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"Nope I’m the same I’m been polite still get no where most can’t even be arsed to read your message "
Tell me now. Are you attracted to profiles with as little detail and photos of what you look like, as yours displays?
When I get messages from people with little or next to nothing I think, well if they can’t be arsed to show what they look like and describe properly who they are and what they are looking for, I frankly can’t be arsed to message back.
I think that’s fair enough. |
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^ it’s not hard to show a good likeness of yourself. We haven’t done any blatant shots that could identify us, but you can get a pretty good impression from head to toe, back and front what we both look like.
Neither of you two have bothered to do that. Then there’s the profile text..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Mostly it’s just down to numbers. You’re one guy amongst thousands. It’s very hard to get anyone’s attention.
All you can do is ensure your profile is interesting and tailor your messages to the person you’re interested in.
If I receive a message that’s been sent to lots of women, I can spot it a mile off.
It takes longer to do individual messages but they are far more likely to get s result.
Good luck x |
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"Nope I’m the same I’m been polite still get no where most can’t even be arsed to read your message
Tell me now. Are you attracted to profiles with as little detail and photos of what you look like, as yours displays?
When I get messages from people with little or next to nothing I think, well if they can’t be arsed to show what they look like and describe properly who they are and what they are looking for, I frankly can’t be arsed to message back.
I think that’s fair enough. "
Have you guys actually had a look at your profiles ???? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope I’m the same I’m been polite still get no where most can’t even be arsed to read your message "
HAHAHA.
When will men on here realise that women here are not OBLIGATED to read, reply, or even fuck you!
Shock horror! x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Also posting negative status updates on your profile.
Cmon! If you were having problems before, do you think adding stroppy comments is going to help  "
That’s so true |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i dont know what im doing wrong or is it im just not for this place?"
Are you going to post the same thing every two days? Your time might be better spent... |
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"Nope I’m the same I’m been polite still get no where most can’t even be arsed to read your message
HAHAHA.
When will men on here realise that women here are not OBLIGATED to read, reply, or even fuck you!
Shock horror! x"
OMG yesssss !!! |
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"i dont know what im doing wrong or is it im just not for this place?
Are you going to post the same thing every two days? Your time might be better spent..."
Lol didn’t see that.
I honestly think guys who can’t be bothered to make an effort, moan and never take advice are better suited to escort sites.
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"i dont know what im doing wrong or is it im just not for this place?"
You posted a similar thing a few days ago. Complaining and whinging on the forums about no replys and no meets won't help the situation. It'll make it worse.
You may want to rethink what you expected the site to be. By the sounds of it you expected to sign up and have your pick of the women. |
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"i dont know what im doing wrong or is it im just not for this place?"
What are you expecting from this site... no offence fella, people dont like woa its me people who keep posting about lack of dates.
Chin up and good luck. |
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"i dont know what im doing wrong or is it im just not for this place?"
Harsh truth time.
The reason you are not getting anywhere are as follows.
1. You are looking for couples and women. There are about five men for every couple and seventeen men for every woman. It follows that most men won't get meets and only those who stand out will.
2. Nothing about your profile stands out. It's pretty generic if not below average.
3. Personal, I know but there's no way round it. You are below average height for a man. Most women want average or above average guys when it comes to height.
4. You can't accommodate. Not only does that put you at a practical disadvantage with men who can, but many will suspect you have a partner at home.
5. You have a moany status update. Women hate that.
So, yes you probably are wasting your time here. Best solution is get to a club and talk to people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just chill and stop stressing one day you will message the right person.And another tip dont just message everyone in your area make sure that the person you message is looking for the sort of person you are. |
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I'm no oil painting.. or ripped gym bunny.. but take a look at my profile and compare it to yours. Again, it's not perfect by any means, probably puts many people off..
But the women it does attract tent to be quite nice people with a sense of humour.
Think about what you want, then how to attract the people you want.
Read their profile and see if you match, if you don't think you will, don't bother. If there's a chance, send them a message based on something that attracts you to them.
