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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I am abit miffed. Been on here about a month now and have messaged quite a few people but nobody replies ever

I dont know what it is I am genuinely a fun guy but seems no one cares.

Any good advice?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You need patience and persistence and a bit of a thick skin too whilst on here. If you read the FAQs...no reply=not interested. Keep going, one day you will have a golden message in your inbox!

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

"I am abit miffed. Been on here about a month now and have messaged quite a few people but nobody replies ever

I dont know what it is I am genuinely a fun guy but seems no one cares.

Any good advice? "

Your profile says you joined 2 weeks ago. !!!

Are you messaging people who are actually suitable. Do you read their profiles ?

Do you have a good variety of photos to interest people?

There are loads of threads about men not getting replies. Can I suggest you read them.

Be patient . Aim for friendly pleasant individual messages mentioning some reason why you chose to message them.

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

Yes, do a forum search for Profile Advice and read all the good bits.

Especially the parts about expecting sex just by sending messages

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I’ve not been here as long as you but in the same position. Just a difficult thing for single guys to stand out from the crowd I’d say. And personal likes/dislikes/taste. I’d say just stick it out and hopefully you’ll find someone you really click with. Good luck

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Your profile says you joined 2 weeks ago. !!! "

Well spotted

I'm a bit miffed that I was in a queue to buy a lottery ticket and no one gave me the millions of £s

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By *orticiaWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"I am abit miffed. Been on here about a month now and have messaged quite a few people but nobody replies ever

I dont know what it is I am genuinely a fun guy but seems no one cares.

Any good advice?

Your profile says you joined 2 weeks ago. !!!

Are you messaging people who are actually suitable. Do you read their profiles ?

Do you have a good variety of photos to interest people?

There are loads of threads about men not getting replies. Can I suggest you read them.

Be patient . Aim for friendly pleasant individual messages mentioning some reason why you chose to message them. "

Good advice there OP - I’d echo this!

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Just a difficult thing for single guys to stand out from the crowd I’d say."

That's where you're wrong. Considering the poor quality of most profiles on here it is actually very easy to stand out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Aha that’s very true. But I was speaking from personal experience. And probably my crap profile. Some good advice for OP though.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Only been on here 2 weeks, we went to a club to meet people plus went on cams so people could see we were real and genuine when we first joined fab

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Aha that’s very true. But I was speaking from personal experience. And probably my crap profile. Some good advice for OP though. "

Do a forum search for Profile Advice and read the good bits.

Especially the part about cock pics not being welcome generally

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Oh It has only been two weeks, feels like longer

My bad!

Are you messaging people who are actually suitable. Do you read their profiles ?

Do you have a good variety of photos to interest people?

There are loads of threads about men not getting replies. Can I suggest you read them.

Be patient . Aim for friendly pleasant individual messages mentioning some reason why you chose to message them.

GOod advice

I do read the profiles of the people I send messages to and do select appropriate candidates. I have read the forums and have adjusted my profile accordingly (i hope). Is there anything wrong with mine?

Interesting photos, well thats entirely subjective. You are probably right about the patience, I will continue trying and I hope something will happen.

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

No point being miffed you'll only get more and more frustrated!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wouldn't worry it's the same for me. By the sounds of things I think women just get too many messages off weirdos but I'm sure luck will change. Good luck mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yeah true.

Been In a relatioship for the past 5 years with absolutely amazing sex all the time. You get used to things, you know? But now...nothing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm not a weirdo though, just abit out of practice I guess. Never really had to seek out a lady before, they just came to me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldn't worry it's the same for me. By the sounds of things I think women just get too many messages off weirdos but I'm sure luck will change. Good luck mate

but the above posts havent suggested that at all!..no one mentions 'weirdos', but advise looking for profile advice...so why just ignore that and blame lack of replies on 'weirdos'? some men really don't help themselves on here sometimes..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just a difficult thing for single guys to stand out from the crowd I’d say.

That's where you're wrong. Considering the poor quality of most profiles on here it is actually very easy to stand out

I’m rubbish...and I manage to get replies and meets. To the point of it being work and other stuff that limits me.

If OP were to ask for profile advice too then a total lack of public pics would be something that could be pointed out.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just a difficult thing for single guys to stand out from the crowd I’d say.

