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Sorry question was
Firstly I don't want to claim any kind of racism on here, far from it.
I have noticed that quite a lot of profiles say no Asian men and wanted to see if Indian men find much success on here with a meet.
I accept everyone has their preference and likes and an Indian guy is not something that floats their boat. Just want to know if there is a further reason is it a certain perception of an Indian guy that stops women saying no Asian men |
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"Sorry question was
Firstly I don't want to claim any kind of racism on here, far from it.
I have noticed that quite a lot of profiles say no Asian men and wanted to see if Indian men find much success on here with a meet.
I accept everyone has their preference and likes and an Indian guy is not something that floats their boat. Just want to know if there is a further reason is it a certain perception of an Indian guy that stops women saying no Asian men"
Unfortunately, racism is everywhere in many different forms. |
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You've got to love the Forum. At any given moment you are almost guaranteed to have at least one thread about bareback (where inevitably the phrase Russian roulette is used) and at least one thread from an Asian guy asking why a good number of ladies specify that they don't want to meet Asian guys. Fab really needs a definitive answers FAQ.
But in answer to the OP, who cares why some ladies and couples don't want to meet Asian guys. Just expend your energy looking to meet the ones who do.....past threads on exactly the same subject reveal there are many who do. |
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Yeah..don't know. I think its mainly perception, mostly people will assume you have an strong accent and be culturally different and that scares people off. Not sure about you but I was born and brought up here and am the same culturally but people wont definitely know that unless they ask. Some do, and then they are fine but most won't as they are scared to offend.
And yes, there is the phyisical side, not everyones cup of tea which is understandable - you're either attracted or not. Also you will see plenty of Asian profiles stating 'Asians Only' - go figure! |
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I suppose it's like those who 'won't meet smokers'.
Personal choice.
Non smokers don't like the smell of cigarettes.
People who don't meet Asians may not like your culture, colour etc.
Same for those who only meet 'fit' people and don't like fat people.
The world is diverse, full of choice.. Absolutely no reason to even mention racism in your comment, because by doing so, you only serve to promote its existence. |
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I even get asked ...do i eat pork and do i drink....when i say yes they look shocked and say its against your beliefs Eerr i have not even told them my beliefs lol.
Each to there own and i respect that. But dont like stereo types and people who assume . |
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"Sorry question was
Firstly I don't want to claim any kind of racism on here, far from it.
I have noticed that quite a lot of profiles say no Asian men and wanted to see if Indian men find much success on here with a meet.
I accept everyone has their preference and likes and an Indian guy is not something that floats their boat. Just want to know if there is a further reason is it a certain perception of an Indian guy that stops women saying no Asian men"
I've had one or two  but my only preference in a man is that he has to have a personality that I like. |
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"I suppose it's like those who 'won't meet smokers'.
Personal choice.
Non smokers don't like the smell of cigarettes.
People who don't meet Asians may not like your culture, colour etc.
Same for those who only meet 'fit' people and don't like fat people.
The world is diverse, full of choice.. Absolutely no reason to even mention racism in your comment, because by doing so, you only serve to promote its existence. "
I am struggling to see how people who do not like Asians colour and culture are not racist. That's the precise definition of racism is it not? |
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If that makes me racist so be, can’t be that racist though can I if I’m happy to sleep with black men!
What about profiles saying BBC only are they racist to white people!! |
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over a year ago
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"Sorry question was
Firstly I don't want to claim any kind of racism on here, far from it.
I have noticed that quite a lot of profiles say no Asian men and wanted to see if Indian men find much success on here with a meet.
I accept everyone has their preference and likes and an Indian guy is not something that floats their boat. Just want to know if there is a further reason is it a certain perception of an Indian guy that stops women saying no Asian men"
Last time I was in a club, my fwb was fucking an Asian guy.
I'm sure this little bit of information is significant for some reason... |
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"I suppose it's like those who 'won't meet smokers'.
Personal choice.
Non smokers don't like the smell of cigarettes.
People who don't meet Asians may not like your culture, colour etc.
Same for those who only meet 'fit' people and don't like fat people.
The world is diverse, full of choice.. Absolutely no reason to even mention racism in your comment, because by doing so, you only serve to promote its existence.
I am struggling to see how people who do not like Asians colour and culture are not racist. That's the precise definition of racism is it not? "
If you say I dont like your colour or culture or colour then yes..but usually it is ' I dont find them attractive' which is fair enough.
Oh and the one about most cheating on wifey..I think that is pretty much across the board! |
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I have noticed in clubs that Asian guys have a tough time getting included in conversations and rarely seem to get asked to play.
I have heard women say its because they are too pushy and persistent.
This has also been my experience of them too. |
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"I suppose it's like those who 'won't meet smokers'.
Personal choice.
Non smokers don't like the smell of cigarettes.
People who don't meet Asians may not like your culture, colour etc.
Same for those who only meet 'fit' people and don't like fat people.
The world is diverse, full of choice.. Absolutely no reason to even mention racism in your comment, because by doing so, you only serve to promote its existence.
I am struggling to see how people who do not like Asians colour and culture are not racist. That's the precise definition of racism is it not?
If you say I dont like your colour or culture or colour then yes..but usually it is ' I dont find them attractive' which is fair enough.
Oh and the one about most cheating on wifey..I think that is pretty much across the board!"
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"I suppose it's like those who 'won't meet smokers'.
Personal choice.
Non smokers don't like the smell of cigarettes.
People who don't meet Asians may not like your culture, colour etc.
Same for those who only meet 'fit' people and don't like fat people.
The world is diverse, full of choice.. Absolutely no reason to even mention racism in your comment, because by doing so, you only serve to promote its existence.
I am struggling to see how people who do not like Asians colour and culture are not racist. That's the precise definition of racism is it not? "
No, far from it.
Not wanting to have sex with a specific race, colour or creed isn't racist at all!
Being specifically hostile towards a different race is racist.. Choosing not to meet to fuck them is a choice.
We don't fuck Jews either, does that make us anti semitic? It's choice. I don't eat pork because I don't like the taste, am I a Muslim? No!
Stop with your inference of stereotyping based on assumption and accept that people can choose to not fuck someone of a different race simply because they don't want to or don't find that race sexual attractive or appealing.
We don't fuck really tall people either, or dwarves.. Does that have some negative political correctness label you want to share with us?
Oh, and I am of Turkish descent, that's a Muslim country dontcha know.. So please, please let me know where I should place this racist card you want to play?
One lesson I've learned in life is not to compete with ignorance and stupidity, especially when there are people, such as your good self, who are far greater qualified on them than I
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"I suppose it's like those who 'won't meet smokers'.
Personal choice.
Non smokers don't like the smell of cigarettes.
People who don't meet Asians may not like your culture, colour etc.
Same for those who only meet 'fit' people and don't like fat people.
The world is diverse, full of choice.. Absolutely no reason to even mention racism in your comment, because by doing so, you only serve to promote its existence.
I am struggling to see how people who do not like Asians colour and culture are not racist. That's the precise definition of racism is it not?
No, far from it.
Not wanting to have sex with a specific race, colour or creed isn't racist at all!
Being specifically hostile towards a different race is racist.. Choosing not to meet to fuck them is a choice.
We don't fuck Jews either, does that make us anti semitic? It's choice. I don't eat pork because I don't like the taste, am I a Muslim? No!
Stop with your inference of stereotyping based on assumption and accept that people can choose to not fuck someone of a different race simply because they don't want to or don't find that race sexual attractive or appealing.
We don't fuck really tall people either, or dwarves.. Does that have some negative political correctness label you want to share with us?
Oh, and I am of Turkish descent, that's a Muslim country dontcha know.. So please, please let me know where I should place this racist card you want to play?
One lesson I've learned in life is not to compete with ignorance and stupidity, especially when there are people, such as your good self, who are far greater qualified on them than I
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"I suppose it's like those who 'won't meet smokers'.