It takes a while to get used to Fab, which is why people who've been on a bit, tend to give new people some breathing space.
Read and digest the comments above.. it's all good advice. If you don't like that advice, question if Fab is the place for you. |
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"i dont know what im doing wrong or is it im just not for this place?
Harsh truth time.
The reason you are not getting anywhere are as follows.
1. You are looking for couples and women. There are about five men for every couple and seventeen men for every woman. It follows that most men won't get meets and only those who stand out will.
2. Nothing about your profile stands out. It's pretty generic if not below average.
3. Personal, I know but there's no way round it. You are below average height for a man. Most women want average or above average guys when it comes to height.
4. You can't accommodate. Not only does that put you at a practical disadvantage with men who can, but many will suspect you have a partner at home.
5. You have a moany status update. Women hate that.
So, yes you probably are wasting your time here. Best solution is get to a club and talk to people. "
Number 1. is waaaaaay off  try adding two 0's on the end of the single male figures |
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"Nope I’m the same I’m been polite still get no where most can’t even be arsed to read your message
Tell me now. Are you attracted to profiles with as little detail and photos of what you look like, as yours displays?
When I get messages from people with little or next to nothing I think, well if they can’t be arsed to show what they look like and describe properly who they are and what they are looking for, I frankly can’t be arsed to message back.
I think that’s fair enough. "
Well said
Sick of these "i can't get a shag" posts
If every man done it there would be no room on the forum for interesting stuff lol |
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"Nope I’m the same I’m been polite still get no where most can’t even be arsed to read your message
Tell me now. Are you attracted to profiles with as little detail and photos of what you look like, as yours displays?
When I get messages from people with little or next to nothing I think, well if they can’t be arsed to show what they look like and describe properly who they are and what they are looking for, I frankly can’t be arsed to message back.
I think that’s fair enough.
Well said
Sick of these "i can't get a shag" posts
If every man done it there would be no room on the forum for interesting stuff lol"
Pretty sure most of us have done it at some point.. I did. Took on-board what everyone said. Met one or two, confidence soared.. now I actually know what i like and how to find it.. thanks to people who took the time to help me out.. |
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"I'm no oil painting.. or ripped gym bunny.. but take a look at my profile and compare it to yours. Again, it's not perfect by any means, probably puts many people off..
But the women it does attract tent to be quite nice people with a sense of humour.
Think about what you want, then how to attract the people you want.
Read their profile and see if you match, if you don't think you will, don't bother. If there's a chance, send them a message based on something that attracts you to them.
It takes a while to get used to Fab, which is why people who've been on a bit, tend to give new people some breathing space.
Read and digest the comments above.. it's all good advice. If you don't like that advice, question if Fab is the place for you."
Best profile I have seen! Shame about the face fuzz, but not an issue if you do me from behind in chams some time! |
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"I'm no oil painting.. or ripped gym bunny.. but take a look at my profile and compare it to yours. Again, it's not perfect by any means, probably puts many people off..
But the women it does attract tent to be quite nice people with a sense of humour.
Think about what you want, then how to attract the people you want.
Read their profile and see if you match, if you don't think you will, don't bother. If there's a chance, send them a message based on something that attracts you to them.
It takes a while to get used to Fab, which is why people who've been on a bit, tend to give new people some breathing space.
Read and digest the comments above.. it's all good advice. If you don't like that advice, question if Fab is the place for you.
Best profile I have seen! Shame about the face fuzz, but not an issue if you do me from behind in chams some time!"
Thankyou for the compliment, I'm rather attached to the face fuzz though.. and.. I'm unlikely to see you in Chams unless another woman has invited me to open a membership with her, in which case she will probably have my undivided attention
I'm not paying to go into Chams, not as a single male.
But thankyou |
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By (user no longer on site)
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You get out what you put in fella
I go in the forums then pick out couples and message them
Then I read veris ..a couple leave guy a veri ....Read the guys veris from couples as you know they meet single guys and message the said couples
Browse the browse section daily and the meets and events regular .
Send winks . There harmless and show your interested ....
