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Single male curse

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

How to get around this damn curse of being a single male who can accommodate genuine and polite and fit but still nothing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We outnumber women by so much on here that it difficult enough to get a message read because they get so many! Then I tend to be right below the age people are looking for too! Difficult times but just have to stick with it and one will come eventually! I feel your pain though haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How to get around this damn curse of being a single male who can accommodate genuine and polite and fit but still nothing

No way of getting around it and as you haven't asked for profile advice, I can't give you any.

Poppy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How to get around this damn curse of being a single male who can accommodate genuine and polite and fit but still nothing

How do you know you are 'genuine' then?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

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By *acavityMan over a year ago

Redditch

You say you are single, but every picture is you and a woman.

Obviously people suspect you are not a genuine single man, but a couple pretending, in order to feel like part of the majority.

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

I would like to know more about the parather you mention in your profile. Not sure what you are looking for. But as you have not asked for profile advise, I cannot comment further.

I think you will find lots of posts about ways to improve your chances on the site.

A good way to meet several people in one go, is to attend a social or a club.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Single man could have as close to 100% of their photos showing themselves, rather than photos where others cover more surface area than the single guys?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You say you are single, but every picture is you and a woman.

Obviously people suspect you are not a genuine single man, but a couple pretending, in order to feel like part of the majority. "

Or it's also possible that many woman don't like action shots!

Poppy

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

I think the true single male curse is not being able to talk to women in a respectful, interesting and genuine way.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How to get around this damn curse of being a single male who can accommodate genuine and polite and fit but still nothing

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Because even the fugly's demand perfection here

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By *he girl with dreadlocksWoman over a year ago

need to know basis in Wolverhampton

"How to get around this damn curse of being a single male who can accommodate genuine and polite and fit but still nothing

If your a single male why is there a lady in every photo?

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I know why, but I can't tell you!

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I think the true single male curse is not being able to talk to women in a respectful, interesting and genuine way."

Agree with this!

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By *inful xWoman over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Maybe a review of your pictures might be needed

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By *lackbird1000Woman over a year ago

Birmingham

"How to get around this damn curse of being a single male who can accommodate genuine and polite and fit but still nothing

If your a single male why is there a lady in every photo? "
That's put me off in a single male profile!

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By *ANDA2Couple over a year ago

Henley Arden

It funny we have met a few single guys.

There’s no curse for friendly, articulate, engaging, respectful guys who really understand what Swinging is about.

You don’t have to brad Pitt or built like a pro sports man.

Those who think it’s just a quick shag, do no basic research on how the swinging works operates and the dynamics will always struggle.

Why ? because they are not suited to the swinging world. Their mind set is out of kinter with what it’s all about.

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By *orticiaWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"It funny we have met a few single guys.

There’s no curse for friendly, articulate, engaging, respectful guys who really understand what Swinging is about.

You don’t have to brad Pitt or built like a pro sports man.

Those who think it’s just a quick shag, do no basic research on how the swinging works operates and the dynamics will always struggle.

Why ? because they are not suited to the swinging world. Their mind set is out of kinter with what it’s all about.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"How to get around this damn curse of being a single male who can accommodate genuine and polite and fit but still nothing

Because even the fugly's demand perfection here"

Or perhaps because some single males in here have a sense of entitlement and expect way too much for very little effort and throw around terms like "fuglys" maybe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How to get around this damn curse of being a single male who can accommodate genuine and polite and fit but still nothing

Just shave your legs and pop a frock on.

Trust me; couples message every day.

Their messages are very low quality though. ‘Hi’. ‘What you into’. That kinda thing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How to get around this damn curse of being a single male who can accommodate genuine and polite and fit but still nothing

Because even the fugly's demand perfection here

Or perhaps because some single males in here have a sense of entitlement and expect way too much for very little effort and throw around terms like "fuglys" maybe

Wrong again. I'm not here for anything I gave up on that a long time ago I get way more offline, I just like winding up the hapless pussywhip white knights or not so as in your case because you'd be getting pussy to earn that title which of course you are not. Haha talk about butthurt

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My advice is get to a club, chat and demonstrate that you are articulate and like to socialise (assuming that is indeed the case).

Go with no expectations of play and be open to chatting to lots of different people not just those you would like to play with.

Once you make friends there and maybe play sometimes you can get verifications that might encourage others to meet with you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How to get around this damn curse of being a single male who can accommodate genuine and polite and fit but still nothing

Easy stop thinking you have a god given right to get a meet. Make yourself stand out! I’d say on a site like this youth probably isn’t on your side. You’d have more look on Tinder.

