I've met a lovely lady guess you'd say we are bf and gf now and ages basically up for anything.
So stuff like bi mmf mff foursomes etc are on the table and now I'm bricking it but excited.
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Op, it says in your profile you have experience in meeting couples so that's a start, and when you say she's up for anything, have you actually asked her? Cos with all the best will and good advice on here it's gotta be both of you that are happy with the choices made  |
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She's been to Xtasia and I've been to Chameleons.
We are planning on going together to both.
My issue is how do I cope with a person who makes me push my boundaries so much? I've never contemplated bi stuff |
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"Op, it says in your profile you have experience in meeting couples so that's a start, and when you say she's up for anything, have you actually asked her? Cos with all the best will and good advice on here it's gotta be both of you that are happy with the choices made "
I know men are usually the driving force in this situation but it's very mutual.
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"She's been to Xtasia and I've been to Chameleons.
We are planning on going together to both.
My issue is how do I cope with a person who makes me push my boundaries so much? I've never contemplated bi stuff"
Do you want to try bi stuff? If not then tell her and she should respect that. Don't ever feel forced to do something you don't want to. |
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"She's been to Xtasia and I've been to Chameleons.
We are planning on going together to both.
My issue is how do I cope with a person who makes me push my boundaries so much? I've never contemplated bi stuff
Do you want to try bi stuff? If not then tell her and she should respect that. Don't ever feel forced to do something you don't want to. "
Well actually with her I'd love to try it all |
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"She's been to Xtasia and I've been to Chameleons.
We are planning on going together to both.
My issue is how do I cope with a person who makes me push my boundaries so much? I've never contemplated bi stuff
Do you want to try bi stuff? If not then tell her and she should respect that. Don't ever feel forced to do something you don't want to.
Well actually with her I'd love to try it all"
Then go to chams on a Monday and see what happens. |
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"She's been to Xtasia and I've been to Chameleons.
We are planning on going together to both.
My issue is how do I cope with a person who makes me push my boundaries so much? I've never contemplated bi stuff
Do you want to try bi stuff? If not then tell her and she should respect that. Don't ever feel forced to do something you don't want to.
Well actually with her I'd love to try it all
Then go to chams on a Monday and see what happens. "
I will |
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"She's been to Xtasia and I've been to Chameleons.
We are planning on going together to both.
My issue is how do I cope with a person who makes me push my boundaries so much? I've never contemplated bi stuff
Do you want to try bi stuff? If not then tell her and she should respect that. Don't ever feel forced to do something you don't want to.
Well actually with her I'd love to try it all"
Ask her to slow down. You're clearly conflicted asking how to cope but saying you'd love to try it. Take a breath and move at a pace that suits you both.
Incidentally, this is a conversation that would be way more productive if you had it with her.  |
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"She's been to Xtasia and I've been to Chameleons.
We are planning on going together to both.
My issue is how do I cope with a person who makes me push my boundaries so much? I've never contemplated bi stuff
Do you want to try bi stuff? If not then tell her and she should respect that. Don't ever feel forced to do something you don't want to.
Well actually with her I'd love to try it all
Ask her to slow down. You're clearly conflicted asking how to cope but saying you'd love to try it. Take a breath and move at a pace that suits you both.
Incidentally, this is a conversation that would be way more productive if you had it with her. "
I will be talking to her lol
Just wanted some insight x |
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"She's been to Xtasia and I've been to Chameleons.
We are planning on going together to both.
My issue is how do I cope with a person who makes me push my boundaries so much? I've never contemplated bi stuff
Do you want to try bi stuff? If not then tell her and she should respect that. Don't ever feel forced to do something you don't want to.
Well actually with her I'd love to try it all
Ask her to slow down. You're clearly conflicted asking how to cope but saying you'd love to try it. Take a breath and move at a pace that suits you both.
Incidentally, this is a conversation that would be way more productive if you had it with her. "
This!!
Communication is critical for a swinging couple - G & I have only ever had a problem when we’ve not been completely open & discussed a situation fully.
Also, swapping as a couple doesn’t mean you have to play bi ... G & I are both straight so we will full swap but no bi play. To be honest, most couples we find, the female is bi but the guy is straight.
Discuss it with her, agree what your limits are to start with ... you can always push boundaries as you go!!
Good luck OP! x |
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"She's been to Xtasia and I've been to Chameleons.
We are planning on going together to both.
My issue is how do I cope with a person who makes me push my boundaries so much? I've never contemplated bi stuff
Do you want to try bi stuff? If not then tell her and she should respect that. Don't ever feel forced to do something you don't want to.
Well actually with her I'd love to try it all
Ask her to slow down. You're clearly conflicted asking how to cope but saying you'd love to try it. Take a breath and move at a pace that suits you both.
Incidentally, this is a conversation that would be way more productive if you had it with her.
This!!
Communication is critical for a swinging couple - G & I have only ever had a problem when we’ve not been completely open & discussed a situation fully.
Also, swapping as a couple doesn’t mean you have to play bi ... G & I are both straight so we will full swap but no bi play. To be honest, most couples we find, the female is bi but the guy is straight.
Discuss it with her, agree what your limits are to start with ... you can always push boundaries as you go!!
Good luck OP! x"
I'm pretty much up for giving it all a bash just gotta get five mins to put a profile together. |
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