Works for me .... |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm no oil painting.. or ripped gym bunny.. but take a look at my profile and compare it to yours. Again, it's not perfect by any means, probably puts many people off..
But the women it does attract tent to be quite nice people with a sense of humour.
Think about what you want, then how to attract the people you want.
Read their profile and see if you match, if you don't think you will, don't bother. If there's a chance, send them a message based on something that attracts you to them.
It takes a while to get used to Fab, which is why people who've been on a bit, tend to give new people some breathing space.
Read and digest the comments above.. it's all good advice. If you don't like that advice, question if Fab is the place for you.
Best profile I have seen! Shame about the face fuzz, but not an issue if you do me from behind in chams some time!
Thankyou for the compliment, I'm rather attached to the face fuzz though.. and.. I'm unlikely to see you in Chams unless another woman has invited me to open a membership with her, in which case she will probably have my undivided attention
I'm not paying to go into Chams, not as a single male.
But thankyou "
just spent the last 5 mins laughing at your text pics are good x |
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"I'm no oil painting.. or ripped gym bunny.. but take a look at my profile and compare it to yours. Again, it's not perfect by any means, probably puts many people off..
But the women it does attract tent to be quite nice people with a sense of humour.
Think about what you want, then how to attract the people you want.
Read their profile and see if you match, if you don't think you will, don't bother. If there's a chance, send them a message based on something that attracts you to them.
It takes a while to get used to Fab, which is why people who've been on a bit, tend to give new people some breathing space.
Read and digest the comments above.. it's all good advice. If you don't like that advice, question if Fab is the place for you.
Best profile I have seen! Shame about the face fuzz, but not an issue if you do me from behind in chams some time!
Thankyou for the compliment, I'm rather attached to the face fuzz though.. and.. I'm unlikely to see you in Chams unless another woman has invited me to open a membership with her, in which case she will probably have my undivided attention
I'm not paying to go into Chams, not as a single male.
But thankyou just spent the last 5 mins laughing at your text pics are good x"
Thankyou That's two compliments in one thread. I must be asleep and this is a dream |
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"I'm no oil painting.. or ripped gym bunny.. but take a look at my profile and compare it to yours. Again, it's not perfect by any means, probably puts many people off..
But the women it does attract tent to be quite nice people with a sense of humour.
Think about what you want, then how to attract the people you want.
Read their profile and see if you match, if you don't think you will, don't bother. If there's a chance, send them a message based on something that attracts you to them.
It takes a while to get used to Fab, which is why people who've been on a bit, tend to give new people some breathing space.
Read and digest the comments above.. it's all good advice. If you don't like that advice, question if Fab is the place for you."
I enjoyed your profile lol! |
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"I'm no oil painting.. or ripped gym bunny.. but take a look at my profile and compare it to yours. Again, it's not perfect by any means, probably puts many people off..
But the women it does attract tent to be quite nice people with a sense of humour.
Think about what you want, then how to attract the people you want.
Read their profile and see if you match, if you don't think you will, don't bother. If there's a chance, send them a message based on something that attracts you to them.
It takes a while to get used to Fab, which is why people who've been on a bit, tend to give new people some breathing space.
Read and digest the comments above.. it's all good advice. If you don't like that advice, question if Fab is the place for you.
I enjoyed your profile lol!"
3, Winning, thankyou .. Point proven yet? Make an effort.. you'll be rewarded.
Don't make an effort and moan about it.. shut the f--- up and sit back down. |
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"I'm no oil painting.. or ripped gym bunny.. but take a look at my profile and compare it to yours. Again, it's not perfect by any means, probably puts many people off..
But the women it does attract tent to be quite nice people with a sense of humour.
Think about what you want, then how to attract the people you want.
Read their profile and see if you match, if you don't think you will, don't bother. If there's a chance, send them a message based on something that attracts you to them.
It takes a while to get used to Fab, which is why people who've been on a bit, tend to give new people some breathing space.
Read and digest the comments above.. it's all good advice. If you don't like that advice, question if Fab is the place for you.
I enjoyed your profile lol!