That's where you're wrong. Considering the poor quality of most profiles on here it is actually very easy to stand out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I wouldn't worry it's the same for me. By the sounds of things I think women just get too many messages off weirdos but I'm sure luck will change. Good luck mate

but the above posts havent suggested that at all!..no one mentions 'weirdos', but advise looking for profile advice...so

why just ignore that and blame lack of replies on 'weirdos'? some men really don't help themselves

on here sometimes.."

Apologies but I have read similar posts on here concerning the same issue and women have commented on receiving strange messages. Didn't mean to offend.

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Just a difficult thing for single guys to stand out from the crowd I’d say.

That's where you're wrong. Considering the poor quality of most profiles on here it is actually very easy to stand out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am abit miffed. Been on here about a month now and have messaged quite a few people but nobody replies ever

I dont know what it is I am genuinely a fun guy but seems no one cares.

Any good advice? "

What kind of things do you say in first messages?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don’t think it is too many weirdos - we pay no attention to them. I think the problem is that there are too many great guys to choose from and it’s not possible to meet them all.

Mrs

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By *hamboy69Man over a year ago

huddersfield

Not exactly a new topic.If you are here for great free sex you need to ask yourself a question.

How much effort are you willing to put in order to meet to right people who will help you embrace a swinging lifestyle?

If the answer is not a lot that’s fine you can join the legions of keyboard warriors on here.

If you really want it I suggest you read similiar posts to threads just like this and come back to Forum and ask some more questions.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There are hundreds of successful males on here. If you're serious about meeting people, have you thought about going to an organised social? There's plenty that happen, check out the meets section.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think some perceive these sites as just, "Dial a shag". Then reality kicks in.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am abit miffed. Been on here about a month now and have messaged quite a few people but nobody replies ever

I dont know what it is I am genuinely a fun guy but seems no one cares.

Any good advice? "

Your not the only one getting no respond there load of genuine men who are in the same boat so give it time in my case i been here over a year it happens to me so i stopped sending mail out due to the happening.

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By *orticiaWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"Not exactly a new topic.If you are here for great free sex you need to ask yourself a question.

How much effort are you willing to put in order to meet to right people who will help you embrace a swinging lifestyle?

If the answer is not a lot that’s fine you can join the legions of keyboard warriors on here.

If you really want it I suggest you read similiar posts to threads just like this and come back to Forum and ask some more questions."

I agree with the effort - my gut feeling is always that if someone has put little if no effort into their profile, then I’d assume a meet would be just as bad

A couple of sentences & a couple of photos aren’t going to cut it!!

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By *amissCouple over a year ago

chelmsford

"I'm not a weirdo though, just abit out of practice I guess. Never really had to seek out a lady before, they just came to me

So not sure why you're on here, if the ladies just come to you.

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

"Just a difficult thing for single guys to stand out from the crowd I’d say.

That's where you're wrong. Considering the poor quality of most profiles on here it is actually very easy to stand out

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

We feel sorry for a lot of the guys that come on here expecting women to just fall at there feet because they have posted a couple of pics of their cock or bathroom pics.

Some of them are good looking lads and probably have no problem pulling at their local pub or club. Then they think they can join a swinging site and save all the aggro of getting dressed up in their best clobber, paying to get in a club, buying drinks etc.

They look at the profiles of single guys that do well and think "Fuck me, he's punching above his weight. I'm going to be knee deep in clunge by tea time"

Then the reality sets in.

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By *orticiaWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"They look at the profiles of single guys that do well and think "Fuck me, he's punching above his weight. I'm going to be knee deep in clunge by tea time"

Then the reality sets in. "

Just spat my tea out!!!

Love it!!

There’s a world of difference between a ‘single swinger’ and a ‘successful club puller’, as I pointed out in another thread earlier. There are a lot of single guys who aren’t Swingers, who think it’s a golden ticket to guaranteed sex

Or ‘knee-deep in clunge’

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"I am abit miffed. Been on here about a month now and have messaged quite a few people but nobody replies ever

I dont know what it is I am genuinely a fun guy but seems no one cares.

Any good advice? "

You come across as arrogant on your profile and nobody has to message you back, that's in the site rules. No reply means no thankyou.