Personal choice.
Non smokers don't like the smell of cigarettes.
People who don't meet Asians may not like your culture, colour etc.
Same for those who only meet 'fit' people and don't like fat people.
The world is diverse, full of choice.. Absolutely no reason to even mention racism in your comment, because by doing so, you only serve to promote its existence.
I am struggling to see how people who do not like Asians colour and culture are not racist. That's the precise definition of racism is it not?
No, far from it.
Not wanting to have sex with a specific race, colour or creed isn't racist at all!
Being specifically hostile towards a different race is racist.. Choosing not to meet to fuck them is a choice.
We don't fuck Jews either, does that make us anti semitic? It's choice. I don't eat pork because I don't like the taste, am I a Muslim? No!
Stop with your inference of stereotyping based on assumption and accept that people can choose to not fuck someone of a different race simply because they don't want to or don't find that race sexual attractive or appealing.
We don't fuck really tall people either, or dwarves.. Does that have some negative political correctness label you want to share with us?
Oh, and I am of Turkish descent, that's a Muslim country dontcha know.. So please, please let me know where I should place this racist card you want to play?
One lesson I've learned in life is not to compete with ignorance and stupidity, especially when there are people, such as your good self, who are far greater qualified on them than I
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Presumably you ask any potential fucks whether they are Jewish beforehand? |
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"I suppose it's like those who 'won't meet smokers'.
Personal choice.
Non smokers don't like the smell of cigarettes.
People who don't meet Asians may not like your culture, colour etc.
Same for those who only meet 'fit' people and don't like fat people.
The world is diverse, full of choice.. Absolutely no reason to even mention racism in your comment, because by doing so, you only serve to promote its existence.
I am struggling to see how people who do not like Asians colour and culture are not racist. That's the precise definition of racism is it not?
No, far from it.
Not wanting to have sex with a specific race, colour or creed isn't racist at all!
Being specifically hostile towards a different race is racist.. Choosing not to meet to fuck them is a choice.
We don't fuck Jews either, does that make us anti semitic? It's choice. I don't eat pork because I don't like the taste, am I a Muslim? No!
Stop with your inference of stereotyping based on assumption and accept that people can choose to not fuck someone of a different race simply because they don't want to or don't find that race sexual attractive or appealing.
We don't fuck really tall people either, or dwarves.. Does that have some negative political correctness label you want to share with us?
Oh, and I am of Turkish descent, that's a Muslim country dontcha know.. So please, please let me know where I should place this racist card you want to play?
One lesson I've learned in life is not to compete with ignorance and stupidity, especially when there are people, such as your good self, who are far greater qualified on them than I
Presumably you ask any potential fucks whether they are Jewish beforehand?"
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"Im an indian male but i would not sleep with another indian guy...what does that make me???
What do you feel like?
I feel good and happy with my choices and i love different cultures"
Sounds like a Miss World script! If you slept with another Indian guy do you not think you might be happy with your choice? |
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"I suppose it's like those who 'won't meet smokers'.
Personal choice.
Non smokers don't like the smell of cigarettes.
People who don't meet Asians may not like your culture, colour etc.
Same for those who only meet 'fit' people and don't like fat people.
The world is diverse, full of choice.. Absolutely no reason to even mention racism in your comment, because by doing so, you only serve to promote its existence.
I am struggling to see how people who do not like Asians colour and culture are not racist. That's the precise definition of racism is it not?
No, far from it.
Not wanting to have sex with a specific race, colour or creed isn't racist at all!
Being specifically hostile towards a different race is racist.. Choosing not to meet to fuck them is a choice.
We don't fuck Jews either, does that make us anti semitic? It's choice. I don't eat pork because I don't like the taste, am I a Muslim? No!
Stop with your inference of stereotyping based on assumption and accept that people can choose to not fuck someone of a different race simply because they don't want to or don't find that race sexual attractive or appealing.
We don't fuck really tall people either, or dwarves.. Does that have some negative political correctness label you want to share with us?
Oh, and I am of Turkish descent, that's a Muslim country dontcha know.. So please, please let me know where I should place this racist card you want to play?
One lesson I've learned in life is not to compete with ignorance and stupidity, especially when there are people, such as your good self, who are far greater qualified on them than I
Presumably you ask any potential fucks whether they are Jewish beforehand?
God what would happen if a guy turned up with a Yarmulke and had a huge hose? (I said hose) "
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"Im an indian male but i would not sleep with another indian guy...what does that make me???
What do you feel like?
I feel good and happy with my choices and i love different cultures
Sounds like a Miss World script! If you slept with another Indian guy do you not think you might be happy with your choice?"
Mate you d*unk??? Lol....you sound like jeremy kyle. |
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"Im an indian male but i would not sleep with another indian guy...what does that make me???
What do you feel like?
I feel good and happy with my choices and i love different cultures
Sounds like a Miss World script! If you slept with another Indian guy do you not think you might be happy with your choice?
Mate you d*unk??? Lol....you sound like jeremy kyle."
Classic evasion technique, the lie detector would have a field day with you! |
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"Im an indian male but i would not sleep with another indian guy...what does that make me???
What do you feel like?
I feel good and happy with my choices and i love different cultures
Sounds like a Miss World script! If you slept with another Indian guy do you not think you might be happy with your choice?
Mate you d*unk??? Lol....you sound like jeremy kyle.
Classic evasion technique, the lie detector would have a field day with you!"
Would you like to meet for a drink and ask me....im in maidenhead |
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"Im an indian male but i would not sleep with another indian guy...what does that make me???
What do you feel like?
I feel good and happy with my choices and i love different cultures
Sounds like a Miss World script! If you slept with another Indian guy do you not think you might be happy with your choice?
Mate you d*unk??? Lol....you sound like jeremy kyle.
Classic evasion technique, the lie detector would have a field day with you!"
Would you like to meet for a drink and ask me....im in maidenhead |
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"Im an indian male but i would not sleep with another indian guy...what does that make me???
What do you feel like?
I feel good and happy with my choices and i love different cultures
Sounds like a Miss World script! If you slept with another Indian guy do you not think you might be happy with your choice?
Mate you d*unk??? Lol....you sound like jeremy kyle.
Classic evasion technique, the lie detector would have a field day with you!
Would you like to meet for a drink and ask me....im in maidenhead "
Pmsl |
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"Im an indian male but i would not sleep with another indian guy...what does that make me???
What do you feel like?
I feel good and happy with my choices and i love different cultures
Sounds like a Miss World script! If you slept with another Indian guy do you not think you might be happy with your choice?
Mate you d*unk??? Lol....you sound like jeremy kyle.
Classic evasion technique, the lie detector would have a field day with you!
Would you like to meet for a drink and ask me....im in maidenhead "
Long way to go to ask the same question. |
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"Im an indian male but i would not sleep with another indian guy...what does that make me???
What do you feel like?
I feel good and happy with my choices and i love different cultures
Sounds like a Miss World script! If you slept with another Indian guy do you not think you might be happy with your choice?
Mate you d*unk??? Lol....you sound like jeremy kyle.
Classic evasion technique, the lie detector would have a field day with you!
Would you like to meet for a drink and ask me....im in maidenhead
Long way to go to ask the same question."
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"Im an indian male but i would not sleep with another indian guy...what does that make me???
What do you feel like?
I feel good and happy with my choices and i love different cultures
Sounds like a Miss World script! If you slept with another Indian guy do you not think you might be happy with your choice?
Mate you d*unk??? Lol....you sound like jeremy kyle.
Classic evasion technique, the lie detector would have a field day with you!
Would you like to meet for a drink and ask me....im in maidenhead
Long way to go to ask the same question.lol "
Your pics are nice.you two look like a nice couple ... till you typed your stuff. Why oh why....n im being honest here..you guys do look nice and thats from me and Ellie x |
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"Im an indian male but i would not sleep with another indian guy...what does that make me???
