. your thoughts please would be helpful |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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have thought of going by myself but I'd stick out like a sore thumb I keep thinking id be the only Asian guy there have a feeling it would be uncomfortable on my own.. better if I have company as I walk in don't u think? |
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" have thought of going by myself but I'd stick out like a sore thumb I keep thinking id be the only Asian guy there have a feeling it would be uncomfortable on my own.. better if I have company as I walk in don't u think?"
What does the woman get out of accompanying you? |
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" have thought of going by myself but I'd stick out like a sore thumb I keep thinking id be the only Asian guy there have a feeling it would be uncomfortable on my own.. better if I have company as I walk in don't u think?"
Why would it matter if you were the only Asian guy there? I’ve met some lovely Asian guys in clubs in the past that have joined me and a partner or other play partners.
So long as you are polite and courteous and read the club rules you’ll be fine. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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" have thought of going by myself but I'd stick out like a sore thumb I keep thinking id be the only Asian guy there have a feeling it would be uncomfortable on my own.. better if I have company as I walk in don't u think?
What does the woman get out of accompanying you? "
Exactly. Grow a pair OP  |
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By *os19Man
over a year ago
Edmonton |
I am Greek but have been told I look Indian I have been to clubs , events , parties by my self generally most have been ok with me the way I see it it's about been good mannered , been social and respecting the fact you may not be what someone is looking for.I go with the attitude of having a nice pleasant evening and anything more is a bonus. |
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"All costs covered and some sexy company and she can have a good time an play 2 "
Women usually have free entry to clubs, the freedom to pick somebody they are attracted to and dont have to babysit a scared newbie. Nothing attractive about going to a club with you I'm afraid. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Im not scared lol yes a newbie but once I'm naked I'm more than confident lol.. an it's very highly priced for single blokes hence another reason to find a tag partner anyways thanks to all for the advice |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im not scared lol yes a newbie but once I'm naked I'm more than confident lol.. an it's very highly priced for single blokes hence another reason to find a tag partner anyways thanks to all for the advice "
and you think women will leap at the chance to get you in cheap? why would they? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"There might be some single ladies who need the company or maybe scared to go on there own?? Anyways ta "
on many threads on this subject most women seem to say if they wanted a companion,they could ask another woman, rather than a man they don't know who's just trying to get in cheap. |
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"Im not scared lol yes a newbie but once I'm naked I'm more than confident lol.. an it's very highly priced for single blokes hence another reason to find a tag partner anyways thanks to all for the advice "
So using the woman to get in cheap? It just gets better.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im not scared lol yes a newbie but once I'm naked I'm more than confident lol.. an it's very highly priced for single blokes hence another reason to find a tag partner anyways thanks to all for the advice "
the nail firmly hit on the head with this post |
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By *ucy83SOWoman
over a year ago
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If you go to either of the clubs you’ve mentioned it’s unlikely you’d be the only Asian man in them, been to both and it’s usually a good mix of people.
Just be polite and talk to people, you’ll find most people in clubs are happy to chat.
Yes it’s expensive to go as a single male, but looking in the socials section here and both clubs tend to have regular nights for Fab members so that might be a good option x |
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I’ll only ever go to a club with someone I know, like and want to share an experience with - for example we want to try an MMF or play together with a couple. I’m not in the business of getting someone in so they can try a club for the first time, very little in that for me. |
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By *tonMessCouple
over a year ago
Slough Windsor ish |
On the whole you will find most people at a club will be very friendly and accepting of all. Part of the ethos of the swinging lifestyle is to be tolerant and open minded which generally means any racist bigots quickly find alternative means of entertainment.
You cannot however change somebodys preference.
Just be polite and friendly and go with an open mind. |
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It will be frowned upon at some places if you attend as a couple and then seperate and become singles. Especially if they only allow a certain number of single guys in. Or even if its a couples only night. |
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"Always wanted to join a club but not sure how welcome a single Asian guy would be.. I'm in the Midlands area ideally would like q girl to go with as better in a couple.. I get put off seeing the statuses on here saying no Asians so was wondering what the club scene was like.. your thoughts please would be helpful "
First of all if you were thinking of Chams it would be best to contact them first to make sure you’d get membership as there maybe a waiting list for single guys.
As for statuses saying no Asians then it maybe from past experiences. I’m a single female and have that on my profile but it’s because when I’ve been to a club I’ve found Asians to think just because I’m on my own they can take advantage and think I will just jump into a private room with them. I know that some Asians are completely the opposite but you get the few that spoil it for the others. Outside of the swingers scene I have lots of Asian friends male and female. |
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I am an Asian myself. Although quite stereotype. I absolutely understand statuses staying "no Asian".
In general Asians are bit pushy. But of course not all. I am speaking from my own experience in clubs. As I saw how other Asian guys behaved.
It's just a shame that we all are put into the same category sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Always wanted to join a club but not sure how welcome a single Asian guy would be.. I'm in the Midlands area ideally would like q girl to go with as better in a couple.. I get put off seeing the statuses on here saying no Asians so was wondering what the club scene was like.. your thoughts please would be helpful "
You see status messages expressing all sorts of preferences. That includes, no whites, BBC only. You need to have condfidence in yourself and get on with it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Im not scared lol yes a newbie but once I'm naked I'm more than confident lol.. an it's very highly priced for single blokes hence another reason to find a tag partner anyways thanks to all for the advice the nail firmly hit on the head with this post "
Well he's honest at least, no one can argue otherwise... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Don't worry about being Asian in a club, worry about your conduct while in the club. Others have told you they don't mind playing with Asian guys provided they like the person. Being a single guy in a club can be hard but being respectful and non pushy goes a hell of a long way, just don't be one of the sheep who just follow couples and singles ladies around, when watching give the players space don't stand in their space with cock in hand, who knows you may be invited to play. Lastly don't just assume it's ok to touch even when getting on with the other party(s). |
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I would say here in general much of stereotyping!!!
I been lived in Scandinavia for long period of time, when ever I go to swinger club I am one of the wanted personally because I look completely different from rest of the guys.
But here different cultural background people but still with biased generalization which I found it strange.
Putting stamp on me this cultural background guy should be under one particular box !!! This is really hurtful, people are traveling all around the world so they are adopting multicultural environment.
I really miss my center of attraction which I got from Scandinavia !!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Never let other people stop you from doing something you want to do!
Go to a club! Socialise and have fun! You'll be surprised how well received a chatty confident single guy can be...regardless of your race  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Piece o’ cake...!
I’ve been a few times to various clubs - a smile and warm attitude is all you need to take with you.
Try social events first perhaps, develop some relationships, maybe even some friendships. |
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