I'd seriously rethink your wording on your profile, even if I was interested in you physically, your profile text would put me right off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am abit miffed. Been on here about a month now and have messaged quite a few people but nobody replies ever

I dont know what it is I am genuinely a fun guy but seems no one cares.

Any good advice?

You come across as arrogant on your profile and nobody has to message you back, that's in the site rules. No reply means no thankyou.

I'd seriously rethink your wording on your profile, even if I was interested in you physically, your profile text would put me right off. "

You don't sound like a barrel of laughs the way your profile is worded!

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By *ssex_VixenWoman over a year ago

Maldon

The whole “come an get me before you loose out” attitude puts me off. Screams arrogance which is a major turn off for me. That with a lack of photos showing what’s on “offer” would make me ignor the message an move on to other people who show an have the opposite

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"I'm not a weirdo though, just abit out of practice I guess. Never really had to seek out a lady before, they just came to me

Oh god, then I read this. If you're such a Romeo elsewhere, maybe this site isn't for you.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"I am abit miffed. Been on here about a month now and have messaged quite a few people but nobody replies ever

I dont know what it is I am genuinely a fun guy but seems no one cares.

Any good advice?

You come across as arrogant on your profile and nobody has to message you back, that's in the site rules. No reply means no thankyou.

I'd seriously rethink your wording on your profile, even if I was interested in you physically, your profile text would put me right off.

You don't sound like a barrel of laughs the way your profile is worded!"

Me?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am abit miffed. Been on here about a month now and have messaged quite a few people but nobody replies ever

I dont know what it is I am genuinely a fun guy but seems no one cares.

Any good advice?

You come across as arrogant on your profile and nobody has to message you back, that's in the site rules. No reply means no thankyou.

I'd seriously rethink your wording on your profile, even if I was interested in you physically, your profile text would put me right off.

You don't sound like a barrel of laughs the way your profile is worded!

Me?"

No hun, the OP obviously.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am abit miffed. Been on here about a month now and have messaged quite a few people but nobody replies ever

I dont know what it is I am genuinely a fun guy but seems no one cares.

Any good advice?

You come across as arrogant on your profile and nobody has to message you back, that's in the site rules. No reply means no thankyou.

I'd seriously rethink your wording on your profile, even if I was interested in you physically, your profile text would put me right off. "

Glad you said it. Arrogant was the first thing I thought when I read it aswell.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

your profile isn't very friendly at all...and the last comment about replying to you is rude, arrogant and ill-judged, that remark alone would put me off completely.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Send more dick pics

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am abit miffed. Been on here about a month now and have messaged quite a few people but nobody replies ever

I dont know what it is I am genuinely a fun guy but seems no one cares.

Any good advice?

You come across as arrogant on your profile and nobody has to message you back, that's in the site rules. No reply means no thankyou.

I'd seriously rethink your wording on your profile, even if I was interested in you physically, your profile text would put me right off. "

This is what we thought, too.

Be humble, be kind, be respectful. Or don't. You might get lucky.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"I am abit miffed. Been on here about a month now and have messaged quite a few people but nobody replies ever

I dont know what it is I am genuinely a fun guy but seems no one cares.

Any good advice?

You come across as arrogant on your profile and nobody has to message you back, that's in the site rules. No reply means no thankyou.

I'd seriously rethink your wording on your profile, even if I was interested in you physically, your profile text would put me right off.

You don't sound like a barrel of laughs the way your profile is worded!

Me?

No hun, the OP obviously."

Ah, I thought you meant me lol.

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

The self entitlement is strong with this one.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just curious how someone ignoring your message is wasting your time? I'd say that's exactly what they're not doing.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you’ve changed the profile since I last commented. I don’t really like how it reads now. Saying that you are available for a limited time only jars with me. And I wouldn’t want to get involved with someone who is actively looking for a relationship. I know it’s par for the course and has happened to me before, but I wouldn’t want it rubbed in my face that I am just biding a man’s time until he finds a ‘proper’ relationship after which I will get dumped like a hot brick. You also come across very judgemental about people who don’t reply, when I suspect you are not aware that replying to all mail would require a PA for many women. People are less likely to be interested if they know you unfairly judge people as rude. Tone it down a bit and maybe present yourself as a bit nicer?