What do you feel like?
I feel good and happy with my choices and i love different cultures
Sounds like a Miss World script! If you slept with another Indian guy do you not think you might be happy with your choice?
Mate you d*unk??? Lol....you sound like jeremy kyle.
Classic evasion technique, the lie detector would have a field day with you!
Would you like to meet for a drink and ask me....im in maidenhead
Long way to go to ask the same question.lol
Your pics are nice.you two look like a nice couple ... till you typed your stuff. Why oh why....n im being honest here..you guys do look nice and thats from me and Ellie x"
As it happens 'nice' is one of our most uncomfortable words on here. So much so, that we would never meet anyone with nice in their username. Does Ellie know? |
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"Im an indian male but i would not sleep with another indian guy...what does that make me???
What do you feel like?
I feel good and happy with my choices and i love different cultures
Sounds like a Miss World script! If you slept with another Indian guy do you not think you might be happy with your choice?
Mate you d*unk??? Lol....you sound like jeremy kyle.
Classic evasion technique, the lie detector would have a field day with you!
Would you like to meet for a drink and ask me....im in maidenhead
Long way to go to ask the same question.lol
Your pics are nice.you two look like a nice couple ... till you typed your stuff. Why oh why....n im being honest here..you guys do look nice and thats from me and Ellie x
As it happens 'nice' is one of our most uncomfortable words on here. So much so, that we would never meet anyone with nice in their username. Does Ellie know?"
hope we cross paths
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"Im an indian male but i would not sleep with another indian guy...what does that make me???
What do you feel like?
I feel good and happy with my choices and i love different cultures
Sounds like a Miss World script! If you slept with another Indian guy do you not think you might be happy with your choice?
Mate you d*unk??? Lol....you sound like jeremy kyle.
Classic evasion technique, the lie detector would have a field day with you!
Would you like to meet for a drink and ask me....im in maidenhead
Long way to go to ask the same question.lol
Your pics are nice.you two look like a nice couple ... till you typed your stuff. Why oh why....n im being honest here..you guys do look nice and thats from me and Ellie x
As it happens 'nice' is one of our most uncomfortable words on here. So much so, that we would never meet anyone with nice in their username. Does Ellie know?hope we cross paths
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Why? |
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"Im an indian male but i would not sleep with another indian guy...what does that make me???
What do you feel like?
I feel good and happy with my choices and i love different cultures
Sounds like a Miss World script! If you slept with another Indian guy do you not think you might be happy with your choice?
Mate you d*unk??? Lol....you sound like jeremy kyle.
Classic evasion technique, the lie detector would have a field day with you!
Would you like to meet for a drink and ask me....im in maidenhead
Long way to go to ask the same question.lol
Your pics are nice.you two look like a nice couple ... till you typed your stuff. Why oh why....n im being honest here..you guys do look nice and thats from me and Ellie x
As it happens 'nice' is one of our most uncomfortable words on here. So much so, that we would never meet anyone with nice in their username. Does Ellie know?hope we cross paths
Why?"
Be nice...you guys look nice xx |
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"I suppose it's like those who 'won't meet smokers'.
Personal choice.
Non smokers don't like the smell of cigarettes.
People who don't meet Asians may not like your culture, colour etc.
Same for those who only meet 'fit' people and don't like fat people.
The world is diverse, full of choice.. Absolutely no reason to even mention racism in your comment, because by doing so, you only serve to promote its existence.
I am struggling to see how people who do not like Asians colour and culture are not racist. That's the precise definition of racism is it not?
No, far from it.
Not wanting to have sex with a specific race, colour or creed isn't racist at all!
Being specifically hostile towards a different race is racist.. Choosing not to meet to fuck them is a choice.
We don't fuck Jews either, does that make us anti semitic? It's choice. I don't eat pork because I don't like the taste, am I a Muslim? No!
Stop with your inference of stereotyping based on assumption and accept that people can choose to not fuck someone of a different race simply because they don't want to or don't find that race sexual attractive or appealing.
We don't fuck really tall people either, or dwarves.. Does that have some negative political correctness label you want to share with us?
Oh, and I am of Turkish descent, that's a Muslim country dontcha know.. So please, please let me know where I should place this racist card you want to play?
One lesson I've learned in life is not to compete with ignorance and stupidity, especially when there are people, such as your good self, who are far greater qualified on them than I
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Or you could have said "no you misunderstood, when I said not liking someone I meant having sex with, not liking them in general. That's not racist" I would have agreed with that and apologised.
But thanks for the revealing rant instead. |
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"I suppose it's like those who 'won't meet smokers'.
Personal choice.
Non smokers don't like the smell of cigarettes.
People who don't meet Asians may not like your culture, colour etc.
Same for those who only meet 'fit' people and don't like fat people.
The world is diverse, full of choice.. Absolutely no reason to even mention racism in your comment, because by doing so, you only serve to promote its existence.
I am struggling to see how people who do not like Asians colour and culture are not racist. That's the precise definition of racism is it not?
No, far from it.
Not wanting to have sex with a specific race, colour or creed isn't racist at all!
Being specifically hostile towards a different race is racist.. Choosing not to meet to fuck them is a choice.
We don't fuck Jews either, does that make us anti semitic? It's choice. I don't eat pork because I don't like the taste, am I a Muslim? No!
Stop with your inference of stereotyping based on assumption and accept that people can choose to not fuck someone of a different race simply because they don't want to or don't find that race sexual attractive or appealing.
We don't fuck really tall people either, or dwarves.. Does that have some negative political correctness label you want to share with us?
Oh, and I am of Turkish descent, that's a Muslim country dontcha know.. So please, please let me know where I should place this racist card you want to play?
One lesson I've learned in life is not to compete with ignorance and stupidity, especially when there are people, such as your good self, who are far greater qualified on them than I
Or you could have said "no you misunderstood, when I said not liking someone I meant having sex with, not liking them in general. That's not racist" I would have agreed with that and apologised.
But thanks for the revealing rant instead. "
That's the beauty you see, I don't have to say what you want to hear, or phrase my response in a sequence of words of your choosing.  |
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This is what i love about this forum , its always a bundle of laughs and cheers me up
I read somewhere once that swingers were happier than the general population ............so many of the threads on this forum make it seem like you all want a big gang fight! |
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No matter how they try and cut it, they themselves know that it does not make sense when the try and justify their position. When your choice has anything to do with race, we all know what it is and what you are. This is swinging and not a relationship.
Yes, it is their choice to take their position and that is fine , it is my choice not to engage them in anything, including not having a conversation with them.
Most of the Asian guys I meet are always with solid babes that will give any guy an instant hard on, irrespective of the race of females they choose.
I don't understand why this question will even be asked because when you ask people why they are not interested in you, you make them look significant when in reality they are very insignificant and should be ignored.
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"I suppose it's like those who 'won't meet smokers'.
Personal choice.
Non smokers don't like the smell of cigarettes.
People who don't meet Asians may not like your culture, colour etc.
Same for those who only meet 'fit' people and don't like fat people.
The world is diverse, full of choice.. Absolutely no reason to even mention racism in your comment, because by doing so, you only serve to promote its existence.
I am struggling to see how people who do not like Asians colour and culture are not racist. That's the precise definition of racism is it not?
No, far from it.
Not wanting to have sex with a specific race, colour or creed isn't racist at all!
Being specifically hostile towards a different race is racist.. Choosing not to meet to fuck them is a choice.
We don't fuck Jews either, does that make us anti semitic? It's choice. I don't eat pork because I don't like the taste, am I a Muslim? No!
Stop with your inference of stereotyping based on assumption and accept that people can choose to not fuck someone of a different race simply because they don't want to or don't find that race sexual attractive or appealing.
We don't fuck really tall people either, or dwarves.. Does that have some negative political correctness label you want to share with us?