When you message someone on here what do you normally say?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How to get around this damn curse of being a single male who can accommodate genuine and polite and fit but still nothing

Just shave your legs and pop a frock on.

Trust me; couples message every day.

Their messages are very low quality though. ‘Hi’. ‘What you into’. That kinda thing

Haha amazing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How to get around this damn curse of being a single male who can accommodate genuine and polite and fit but still nothing

Move

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple over a year ago

South Wales

"I think the true single male curse is not being able to talk to women in a respectful, interesting and genuine way."

Word

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple over a year ago

South Wales

"It funny we have met a few single guys.

There’s no curse for friendly, articulate, engaging, respectful guys who really understand what Swinging is about.

You don’t have to brad Pitt or built like a pro sports man.

Those who think it’s just a quick shag, do no basic research on how the swinging works operates and the dynamics will always struggle.

Why ? because they are not suited to the swinging world. Their mind set is out of kinter with what it’s all about.

This is so on the money.

We've come across really nice, sexy blokes on Fab. Just as in real life, they know how to talk and how to interact, and it pays off.

The rest either don't get it or are simply not what we want (I'm being as polite as I can).

You wouldn't think you can walk up to a woman in a pub/club, whip out your cock and say 'Fancy a fuck?' and have success, so why think you can do it on Fab?

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By *otSoNewWalesCoupleCouple over a year ago

South Wales

"How to get around this damn curse of being a single male who can accommodate genuine and polite and fit but still nothing

Because even the fugly's demand perfection here

Or perhaps because some single males in here have a sense of entitlement and expect way too much for very little effort and throw around terms like "fuglys" maybe

And THAT'S why you'll never be successful on Fab. Enjoy your years of frustration son as you stand bitterly on the sidelines watching us all fucking.

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By *lkDomWhtSubBiCpleCouple over a year ago

Somewhere / Everywhere /Kinksville

Sweet

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

"It funny we have met a few single guys.

There’s no curse for friendly, articulate, engaging, respectful guys who really understand what Swinging is about.

You don’t have to brad Pitt or built like a pro sports man.

Those who think it’s just a quick shag, do no basic research on how the swinging works operates and the dynamics will always struggle.

Why ? because they are not suited to the swinging world. Their mind set is out of kinter with what it’s all about.

This!

It takes respect, patience, engaging conversation and some confidence without being arrogant... The understanding that swinging isn't "instashag" goes a long way... As does accepting that as a man you need to sell yourself. Ask yourself "what am I offering that the other twenty guys who messaged this lady are not?"

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By *ungBlackTopMan over a year ago

salford

Why don't you try and get a wife then you can meet other couples instead of relying on other men with wives to supply you with their wives fanny? easy peasy job done.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Well some of you actually give good advice some of you are just pure jumped up p×@#"^ lol and some are just pure stupid lol

No I'm no roid freak just a normal guy

I prefer small groups to loads of people

And yes I know it's not "a shag site "

It's a curse due to the abusive fukin dick heads that give shit when turned down as they think there gods gift lmfao

A man respects a woman not insults her

And not once have I sent an abusive message

So before you assume

Remember assumption is the mother of all fuck ups

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Takes a while mate took me about 6 months before my first meet join in forums,and on cams and go the club,scene too helps

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

"Well some of you actually give good advice some of you are just pure jumped up p×@#"^ lol and some are just pure stupid lol

No I'm no roid freak just a normal guy

I prefer small groups to loads of people

And yes I know it's not "a shag site "

It's a curse due to the abusive fukin dick heads that give shit when turned down as they think there gods gift lmfao

A man respects a woman not insults her

And not once have I sent an abusive message

So before you assume

Remember assumption is the mother of all fuck ups

Wow........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well some of you actually give good advice some of you are just pure jumped up p×@#"^ lol and some are just pure stupid lol

No I'm no roid freak just a normal guy

I prefer small groups to loads of people

And yes I know it's not "a shag site "

It's a curse due to the abusive fukin dick heads that give shit when turned down as they think there gods gift lmfao

A man respects a woman not insults her

And not once have I sent an abusive message

So before you assume

Remember assumption is the mother of all fuck ups

All your abuse is saved for the forums it seems

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"How to get around this damn curse of being a single male who can accommodate genuine and polite and fit but still nothing

Because even the fugly's demand perfection here

Or perhaps because some single males in here have a sense of entitlement and expect way too much for very little effort and throw around terms like "fuglys" maybe

Thought you were leaving as per status 22 hrs ago. Evidently not as you are still here trolling the forums.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am a single guy and I admit when i first joined used to get miffed about not getting many replies.But after chatting to the great people on here I know have the correct attitude that no point getting fed up and be paitent and when it happens be worth the wait.