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your profile wording is all wrong, nothing warm about it, nothing about what you like just going on about stuff that isn’t really important or up your own arse if I’m honest. The one picture you have looks like it’s from 1974.

Reword your profile, including what you like etc but in a nice way. Do some pics of various bits of your body (just not cock)

Be patient.

Geeky x

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By *orticiaWoman over a year ago

Wirral

Surely this is a gag?

*looks round for Jeremy Beedle*

Gotta be a joke profile - no one can expect to get a meet with that bio?!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm not a weirdo though, just abit out of practice I guess. Never really had to seek out a lady before, they just came to me

You'll soon find fab is a very very different world from the one that you know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely this is a gag?

*looks round for Jeremy Beedle*

Gotta be a joke profile - no one can expect to get a meet with that bio?! "

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

Why be on a swinger's site if you are monogamous?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am abit miffed. Been on here about a month now and have messaged quite a few people but nobody replies ever

I dont know what it is I am genuinely a fun guy but seems no one cares.

Any good advice? "

Get used to it more chance of me marrying Kim Kardasian than a average looking decent guy getting a meet on here these days i dont bother messaging i just chat on the forums saves disapointment

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

You have altered your profile wording since I first offered you advise on this thread. It's much worse , condescending, judgemental and arrogant.

People not replying are rude ? I think your profile is rude OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Lets face it on here is all about verifications and if you look like a super model not what a person is actually like in person i dont even try to meet now just chat on here to save being either ignored or the message simply never read

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why should a lady pick you over anyone else?

If you are the human equivalent of catnip to the ladies outside of Fab, the ladies here will let you crack on. Just not with them.

As already said, it sounds like you are looking for a stop-gap. That doesn't make anyone feel attractive.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am not looking for a stop gap and send nice polite chatty messages but as i say its a closed circle and very clique on here no doubt be told i am wrong

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just a difficult thing for single guys to stand out from the crowd I’d say.

That's where you're wrong. Considering the poor quality of most profiles on here it is actually very easy to stand out

my inbox is bulging. But I'm not telling you my secret weapon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes, your profile is awful. Basically it reads: 'I'm here looking for quick and easy sex until I find a monogamous relationship'. It's not very flattering.

Also the stuff about the incredible sex you had with your ex is just... off-putting. If I was interested and read that, I'd think you were going to have unrealistic expectations and so I wouldn't bother.

And ignoring *is* a valid response. Telling us it is rude just makes you sound bitter.

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By *hamboy69Man over a year ago

huddersfield

"Not exactly a new topic.If you are here for great free sex you need to ask yourself a question.

How much effort are you willing to put in order to meet to right people who will help you embrace a swinging lifestyle?

If the answer is not a lot that’s fine you can join the legions of keyboard warriors on here.

If you really want it I suggest you read similiar posts to threads just like this and come back to Forum and ask some more questions.

I agree with the effort - my gut feeling is always that if someone has put little if no effort into their profile, then I’d assume a meet would be just as bad I agree but efforts need to be put into other things aswell as profile

A couple of sentences & a couple of photos aren’t going to cut it!! "

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

"I am not looking for a stop gap and send nice polite chatty messages but as i say its a closed circle and very clique on here no doubt be told i am wrong"

People are replying to the OP about being a stop gap. This is a post about him.

In answer to your comment about it being a closed circle or a clique....its a blinking big circle if you include everyone on fab, not just the forum users and everyone who attends club's. If you want more discussion, I suggest you start your own thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have done and i dont care how big a circle its is its still a closed one i used to kid my self that at some point i would get a meet but now I know i am wasting my time and i amd waiting for the replies saying i am rwong and blah blah i used to take time and send nice emessages only to get deletd or simply now read

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By *ll 4 herCouple over a year ago

Bury/Bolton

"We feel sorry for a lot of the guys that come on here expecting women to just fall at there feet because they have posted a couple of pics of their cock or bathroom pics.

They look at the profiles of single guys that do well and think "Fuck me, he's punching above his weight. I'm going to be knee deep in clunge by tea time"

Then the reality sets in."