Oh, and I am of Turkish descent, that's a Muslim country dontcha know.. So please, please let me know where I should place this racist card you want to play?
One lesson I've learned in life is not to compete with ignorance and stupidity, especially when there are people, such as your good self, who are far greater qualified on them than I
Or you could have said "no you misunderstood, when I said not liking someone I meant having sex with, not liking them in general. That's not racist" I would have agreed with that and apologised.
But thanks for the revealing rant instead.
That's the beauty you see, I don't have to say what you want to hear, or phrase my response in a sequence of words of your choosing. "
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"This is what i love about this forum , its always a bundle of laughs and cheers me up
I read somewhere once that swingers were happier than the general population ............so many of the threads on this forum make it seem like you all want a big gang fight!"
Indeed. It all adds to the jollity of nations.
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You do not need to ask people why they are not interested in you , what you do is to walk into a party where people who are not interested in you are seated, just walk in there with a lady of their race who is a stunner.
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"You do not need to ask people why they are not interested in you , what you do is to walk into a party where people who are not interested in you are seated, just walk in there with a lady of their race who is a stunner.
Once you do this, you have made your point clear without saying a word to them."
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"You do not need to ask people why they are not interested in you , what you do is to walk into a party where people who are not interested in you are seated, just walk in there with a lady of their race who is a stunner.
Once you do this, you have made your point clear without saying a word to them.
How many times have you done this to make your point?"
I don't need to make any point to anybody , I don't engage people who are not interested in me. |
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As far as I am concerned it is weak game to be asking insignificant people why they are not interested in you.
You don't need to do that, it's like asking an ex-girlfriend why she left you for another guy, you don't do that, what you do is get another girl more beautiful than your ex-girlfriend and then your ex-girlfriend will keep quiet. |
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"As far as I am concerned it is weak game to be asking insignificant people why they are not interested in you.
You don't need to do that, it's like asking an ex-girlfriend why she left you for another guy, you don't do that, what you do is get another girl more beautiful than your ex-girlfriend and then your ex-girlfriend will keep quiet."
How do you know this new girl is more beautiful ?
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder after all....... |
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"You do not need to ask people why they are not interested in you , what you do is to walk into a party where people who are not interested in you are seated, just walk in there with a lady of their race who is a stunner.
Once you do this, you have made your point clear without saying a word to them.
How many times have you done this to make your point?
I don't need to make any point to anybody , I don't engage people who are not interested in me. "
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"You do not need to ask people why they are not interested in you , what you do is to walk into a party where people who are not interested in you are seated, just walk in there with a lady of their race who is a stunner.
Once you do this, you have made your point clear without saying a word to them.
How many times have you done this to make your point?
I don't need to make any point to anybody , I don't engage people who are not interested in me.
But you said it's what to do. Have you practised what your preach?"
Yes I have practiced it with an ex girlfriend and I assure you it works, the result was fantastic.
I do not engage with people who are not interested in me , I would not even ask this kind of question, a player never asks why he was rejected, he just works on himself and becomes the best player on the market. |
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"As far as I am concerned it is weak game to be asking insignificant people why they are not interested in you.
You don't need to do that, it's like asking an ex-girlfriend why she left you for another guy, you don't do that, what you do is get another girl more beautiful than your ex-girlfriend and then your ex-girlfriend will keep quiet.
How do you know this new girl is more beautiful ?
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder after all....... "
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"You do not need to ask people why they are not interested in you , what you do is to walk into a party where people who are not interested in you are seated, just walk in there with a lady of their race who is a stunner.
Once you do this, you have made your point clear without saying a word to them.
How many times have you done this to make your point?
I don't need to make any point to anybody , I don't engage people who are not interested in me.
But you said it's what to do. Have you practised what your preach?
Yes I have practiced it with an ex girlfriend and I assure you it works, the result was fantastic.
I do not engage with people who are not interested in me , I would not even ask this kind of question, a player never asks why he was rejected, he just works on himself and becomes the best player on the market."
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"You do not need to ask people why they are not interested in you , what you do is to walk into a party where people who are not interested in you are seated, just walk in there with a lady of their race who is a stunner.
Once you do this, you have made your point clear without saying a word to them.
How many times have you done this to make your point?
I don't need to make any point to anybody , I don't engage people who are not interested in me.
But you said it's what to do. Have you practised what your preach?
Yes I have practiced it with an ex girlfriend and I assure you it works, the result was fantastic.
I do not engage with people who are not interested in me , I would not even ask this kind of question, a player never asks why he was rejected, he just works on himself and becomes the best player on the market."
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"I suppose it's like those who 'won't meet smokers'.
Personal choice.
Non smokers don't like the smell of cigarettes.
People who don't meet Asians may not like your culture, colour etc.
Same for those who only meet 'fit' people and don't like fat people.
The world is diverse, full of choice.. Absolutely no reason to even mention racism in your comment, because by doing so, you only serve to promote its existence.
I am struggling to see how people who do not like Asians colour and culture are not racist. That's the precise definition of racism is it not?
No, far from it.
Not wanting to have sex with a specific race, colour or creed isn't racist at all!
Being specifically hostile towards a different race is racist.. Choosing not to meet to fuck them is a choice.
We don't fuck Jews either, does that make us anti semitic? It's choice. I don't eat pork because I don't like the taste, am I a Muslim? No!
Stop with your inference of stereotyping based on assumption and accept that people can choose to not fuck someone of a different race simply because they don't want to or don't find that race sexual attractive or appealing.
We don't fuck really tall people either, or dwarves.. Does that have some negative political correctness label you want to share with us?
Oh, and I am of Turkish descent, that's a Muslim country dontcha know.. So please, please let me know where I should place this racist card you want to play?
One lesson I've learned in life is not to compete with ignorance and stupidity, especially when there are people, such as your good self, who are far greater qualified on them than I
Or you could have said "no you misunderstood, when I said not liking someone I meant having sex with, not liking them in general. That's not racist" I would have agreed with that and apologised.
But thanks for the revealing rant instead.
That's the beauty you see, I don't have to say what you want to hear, or phrase my response in a sequence of words of your choosing.
Pmsl...how old are you both. I would love to meet you both. You entertain me. I love your comments. Lets see some more. I really hope we do meet. "
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"As far as I am concerned it is weak game to be asking insignificant people why they are not interested in you.
You don't need to do that, it's like asking an ex-girlfriend why she left you for another guy, you don't do that, what you do is get another girl more beautiful than your ex-girlfriend and then your ex-girlfriend will keep quiet.
How do you know this new girl is more beautiful ?
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder after all.......
Lol , when you are playing this kind of game, the beauty has to be obvious to everyone lol"
people like all different things though , some men like curves and big bums , some like skinny with no bum , some women like skinny men with six packs , some like rugby build on a man , hair vs no hair , long vs short hair ......the list goes on .
Someone you find beautiful for instance might not be my cup of tea.......which means ultimately your plan to impress people by getting a more beautiful girl is rather shallow and ultimately flawed.
Also .......she could be the most stunning girl i have ever seen when it comes to looks .......if she has an ugly personality i will be instantly turned off.
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"You've got to love the Forum. At any given moment you are almost guaranteed to have at least one thread about bareback (where inevitably the phrase Russian roulette is used) and at least one thread from an Asian guy asking why a good number of ladies specify that they don't want to meet Asian guys. Fab really needs a definitive answers FAQ.
But in answer to the OP, who cares why some ladies and couples don't want to meet Asian guys. Just expend your energy looking to meet the ones who do.....past threads on exactly the same subject reveal there are many who do."
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"I suppose it's like those who 'won't meet smokers'.
Personal choice.
Non smokers don't like the smell of cigarettes.
People who don't meet Asians may not like your culture, colour etc.
Same for those who only meet 'fit' people and don't like fat people.
The world is diverse, full of choice.. Absolutely no reason to even mention racism in your comment, because by doing so, you only serve to promote its existence.