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By *ANDA2Couple over a year ago

Henley Arden

"Well some of you actually give good advice some of you are just pure jumped up p×@#"^ lol and some are just pure stupid lol

No I'm no roid freak just a normal guy

I prefer small groups to loads of people

And yes I know it's not "a shag site "

It's a curse due to the abusive fukin dick heads that give shit when turned down as they think there gods gift lmfao

A man respects a woman not insults her

And not once have I sent an abusive message

So before you assume

Remember assumption is the mother of all fuck ups

Your in Pontypool in Wales. It does not have exactly the highest density population. So that’s going against you.

Because of its location PP has only three big cities / towns within your 70 mile travel distance. Again reduces your odds

You have only been on 5 months. It not eactuly that long. Makes it harder.

No Veries after 5 months.

So you see your location, population density, time in fab and lack of Vs all make it harder to meet.

Therefore you may have to put in a bit more leg work to get meets.

Not exactly fair but life isn’t always fair.

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By *ANDA2Couple over a year ago

Henley Arden

And not allowed to comment on your profile so can’t say if this hinders or helps you.

But if you search the forum for profile help posts you should be able to work it out for yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How to get around this damn curse of being a single male who can accommodate genuine and polite and fit but still nothing

Just shave your legs and pop a frock on.

Trust me; couples message every day.

Their messages are very low quality though. ‘Hi’. ‘What you into’. That kinda thing

Haha amazing "

I’m not joking. Couples messages are so often so crap. I assume I’m supposed to be so bowled over and honoured that they sent two letters strung together to make a word that I’ll be gagging for a meet with them

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

No abuse not one bit

It depends how your brain reads a text

So many innocent texts are miss read

And the result assumption

You assumed I was being abusive

When in fact it's just saying what it is

Some good advice and some dumb advice

But all was read with care

So remember

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Have you even looked and read my profile does it say couple? ???

So unless you read my profile

It's says every thing

Don't just look at the pics

Assumption again see lmao

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Well some of you actually give good advice some of you are just pure jumped up p×@#"^ lol and some are just pure stupid lol

No I'm no roid freak just a normal guy

I prefer small groups to loads of people

And yes I know it's not "a shag site "

It's a curse due to the abusive fukin dick heads that give shit when turned down as they think there gods gift lmfao

A man respects a woman not insults her

And not once have I sent an abusive message

So before you assume

Remember assumption is the mother of all fuck ups

All your abuse is saved for the forums it seems "

Where's the abuse ???????

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By *bsinthe_boyMan over a year ago

Luton

OP you honestly cannot see how some of your messages in this thread are angry and abusive?

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By *aughtycouple1008Couple over a year ago

west london

"How to get around this damn curse of being a single male who can accommodate genuine and polite and fit but still nothing

Because even the fugly's demand perfection here"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How to get around this damn curse of being a single male who can accommodate genuine and polite and fit but still nothing

Because even the fugly's demand perfection here

Or perhaps because some single males in here have a sense of entitlement and expect way too much for very little effort and throw around terms like "fuglys" maybe

Thought you were leaving as per status 22 hrs ago. Evidently not as you are still here trolling the forums.

Nobody said I'm leaving the site. Just here to laugh at sad desperates like you that need a website to get laid

Says the man meet verified as recently as 2 months ago and with a profile saying "Looking for people who know what they want and how to get it. Seeking intimate meets socials and to have a laugh, anything more than that is a bonus." so obviously using said website for the same thing

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yes that's what I used to have when like you I was looking for something here, now that I am not I really don't care what my profile says I don't care enough to change it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In New York City the women outnumber the men 8 to 1 . Maybe you need to take a road trip .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

In New York City the women outnumber the men 8 to 1 . Maybe you need to take a road trip .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It funny we have met a few single guys.

There’s no curse for friendly, articulate, engaging, respectful guys who really understand what Swinging is about.

You don’t have to brad Pitt or built like a pro sports man.

Those who think it’s just a quick shag, do no basic research on how the swinging works operates and the dynamics will always struggle.

Why ? because they are not suited to the swinging world. Their mind set is out of kinter with what it’s all about.

Well said even i find alot of the guys on here are after a quick shag,fab has changed alot.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"In New York City the women outnumber the men 8 to 1 . Maybe you need to take a road trip . "

If I could afford to move i probably would lmao

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Some men never listen to whatever advise they are given, even if given personally

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It funny we have met a few single guys.