Think this about sums it up, and made us chuckle, win win

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do note expect women to fall at my feet as i would love to get to know a person and see if we click before we think about going any further but unless you are verfied or a male model no point in trying

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

Please see my thread for advice, within this forum.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have done and i dont care how big a circle its is its still a closed one i used to kid my self that at some point i would get a meet but now I know i am wasting my time and i amd waiting for the replies saying i am rwong and blah blah i used to take time and send nice emessages only to get deletd or simply now read "

Sounds like you need to take a break mate, your posts on various threads are beginning to sound a bit bitter. Why don't you give it a break for a while? (Meant in the best possible way too).

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"I do note expect women to fall at my feet as i would love to get to know a person and see if we click before we think about going any further but unless you are verfied or a male model no point in trying "

Oh get out of your bubble of self pity, plenty of men on here get meets, you're blaming everyone else for your lack of meets, maybe you should take a look closer to home.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh get out of your bubble of self pity, plenty of men on here get meets, you're blaming everyone else for your lack of meets, maybe you should take a look closer to home. "

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By *izzy.Woman over a year ago

Stoke area

"I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH "

It may be your perception, but it's not the TRUTH

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH "

You've blamed everyone on the site, said its cliquey, and you have to look like a supermodel. I'm far from a supermodel but I've had plenty of meets.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH

Lucky you

You've blamed everyone on the site, said its cliquey, and you have to look like a supermodel. I'm far from a supermodel but I've had plenty of meets. "

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

Thanks for the quote

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When joined I used to always treat others with respect and only messaged people who were looking to meet single guys.

But after either getting deleted ignored of have the piss took anyone woudl start to think whats the point.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"When joined I used to always treat others with respect and only messaged people who were looking to meet single guys.

But after either getting deleted ignored of have the piss took anyone woudl start to think whats the point."

Just because you treat people with respect it doesn't mean they have to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Because the people you're messaging aren't interested? Freedom of choice?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"When joined I used to always treat others with respect and only messaged people who were looking to meet single guys.

But after either getting deleted ignored of have the piss took anyone woudl start to think whats the point."

Every single person, couple, TV/TS on fab has every right to not be interested in someone. Just because you show them respect (which, shouldn’t you be doing anyway, regardless?!) does not mean they will be interested.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH

You've blamed everyone on the site, said its cliquey, and you have to look like a supermodel. I'm far from a supermodel but I've had plenty of meets. "

You may not be a super model but you have a vagina. Hence on a site where men outnumber women seventeen to one, you will do better than even men who look like super models.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH

You've blamed everyone on the site, said its cliquey, and you have to look like a supermodel. I'm far from a supermodel but I've had plenty of meets.

FINALLY SOME ONE HAS SAID IT

You may not be a super model but you have a vagina. Hence on a site where men outnumber women seventeen to one, you will do better than even men who look like super models. "

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH

You've blamed everyone on the site, said its cliquey, and you have to look like a supermodel. I'm far from a supermodel but I've had plenty of meets.

You may not be a super model but you have a vagina. Hence on a site where men outnumber women seventeen to one, you will do better than even men who look like super models. "

You've summed it up perfectly, I'm a walking vagina for men to deposit their loads in whenever they so feel

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH

You've blamed everyone on the site, said its cliquey, and you have to look like a supermodel. I'm far from a supermodel but I've had plenty of meets.

You may not be a super model but you have a vagina. Hence on a site where men outnumber women seventeen to one, you will do better than even men who look like super models.

You've summed it up perfectly, I'm a walking vagina for men to deposit their loads in whenever they so feel

Who doesn’t love being a talking, walking vagina?

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH

You've blamed everyone on the site, said its cliquey, and you have to look like a supermodel. I'm far from a supermodel but I've had plenty of meets.

You may not be a super model but you have a vagina. Hence on a site where men outnumber women seventeen to one, you will do better than even men who look like super models.

You've summed it up perfectly, I'm a walking vagina for men to deposit their loads in whenever they so feel

Who doesn’t love being a talking, walking vagina?

We don't really have a choice, apparently that's all we are and without fab we'd be stuck at home catching cobwebs in our crevices!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH

You've blamed everyone on the site, said its cliquey, and you have to look like a supermodel. I'm far from a supermodel but I've had plenty of meets.

You may not be a super model but you have a vagina. Hence on a site where men outnumber women seventeen to one, you will do better than even men who look like super models.

You've summed it up perfectly, I'm a walking vagina for men to deposit their loads in whenever they so feel

Who doesn’t love being a talking, walking vagina?