I am struggling to see how people who do not like Asians colour and culture are not racist. That's the precise definition of racism is it not?
No, far from it.
Not wanting to have sex with a specific race, colour or creed isn't racist at all!
Being specifically hostile towards a different race is racist.. Choosing not to meet to fuck them is a choice.
We don't fuck Jews either, does that make us anti semitic? It's choice. I don't eat pork because I don't like the taste, am I a Muslim? No!
Stop with your inference of stereotyping based on assumption and accept that people can choose to not fuck someone of a different race simply because they don't want to or don't find that race sexual attractive or appealing.
We don't fuck really tall people either, or dwarves.. Does that have some negative political correctness label you want to share with us?
Oh, and I am of Turkish descent, that's a Muslim country dontcha know.. So please, please let me know where I should place this racist card you want to play?
One lesson I've learned in life is not to compete with ignorance and stupidity, especially when there are people, such as your good self, who are far greater qualified on them than I
Or you could have said "no you misunderstood, when I said not liking someone I meant having sex with, not liking them in general. That's not racist" I would have agreed with that and apologised.
But thanks for the revealing rant instead.
That's the beauty you see, I don't have to say what you want to hear, or phrase my response in a sequence of words of your choosing.
Pmsl...how old are you both. I would love to meet you both. You entertain me. I love your comments. Lets see some more. I really hope we do meet.
Ages are on our profile. You're more than welcome to pay us a visit.. We're very sociable and hospitable beings. "
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"As far as I am concerned it is weak game to be asking insignificant people why they are not interested in you.
You don't need to do that, it's like asking an ex-girlfriend why she left you for another guy, you don't do that, what you do is get another girl more beautiful than your ex-girlfriend and then your ex-girlfriend will keep quiet.
How do you know this new girl is more beautiful ?
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder after all.......
Lol , when you are playing this kind of game, the beauty has to be obvious to everyone lol
people like all different things though , some men like curves and big bums , some like skinny with no bum , some women like skinny men with six packs , some like rugby build on a man , hair vs no hair , long vs short hair ......the list goes on .
Someone you find beautiful for instance might not be my cup of tea.......which means ultimately your plan to impress people by getting a more beautiful girl is rather shallow and ultimately flawed.
Also .......she could be the most stunning girl i have ever seen when it comes to looks .......if she has an ugly personality i will be instantly turned off.
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Well in this type of game , we are not trying to be politically correct. Even the ladies know when they meet another lady more beautiful than them, it is not a matter of being shallow, I have never met a guy more handsome than me and did not know it straight away.
The Op asked a question and I have explained that you don't ask such questions, one of the greatest basketballers in the world MJ, was cut off the team by his coach in his first attempt, the coach said he was not good enough to make the team , I am sure by the end of MJs career, everybody in the world will know that coach does not know what he is doing.
You don't need to talk to ladies of any race who say they are not interested in you, what you do is get another lady of same race more beautiful than them, even their friends will tell them to keep quiet, they will point out to such ladies that the lady we saw that guy you rejected with is 100 times more beautiful than you so therefore the guy has answered you. |
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"If anybody in life tells you, you are not good enough for them, your job is to prove they are not good enough for you ."
You presumably are attempting to prove this to all the people who have rejected you on here. Not convinced you are doing a very good job on this thread! |
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"Sorry question was
Firstly I don't want to claim any kind of racism on here, far from it.
I have noticed that quite a lot of profiles say no Asian men and wanted to see if Indian men find much success on here with a meet.
I accept everyone has their preference and likes and an Indian guy is not something that floats their boat. Just want to know if there is a further reason is it a certain perception of an Indian guy that stops women saying no Asian men"
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I don’t find most fair men as attractive as darker guys, and those who look Mediterranean tick more boxes for me. I’ve had a long term relationship with mixed race guy (he was born in the UK and his mother and father both half Asian) he looked a little Egyptian and was bloody gorgeous! He was a laugh, interesting, had a huge willy and loved giving me oral... so was totally yummy!
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"If anybody in life tells you, you are not good enough for them, your job is to prove they are not good enough for you .
You presumably are attempting to prove this to all the people who have rejected you on here. Not convinced you are doing a very good job on this thread!"
I have said it before and I will say it again, I have nothing to prove to anybody. Getting rejected by some ladies is nothing to me.
I am at a stage of this game where beautiful couples and beautiful ladies are contacting me and offering me meets, if you see the ladies ,you will know they have been pampered all their life.
If I get rejected by a lady , I can confidently say it does not mean anything to me, it is her loss, not mine. I only commented to show the Op how to play the game. |
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"If anybody in life tells you, you are not good enough for them, your job is to prove they are not good enough for you .
You presumably are attempting to prove this to all the people who have rejected you on here. Not convinced you are doing a very good job on this thread!
I have said it before and I will say it again, I have nothing to prove to anybody. Getting rejected by some ladies is nothing to me.
I am at a stage of this game where beautiful couples and beautiful ladies are contacting me and offering me meets, if you see the ladies ,you will know they have been pampered all their life.
If I get rejected by a lady , I can confidently say it does not mean anything to me, it is her loss, not mine. I only commented to show the Op how to play the game."
How will we ‘see the ladies’? How will know they have ‘been pampered all their lives’? That’s a strange comment to make. |
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"If anybody in life tells you, you are not good enough for them, your job is to prove they are not good enough for you ."
better sill just move on there's plenty of fish in the sea!
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"If anybody in life tells you, you are not good enough for them, your job is to prove they are not good enough for you .
You presumably are attempting to prove this to all the people who have rejected you on here. Not convinced you are doing a very good job on this thread!
I have said it before and I will say it again, I have nothing to prove to anybody. Getting rejected by some ladies is nothing to me.
I am at a stage of this game where beautiful couples and beautiful ladies are contacting me and offering me meets, if you see the ladies ,you will know they have been pampered all their life.
If I get rejected by a lady , I can confidently say it does not mean anything to me, it is her loss, not mine. I only commented to show the Op how to play the game.
How will we ‘see the ladies’? How will know they have ‘been pampered all their lives’? That’s a strange comment to make."
No it's not, I am using that statement to explain how fresh the ladies are lol. It is obvious they take good care of themselves. |
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"If anybody in life tells you, you are not good enough for them, your job is to prove they are not good enough for you .
You presumably are attempting to prove this to all the people who have rejected you on here. Not convinced you are doing a very good job on this thread!
I have said it before and I will say it again, I have nothing to prove to anybody. Getting rejected by some ladies is nothing to me.
I am at a stage of this game where beautiful couples and beautiful ladies are contacting me and offering me meets, if you see the ladies ,you will know they have been pampered all their life.
If I get rejected by a lady , I can confidently say it does not mean anything to me, it is her loss, not mine. I only commented to show the Op how to play the game.
How will we ‘see the ladies’? How will know they have ‘been pampered all their lives’? That’s a strange comment to make.
No it's not, I am using that statement to explain how fresh the ladies are lol. It is obvious they take good care of themselves."
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Another thread throwing out the ‘preference’ word as though that explains everything.
One of our very early meets (not from Fab). Was an Asian guy. We met in a pub and he didn’t contrbute to a round of drinks. He talked to Mr the whole evening, practically ignoring me during conversation. We did kiss, but he was incredibly pushy and seemed quite annoyed when I stopped him from touching me intimately in the pub. When Mr went to the loo, this man tried to convince me to leave the pub with him leaving my husband on his own. This experience, rightly or wrongly, put us off meeting guys from that cultural background. I know that probably is racist to brand a whole race as being like this man, but we just felt we couldn’t risk that happening again. And we have since heard other horror stories about Asian guys behaving this way. That being said if we met an Asian guy at a party and we hit it off with him, then why not? Race is irrrelavant if I fancy the man and we get on with him and he gives us what we are looking for on the swing scene.