3, Winning, thankyou .. Point proven yet? Make an effort.. you'll be rewarded.
Don't make an effort and moan about it.. shut the f--- up and sit back down. "
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I'm no oil painting.. or ripped gym bunny.. but take a look at my profile and compare it to yours. Again, it's not perfect by any means, probably puts many people off..
But the women it does attract tent to be quite nice people with a sense of humour.
Think about what you want, then how to attract the people you want.
Read their profile and see if you match, if you don't think you will, don't bother. If there's a chance, send them a message based on something that attracts you to them.
It takes a while to get used to Fab, which is why people who've been on a bit, tend to give new people some breathing space.
Read and digest the comments above.. it's all good advice. If you don't like that advice, question if Fab is the place for you.
Best profile I have seen! Shame about the face fuzz, but not an issue if you do me from behind in chams some time!
Thankyou for the compliment, I'm rather attached to the face fuzz though.. and.. I'm unlikely to see you in Chams unless another woman has invited me to open a membership with her, in which case she will probably have my undivided attention
I'm not paying to go into Chams, not as a single male.
But thankyou just spent the last 5 mins laughing at your text pics are good x
Thankyou That's two compliments in one thread. I must be asleep and this is a dream "
shame you're too bloody far lol |
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"I'm no oil painting.. or ripped gym bunny.. but take a look at my profile and compare it to yours. Again, it's not perfect by any means, probably puts many people off..
But the women it does attract tent to be quite nice people with a sense of humour.
Think about what you want, then how to attract the people you want.
Read their profile and see if you match, if you don't think you will, don't bother. If there's a chance, send them a message based on something that attracts you to them.
It takes a while to get used to Fab, which is why people who've been on a bit, tend to give new people some breathing space.
Read and digest the comments above.. it's all good advice. If you don't like that advice, question if Fab is the place for you.
Best profile I have seen! Shame about the face fuzz, but not an issue if you do me from behind in chams some time!
Thankyou for the compliment, I'm rather attached to the face fuzz though.. and.. I'm unlikely to see you in Chams unless another woman has invited me to open a membership with her, in which case she will probably have my undivided attention
I'm not paying to go into Chams, not as a single male.
But thankyou just spent the last 5 mins laughing at your text pics are good x
Thankyou That's two compliments in one thread. I must be asleep and this is a dream shame you're too bloody far lol"
I was down your way week |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
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ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"I'm no oil painting.. or ripped gym bunny.. but take a look at my profile and compare it to yours. Again, it's not perfect by any means, probably puts many people off..
But the women it does attract tent to be quite nice people with a sense of humour.
Think about what you want, then how to attract the people you want.
Read their profile and see if you match, if you don't think you will, don't bother. If there's a chance, send them a message based on something that attracts you to them.
It takes a while to get used to Fab, which is why people who've been on a bit, tend to give new people some breathing space.
Read and digest the comments above.. it's all good advice. If you don't like that advice, question if Fab is the place for you.
Best profile I have seen! Shame about the face fuzz, but not an issue if you do me from behind in chams some time!
Thankyou for the compliment, I'm rather attached to the face fuzz though.. and.. I'm unlikely to see you in Chams unless another woman has invited me to open a membership with her, in which case she will probably have my undivided attention
I'm not paying to go into Chams, not as a single male.
But thankyou just spent the last 5 mins laughing at your text pics are good x
Thankyou That's two compliments in one thread. I must be asleep and this is a dream shame you're too bloody far lolI was down your way week"
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I have now started to wonder is it worth all the effort that goes into trying to arrange a meeting with people on this site and it's sister site ( fabguys) people do not understand about the amount of time effect and money that some people put into having meets. I offer showers if needed. I will make a brew for them I have even travelled and stopped in a hotel so I could meet someone. But is it worth it, that is the big question |
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Listen to the advice above. Your profile and pictures are your way to sell yourself. I listened and took advice. My profile may not be the best but I found a few who like what I have to offer. Same with messages. Look for a common interest and make them interesting and appealing. Keep your status fun and light hearted |
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