We don't really have a choice, apparently that's all we are and without fab we'd be stuck at home catching cobwebs in our crevices!"

Oh you couldn’t be more right! Thank goodness for fab

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH

You've blamed everyone on the site, said its cliquey, and you have to look like a supermodel. I'm far from a supermodel but I've had plenty of meets.

You may not be a super model but you have a vagina. Hence on a site where men outnumber women seventeen to one, you will do better than even men who look like super models.

You've summed it up perfectly, I'm a walking vagina for men to deposit their loads in whenever they so feel

Who doesn’t love being a talking, walking vagina?

We don't really have a choice, apparently that's all we are and without fab we'd be stuck at home catching cobwebs in our crevices!

Oh you couldn’t be more right! Thank goodness for fab "

Fab has been the saviour of many an ugly old crone with a vagina!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH

You've blamed everyone on the site, said its cliquey, and you have to look like a supermodel. I'm far from a supermodel but I've had plenty of meets.

You may not be a super model but you have a vagina. Hence on a site where men outnumber women seventeen to one, you will do better than even men who look like super models.

You've summed it up perfectly, I'm a walking vagina for men to deposit their loads in whenever they so feel

Who doesn’t love being a talking, walking vagina?

We don't really have a choice, apparently that's all we are and without fab we'd be stuck at home catching cobwebs in our crevices!

Oh you couldn’t be more right! Thank goodness for fab

Fab has been the saviour of many an ugly old crone with a vagina! "

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH

You've blamed everyone on the site, said its cliquey, and you have to look like a supermodel. I'm far from a supermodel but I've had plenty of meets.

You may not be a super model but you have a vagina. Hence on a site where men outnumber women seventeen to one, you will do better than even men who look like super models.

You've summed it up perfectly, I'm a walking vagina for men to deposit their loads in whenever they so feel

That's not what I said is it? Women have a huge advantage over men in getting meets purely because they are so rare on here. Hence your comparison with the situation of a single man was a bit silly.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH

You've blamed everyone on the site, said its cliquey, and you have to look like a supermodel. I'm far from a supermodel but I've had plenty of meets.

You may not be a super model but you have a vagina. Hence on a site where men outnumber women seventeen to one, you will do better than even men who look like super models.

You've summed it up perfectly, I'm a walking vagina for men to deposit their loads in whenever they so feel

He just said that you have to be a supermodel to get meets, that's completely untrue. I know hundreds of guys on here that aren't supermodels that get loads of meets. It's about attitude, not looks.

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH

You've blamed everyone on the site, said its cliquey, and you have to look like a supermodel. I'm far from a supermodel but I've had plenty of meets.

You may not be a super model but you have a vagina. Hence on a site where men outnumber women seventeen to one, you will do better than even men who look like super models.

You've summed it up perfectly, I'm a walking vagina for men to deposit their loads in whenever they so feel

That's not what I said is it? Women have a huge advantage over men in getting meets purely because they are so rare on here. Hence your comparison with the situation of a single man was a bit silly.

He just said that you have to be a supermodel to get meets, that's completely untrue. I know hundreds of guys on here that aren't supermodels that get loads of meets. It's about attitude, not looks."

You said that you got plenty of meets and you are not a super model. As we all know suggesting that an average looking man can get meets in the same way as an average looking woman is nonsense.

I am not making any moral judgements, but it's obvious from the numbers that women can get loads of messages without looking like a supermodel and with the personality of a newt. Even the best looking, most engaging men won't do as well as that.

It's just basic maths.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH

You've blamed everyone on the site, said its cliquey, and you have to look like a supermodel. I'm far from a supermodel but I've had plenty of meets.

You may not be a super model but you have a vagina. Hence on a site where men outnumber women seventeen to one, you will do better than even men who look like super models.

You've summed it up perfectly, I'm a walking vagina for men to deposit their loads in whenever they so feel

That's not what I said is it? Women have a huge advantage over men in getting meets purely because they are so rare on here. Hence your comparison with the situation of a single man was a bit silly.

He just said that you have to be a supermodel to get meets, that's completely untrue. I know hundreds of guys on here that aren't supermodels that get loads of meets. It's about attitude, not looks.