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"Another thread throwing out the ‘preference’ word as though that explains everything.
One of our very early meets (not from Fab). Was an Asian guy. We met in a pub and he didn’t contrbute to a round of drinks. He talked to Mr the whole evening, practically ignoring me during conversation. We did kiss, but he was incredibly pushy and seemed quite annoyed when I stopped him from touching me intimately in the pub. When Mr went to the loo, this man tried to convince me to leave the pub with him leaving my husband on his own. This experience, rightly or wrongly, put us off meeting guys from that cultural background. I know that probably is racist to brand a whole race as being like this man, but we just felt we couldn’t risk that happening again. And we have since heard other horror stories about Asian guys behaving this way. That being said if we met an Asian guy at a party and we hit it off with him, then why not? Race is irrrelavant if I fancy the man and we get on with him and he gives us what we are looking for on the swing scene.
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Good explanation, but I suppose the question is this. Presumably you have also had bad experiences with white men. If so, why did that not put you off white men as a group? |
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"Another thread throwing out the ‘preference’ word as though that explains everything.
One of our very early meets (not from Fab). Was an Asian guy. We met in a pub and he didn’t contrbute to a round of drinks. He talked to Mr the whole evening, practically ignoring me during conversation. We did kiss, but he was incredibly pushy and seemed quite annoyed when I stopped him from touching me intimately in the pub. When Mr went to the loo, this man tried to convince me to leave the pub with him leaving my husband on his own. This experience, rightly or wrongly, put us off meeting guys from that cultural background. I know that probably is racist to brand a whole race as being like this man, but we just felt we couldn’t risk that happening again. And we have since heard other horror stories about Asian guys behaving this way. That being said if we met an Asian guy at a party and we hit it off with him, then why not? Race is irrrelavant if I fancy the man and we get on with him and he gives us what we are looking for on the swing scene.
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Good explanation, but I suppose the question is this. Presumably you have also had bad experiences with white men. If so, why did that not put you off white men as a group? "
But we haven’t had any bad experiences from white men. Every white man we’ve ever met has treated us very well on the first meet. If we are ever unlucky in the future, then I would not be put off white men based on one meet. Likewise if we had had lots of exellent meets with Asian guys followed by one bad meet, our opinion would not alter based on one bad meet. |
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"Another thread throwing out the ‘preference’ word as though that explains everything.
One of our very early meets (not from Fab). Was an Asian guy. We met in a pub and he didn’t contrbute to a round of drinks. He talked to Mr the whole evening, practically ignoring me during conversation. We did kiss, but he was incredibly pushy and seemed quite annoyed when I stopped him from touching me intimately in the pub. When Mr went to the loo, this man tried to convince me to leave the pub with him leaving my husband on his own. This experience, rightly or wrongly, put us off meeting guys from that cultural background. I know that probably is racist to brand a whole race as being like this man, but we just felt we couldn’t risk that happening again. And we have since heard other horror stories about Asian guys behaving this way. That being said if we met an Asian guy at a party and we hit it off with him, then why not? Race is irrrelavant if I fancy the man and we get on with him and he gives us what we are looking for on the swing scene.
Mrs"
Utter rubbish. Does this not happen with men if other races. This is not only limited by people to a single race. Asian women would be preyed upon by white guys an visa versa.
Plus we people say Asian they need to understand culturally which background the person is ie. Indian Pakistani Chinese Malaysian etc.
We are all not the same.
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I think it seems quite a few women have had a bad expierence in the sense the Asian man being pushy, which I suppose explain why after hearing this puts others off and hence why I find a fair few profiles saying no Asian men
Again it is a shame that these bad expierence tar us with the same brush.
That said everyone is entitled to go for who they want on here and id rather they put it in profile so I know before contacting them, than leaving it out. |
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"Another thread throwing out the ‘preference’ word as though that explains everything.
One of our very early meets (not from Fab). Was an Asian guy. We met in a pub and he didn’t contrbute to a round of drinks. He talked to Mr the whole evening, practically ignoring me during conversation. We did kiss, but he was incredibly pushy and seemed quite annoyed when I stopped him from touching me intimately in the pub. When Mr went to the loo, this man tried to convince me to leave the pub with him leaving my husband on his own. This experience, rightly or wrongly, put us off meeting guys from that cultural background. I know that probably is racist to brand a whole race as being like this man, but we just felt we couldn’t risk that happening again. And we have since heard other horror stories about Asian guys behaving this way. That being said if we met an Asian guy at a party and we hit it off with him, then why not? Race is irrrelavant if I fancy the man and we get on with him and he gives us what we are looking for on the swing scene.
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Good explanation, but I suppose the question is this. Presumably you have also had bad experiences with white men. If so, why did that not put you off white men as a group?
But we haven’t had any bad experiences from white men. Every white man we’ve ever met has treated us very well on the first meet. If we are ever unlucky in the future, then I would not be put off white men based on one meet. Likewise if we had had lots of exellent meets with Asian guys followed by one bad meet, our opinion would not alter based on one bad meet. "
I see, but the point is that if this bad experience early on had been with a white man, would that have put you off white men entirely?
Probably not I think and the reason, I suspect, is that you are white and most you know are white, hence you know not all white people are arses.
The issue is ethnocentrusm. If you have little or no prior experience of someone from a different ethnic group, it's a natural reaction to base your view of the group on your initial experience.
It actually takes an effort of will not to do that. It's up to everyone to decide if they want to make the effort. |
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"Another thread throwing out the ‘preference’ word as though that explains everything.
One of our very early meets (not from Fab). Was an Asian guy. We met in a pub and he didn’t contrbute to a round of drinks. He talked to Mr the whole evening, practically ignoring me during conversation. We did kiss, but he was incredibly pushy and seemed quite annoyed when I stopped him from touching me intimately in the pub. When Mr went to the loo, this man tried to convince me to leave the pub with him leaving my husband on his own. This experience, rightly or wrongly, put us off meeting guys from that cultural background. I know that probably is racist to brand a whole race as being like this man, but we just felt we couldn’t risk that happening again. And we have since heard other horror stories about Asian guys behaving this way. That being said if we met an Asian guy at a party and we hit it off with him, then why not? Race is irrrelavant if I fancy the man and we get on with him and he gives us what we are looking for on the swing scene.
Mrs
Utter rubbish. Does this not happen with men if other races. This is not only limited by people to a single race. Asian women would be preyed upon by white guys an visa versa.
Plus we people say Asian they need to understand culturally which background the person is ie. Indian Pakistani Chinese Malaysian etc.
We are all not the same.
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The guy was Indian to be specific. And yes I’m sure it does happen with other races. But it’s the only time it’s happened to us. Yes we are wrong to take the view that there is a higher risk of this happening again with with a man from his cultural background compared to other cultural backgrounds. But that experience combined with other similar horror stories I’ve heard on the swing scene regarding certain cultural backgrounds, and combined with my experience how my Indian boyfriend’s friends (who were Pakistani and Indian) treated me when I was at university, led us to feel we have to be more careful. It’s a risk assessment when we arrange a meet, and since we’ve been using Fab we’ve had a 100% success rate from our meets. We probably have a number of unfair prejudices (not necessarily to do with race) that ensures us a greater chance of meeting someone we feel we can have a nice time time. That being said if we meet someone in a club, then we will judge the individual and not use our predudiced selection criteria then we have developed for choosing men on-line.
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"Another thread throwing out the ‘preference’ word as though that explains everything.
One of our very early meets (not from Fab). Was an Asian guy. We met in a pub and he didn’t contrbute to a round of drinks. He talked to Mr the whole evening, practically ignoring me during conversation. We did kiss, but he was incredibly pushy and seemed quite annoyed when I stopped him from touching me intimately in the pub. When Mr went to the loo, this man tried to convince me to leave the pub with him leaving my husband on his own. This experience, rightly or wrongly, put us off meeting guys from that cultural background. I know that probably is racist to brand a whole race as being like this man, but we just felt we couldn’t risk that happening again. And we have since heard other horror stories about Asian guys behaving this way. That being said if we met an Asian guy at a party and we hit it off with him, then why not? Race is irrrelavant if I fancy the man and we get on with him and he gives us what we are looking for on the swing scene.