There’s no curse for friendly, articulate, engaging, respectful guys who really understand what Swinging is about.

You don’t have to brad Pitt or built like a pro sports man.

Those who think it’s just a quick shag, do no basic research on how the swinging works operates and the dynamics will always struggle.

Why ? because they are not suited to the swinging world. Their mind set is out of kinter with what it’s all about.

Well said even i find alot of the guys on here are after a quick shag,fab has changed alot. "

That has given me hope I am neither Brad Pitt or a Sports star lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You say you are single, but every picture is you and a woman.

Obviously people suspect you are not a genuine single man, but a couple pretending, in order to feel like part of the majority.

Or it's also possible that many woman don't like action shots!

Poppy"

Personally I don't answer a guy who features pictures of his cock in other women. Who stops mid sex to take a bloody photo?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You say you are single, but every picture is you and a woman.

Obviously people suspect you are not a genuine single man, but a couple pretending, in order to feel like part of the majority.

Or it's also possible that many woman don't like action shots!

Poppy

Personally I don't answer a guy who features pictures of his cock in other women. Who stops mid sex to take a bloody photo?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"OP you honestly cannot see how some of your messages in this thread are angry and abusive? "

I'm not going to be fake though and as I said it's all how your mind takes in the text

So obviously there's an issue with you not me

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By *hamboy69Man over a year ago

huddersfield

"You say you are single, but every picture is you and a woman.

Obviously people suspect you are not a genuine single man, but a couple pretending, in order to feel like part of the majority.

Or it's also possible that many woman don't like action shots!

Poppy

Personally I don't answer a guy who features pictures of his cock in other women. Who stops mid sex to take a bloody photo?"
That counts me out then

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By *hamboy69Man over a year ago

huddersfield

"It funny we have met a few single guys.

There’s no curse for friendly, articulate, engaging, respectful guys who really understand what Swinging is about.

You don’t have to brad Pitt or built like a pro sports man.

Those who think it’s just a quick shag, do no basic research on how the swinging works operates and the dynamics will always struggle.

Why ? because they are not suited to the swinging world. Their mind set is out of kinter with what it’s all about.

This!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"It funny we have met a few single guys.

There’s no curse for friendly, articulate, engaging, respectful guys who really understand what Swinging is about.

You don’t have to brad Pitt or built like a pro sports man.

Those who think it’s just a quick shag, do no basic research on how the swinging works operates and the dynamics will always struggle.

Why ? because they are not suited to the swinging world. Their mind set is out of kinter with what it’s all about.

Well said even i find alot of the guys on here are after a quick shag,fab has changed alot.

That has given me hope I am neither Brad Pitt or a Sports star lol"

You have the most important thing, a nice friendly personality

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'm a week away from turning 40, had lots of meets, but there are women who wont meet men under 40....its going to be fun though!!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"I'm a week away from turning 40, had lots of meets, but there are women who wont meet men under 40....its going to be fun though!!"

Happy birthday in advance x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"You say you are single, but every picture is you and a woman.

Obviously people suspect you are not a genuine single man, but a couple pretending, in order to feel like part of the majority.

Or it's also possible that many woman don't like action shots!

Poppy

Personally I don't answer a guy who features pictures of his cock in other women. Who stops mid sex to take a bloody photo?That counts me out then"

Good job I'm straight then lmao

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By *uckandbunnyCouple over a year ago

In your bed

Never understood doing something just to try and get a rise out of strangers.

Seems like a big waste of time. You could do so much more to benefit yourself, others or just wank if you really have nothing better to do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

There is no curse whatsoever, the truth is trying to get to know people on the computer does not work well for a first meet, go to the clubs and get to know people then you can communicate with them afterwards on fabs and meet up with them.

You should never change your pictures of you and a lady on your profile because some women on the forum say they don't like seeing pictures of you and a lady on your profile, these ladies might be looking for a relationship .

If you are a true single guy who is successful in this game then a relationship is a no go area to you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It funny we have met a few single guys.

There’s no curse for friendly, articulate, engaging, respectful guys who really understand what Swinging is about.

You don’t have to brad Pitt or built like a pro sports man.

Those who think it’s just a quick shag, do no basic research on how the swinging works operates and the dynamics will always struggle.

Why ? because they are not suited to the swinging world. Their mind set is out of kinter with what it’s all about.

Listen to this couple, they are right.

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By *ezebelWoman over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Ive removed posts and I think we can leave it there

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