You said that you got plenty of meets and you are not a super model. As we all know suggesting that an average looking man can get meets in the same way as an average looking woman is nonsense.

It's just basic maths.

But, sitting at home, bitching about it, isn't doing him any favours. In clubs, even the average looking men get action. Maybe he should look at doing something about his situation instead of whining about it?

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By *inkyLondonpairCouple over a year ago

London

"I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH

You've blamed everyone on the site, said its cliquey, and you have to look like a supermodel. I'm far from a supermodel but I've had plenty of meets.

You may not be a super model but you have a vagina. Hence on a site where men outnumber women seventeen to one, you will do better than even men who look like super models.

You've summed it up perfectly, I'm a walking vagina for men to deposit their loads in whenever they so feel

That's not what I said is it? Women have a huge advantage over men in getting meets purely because they are so rare on here. Hence your comparison with the situation of a single man was a bit silly.

He just said that you have to be a supermodel to get meets, that's completely untrue. I know hundreds of guys on here that aren't supermodels that get loads of meets. It's about attitude, not looks.

You said that you got plenty of meets and you are not a super model. As we all know suggesting that an average looking man can get meets in the same way as an average looking woman is nonsense.

It's just basic maths.

I wouldn't disagree with that, I just get slightly irritated when people are WRONG.

Back to dungeons and dragons now...

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH

You've blamed everyone on the site, said its cliquey, and you have to look like a supermodel. I'm far from a supermodel but I've had plenty of meets.

You may not be a super model but you have a vagina. Hence on a site where men outnumber women seventeen to one, you will do better than even men who look like super models.

You've summed it up perfectly, I'm a walking vagina for men to deposit their loads in whenever they so feel

That's not what I said is it? Women have a huge advantage over men in getting meets purely because they are so rare on here. Hence your comparison with the situation of a single man was a bit silly.

He just said that you have to be a supermodel to get meets, that's completely untrue. I know hundreds of guys on here that aren't supermodels that get loads of meets. It's about attitude, not looks.

You said that you got plenty of meets and you are not a super model. As we all know suggesting that an average looking man can get meets in the same way as an average looking woman is nonsense.

It's just basic maths.

I wouldn't disagree with that, I just get slightly irritated when people are WRONG.

Back to dungeons and dragons now... "

Lol. I'm going back to walking around as a vagina

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By *orticiaWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"When joined I used to always treat others with respect and only messaged people who were looking to meet single guys.

But after either getting deleted ignored of have the piss took anyone woudl start to think whats the point."

Easygoing, you asked 3 or 4 weeks ago for profile advice & lots of people, myself included, took the time to give you advice on your profile & how to improve it. It was pointed out that many people will read a profile before reading a message.

As with the OP here, and many other guys who are given advice, you have chosen to disregard it. And that’s fine, it’s your profile & your choice.

But to say there is a circle which you were excluded from is not right. Lots of people took time to welcome you & try to help you and made suggestions about clubs & socials.

Some guys wait months for a meet. Others go to socials to get to know people. If you’re struggling with the site, maybe give it a break until you feel a bit more resilient or prepared.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"When joined I used to always treat others with respect and only messaged people who were looking to meet single guys.

But after either getting deleted ignored of have the piss took anyone woudl start to think whats the point.

As with the OP here, and many other guys who are given advice, you have chosen to disregard it. And that’s fine, it’s your profile & your choice.

But to say there is a circle which you were excluded from is not right. Lots of people took time to welcome you & try to help you and made suggestions about clubs & socials.

Some guys wait months for a meet. Others go to socials to get to know people. If you’re struggling with the site, maybe give it a break until you feel a bit more resilient or prepared."

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By *hamboy69Man over a year ago

huddersfield

"I am blaming no one I am not in self pity its the TRUTH

You've blamed everyone on the site, said its cliquey, and you have to look like a supermodel. I'm far from a supermodel but I've had plenty of meets.

You may not be a super model but you have a vagina. Hence on a site where men outnumber women seventeen to one, you will do better than even men who look like super models.

You've summed it up perfectly, I'm a walking vagina for men to deposit their loads in whenever they so feel

That's not what I said is it? Women have a huge advantage over men in getting meets purely because they are so rare on here. Hence your comparison with the situation of a single man was a bit silly. "
Maybe on here that’s the case I’ve said this before but higher up the food chain in good clubs single ladies and couples are far more appreciative of quality single guys

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By *olaZWoman over a year ago

Taunton

I think you should try a different website. Swinging is a social scene that happens to be about fun and friendship as well as sex. It is not just a hookup site.