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Good explanation, but I suppose the question is this. Presumably you have also had bad experiences with white men. If so, why did that not put you off white men as a group?
But we haven’t had any bad experiences from white men. Every white man we’ve ever met has treated us very well on the first meet. If we are ever unlucky in the future, then I would not be put off white men based on one meet. Likewise if we had had lots of exellent meets with Asian guys followed by one bad meet, our opinion would not alter based on one bad meet.
I see, but the point is that if this bad experience early on had been with a white man, would that have put you off white men entirely?
Probably not I think and the reason, I suspect, is that you are white and most you know are white, hence you know not all white people are arses.
The issue is ethnocentrusm. If you have little or no prior experience of someone from a different ethnic group, it's a natural reaction to base your view of the group on your initial experience.
It actually takes an effort of will not to do that. It's up to everyone to decide if they want to make the effort. "
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"I think it seems quite a few women have had a bad expierence in the sense the Asian man being pushy, which I suppose explain why after hearing this puts others off and hence why I find a fair few profiles saying no Asian men
Again it is a shame that these bad expierence tar us with the same brush.
That said everyone is entitled to go for who they want on here and id rather they put it in profile so I know before contacting them, than leaving it out."
We’re not going to put it in our profile, because as I have already said I’m prepared to be wrong. We do a risk assessment based on a number of factors prior to arranging a meet. And there are a huge number of probably unreasonable factors that help us decide to arrange a meet. Any one of those factors we might overlook for the right person, so we are not going to itemise all our predudices in our profile, in case we realise we are wrong. But we will go out of our way to avoid a bad meet.
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"Another thread throwing out the ‘preference’ word as though that explains everything.
One of our very early meets (not from Fab). Was an Asian guy. We met in a pub and he didn’t contrbute to a round of drinks. He talked to Mr the whole evening, practically ignoring me during conversation. We did kiss, but he was incredibly pushy and seemed quite annoyed when I stopped him from touching me intimately in the pub. When Mr went to the loo, this man tried to convince me to leave the pub with him leaving my husband on his own. This experience, rightly or wrongly, put us off meeting guys from that cultural background. I know that probably is racist to brand a whole race as being like this man, but we just felt we couldn’t risk that happening again. And we have since heard other horror stories about Asian guys behaving this way. That being said if we met an Asian guy at a party and we hit it off with him, then why not? Race is irrrelavant if I fancy the man and we get on with him and he gives us what we are looking for on the swing scene.
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Utter rubbish. Does this not happen with men if other races. This is not only limited by people to a single race. Asian women would be preyed upon by white guys an visa versa.
Plus we people say Asian they need to understand culturally which background the person is ie. Indian Pakistani Chinese Malaysian etc.
We are all not the same.
The guy was Indian to be specific. And yes I’m sure it does happen with other races. But it’s the only time it’s happened to us. Yes we are wrong to take the view that there is a higher risk of this happening again with with a man from his cultural background compared to other cultural backgrounds. But that experience combined with other similar horror stories I’ve heard on the swing scene regarding certain cultural backgrounds, and combined with my experience how my Indian boyfriend’s friends (who were Pakistani and Indian) treated me when I was at university, led us to feel we have to be more careful. It’s a risk assessment when we arrange a meet, and since we’ve been using Fab we’ve had a 100% success rate from our meets. We probably have a number of unfair prejudices (not necessarily to do with race) that ensures us a greater chance of meeting someone we feel we can have a nice time time. That being said if we meet someone in a club, then we will judge the individual and not use our predudiced selection criteria then we have developed for choosing men on-line.
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In and of itself reasonable. We all have prejudices. We don't have enough time to do an in depth investigation of every situation we come across so rely on preconceptions and prejudice.
The problem is that race prejudice led to things like the holocaust and the slave trade. Hence race prejudice is historically and understandably a very sensitive area. |
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I applaud your honesty Mrs, quite refreshing about not giving an Asian guy another chance and based in past expierence is understandable.
I for one would love to prove you wrong and show you that was an exception not the norm when it comes to Asian men.
Feel free to drop me an email if you are interested in chatting. Loving the pictures I do love a lady in stockings and heels |
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"Another thread throwing out the ‘preference’ word as though that explains everything.
One of our very early meets (not from Fab). Was an Asian guy. We met in a pub and he didn’t contrbute to a round of drinks. He talked to Mr the whole evening, practically ignoring me during conversation. We did kiss, but he was incredibly pushy and seemed quite annoyed when I stopped him from touching me intimately in the pub. When Mr went to the loo, this man tried to convince me to leave the pub with him leaving my husband on his own. This experience, rightly or wrongly, put us off meeting guys from that cultural background. I know that probably is racist to brand a whole race as being like this man, but we just felt we couldn’t risk that happening again. And we have since heard other horror stories about Asian guys behaving this way. That being said if we met an Asian guy at a party and we hit it off with him, then why not? Race is irrrelavant if I fancy the man and we get on with him and he gives us what we are looking for on the swing scene.
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Utter rubbish. Does this not happen with men if other races. This is not only limited by people to a single race. Asian women would be preyed upon by white guys an visa versa.
Plus we people say Asian they need to understand culturally which background the person is ie. Indian Pakistani Chinese Malaysian etc.
We are all not the same.
The guy was Indian to be specific. And yes I’m sure it does happen with other races. But it’s the only time it’s happened to us. Yes we are wrong to take the view that there is a higher risk of this happening again with with a man from his cultural background compared to other cultural backgrounds. But that experience combined with other similar horror stories I’ve heard on the swing scene regarding certain cultural backgrounds, and combined with my experience how my Indian boyfriend’s friends (who were Pakistani and Indian) treated me when I was at university, led us to feel we have to be more careful. It’s a risk assessment when we arrange a meet, and since we’ve been using Fab we’ve had a 100% success rate from our meets. We probably have a number of unfair prejudices (not necessarily to do with race) that ensures us a greater chance of meeting someone we feel we can have a nice time time. That being said if we meet someone in a club, then we will judge the individual and not use our predudiced selection criteria then we have developed for choosing men on-line.
Mrs
In and of itself reasonable. We all have prejudices. We don't have enough time to do an in depth investigation of every situation we come across so rely on preconceptions and prejudice.
The problem is that race prejudice led to things like the holocaust and the slave trade. Hence race prejudice is historically and understandably a very sensitive area. "
Well of course. I’m sure everybody on this thread believe in equal rights. However nobody has equal rights to sex. With regards to private meets, we feel that there is a greater chance of success if the person is from a similar cultural background to ourselves. That saves a hell of a lot of timewasting. In a club, then no problem, and we’re happy to take the time to judge someone as an individual, which in itself gives us more variety which is great.
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Here's our two penneth worth from a different perspective..we get alot of attention from white males, some damn right rude but delete and block ensure zero tolerance others very polite and we have met thereafter,we don't stereo type based on experience. We also get something similar from asians men but lower numbers as their less of them but generally our experience on the whole they lack patience and tact. It is what it is and we judge each on their own. |
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"I applaud your honesty Mrs, quite refreshing about not giving an Asian guy another chance and based in past expierence is understandable.
I for one would love to prove you wrong and show you that was an exception not the norm when it comes to Asian men.
Feel free to drop me an email if you are interested in chatting. Loving the pictures I do love a lady in stockings and heels"
The best thing to do is attend a club and prove a lot of people wrong. The conversation is kind of hypothetical for us as we are happy with what we have at the moment. |
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"I applaud your honesty Mrs, quite refreshing about not giving an Asian guy another chance and based in past expierence is understandable.
I for one would love to prove you wrong and show you that was an exception not the norm when it comes to Asian men.
Feel free to drop me an email if you are interested in chatting. Loving the pictures I do love a lady in stockings and heels
The best thing to do is attend a club and prove a lot of people wrong. The conversation is kind of hypothetical for us as we are happy with what we have at the moment."
Actually, now I remember we had an extremely disappointing experience with a married white guy from a very similar background to ourself. That one experience put us off ever meeting a married guy again. It’s another predudice. And it’s a predudice that we are prepared to be proved wrong on, but we would be unlikely to risk wasting our time again. |
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"If anybody in life tells you, you are not good enough for them, your job is to prove they are not good enough for you .
You presumably are attempting to prove this to all the people who have rejected you on here. Not convinced you are doing a very good job on this thread!
I have said it before and I will say it again, I have nothing to prove to anybody. Getting rejected by some ladies is nothing to me.
I am at a stage of this game where beautiful couples and beautiful ladies are contacting me and offering me meets, if you see the ladies ,you will know they have been pampered all their life.
If I get rejected by a lady , I can confidently say it does not mean anything to me, it is her loss, not mine. I only commented to show the Op how to play the game.
How will we ‘see the ladies’? How will know they have ‘been pampered all their lives’? That’s a strange comment to make.
No it's not, I am using that statement to explain how fresh the ladies are lol. It is obvious they take good care of themselves.
‘Fresh ladies’?!?!"
Well, I guess you might not understand our slangs because we come from different generations lol. If I say a lady looks fresh, it means she looked very nice. I look at a ladies skin when am talking to her to give me an idea of her background.
If her skin is glittering then I would say the lady looked fresh. Once a lady does not smoke always, drinks plenty water, eats fresh foods only, uses good creams and is not under any kind of stress, her skin will glitter.
We say she has been pampered all her life, meaning we believe her father or mother took great care of her when she was young and now she is old,she is taking great care of herself. |
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Back to the subject matter, it does appear to me like most of the ladies who have had experiences with Asian guys have come across guys who are thirsty.
Thirsty in this case means they are not getting a variety of pussy, I believe this is what the issue is, they are not used to having multiple women so when they meet any lady they appear very pushy. Well, this kind of behavior cannot be representative of all Asian guys.
I believe it has to do with the belief system of the guy, if you as a guy set out to have multiple women and you have about 7 women you see regularly, you can never be thirsty. You have to watch that you don't allow any lady to lock you into any relationship. |
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"If that makes me racist so be, can’t be that racist though can I if I’m happy to sleep with black men!
What about profiles saying BBC only are they racist to white people!!"
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"Back to the subject matter, it does appear to me like most of the ladies who have had experiences with Asian guys have come across guys who are thirsty.
Thirsty in this case means they are not getting a variety of pussy, I believe this is what the issue is, they are not used to having multiple women so when they meet any lady they appear very pushy. Well, this kind of behavior cannot be representative of all Asian guys.
I believe it has to do with the belief system of the guy, if you as a guy set out to have multiple women and you have about 7 women you see regularly, you can never be thirsty. You have to watch that you don't allow any lady to lock you into any relationship. "
‘Not getting a variety of pussy’! James ‘the pussy’ is attached to a human woman who is *not* an *object*. I am finding some of your comments in this thread quite concerning to say the least. It’s nothing to do with the *generation gap* I am from as you stated previously! |
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"Back to the subject matter, it does appear to me like most of the ladies who have had experiences with Asian guys have come across guys who are thirsty.
Thirsty in this case means they are not getting a variety of pussy, I believe this is what the issue is, they are not used to having multiple women so when they meet any lady they appear very pushy. Well, this kind of behavior cannot be representative of all Asian guys.
I believe it has to do with the belief system of the guy, if you as a guy set out to have multiple women and you have about 7 women you see regularly, you can never be thirsty. You have to watch that you don't allow any lady to lock you into any relationship.
‘Not getting a variety of pussy’! James ‘the pussy’ is attached to a human woman who is *not* an *object*. I am finding some of your comments in this thread quite concerning to say the least. It’s nothing to do with the *generation gap* I am from as you stated previously! "
Well, I use slangs a lot and I mean no disrespect to anyone, I do not need to conform to your ideals, I usually do not engage in a conversation with everybody, am very selective on who I respond to, you should consider yourself lucky that I responded to you in the first place.
At this junction to avert any concerns you may have, let me apologize to you for engaging you in a conversation.
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Plus because I know where you are going, I will debunk it before you try to frame my narrative onto that path. the use of the term pussy is writing in a comedic fashion , my intention is to make people laugh when they read it and not objectify anyone. |
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"Plus because I know where you are going, I will debunk it before you try to frame my narrative onto that path. the use of the term pussy is writing in a comedic fashion , my intention is to make people laugh when they read it and not objectify anyone."
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"Plus because I know where you are going, I will debunk it before you try to frame my narrative onto that path. the use of the term pussy is writing in a comedic fashion , my intention is to make people laugh when they read it and not objectify anyone.
Sorry to disappoint you but I’m hardly rolling around the floor laughing at your ‘comedic’ style of writing! "
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"Plus because I know where you are going, I will debunk it before you try to frame my narrative onto that path. the use of the term pussy is writing in a comedic fashion , my intention is to make people laugh when they read it and not objectify anyone."
James, maybe you want to stop now, or shall I lend you a shovel so you can keep digging? |
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"I would of said we have no issues with Asian /Indian until we started swinging, however after several experiences at clubs its completely put us off"
and yes we have had a few bad meets with white guys too but not in the same context. The club we visited is also to blame I suppose as they should enforce the rules but I assume most people in this lifestyle understand the do's and don'ts and can take the hints
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There is nothing to dig so I do not need your shovel , thank you.
The honest truth is that if we were face to face I would not be talking to you so lets keep it that way here, I appreciate your interest but no thanks lol |
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"There is nothing to dig so I do not need your shovel , thank you.
The honest truth is that if we were face to face I would not be talking to you so lets keep it that way here, I appreciate your interest but no thanks lol"
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"There is nothing to dig so I do not need your shovel , thank you.
The honest truth is that if we were face to face I would not be talking to you so lets keep it that way here, I appreciate your interest but no thanks lol"
James I can categorically assure you that we would certainly never get to the stage of ‘face to face’ level. A man who labels women as ‘pussy’ would never be allowed to grace my presence I wish you well and this ends our virtual conversation. |
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"Much love to you, I honestly mean no disrespect but I have already divorced you virtually a couple of months back . lol I was only being civil by responding to you lol"
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"I won’t meet Asian men because the ones in the past are usually cheating on wifey!
Not saying all Asian men on here are but not for me! "
Isn't that a large percentage of men and women on fab be it of Black White Asian and Neptune origin ??
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"If that makes me racist so be, can’t be that racist though can I if I’m happy to sleep with black men!
What about profiles saying BBC only are they racist to white people!!"
Comparison doesn't make sense as it's white people seeking BBC. 
I wish people would accept they will not appeal to everyone. This is not an employment situation, this is personal to who you allow into your body.
I really couldn't give a flying fuck if someone was offended because they were excluded. My pussy, I decide who enters. |
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"If that makes me racist so be, can’t be that racist though can I if I’m happy to sleep with black men!
What about profiles saying BBC only are they racist to white people!!
Comparison doesn't make sense as it's white people seeking BBC.
I wish people would accept they will not appeal to everyone. This is not an employment situation, this is personal to who you allow into your body.
I really couldn't give a flying fuck if someone was offended because they were excluded. My pussy, I decide who enters."
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for example we've seen women who only want to meet BBC guys, that's fair enough, we have fun elsewhere, I wouldn't exactly try and make a point about how they're "missing out" and how it's "their loss" because the fact is I'm still not going to magically grow a BBC and thus these women still wouldn't be interested 