I don’t know what the ratio of single men to women is but it’s huge so you have to put some real effort in to get a response at all. A lot of us ladies would not arrange to see a single male unless meeting them at a social or party first.

Also, having read your profile there isn’t anything there that would attract me personally.

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By *olden RatioWoman over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Your profile sounds like you’re just here to kill time, I’m afraid

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely this is a gag?

*looks round for Jeremy Beedle*

Gotta be a joke profile - no one can expect to get a meet with that bio?! "

Just what I was thinking ....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I have never been described as arrogant in my entire life.

I came on here to make some friends, and see what the whole scene is about, not to just get fucked or as you so gracefully put it "elbow deep in clunge".

I don't want to kill anyone, I honestly fail to see how that comes across in my profile?! Was literally just trying to sound confident.

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By *allySlinkyWoman over a year ago

Leeds

Nobody in this thread said "elbow deep in clunge". They said "knee deep"

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Yeah this clearly is not the site for me. I just wanna love and be loved.

Don't seem to be getting that here at all.

Goodbye, wish you all the best.

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"I have never been described as arrogant in my entire life.

I came on here to make some friends, and see what the whole scene is about, not to just get fucked or as you so gracefully put it "elbow deep in clunge".

I don't want to kill anyone, I honestly fail to see how that comes across in my profile?! Was literally just trying to sound confident.

Well, you've been described as arrogant several times in this thread

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By *orticiaWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"Nobody in this thread said "elbow deep in clunge". They said "knee deep""

And again, tea spat all over my lap

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By *orticiaWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"Yeah this clearly is not the site for me. I just wanna love and be loved.

Don't seem to be getting that here at all.

Goodbye, wish you all the best."

....... Aaaaaaaaaand he's gone!

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By *eeleyWoman over a year ago

Dudley

"Yeah this clearly is not the site for me. I just wanna love and be loved.

Don't seem to be getting that here at all.

Goodbye, wish you all the best.

....... Aaaaaaaaaand he's gone!"

Scared another one away

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By *olden RatioWoman over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

Toodlepip OP

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It must be Monday

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By *teveanddebsCouple over a year ago

Norwich

I wasn't tralking about the OP when I said "Knee deep in clunge" anyway.

I clearly said "Some of them are good looking lads....."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah this clearly is not the site for me. I just wanna love and be loved.

Don't seem to be getting that here at all.

Goodbye, wish you all the best."

People are always saying how Swinging is social and friendly.

Shame the forums are often the opposite!

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By *orticiaWoman over a year ago

Wirral

"Yeah this clearly is not the site for me. I just wanna love and be loved.

Don't seem to be getting that here at all.

Goodbye, wish you all the best.

People are always saying how Swinging is social and friendly.

Shame the forums are often the opposite! "

When the profile in question is highly arrogant & openly looks down on swinging & non monogamous lifestyles, it’s hard to be warm & fuzzy

I agree, some of the repeat threads in here can be quite cliquey, but how do you dress up profile advice for someone like that? It’s easier said than done!

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

Unlos

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Unlos"

There's a shock.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just a difficult thing for single guys to stand out from the crowd I’d say.

That's where you're wrong. Considering the poor quality of most profiles on here it is actually very easy to stand out

Quite condescending imo.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

"Unlos"

Are you surprised?

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By *sGivesWoodWoman over a year ago

ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL

"Unlos

Are you surprised?"

A bit as he was responding to his thread.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yeah this clearly is not the site for me. I just wanna love and be loved.

Don't seem to be getting that here at all.

Goodbye, wish you all the best.

People are always saying how Swinging is social and friendly.

Shame the forums are often the opposite! "

Quite the opposite I've found. I think many use the forums to dig at those who struggle and get their own frustrations out. Easy to kick someone whose down. Apparently it's banter and not bullying. A pack mentality too often.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

The man asked for advice of how to get replies, he didn't say it was dial a shag.

For the people who can't be civil when answering with advice, please stay off these type of threads as it really is coming across as unpleasant.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

I agree

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